OK, so I give up — I just can't write a short blog to save my life! Sorry guys, but I've learned I just can't do it! I went into writing this thinking I could make it short, and after writing this blog I am now coming back up to the top to say I just can't do it. Hehe. As I sat down tonight to write my blog — finally — I realized that I really don't know where to start. I have so much to talk about. First, I have to say that was a hell of a long potty break! Ha! They made us wait a whole week to see what would happen between Ryan and I. Wow, we must have been really exciting. The funniest part was that all of us women said to one another that it was one of the best times we had together. So I think it was disappointing to all of us that the footage came across the way it did. Vicki even told me that night that I was cracking her up and that I was fun, but all you saw was her giving me a weird facial expression. Vicki and I had an entire conversation for about 40 minutes over at Tamra's bar about some important topics as well, but none of that was shown. Tamra's house was beautiful and very well put together! I texted her the day of the party to see if there was anything I could do to help with the set up because I knew she was worried about it being perfect — which it was! Chef Brain cooked a beautiful meal and he put so much time into the preparation. It really was a fun night and we were all a lot more tolerant and forgiving of one another, so that made the party even more fun.
After watching the footage on TV, I think it is too bad that they had to taint that night so badly. They focused so much on Ryan and me, when in reality that was not at all what was fun or even interesting about that night. (The food, the surroundings, the company, the conversation, and the toasts we all made were far more interesting). I had such mixed emotions about the footage at Tamra's party that I think I needed a good week to just process them. It was a roller coaster ride of people calling, texting, and e-mailing with advice or words of frustration because of what went on in that episode. I understood completely because I found it hard to watch myself. I mean I didn't remember a lot about that night, but all the girls kept telling me how funny I was and what a hoot it was to have me making such funny gestures and imitations. So when we saw the footage I think we all were surprised at our actions. I was utterly embarrassed, Tamra was taken back by what she said (when we text each other), and it was just a little disappointing.
The worst part is I actually started to believe that what I was watching was the truth and I started to believe all the things people were telling me really happened that night. It got inside my head and I became angry and mad about what went on that night. The worst part is we have to relive what we have already been through all over again. I mean this was last summer for goodness sakes and now we are seeing it for the first time and getting mad and hurt by what others are saying or doing, even when we have worked out our differences long since then. That emotional roller coaster ride is not fun to go through over and over again as the series continues.
I have been accused of being gullable a time or two, I'll admit. But even I am not as gullable as all of these commenters seem to be.
Good for Tamra for clearing up why she had so many doubts about Gretchen.
As for the rest of you - I have a bridge in Brooklyn I'm selling if you're interested.
Gretchen, Keep being you....Vivki and Tamra are just insecure and not happy with their life that's why they put so much focus on you.
Viewer who posted about the Brooklyn Bridge to sell...I have a bridge I would like to shove up yours!!!!
What's the matter can't stand the fact that people are standing up for Gretchen? I believe if you have a bone to pick with someone and you CLAIM to have CLASS...you address it in private.
Gretchen stay strong, don't let B.... (Vicki & Tamra) like that get to you. They are low and shameless.
Im nauseaus from everyone on here kissing Gretchen's behind....come on people..she had a boyfriend !!! She shouldnt have taken that ring if she wasnt exclusive with Jeff. I feel bad for Jeff's children. Yes,she's pretty..does that mean you overlook what she was doing? Im not buying in to her fake personality. TEAM TAMRA!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It was rather jarring to hear the accusations made by Tamra. Jeana defends you. So, Gretchen...what is the REAL TRUE STORY? We viewers cannot get back the time we spent watching you. Therefore, the truth would be a good way to wrap up the season. You have yet to post a blog regarding the Reunion. Why? An honest and genuine response to all viewers would be the gracious thing to do.
As a cancer caretaker and a cancer survivor something simply did not "ring true" with you.
