Tamra getting back to real estate is great. I thought she handled herself at the open house well. I am very proud of her no matter what she does. I will always support her in any direction she wants to go. Love you babe!
The dinner with Donn and Vicki to me looked awkward. Discussing Tamra and my marriage instead of enjoying themselves. This is where I have had the problem with Vicki as of late. For years she has told Tamra how she should act and treat me. I would only hope Vicki and Donn had more pressing information on their minds to discuss during dinner conversation than our marriage. This year, Vicki has stepped it up a little. She is now telling me how I should be in my marriage and with my wife. That’s where I draw the line. Her and Donn have their own unique relationship and it works for them. I don’t want Donn's life or marriage. Maybe when Tamra and I get to their age and our kids are out of the house we might do the same. For now, there are 80k reasons why I don’t have Vicki's relationship.
Gretchen and Tamra’s lunch! Wow! This so overplayed and old. I don't know about all of you, but I'm tired of this horse, stop beating it, it's DEAD! A final observation about Gretchen at lunch. I've notice when she is caught being deceptive, she has this certain look on her face. Her mouth gets small and pulls down on her cheeks. Her eyes really tell it all. It's the same look she had when she was on the reunion show last year. Hmmm?
AMEN to everything you said, Simon! I respect and applaud you for having the guts, the courage, and the principles to say "NO" to situations which may be seen as compromising. I don't see you as controlling at all - I see you as a man who truly wants to protect his family. I also respect you - so very much - for your stance with Ryan. While Tamra may think that she is doing the right thing - in not standing her ground and supporting her husband (because she 'doesn't want to get in the middle of it'), she is actually showing Ryan that she will back down where he is concerned. Tamra should have backed you - to Ryan - and should have said that his disrespect for you was not going to be tolerated in your family. This kid needs boundaries - lots of boundaries. Keep on keeping on, Simon....you're the best!
Simon, I totally agree with u. Y would anyone put themselves in a position they can't take back? Don't worry about all the haters or trash talkers, your doing the right thing. My husband watches the show with me from time to time and he said he totally see's your point of view. We've always thought about what we would do if a trip like this came up and after seeing the show and hearing your point of views we totally agreed that NO WAY will we ever put ourselves in stupid situtations that would put our relationship in danger. The haters and the trash talkers will always say "Well, I guess they don't trust each other" all I say to that is trust is there but we aren't willing to take a chance with bad influences and other such things that can come up. Keep being true to yourself and your family.
:) A fan
I agree with many things you said. I could NEVER imagine going on a vacation and telling my husband he isn't invited; as a matter of fact it wouldn't feel like a vacation without him.
I also agree with Tamara about the situation with Gretchen and Jay. You should remind Tamara to ask Gretchen why she has Jay's name tattoo-ed on her ring finger if they were never involved.
A lot of what you said seemed reasonable until you brought up the "lie detector test" comment and defended it. Someone has the be the adult and let this drama go.
Why cant you and Tamra let it all go? You are two of the most "persecuted" people on television, you're not controlling and she's not a liar we get it! Now move on!
Glad u set the record straight, I have often thought of how much u remind me of my husband, with the way you handle family and how the other cast members respect you, how they can count on getting good adivice form you and your not out talking about it on camers, HIGH FIVE TO YOU
You are awesome Simon! You and Tamra are my favorite couple. You truly live a life of "what you see is what you get". You are real and don't live a lie. Your values and respect for each other is what most marriages are lacking these days. People that try to drag you down or separate you do NOT have your best interests at heart. I believe Vicki is jealous and just wants to drag Tamra down to her level to make herself feel better about the kind of wife she is. Donn needs to get a backbone and start acting like a man and put his wife in her place. Vicki is a work-a-holic and the little time she has to vacation she'd rather be away from her husband??? That is messed up! There is a problem in their marriage. Way to stand up for values and what's right Simon! Keep at it!!!
Simon, I do not disagree with you one bit! I wouldn't go on vacation with the girls (thousands of miles away) without my spouse!
I appreciate your values and support of your family. It's refreshing even if the cameras don't always portray it that way.
To me you seem liek a great husband. You remind me of mine. We dont travel alone for the same reasons we want to be together! If people dont like it forget them!! All that matters is that it works for the two of you. God bless
Simon, Good blog. As I observed you and Tamara so far this year you both do seem very tense and uptight. It looks like there might be more going on under the surface that needs to be worked out. I understand about the girl trips. When my late husband was alive, I couldn't even imagine doing that. He and I acutally had more fun going together than these girls gone wild trips on Housewives. Although I suppose that isn't what the producers want to show. Be patient. Validate Tamaras' point of view even it you disagree. Loosen up and have some trust. She does not seem as shallow as some of the others. I am also very glad to hear you have a good relationship with Don. I was SO sorry for him last year. One thing I just hate to see is a woman treat her man badly, especially when he was trying so hard to please her.I do not know what happened since last season but it is good to see Vickie treat him better this year. Hang in there and good luck to you both.
