It has been a few busy weeks since I last wrote. Haiti being one of them. I have been working with my friend Sarah (from the Season 1 event in the Hamptons) to again raise money for Help For Orphans. We have a friend in the Hamptons with a small 4 seat Cessna plane that has been going back and forth to Haiti bringing supplies. He is not "rich" and needs money for fuel and supplies to bring to the orphans. If you want to help, please go to http://www.helpfororphans.org/. I can promise the money will buy diapers and medicine that our friend will bring directly to the children. We will be posting photos on the site so please keep checking. Any amount. It all adds up!
My blog. What can I say. It all seems so petty doesn't it? Well, not all of it. I actually have a lot to say regarding Tamra and Simon. Under normal circumstances, it is none of my business or anyone's business and we should say nothing. On the other hand, by being on a reality show and talking about it on Andy's late night show following the episode, it gives us permission to discuss it doesn't it? I just finished reading Simon's blog. If he had stopped after the first paragraph I would have had so much more respect for him. He contradicts himself. He says, "And I humbly ask at this time to please respect our privacy." That should have been the end of it. He should not be blogging. But no, he can't control himself. He continues with, "So let me just say a few words, and then let it rest." All I can say is that he is passive aggressive and should just STOP BLOGGING. He knows Tamra is reading it (as are all of us, strangers) and wants to continue ripping off the band-aid. Stop. Just stop Simon.
Tamra, you surprise me. In a good way. First, my heart goes out to you and your children. I went through a divorce myself privately and know how humiliating that experience was. The feeling of failure displayed in from of everyone must stir a lot of emotions in you. I hope that Ryan is giving you lots of love and being a "good boy." Something good always comes from something bad like this and maybe Ryan is turning his life around and becoming the man you and Simon hoped he'd become. Take your time and take care of your children first. I hope you both can at least agree to do whatever is in the best interest of your children first.
I really like you Jill!!!!!!! You are a true New Yorker and say it like it is without wasting time with fluff! If people would just listen to you, they'd be much better off. Your mom would be proud of you! You are truly a class act and have such a big heart (from what I see on the show and read in the blog!). Best of luck to you!
Jill, as always I totally agree! You are so right on Alexis and Jim. Her comments about being perfect have been nothing less than disturbing. Dieting 24/7 and referring to your husband as your "king" is not a good way to keep a man. I hope her girls have a better relationship with men and themselves.
And you're so right about Simon. Enough! Love you Jill!
Jill, thanks for calling it like you see it. I agree with everything you said, especially about Alexis & Jim. I think maybe Alexis had a bit too much to drink & then exposed her own insecurities. It seems like as soon as someone says they're a devout Christian, their behavior is excused. Just saying it doesn't mean you're living it or make you a good person.
Ahhhh - a voice of reason! Thank you Jill!!! And I'm with you...the new girl just has a strange dynamic.
Oh, Jill, I love you! You seem to be the only one with the balls to speak the obvious about Simon and Jim. I responded the same way to Simon's blog, but my comments weren't accepted, haha. I think Alexis thinks she can tolerate Jim's controlling and telling her what to do, but it's true, the older you get, the less you want to hear it. You think it's a trade-off of having someone take care of you, but you start to prefer having less security in favor of having more freedom. My big sister is in a similar situation--she married young and appreciated having someone making decisions for her, but fifteen years later I think she'd prefer to be able to take care of herself. But, love ya, Jill! I wish all the wives told it like is is, like you do.
Jill, of all the Housewives, you and Caroline are my favorites. You are both down to earth and have good common sense. I completely agree with you about Alexis and her husband. Obviously, from the poll taken during the show, MANY others aren't fond of him also! And you are completely right about Lynne and Frank. They just don't get it about being a parent. My Mom and your Mom would get along great! My Mom would always say "I am your MOTHER, not your friend!" Even as a young teen, I remember being glad about that. I have enough friends; I will always need ONE Mom. Gloria is almost as wonderful as MY Mom!! LOL Great blog, Jill!