Gretchen, your silence is beyond disheartening. Your fans have been supporting you on the show since day one. We took your side through and through and we appreciated and understood your position through your blogs. As the latest controversy arose we waited to hear you address and possibly clear up the issues, yet you chose to remain silent. Shame on you Gretchen, you haven't shown the slightest bit of decency to communicate to those who supported you on the show. And what is your fan base supposed to believe? Whether the accusations are true or not we DESERVE an explanation, a paragraph, a sentence. A summary of the season.
We invested our concern into you this season Gretchen, and until you pay us the same respect by communicating, we can only believe what we hear.
Gretchen, I totally love you. I am your biggest fan I think you are just great. Other than just your personality, one thing I love about you is how pissed off your presence on the show makes Vicki and Tamera, it's wonderful to watch. I don't care what the real situation was with Jeff, whether your a fiance or caretaker, you went through something very tramatic in your life and I'm so sorry you lost him. Also, I don't care who you sleep with and when you do it, I don't think it's a big deal Tamera is just trying to find any way to put you down. I so hope to see you again next season, keep your head up and thanks for adding some REAL youth and beauty to the cast!!!
Gretchen has added so much class to the show. Beautiful outside and inside. Never once did she retaliate against Tamra ( yuck). She held herself up very well on the Reunion show.Tamra is a two-faced twit who has a lot of nerve calling Gretchen a "paid " keeper. What the hell does Tamra do for a living? According to her, she gives it to her husband all of the time and in exchange for what? not working????? I almost liked Tamra last season but something was always off. Now I know exactly wha. Selling her fake old boobs on Ebay???? That is so disgusting but would be expected from only Tamra. Way to go Gretchen, keep your chin up!
Gretchen, I hope by now you have discovered who Florence Nightingale was, I was shocked that you did not know. I want to add that if someone I loved was suffering from cancer I would want to spend every precious moment with them because I would know it might not last. You disgraced yourself by partying and going to the beach when the man you supposedly loved was in intensive care, for those of us who truly have loved someone this would be unthinkable. Sorry but you did not convince me for a minute and don't say we can't judge you, you felt comfortable enough to allow yourself to be filmed cavorting on the beach and getting drunk. Jeff seemed like a nice man, this was not the right way for you to behave. I hope you do find someone someday to love in the truest sense of the word then you will know the difference.
Gretchen, I too believed you in the beginning, but now that I know what your really about I'm kinda disapointed, I mean I don't care whatever "understanding" you and Jeff had or even about Jay & Slade. But the fact that you deceived the viewers into thinking you were engaged to Jeff and he's the only one, when really you were at the hospital during the day and at night with Jay. I'm sure you did really love Jeff, but the money helped. I do like you and think your funny and nice, I just don't like the whole deceiving thing to get on the O.C. show. I read everything people have posted on other sites and don't know if it is all true or not but I do believe most of it. You put on a good scheme!! Hope you and Slade are happy together:)
You are a wonderful person. Don't let Tamra or Vicki get you down. They are terrible, cruel, and hateful people.
Wow. I dpn't know why you want to be in this kind of spotlight, but more power to you. As to the accusations, rumors and general character defaming going on with V & T, I have to say, they have more to gain by discrediting you than you have by "lying". Basically, they are old, dried up and tired. And they know it. I mean, aren't they like grandmother's by now or something? Anyway, you are younger, firmer, toner, and cuter. They aren't ready to retire their old-lady looks, so they hate you. Sorry, but true. Good luck to you, and don't worry about the Cougars you share the spotlight with. They're has-beens. You are the new era of OC ladies.
I hope you get a chance to actually read this - I must admit that when I first saw you on the show, I did question the relationship with Jeff. But after seeing how much you obviously loved him, I am now appalled at how Vicki and Tamyra treated you. I was wondering about the Josh thing, but then, you know it is edited to put some kind of slant on it. I think what you did for Jeff was amazing, and I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost people in my life, but what you must be feeling is just awful. I wish you the best in your endeavors - you will do well. You have a great personality and character. And you will always have Jeff smiling down on you from Heaven.
wow. I really have a soft spot in my heart for you. In a sister way of course. I does not matter what Tam says... or suspects or want others to see in you. I beleive truly "that" is between you and GOD. It's none of her damb business. Good, or bad. She needs to sweep her own side of the street. PS.... I think you just need to really watch the alcohol. I know... because of my own experiances. Keep your chin up kiddo. Dont let the turkeys get you down.