Simon, 1)Lightened up. 2)Stay out of your wife and her girlfriends' business...it's just tv fun. 3) you should try showing a funner side of you
I appreciate the show for what it is, and your presence on it. You are perhaps the only one who is consistent (story editors be-damned).
That said, as someone who is not on anyone's team and who thinks of the group, are amenable to reason: I think both Tamara and Gretchen need to leave out proving who is or was the liar. So many other people have been hurt by the cross-accusations, for what? It is not worth it. Telling the truth is good, but sometimes removing oneself & remaining silent serves just as well. You know what you know, and people think what they think.
Just leave it out.
Simon, obviously lots of viewers understand you're a great, caring husband. I think the other HWs can't even understand that. Again, their problem. Sadly, Donn wants what you have with Tamra, but his job requires travel and he's married to a woman who prefers to vacation alone. Maybe Donn couldn't have known this before getting married. Hey, if you're controlling, then you're an amateur compared to every husband I know! Your relationship with Tamra is inspiring.
Simon, i get the feeling by watching the show that Vicky WOULD LOVE if her husband 'cared' a little more...
He seems very happy when she is going out of town..LOL
I like you Simon, and I appreciate your values. I think you and Tamra should just not comment/talk about Gretchen. We, the viewers, are pretty smart and know Gretchen's not completely innocent of backstabbing. I was not a huge fan of your wife but I am beginning to see her differently and I like her new attitude. You are a blessed man with adorable children and a beautiful, intelligent and caring wife. Ryan needs tough love--good call.
I like you simon and don't find you controlling. You care about your family and are smart to protect them. Keep up the tough love with Ryan, he will be a better man for it.
Simon - Well said. I certainly did not judge you in thinking you were being controlling; I, like a lot of people, realize that you and your families allow us into your lives for an hour each week - - an hour! None of us are around any of you on a daily basis, therefore, it seems insane to pass judgment on the way in which you all lead your lives.
Good luck with everything....
I was really apalled at the way this episode "portayed" you, I always liked you and Tamra, and your family/relationship the two of you had from the previous seasons.Even the first few episodes. This time around you seem way to rough around the edges however. There is no rule book to when and where you let your wife go and when and where you can go, or get invited. A relationship is a 50/50 lifestyle, not a "Im in charge and what I say goes" kinda thing. And you need to understand women who are close give eachother ALOT of advice, Vicki telling Tamra, no different, she just stepped it up and went straight to the source, which apparently you can't handle. Hope you two are not the way editors may be making you seem, very disappointing if you ask me. Tamra is a great asset to the show, hope your negativity doesnt bring her down. Happy Holidays! :)
Simon, why on earth should Gretchen have to prove anything to you or Tamra? For someone who thinks Vicky and Donn should have something better to discuss at dinner than you, it also works the other way around; let go of the Gretchen hate and concentrate on your own problems. Most of the viewers don't care about Gretchen's personal life; why should you?
Does anyone on this show know diplomacy? You can voice your opinion without slamming other people.
I get that it is a tv show and it can't be boring, but all anyone does is talk about each other so negatively (either by the edited show or by their blogs).
ALL of you are so busy defending yourselves by pointing out the bad things in others, especially in the blogs.
Here's an idea: how about affecting positive change by taking the high rode and NOT talking about it in a public forum?
Boy KathleenMB you hit the nail on the head! Simon we get to watch Bobby Zarin from RHONY and he always takes the high road and the show is fabulous! Talking about anyone is just so uncool.
Well Said Simon!!!!!!!!
why jepordize your marriage over a few bucks that your wife will make if the camara insist on her acting inmoral on a girls trip gone wild. I understand that during these hard times we all have to do whatever to secure our financial situation, but stick to your gutt feeling. As for the controlling aspect, I did not see that in last weeks episode. In a relationship there is always one person that needs to have constant reminders of boundaries and does and dont. IE. Tamra and Vicki had a telephone conversation where your wife stated that she is cleaning the house and vicki replied shouldn't you hire someone or have the help do that. I believe that in true friendship those types of remarks should be avoided. You all are going through some difficult time as are millions of Americans.
Carry on Simon and good luck during this season.
hs Boynton Beach, FL
Simon I can actually really understand your point of view in all of this....I can see you are trying to keep it real, give your kids a good home & discipline and especially for Tamra's son Ryan.
I dont agree with Vicky & Donn's way of having a mrriage where neither one of them really WANTS to be with the other...
Maybe there's a happy medium of like a one or two day get away for the girls only...
you have to be able to trust your wife and not assume she will do what Vicki did last season!
I hope your business gets better and keep up the good work with the family but dont forget to also be supportive & proud of your wife instead of too much negativity or criticism!!!