Jill, you are so dead on with these people. Lynne needs to stand up to her daughter. I was floored at how Alexa treated them. I would NEVER stand for that. I am wondering why Lynne is not blogging on here as well.
Jill, thanks for your wonderful comments. Looking forward to your new season!
Jill - you are ALWAYS spot on! I thought that I was the only one who thought that something is amiss in the Bellino household. I am not buying any of it - especially all that she claims to do as a stay-at-home Mother. I, too, stay home, and I expect my husband to clean up after himself, as well as "fix" his own plate. I come from a traditional Italian family, and my Father has always done the grocery shopping and still hangs the laundry outside - he's 73! My own husband does his laundry, and changes messy diapers. Alexis needs to wake up - she's his wife, not his slave. I really don't think any of this has to do with being a Christian wife and Mother. If my husband expected me to behave that way, then he can expect me not to be here when he comes home. Thanks for always telling it the way that it is!
I love you Jill! You're commentary is dead-on. You see right through all the B.S. and call it like it is without being mean. Love it!
You so hit the nail on the head on this one!!Keep up the great BLOGGING. I love to read yours and gain your insight.
Good luck with the fundraising - - that is such a GREAT cause!
OMG I can't believe how much I agree with your blog, especially the part about poor Lynne. BUT I have to say I have had the same vibe about Alexis and Jim...I couldn't handle being his wife. Right now she seems like the perfect woman for that job. In a few years he will have completely destroyed her or she will have wised up as Tamara has and left. Can't wait for NYCHousewives!
Jill, I love you and your straight talk. PLEASE read Gretchen's blog! She's basically defending herself against slander made by Tamra. I feel Tamra wants it down so people won't see through her smear campaing she waged against Gretchen. From the beginning of last season, she was at Gretchen, well before any of the alleged interactions Jay took place.
Hi fellow New Yorker, Absolutely right in all aspects. Especially with the new girl. Watching her "perfect" world is like nails on a chalkboard. Her and her husband seems like they talk down to everyone. Listening to them is like watching paint dry. Please keep up your blogging, I can't agree with you more.
Jill, Everything you say makes so much sense. I hope the OC girls will learn from your wisdom. Cant wait to see you back on tv!
Miss you Jill!
OMG you are soooo right about Alexis and Jim-he is extremely condescending to her and it does not appear that she is even aware of it...I posted on her site today that she needs to wake up - no one wants her husband - he's not that great. One point I would like to make is the fact that he did not do anything to avoid Mel being close - could it be that he wants Alexis to stay insecure?? Anyway,miss you and Bethany and can't wait for the new season, Ally is my favorite kid on the show..you are all grounded and I luv ya!!
jill-as always you are the voice of reason and truly the most sensible housewife. it is refreshing to read your blog.
Thank you for being the voice of reason Jill! You are absolutely right about Simon being passive aggressive and if he wants it private, stay off the internet! And yes, something is way off with Alexis and her husband. Can't wait 'til you are back in March!
jill you are the best! i read simon's blog and couldn't believe the responses he got were all so positive...give me a break...it doesn't matter who's at fault but fight it out in private not in an online blog trying to sound like the good guy...there are always two sides to every story and then the truth!! you worded things perfectly--can't wait until your new season
You are right on in everything you say in your blog. If I lived in NY and had money (so I could travel in your circle), you would be the type of person I would look to be friends with.
OMG....all I can say is that you hit the nail on the head on all points discussed....once again. First of all, I'd like to commend you for your work with the Haitian relief efforts.
I can't help but watch the Orange County girls (and guys for that matter) and compare them to the NYC cast and wonder what the hell is wrong with these people. Maybe its because I'm a fellow New Yorker, but the NYC cast seems to be on a totally different maturity and class level. Enough said on that.