Hi Gretchen! You are the gorgeous and have such a funny personality. You have so much class not going as low as Tamara did with her hateful jealousness. I honestly believe you have a good heart and you made jeff so happy from what i saw. If he was not complaining why should anyone else. I was so upset for you at the reunion and wish i was there to defend you. They really pissed me off. They are alll jealous of you! It's pretty clear except of course Lynn. I also liked her. You guys do not belong with those group of fakies and if you decide to stay on another show, please be more assertive with Tamara and do not let her step on you. You can still be assertive and positive.. You are great and funny. I would love to have a friend like you! Take care and do not let any nasty comments get to you. Your beautiful inside and out.
Sorry for your loss. It couldn't have been easy dealing with a couple of nasty cast mates during the time you and Jeff left. Looking forward to seeing you next season on the show. Hang in there, you have more fans than you realize.
Gretchen, Forget all the haters--you are awesome. The other Tamra and Vicki were so mean to you, it was really nasty of them. Be true to yourself, you are way more genuine and honest about yourself than they are. You rock!!
Gretchen, Tamra seems very preoccupied with getting people on her side i.e. the "let's hate Gretchen because she's beautiful" side. She should be turning that negative energy into positive energy and directing it towards her children. Isn't it disheartening that you are still dealing with high school mentality?
Hi Gretchen, I felt so sorry for the way Vicky and Tamra treated you on the show...they were so mean to you...in particular on the night they got you drunk! You are beautiful person and hope to see you next season! And sorry for your loss. Gemma
I really cannot believe all the things that other people are saying. It is so obvious that they have never experienced anything similar. My 40+ yr old (physically fit) husband had a heart attack 3 months before I (a mother of 3, the youngest less than 3 yrs old, also fit) was diagnosed with cancer. I realized we weren't immune from the problems that other people heard about. When I saw your part on OC, I cried. Although it's not always "rich people" who are faced with these issues, cancer strikes all of us. And it hurts when it does. Whether the patient dies or lives through the treatment, it will forever impact the people whose lives it touches. I wish that people who watch your show could look beyond these trivial details, and realize that if they were in your position, they might react the way you did.
There is so much more I could say but I wouldn't want my husband reading the post and realizing it was me. I think you are human like the rest of us, and you have done nothing to be ashamed of. If someone who has been in your shoes disagrees, I'd be happy to take them on. I bet they'd be hard to find.
I guess I am a minority here as I feel Gretchen's actions were awful!!!!I can relate in many ways as I too was married to and lost a man 17 years older than myself. Grant you it is one of the hardest things to do is to watch your loved one suffer but it never occured to me once to abandon him in a hospital to "vacation" or socialize. I lived and breathed his illness right by his side until the very end. He did not recieve a "break" from his illness and so, neither did I. It was my duty and also my priveledge as a wife to be there and to let him know that I will be there until the end. What I wouldn't give to have just one more minute with him. I wouldn't trade those minutes, hours or days for all the parties and vacations in the world!!!What is sad as there are no "redos" in life and Gretchen will have to live with her behavior. It also bothers me that when her engagement ring arrived at her home, why didn't she wait to open it with Jeff and allow him to have the honor of placing it on her finger? Why are some people in this world so thoughtless to other's feelings?
Hey there, Gretchen,
So glad you had the support of Lynne. She's a cool chick who has your well-being at heart. Vicky and, especially, Tamra have got to go. Their cattiness was over the top. You and Lynne are good additions to the show. I am sorry for your loss. Know that you add a sense of liveliness to the show. Keep up your contagious enthusiasm for living. Best wishes.
