As you see from our first episode, there seems to be a lot of tension between Tamra and me. Like all married couples, we have our ups and downs. Unfortunately for dramatic purposes the downs will be on the show this season. Let’s start with my daughter's red carpet party. I have always asked Tamra to be careful of what she says on camera for the kids and my sake. However, she seems to do the opposite when the cameras roll. But I guess it makes good TV. She really is the most wonderful person when she is not hamming it up for the show. I can’t tell you how many times I hear people say to her, "You're not what I expected. You are so nice and sweet." I've gotten a lot of emails about the first episode. Most of them are very supportive about having morals and protecting my family. But there have been a few asking if I’m unhappy, and why don't I ever smile. Well, as I said before, this show is about drama. And I happen to be upset 5% of the time at the party. And that is what you saw. However, you do see me smiling and laughing when we ran out of water. I'm told we will see a lighter side of my personality this year. Let's hope that is true.
Now, let’s talk about the comments Tamra and Ricky were making about T-bagging. I felt it was not appropriate for any venue with children. Not to mention that black box with a lens on it that records it to the world (camera). For the record, Ricky is a wonderful person and father, and was caught in one of those 5% moments. Welcome to our world according to reality TV.
Addressing Vicki comments about me being controlling. Yes it’s true. "Self-controlling." I have learned over the years that you can't control or change anyone but yourself. I do find it funny when Vicki calls me controlling. Isn't that like "the pot calling the kettle black"? And you know my wife, and you know me. If I was really controlling, she would have never said or done half the things she did the last few seasons. Am I protective? Hell yes. I would give my life to protect my wife and kids. And people who know me know that to be true.
My next scene is before Lynne’s trunk show. I was very nervous for my wife before she left for Lynne's party. I knew she did not want all the drama that had happened with her and Gretchen the year before to resurface. Contrary to public opinion, Tamra does not like all the confrontation and hostility we saw last year. As her husband, I wanted to protect her that night, but knew she had to go alone. I thought she handled herself very well. She was texting me the whole time, and wanted to leave many times. At one point she asked me to come pick her up. She had enough of the BS. You have no idea what my poor wife has through this past year. And as her husband, it was very hard to me to see her go through it. Like she says, don't involve me.
Simon, I am so glad you posted on the blog. I now have a different opinion of you and respect that you want to protect your wife, your children, yourself, and your family life in general. And you are right - the show is being edited for the dramatic effect. It is easy to get caught up in it. Just keep it real.
Thanks for sharing, Simon! I think you are so classy and don't worry - a great deal of RHOC viewers know that things are edited to show the most entertaining bits from long days. That's why we watch!
GREAT Job Simon. I know all you said is true. On TV you have to realize that it is only a very small part of the story. Really nice to have the man's perspective on this crazy entertainment. And people remember this is only entertainment. I look forward to seeing more blogs from you.
Thank you for the blog Simon. It's good to hear your side. And don't worry, we don't listen to Vicki anyway.
It's admirable that you want to proctect your family! I think Tamra has handled herself well, and most everyone knows that this reality TV is just that.......and, if there were no controversy, there would be no show. How boring would it be if these ladies always got along? In fact, that wouldn't be reality at all. Women can't get along! That's a fact! (By the way, I'm female!)
As for Vicki, she tends to jab people when they are down. I like her alot and suspect that her jabs at you and all the other castmates are fr the drama, or a result of fine editing!
We love you all and hope you're a part of the show for years to come!
Hi Simon: Congrats on your blog! I'll bet it felt good to get all that off your chest. However, you didn't tell me anything new. Despite all the drama, I could always see past that and see the real person. In fact, you kind of remind me of my husband in some ways. He doesn't like it when I go down South to visit my Mom, not because he is controlling, but after 20 years of marriage, we continue to grow closer every day. He doesn't put up a fuss when I go away, but he misses me terribly when I'm not home and I miss him terribly. As I said in a post to Tamra recently, drama makes for good tv and good ratings!!! It is obvious how much you and Tamra love each other. You have a beautiful family and I love the show, even the drama!
I really think the husbands of the RHOC really keep the ladies balanced on the show. Which is very refreshing. Whatever you do, remain suportive of Tamara. Someone has to keep a level head and don't get involved with the drama. For that, I'm very proud of you. In spite of what the cameras sometimes betray you as been a control freak and mean. You seem to be very ground for your family.
Best wishes to you and your family!!!
Nice blog - rather defensive but nice. So Tamra does what she wants and let the chips fall where they may. It's all for the camera because she's got to keep the crap stirred up or she'll be replaced by Bravo, right? And I'm thrilled you have another job besides the tequila biz, but if that's true, they why are you losing your home if you're really making money? I'm confused. My opinion hasn't changed about you, because it was right on from the beginning. You're like every other husband, trust me. Mine is like you except for the "bossy" part. I like to call it being opinionated. Sounds better don't you think? Quite frankly, I'm more interested in what's in the closets of the RHOC.
