Jill,
Hello I agree with you about Alexis and her husband and Tamara needed to stand up for herself and her children alone time ago and stop using Vickie as a scape goat.
Now as far as you and Bethenney I hope you can mend you ways because true friends are hard to find and I thought she was like your younger sister, she is just coming into her own self with being in love, and you know sometimes loves makes you do strange things, I will continue to pray for both of you. You and Bethanney are still my favorites. Blessings

I agree with CherryPearl. Tamra tends to talk to everyone about everyone. I do like her, but she says one thing and then says the opposite to someone else. I think she has stirred her own pot. She has brought on the negative attention herself concerning Gretchen and with Simon. I think Simon was wanting to work on his marriage with
Tamra and only Tamra.....not with the viewers, not with Vicki. Tamra just had to spread the negativity to validate her feelings and look what it got her and her children. Maybe Simon needs to learn to let his wife go a little bit, but that is for Tamra to work on with Simon only...and a counselor. Tamra has many issues of her own to work on if she wants to be a "partner" to someone.

I think it is wrong what you are doing to Bethenny. I liked it better when you where friends. You are two faced and fake

Jill, I said at the end of last season how much did Lynne wish she had taken your advice & gotten her kids straight? I read your blogs last season & you told her exactly what to do & if she didn't do it, this & this would happen. Well as we can all see, "this" happened. How sad huh? Love ya! Can't wait for the new season tonight!!

I always admired people who promoted charity events if they benefitted others. However, the lives all of you lead coupled with the hostility and meanness you share with each other tend to negate the type of character you need to display in order to give the "benefits" credibility.

It appears that many "charity benefits" are for the benefit of those fortunate women who have money enough to wear high end jewels, couture made gowns, and properties and cars to showboat to each other. Charities appear to provide you all with the showoff moments you live for!

Jill,

Someone needs to get through to Lynn regarding her daughters and I can think of no one better to reach her than you...unless it's Gloria.

Hi Jill Right on girlfriend! . AND, please get this season started already. I can't wait. Loving you from Miami, FLorida

Jill, Right on with your Alexis/Jim observations. Alexis outs up with the most ondescending treatment from her husband, but opens her big mouth up with everyone else. As far as her starting a fight at Gretchen's tupperware party, Gretchen's friend should have told her that her husband is simply gross, so no one in their right mind would be coming on to him. I think Alexis feels she has to put up with him or else she'll have to go back t.o not having any money (like before she married the prize. In any event, I agree it's extremely hard to watch a woman acting like she's a man's pet, and taking orders from him. Get a clue, Alexis.

Jill, I love, love, love you! You are my favorite housewife of all! Your (and Gloria's) advice is very sound! Thanks for sharing!

Wow! I couldn't agree more! Well said! Each blog of yours I read it's like wow you should be a daytime talk show host! You see it and say it like it is!

You are SO right about the new girl. She is playing dumb if she won't admit that she takes a lot of shit from her husband. He RULES her life completely!! What she wears, eats, says, where she goes. It is soooooo sad that she doesn't think she deserves better than that. I can only be so lucky as to say that I am and never will let my self dignity and respect go out the window because a wealthy man tells me to.

Wow Jill,

You should have read Gretchen's blog before posting to Gretchen to take it off. The fact is many people posted on Gretchen's blog that they didn't know about it until Tamra kept talking about it. After reading it myself, I really did not see much negativity towards Tamra compared to the negativity and hostility that Tamra spreaded to millions of viewers about Gretchen. Can Tamra take that back or off the air. I think not, because I've been reading blogs where it is now in Europe where hurtful things Tamra said about Gretchen is now being aired there.
I couldn't help but wonder after reading it, if maybe there is truth in Gretchen's defense for herself in her blog. Why is this blog bothering Tamra so much?

You can never be your childs friend... we are here to protect and teach them. We can only try to do better than we were taught...in the long run we will reap the benefits of love and harmony.

No, you're not the only one who thinks it about Alexis and Jim. Wow...he is so demeaning to her. Did you see next week's preview about the "Surf and Turf?" He tries to make her look stupid to the waiter. Does he get off on that? Does she take it because he provides for her? She probably has never had to support her "lifestyle" on her own a day in her life. I mean, you're right...NO ONE wants him. He's not attractive and having the personality of a plant doesn't make him more so. I don't get this woman, but she reminds me of many women I know who are too insecure about themselves and the relationship to stand up for themselves and say, "I deserve more respect."

You're so right on about everything, Jill. I really enjoy your blog.

Jill, gotta say, you are on the money with this blog!!

I love you Jill and your point of view. From what is seen, I agree with your assessment. The conversations between Jim and Alexis always end up with Jim as the leader (smarter) and Alexis as the minion (not AS smart). Don't get me wrong - he does make good points. It just doesn't feel like an equal partnership. There is a definite 60/40 balance with Jim having 60. Perhaps with matters of the household, schedules and other things the power is reversed. Or maybe Alexis just loves to gush and keep Jim's ego on high -- which is nice. Their relationship is what I see as more traditional like my parents -- literal stay-at-home housewife of the bygone era.