First off I don't know your situation. I could only image being attacked by circumstance. Honestly you did bring it on. I understand living on when a loved one is not well. Yet what brought me to tears for Jeff was the episode where he just got home for awhile from the hospital only for you to leave him to go to vegas. I'm sure he was hear-broken I mean would'nt you be? It's good to move on and live life as you spoke about, yet what if that was you excited to be home only to be left alone then shortly there after back in the hospital? VERY RUDE AND UNLOVING. You can say as much as you want to defend that, there is no defense! You didn't love him like he loved you and that's OK just admit it. Your young and pretty and it's alot to handle and perhaps more than you thought you were ready for, that's ok just don't lie. I think that's the biggest problem people have about you, aside from the fact that you do tend to throw yourself into the center of attention.........maybe back off. Your sweet so let us all know that as well as your cencerity. You just be you, and be honest.........it's ok it was too much, I'm your age and could easliy find my self in the same situation! This is not ment to be mean just real, your very sweet no that!
Hi Gretchen, I'm so sorry to hear of Jeff's loss. But I also hope you were provided for financially, as you put your life on hold to care for him in his last years. Good luck to you, and I hope you come back next season. And finally, Tamra and Vicki are just jealous. Just keep smiling and keep your head up.
Gretchen, I am so sorry for your loss. I've lost two people I love to cancer this year and it was so hard and I don't take care of them like you did your fiance. I know it is hard being the caretaker of some one who is sick. I also know the other side of it being sick myself. Neither side is easy. But I can say looking from both sides you definitely needed a break now and again especailly being the only one taking care of Jeff at the time. It's hard and you always second guess yourself. But other people who haven't walked in your shoes should hold their judgements until they do. Take Care and I hope you have a restful time away from all the cameras. You need it to heal. Good luck again.
i am so sorry about jeff. Ive been watching this show for a while and honestly you are by far my favorite. your always so bubbly and your so amazingly gorgeous! and just for the record, everything tamra said i know isnt true, you love jeff and i know you wouldnt get with another guy that quick. tamras a bitch. fuck the haters, they need to concentrate on their own life not on yours. as for the other people on these comments saying how your fony and a gold digger, ignore them. its sad how they dont even know you and they have those things to say, they dont know how things are on the footage they didnt show. also, ia m super proud of how you handle the things tamra said on the reunion. i wouldve slammed her face in the wall. i cant wait til next season im a huge fan!
Classy ... is NOT a word I would use to explain you. Girl ... you should be SO ashamed of yourself. God knows what you did and so do we. PLEASE do not think most of us can't see right threw you. LOL You are too funny
Hi Gretchen, I just saw the reunion show.. I think it is really sad that Tamra behaved in such a way. At first she seemed to apologize for her setting you up to get drunk but then when she said you are always the victim..it all became very apparent what was going on. She is threatend by you..and she is going to try and paint you in the most unflattering light..no matter what the circumstance. In short you came out of this with class and dignity...Tamara painted herself in a very unflattering way. I hope this finds you well and wishing you much success in your future. You seem like a fun loving gal..keep smiling my friend.. I am sure you know this lesson to a happy life....if you smile at a stranger they will always smile back :)
Gretchen, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my first husband when I was 26, after he was hospitalized for months, so I know what you went through, and you handled it with class. You were by far the nicest and most genuine housewife on the show. You never said anything mean about the others, even when they were horrible to you. Good luck with your life, I hope we will see you next season!
Me and my man know you go by NICHOLE when you are with Jay as well as Slade. How is the weather in Costa Mesa (where you really live)? Good for you living your life they way you want to. All the haters can do just that, keep on hating. Hating their OWN lives and living thru other lives on the television. I think it is spectacular watching you in action. The smile, the coy looks, the hidden life that everyone in SoCal is already very aware of. Havasu stunk after Jay left to meet up with you in Bass Lake. He is a great guy and tons of fun to party with...I do need a new Chevy tho. I hope he gives me a great deal at the dealership he owns. I am pretty positive this wont make the cut when it gets screened but thanks again for a great OC season!
Im sure I do not have to tell you this but PLEASE do not let Tamara and Viki bother you. Anyone who watches knows they are the ones with the problem. Cant wait to see you next season.
Gretchen....Love you girl! You are a strong beautiful girl and i admire that. I also admire your Dresses. Where do you get them from?
"There's a sucker born every minute."
Wrong...the majority of these comments prove that:
"There's a sucker born every nanosecond!"