One thing I can say is that you are the BEST DRESSED husband on the show. BUT you do have a tendency to make negative comments to Tamra when you are out with others in public. It's that controlling thing popping up when it happens. My husband does it too at times, then I have to point it out that I'm on his side. Remember that loyalty is a big deal to us, whether you know it or not. And putting your wife down in public is not cool at all.
Good luck this year and wish you all the best. Hope you don't lose your home as I think it's quite nice.
Thank you Simon for standing up for yourself here in this forum . Bravo won't be able to make you look bad if you stay with us and tell us what is really going on with you and your wife . Bravo will use you and abuse you all that they can , for ratings.
So I say thank you again to Simon.
Hugs from Flipper
VERY WELL WRITTEN there Simon!!! I know that is NOT how ya'll are b/c I can Feel your Energy's and THAT is NOT it!! Did you happen to get that part on Morning Joe this morning when they were talking about BRAVO & there "Reality Tv Shows?"
TTYL Love, Hugs & Blessings
Great Blog Simon, you are the best! You are for sure the HOTTEST guy on the show and a lot of other shows out there. You are sexy, dress nice and the way you are with Tamra I think it is sweet. (to a point mind you). YOUR kids are soooo cute. You two are the best looking couple on TV right now. You should have your own show. THE BARNEYS. I love it.
Great job Simon! It is about time the men in our show had a voice, thanks for being the rock we all turn too in tough times and for your wonderful advice. Jeana and kara
LOL! I had no idea what "T-Bagging" meant, I had to google it~LOL! I'm a 43 year old woman, and I'm not exactly what you'd call 'naive', so how the heck would children know what it means? Chill Brada (Simon)
Simon--nice blog. Viewers know that the show will only highlight the drama and that you and Tamra are good people. Good luck.
Congrats on your blog and don't ever feel guilty or bad about having morals and values. Anyone in their right mind can see you are a good person and a great husband and dad. Keep up the great work.
Well said Simon! you go, it's about time at least one of the husbands wears the pants in these houses.
Simon, I knew from the first episodes you were a good father and husband and that is shown on camera. I thought you had every right to say something about the "t-bagging" comment. Keep your head up in hard times and best of luck to you and your family!
Simon, well said! Donn should have stood up for himself last season. We do not know what went on with Tamra and Gretchen-but she did lose someone very clsoe to her. We each deal with death and/or a loss in our own ways. Jeff seemed to be OK with Gretchen-so who are we to judge???? Your first blog is well written and a clear message is there. I hope the coming attractions do not find you and Tamra divorcing-work thru it. Good luck
Simon, what a great blog. Glad you get to tell your side. It must be frustating to see all the bad parts. We all might end up the same way if cameras were rolling 24/7 :) You and Tamra are very strong, keep it up! :)
Simon- I commend you for having traditional values. As a husband you are the protecter and provider of the home. You are supposed to protect your children from hearing vulgarities, you are supposed to protect your wife from parading around national tv in lingerie. Vicki last season admitted that she resents what you and Tamra have so don't listen to her. You are a real man of the house and that is very respectable.
Simon - always liked you - now even more. You never need to explain yourself - and the last person you ever need to worry about is Vicky. You keep your marriage strong - take care of your family just as you do. You guys are funny - great - and real. Take care.
I really enjoyed your blog..I just started to watch the show...was never much into reality...and i guess the drama is the hot spot...But I think Tamara and you handled everything so well...you come across as a real family...I respect and could not agree more about what you said about "Control" Your family represents alot of what moine does...never explain yourself...people that judge don't matter and people that matter don't judge....god bless you and your beautiful family... Looking forward to watching the next episode
Love the Simon! You've always appeared so mysterious on the show, but now I feel like we have a bit more insight into the real Simon. You're not only HOT but a supportive husband and father...all of the qualities any woman is lucky to have. Good job Tamra for picking such a gem!
WOW! I love what you had to say Simon. In a world where metrosexual is the cool way to be,you are being a real man. Not some control freak,but a REAL man. Your wife does pretty much what she wants to,adn you just shake your head. I can relate to that too. my husband shakes his head alot! Your wife is my favorite on the show,as I can relate to her the most. Thanks for saying what you did. I wish you the best.
Thank you Simon for a great blog! My husband and I have a similar relationship, the ups and downs are hard enough without cameras documenting them! I can only imagine~ Hope you and Tamara can work through the difficult times ahead...You have a beautiful family!
Hello Simon, Thanks for playing for us on tv. I always felt the things you've said to Tamra were valid things, things that needed to be said, but that you could've used a softer touch. I think we can see the glimpses through the seasons of the love you both share for each other and your family. They aren't the central focus. 'tisn't the '50s you know!