I did think it was funny when Jim/Alexis gushed about a great suite. It didn't look like a suite to me.

Jill,

YOU LOOK AMAZING!! I just saw a post on wonderwall and you are stunning. I can't wait for the new season to start. wishing all the best

Jill, I love watching you on the NY housewives, I would love to spend the day at your store you have some beautiful fabrics. I normally agree with your approach on things but the situation with Lynn and her daughter I can't agree. I am a single (divorced) parent with one child (daughter) that is now 21 and if she ever spoke to me in the manner that child spoke to her mother I have to say I would be in jail. I think when a parent feels that it is more important to be the friend something else is going on and you do the kid more harm than good. I had very few days of back talking with my child I must say I was blessed!! If I go to work and put food on the table buy clothing and keep a roof over your head you better never speak to me in a dis respectable manner! (on national television) The child knows how to guilt trip her parents and she has admitted that. Lynn needs to learn that kids learn by example. The examples that she and her husband are setting may lead to bad things in the future. Gretchen was soooooooooo right!!

Hi there, thank you for blogging about this interesting show - your opinion is always welcome here. Your analysis was "spot on" in so many aspects! You know how to cut through the layers (of make-up) and get to the truth. You are truly the "real deal" girl!

Keep blogging my friend!

Jill -Come on. Write an update,. I check back every day for a new blog from you and nothing. We need your input,

Jill you are 1000% right about Alexis and her husband. It's a superficial relationship and his attitude is going to screw up those kids. Those twin girls are an eating disorder waiting to happen when they are teens. If he lost his $ Alexis would bolt and if he found someone younger and thinner, he'd be gone - that is why Alexis so afraid to be apart from him!! Her fashion sense is another thing - maybe because I live on the UES, I dont see woman dressing that cheezy. Thanks for adding a SANE perspective to the OC group!!!

It's TV ppl!!! Although Jill and Bethany are hilarious they make the show...I wish they would kick he/she off!!!!

I agree with you Jill on everything...To bring out Lynn's story, I feel so badly for her...I understand totally what she is going through..My daughter is 21 now, and it's still not that easy..Ages 15-20 are the absolute worst..ha..They are so fresh and nasty and they make life so difficult for parents...But it is a stage that most, not all, children go through..so I tell Lynn to hang in there and that she's not alone and things will get easier year by year..Lynn, you are a good person and you're doing the best you can with this situation..

I couldn't agree with you more Jill..I could not take Simon's attitude or personality for that matter...He is a way too controlling character and I know Tamra will be a stronger person now that she's finished with him...She can grow without someone on her back...

Jill I love you, you are my favorite NY housewife. Let me say that you are spot on about Alexis and Jim. You are not out of your mind, they both rub me the wrong way. Regarding Lynn, I hope that she takes your advice. I can't wait until the new season states, I miss you.

I can see that I'm not the only "biggest fan" you have. Gloria has imparted you with her gift of wisdom coupled with love. You are right with your comments on the OC cast members. Count on me to buy a copy or two of your new book. Looking forward to March 4th. I'll be hosting a housewives of NYC new season party!!!

Jill....luv,luv, luv u!!! You are soo right on! Every point you make! I especially agree with you on Lynne. Being a parent first is most important! I was a teenage mother, and I resented my mother at the time, I went through alot, but in the end we are the best of firends. I see now what she saw then, be a PARENT!

Luv u lots.. can't wait to see you on next season!

Jill your viewers miss you! can't wait until next season.

Jill, you are right on with Alexis and Jim. I don't know how she stands him telling her what to say, what to wear, next he'll be telling her how to breathe! I too, think something is off in her marriage, but, that being none of my business I won't comment. I love your mother! I cried when she gave advice to Bethany. She was so spot on. Having lost my mother years ago (I think of her EVERY day), you are so lucky to have your mom, and I understand why you cried when your parents left. We are ALL small children inside when around our folks, but once they leave us we are orphans. Can't wait till the new season of New York Housewives. You are a very classy woman with a great family. I'll be watching.

Jill, Can't wait for the new season of NY Housewifes I'm sure it will be interesting. About your comments regarding Alexis (the new OC Housewife) you are absoultly right, I feel the same way. Although I do like her, I'm not to sure about him. Everyone thinks Vicki has an abnormal marriage, but I think her marriage is how it should be. Couples should trust their partner to travel with their friends or a girls trip.....It keeps us sane. I understand Alexis when she says you don't know her and her family however by being on TV, I agree with you, it gives us the right to comment on what we see.

Jill, my husband and I are waiting for the new season to start! We are looking forward to it!

Jill AMEN!!!!!!

Jill! You are the best!!...and on point with everything you stated in your blog. I am hopeful that each OC housewife reads it and absorbs the advise!!