Gretchen, you are a disgrace to women and to the good people of Texas. Please do us a favor and stop referencing our state and that you are a graduate from Baylor University. We understand what Baylor is all about and you do not represent the essence of this University or Texas.
I wasnt sure what to believe after watching the reunion show. I was a big fan of gretchen the whole season and i didnt want to believe that she would be playing jeff like that. As they say however curiosity kills the cat. I added this Jay guy as a friend on myspace and found that Gretchen was in nearly all of his photos. Most of the photos we from 2008 and some from 2009. They were posing together as a couple would in them. I found it disturbing to see the ones of she and Jay at christmas time with her wearing her engagement ring from Jeff. I dont know maybe I am buying into it too much and ill probably be labled as a myspace creeper for adding someone simply to nose about their picture but I was curious. Just though I would share this with anyone else who may be wondering
Gretchen- loved you on the show. Great job handling yourself with that nasty duo. They tried to tarnish you and you came out looking better than ever. They looked like trash, you looked like a diamond. Please stay on the show. We adore the joy you bring to an otherwise dull show.
I think you are great!! You have handled everything with grace but now it's time to clear the air. Who the hell is Jay? I didn't read your blog to hear Tamara or Tamara's party. Yeah, it's terrible that Tamara has a big mouth and thought she had a right to air you dirty laundry but people want to know. The more you skirt around the issue the more true the story will seem. CLEAR it up so your viewers will continue to support you.
So obviously you are so embarrassed at what was said during the reunion that you have not been able to blog about it. No Comment? All I can say is the truth will set you free. Just come clean with everyone about what your real relationship was with Jeff and Jay. I knew from the beginning you were a gold digger. Traveling as you did while your beloved was on his death bed. and then it comes out that your little boy toy (aka the stalker) was with you on your trip! Ha! You should be so ashamed of yourself! If my husband was in the hospital the last thing I would be doing was shaking my ass in front of other men and the world. Tamra atleast has the guts to be truthful unlike you.
You did all the right things, I've been through it myself,never let anyone tell you different. Tamara is just a loud mouth. By the way you are the Hottest Housewife of The O.C. Go through the grief it will get better give it time. PS. I would hang out with you anytime. Married in Central Calif.
Why hasn't gretchen made a post? It is kinda weird that she is not clearing the air. Vicki is a nut-job. Tamara is ok. Please tell me how to get on the sites that show gretchen pictures with Jay.
Gretchen, First I would like to say that I think you are a very beautiful woman. I think that the other housewives except Lynn and Gina were just plain jealous of you. Don't let anything they say or do hurt you just brush it off. I think you would be a great friend to have. You seem to be very sweet, caring and loving. I am very sorry for your loss. On that note whatever your relationship with Jeff was is no one's business but yours. I believe you loved him with all your heart. I am 30 years old as well and I am engaged to an older man. He is 46 and I could care less what anyone thinks. He loves me and I love him that's all that matters. I wish you all the best and I hope to see you next season. U R the Hottest HW!!
Gretchen i think you are beautiful and fun. i don't know what the real relationship was between you and jeff-and frankly it is not my business. i cared for a loved one who had cancer and i work with cancer patients 5 days a week. no one knows what a caretaker goes through unless you have been in their shoes. i do think Tamara is jeaous of you and is Vicky-but that is human nature. just keep being "you" it is your choice to tell everyone who Jay is-or not tell. i for one can not judge you for anything - actually none of us should.
These people who say such mean and hurtful things.... can only hurt you if you allow them to, so just dont. Only you and Jeff know the truth, and thats all that matters. Wishing you peace.
Gretchen, I'm terribly sorry to hear about Jeff. While I don't know what went on in your relationship with him, I do feel that he loved you dearly and beyond that is no one's business!! Your behavior at Tamra's party was a bit much as a viewer(and MOM) but it was no worse than Tamra and Viki. They are sad people who didn't like the fact that your life seemed to trump theirs. I don't know if you will be back next season, if so, look introspectively and become Gretchen whoever that is and live each day as if it were your last!