Anyway, everything you've said here is just true and very sound advice and I can only hope these California bozos take it to heart.
As always, you hit the nail on the head Jill regarding Alexis. I agree that she is insecure and her husband is controlling. I wish them well. Please give your mom a big hug for me. My mom passed when I was 38 from Alzheimer's. I miss her every day. I admire your wisdom and strength. I am sure your mom is so proud of you!!!!
Wow - great blog. I just love you!!! Such common sense is rarely heard, maybe you should run for office! I love the way you show such respect for all the other women while they are having such a hard time. I hope Lynn reads your book - she needs the help. I agree about Alexis' husband - he treats her like a child. It's weird! As far as Gretchen's blog, I think she feels Tamara trashed her so badly that she needs to defend herself somehow. I think if Tamara agrees to back down and stay out of Gretchen's life for good and to quit bringing up the past, she can agree to take down her blog, but not until that happens should she. I don't trust Tamara at all, but do wish her the best during this tough time she's going through. Can't wait for NY to come back!!!
Thanks Jill for your blog! You are the voice of reason. I agree with all of your points. Your kind words to Tamra and Lynn just show how put together and empathetic you are. I can't wait for the RH of NY. The best cast and crew!
Jill, I love you and I am going to buy your book. You are so logical and level headed with your advice to all the O.C. housewives. I really hope Lynne takes your advice. It is true, the amount of energy she puts into working out is not balanced with her mothering efforts. I also 100 percent agree with something that is "off the mark" with Alexis and her husband. It seems very unhealthy. All the best!
Jill, you are my favorite housewive of all the housewive shows. I totally agree with your assessment of Alexis and Jim--I have thought exactly the same thing regarding their relationship dynamics.You are dead on with that assumption.
I agree with every word you have said, especially when it comes to Alexis! I love you Jill, you are my favorite New York housewife!!!!! :o)
I just adore you. As a friend I would be scared of you - you tell it like it is. No sugar coating it. But I really admire you and your mom. Truly
Jill, You're a hoot! I wonder how accurate your intuitive sense is regarding Jim & Alexis. I so look forward to when your show is back on the air.
Jill, I love your blog! You give great advice while not being super judgmental, which makes your advice easy to swallow. I agree with you about the Jim and Alexis thing, not that I'm saying I'm perfect by any means. All I know is that my husband and I have a very equal partnership in our marriage. We both work full time, and I am working on my Masters degree while raising our beautiful 2 year old daughter. My husband would never dream of speaking down to me! I respect Jim and Alexis' faith and morals, but sometimes I think Alexis truly believes that it is her role as the wife to cook, clean, and look beautiful. Is that really a fulfilling lifestyle? I'm glad you pointed that out! BTW- you were fabulous on Joy Behar! Totally telling it like it is!!! I can't wait for RHONYC!!!
Sincerely, Katy Cole
Jill, You are my favorite of the NY housewives, and I agree with everything you have to say except about Alexis. If someone was leaning up against my husband I would definitely be telling them to back off whether they were drunk or not.
Jill, I love you. You summed all of this up very well and I agree with everything you said. You can tell you have a very smart mother.
Jill, Simply put we could be twins and I LOVE you! Every word you wrote I could have written, I agree 100%! I can't wait to watch you guys RHONY!
Jill, I love you for your insightful comments, you are RIGHT ON. I like that you were tasteful about it, too. You are definitely my favorite Housewife; I wish I could hang out with you in NY:)
Spot-on, Jill. I agree with all your insights. Simon. Alexis. Every. Word. It's your ability to live a glamorous life on the one hand while being totally down to earth on the other that makes you so many people's favorite housewife.
I love you Jill! You give great advice, just like your mom. ;-) Can't WAIT for NY to come back...you all are the BEST!
Jill!! You rock--you are so real, seem down to earth, and have the perfect words!! Couldn't agree more...Fan from Iowa!!