Okay gottea start out girl I miss ya! Your the most honest straight forward person I have seen on tv reality. Really am excited for the book and seeing the new season. Hope it isnt like oc man there getting really mean to each other. But hey I am not judging! Cannot wait to see the next season tell them we want it to start sooner! LOL

You are right one about everything, especially Jim and Alexis. They are odd to say the least.

Jill- you are right on when it comes to everything you wrote.. I TOTALLY agree with you about Alexis and her husband.. He does talk down to her and is rude.

I agree with Jill! She has a wisdom that all the other housewives could use. Alexis is such a bore! She does not have a real personality. Everything about her is fake.
The Oc is missing Jeanna, Laurie. They had a sensible nature. They were real! Vicki and Don are the only ones left who are who they are.
I can't wait till NY season starts! Jill is you could hang out with three people from the other housewive shows who would they be?

Jill, you are right, again, about it all! I can't wait till NY houswives start! I am so tired of all the dumb blondes!!!

Jill- You are perfect! Spot on as usual.

Seriously, keep this lady blogging about the "Real Housewives of Orange County"! I've watched this season with my own mother and we never knew we had so much in commmon as when we bonded over what bad behavior these ladies in the OC (and their husbands, sans Donn) have shown. We all have opinions--clearly--but to have someone who has put their face in front of a camera telling these ladies the way many of us feel, well...thank you Jill. I don't know if it's coastal thing (I live in Michigan..we have LOTS of coasts) but clearly the east dominates the west in sensibility and a tasteful dose of "Get your head out of your ***beep***" Keep on keeping on there, Ms. Jill

Jill,

As usual you are, I believe, right on target in your assessment of the new OC housewife. How sad that this woman feels she needs to keep her face botoxed, lips numbed, boobs bloated etc. to keep her husbands interest (as if he were all that, Brad Pitt he isn't). How sad that she would allow this condescending man to constantly talk down to her, its obvious that he has a low opinion of his wife's intelligence (perhaps with reason, but still). And what exactly is this woman "busy" doing, she has 2 nannies (which her children seem to prefer) so obviously mothering isn't on the top of her list of priorities, guess shes busy keeping her control-freak husband happy..... wasted time in my opinion. Your advice to Lynn is equally eloquent that woman needs to grow a spine and parent her children.
Love the fact that you offer your opinions, as for those who criticize you for being judge and jury....please, if these brainless women are ignorant enough to publicize their private lives for the world to witness, its open season.

Jill you ROCK!!! I totally agree with you about Alexis and Jim! I just disagree with you about Gretchen! This season she is letting Slade have a neg. influence on her!!!

Jill, I love you. I can't wait for New York again. You're honest, genuine, funny, and YOU GET IT. And you're real, how refreshing.

Where have you been? I have missed reading you blogs.

Hi Jill,

Can't wait for your show to return. Can't wait to see what you and all the other ladies are up to. I hope your mom will be in some of the episodes. I think she is great!

Now about your comments directed towards Alexis, there's always going to be someone that rubs you the wrong way. We're not going to like everyone we see on TV. I'm sure you have rubbed many viewers the wrong way. Me not being one of them.

You, me, and most women had some type of insecurity when we were Alexis's age. In fact, our insecurities don't just disappear as we age; they change. You had a few insecure moments last season.

It didn't appear that Alexis was being overly jealous about the situation with the woman. Perhaps, you are not the kind of lady who would check another woman for being too chummy, but Alexis and I are. Go Alexis! Sometimes you have to make the point. I also don't get the feeling that Jim is controlling. Jim is a man of a certain age and probably had several unsuccesful relationships so when he meet Alexis he knew the type of wife and family life he wanted. keep in mind that he is 15 years her senior so it may appear that he is controlling when he is more likely giving her some of his life lessons.

I hope all is well with Ally and the rest of your family. Can't wait for you to return to TV.

Take care,

Ahhhh...this is the Jill I love.

Jill, you are so right in your blog and the picture of class. The other girls(no matter which city) should take a lesson. I love your mom, Gloria. She has such great advice. One quote I will never forget, "you don't just wake up accomplished". Ladies, each day, you must get up and do something to give meaning to your life besides looking pretty and shopping. Come on.

Jill, first I have to say "I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE YOU". I was really suprised to see that you and Bethany are still having problems. You seemed to be so close. I really liked you girls as friends. Well I guess in life things don't always turn out the way we would like. I can't wait for the new season to start. I miss the girls from NYC! Even though I'm a Cali girl born and raised. Good luck and I can't wait to watch.....

Hey Jill, it is the first time i ever read any blog and was going to write to lynn but then I saw yours. I have always had a good impression of you and the way you present yourself on the show. I think you of all people can give advice to other housewives because you've been through a similar experience. Not to mention it was all good advice. I don't understand though if Gretchen really was concerned about Alexa she would have addressed it off camera.

Jill, I agree with you. I just do not like this new girl. There is something wrong with her.