Don't worry Simon (and Tamra), you never came off as "controlling" and Tamra never came off as being controlled. Personally, you 2 have always been my favorite couple because ironically, I felt that there was no power struggle or imbalance between you two. I truly believe that you're looking out for Tamra which I suppose can be misconstrued into being controlling but that's what husband and wives do...especially when one spouse is thrust into spotlight and more vulnerable so I commend you on trying your best to keep things in order. And OH YES, the pot sure did call the kettle black!! haha too funny... Interesting twist I'd like to throw in...I remember an episode where a "certain someone" was out of town last season and accompanied by another castmate, and getting a little too close for comfort with other men if you ask me!! I found "her" actions so disrespectful and inappropriate for a married woman. If THAT is what she thinks is normal, then yea I guess you must seem out of this world and controlling to her!!!! hah wow, some people... Best of luck to you and Tamra
I agree with everything you said, forget Vicki!! We think you are great and just want the best for your family. Ignore all the other idiots who think otherwise. I do think Tamra needs to take it back a few notches and be a bit nicer, no reason to argue with people just get along already and maybe she could appreciate what she has instead of what she can't buy at the moment. No more spoiling her Simon, just live life with quality.
A man who truly loves and can handle Tamra? Simon, you've got to be a pretty strong character to take on that assignment! Yes, Tamra is beautiful and charming no doubt. But honestly, she does seem pretty "high maintenance" both relationally and shopping-wise.
Still, despite popular belief, the Public LOVES folks on reality shows who can actually hang onto their marriages! I am rooting for you and Tamra! Lord knows, we are all tired of seeing reality show participants getting ugly about their spouses after they become famous (i.e. Jon & Kate; etc.) Just (genuinely) stay in love and stay close....and we will keep on watching!!
Hi Simon, glad to see you blogging.I never thought you were controlling.Tamra has a mind of her own, that's for sure.I know she loves you and you love her and that says a lot.I know it puts stress on people when they're hit by this economy.We have been hit hard ,but we'll all get through it with patience and love.Sometimes people need a little help by counseling just to get through. It's amazing what we can learn to live without when we have to. Keep blogging as I enjoy the "male" take on things.
I just want to say thank you for sharing things from your perspective. You really come across as indifferent this season and I get freaked out thinking about you guys suffering in your marriage. I love the show and your blog has won me over... Thank you!
I love you Simon, and I hope Tamara can appreciate the man she has. I do not think you are controlling, but strong, a man! A very attractive man, that just wants a lady in the streets and a freak in the bed. Goodluck with your marriage, but if it does not work out, I will be waiting.
Hugs and Kisses
Simon, You are one of the good guys! I enjoy the balance you bring to the show. You and Geana have a lot in common, you're above the superficial drama and are "good people". Tamra knows it and she's a very lucky woman! I look forward to the rest of the season. Hang in there, it's all good.
Was glad to read "your side" Simon. I'm not sure how I would react if I had cameras parading through my life all the time,oh...I WOULDN'T do it. But while the editing this year is a bit rough on you, I think you are a "real" man/husband/father, who is trying to protect his younger children and indulge the "child" in his wife. Thank goodness you are there to balance it all out. Keep loving them, and keep blogging!!
Just a couple of things I thought of while reading this blog post:
Don't worry about what people think. They don't do it very often.
Life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you respond to it" Lou Holtz
What happens...... that is momentum of Life's blood.
Choice of responding ~ priceless.
I can change how I respond to anything, anyone, any behavior. What I can not change is any other.
Best wishes to one and all.
Simon - You are a class act all the way. I have thought that from the beginning! Stay who you are and don't apologize or defend yourself - it's not necessary! As for Vicki...consider the source!!! Love ya, Handsome!!!
Simon, So glad you are blogging now. It's nice to hear from the husbands, especially one who is so stable. Stay as you are Simon, you seem to be the only constant and one with common sense.
Simon.. you probably do not read these messages but I feel compelled to write.
I can entirely appreciate what you and your family are going through. It seems that when finances are strained the first thing that starts to go is your patience level with your spouse. My husband and I are feeling the same pressures. We own a small construction co. and always did the right thing and are now struggling to not lose everything. We are constantly on edge with each other. I see that with you and Tamra and wish you the best of luck getting through it. I was brought to tears myself when Tamra started crying about losing the house as it is the only place your kids have ever known. I am at the same exact spot...struggling to save my house for my 2 & 3 year old babies. I am sure you will pull through this as we all will...and hopefully be better people for having done it.
I can't sleep either when my husband is out of town. It's not just you, I don't think anybody who's married likes sleeping alone. Doesn't mean we're controlling, it's just out of our comfort zone.