I have to say I loved it when you stated, "I would be devastated if my wife was away on camera and in a bar somewhere telling some man,"My girls want to come out and play."!!! HA! I'm glad you put Vicky out there being that she always feel so righteous and right about everything. You have your own marriage and she has hers but that was priceless, and it shows that she just loves to contradict herself.
Hey KathleenM8 - then you need to tell this to everyone including (probably your favorite) Gretchen. She bashes all of the time and so do the rest of them. They are always going to do that. It's the show or you would not watch. You know I'm right. Simon can take so much when it comes to his wife before he stands up and lets everyone know. Deal with it Kathleen. This is what makes the show. And by the way....IT'S A REALITY SHHOW....ENTERTAINMENT. Jeez.
Hello I watch the show all the time and I have to AGREE Strongly with everything you said.. I don't see anyhting wrong with you protecting your FAMILY AND YOUR MARRIAGE. That is the most important thing to a man after all right? It all makes a little more sense now after reading the blog because the show is painting you one color but Iam sure that we are not allowed to see everything that happens .... Like the Vicki and don incident in Vegas.. I can't remember seeing that on the show... If I were you I would not want my wife influenced by women who are married that have absolutely no respect for their spouse..
I think you spoke really well on your blog and it really changed what I was going to write. I think though sometimes you do put Tamara down I think you dont realize it though. I agree with you on the vacation there is no reason why the husbands cant do their own thing during the day while the wives do their thing during the day. I do agree with you on the kids thing. Its very hard having children at that age and getting anytime alone. Plus really how many people really want to leave their kids for a long period of time. I think you are a good person. But then I really like all the wives and husbands. I dont really like Slade I just think he likes the TV..... I dont know. I hope you and your family have a blessed holiday.
The world could use more real men in it. You are doing a great job in a tough situation....namely, raising a family with tv cameras following you all over.
I think you wrote really well and I really understand your perspective. However, if you are so concerned about your reputation as being "controlling" than maybe you should be most concerned with what your wife says about on camera. My view of your having control over Tamra was mostly due to her comments about you and your marriage on last weeks episode...
My husband and I are in the same position as you and Tamara....having young children and not being able to get away by ourselves. I don't get the chance to go away with my husband and he comes first. I would want a weekend with him before going away with the girls. Love my Girls, but I love my husband more. I totally understand your position and my husband would say the same.
I agree totally... I think that many times you are made out to be a "bad guy" just for being a normal, good husband/man. Ya'll are my favorite couple!! Tell Tamara to just give you a break & chill... She is too hard on you at times!!
Simon ~ You seem like an alright guy. But you need to loosen up the reins on Tamara. I feel you too harsh on her when it comes to Ryan. I often feel you like putting her in the middle. Thats a tough place to be. You both need to find a happy meduim.
Its not healthy to be stuck up someones butt all the time! Everyone needs time to themself or a get-a-way. It doesnt meant you love that person any less.
I think if you don't take a long look in the mirror and re-evaluate, you're gonna end up losing Tamara!
Simon, I think you're great. I dearly loved your comments about why Ryan's driving Tamra's car created a liability for your entire family. I have never done this before but I actually used that part of the show to drive home the reason that I disagree with my husband allowing a certain contract employee to drive one of our vehicles. The vehicle and insurance are in my name but he gave the guy permission without even discussing it with me. Oh Lord!! The liability!!!
I can see that you're walking a fine line with your wife because she obviously loves her son and you do too but you offered a lot of common sense. I hope and pray that she sees your point of view soon because Ryan needs a major wake-up call. You've been trying to wake him up for quite a while now but Tamra seems to keep standing in your way.
As for traveling without your spouse, I agree with you. I could travel anywhere with girl friends and my husband would have no reason to worry. I feel the same about him. However, your life and our life is not the same. You obviously feel that your wife shouldn't travel without you and you have every right to feel that way. I would encourage any spouse, male or female, to stand up and say something about such travel if they were worried. However, that worry makes me also advise that the spouse look at things closely and choose to work more on the marriage because really, a girls' or guys' weekend shouldn't be a problem. I guess I'm just a very old-schooled 40 year old because when I married for the first and only time at 36, I didn't just make a vow to my husband. I made a vow to God. It seems that many people don't do that any more.
Best wishes to you and stay strong!! You are the most responsible person I've seen on the OC in a long time.
Family values are wonderful however do mean something different to each person as well as being consistent in one's implementation of ones belief's. It's a difficult task to deal with when dealing with today's issues versus my grandparents time for example, life seemed simpler for them not easier but much less complicated as we have today. In your situation it's even tougher as you have the world watching your every move and thought.
That being said, you felt the need to defend your values within your blog and I can understand your reasoning for doing such. However what I do see though is inconsistencies from what you claim versus what you do. This doesn't make sense to me. If you want viewers to respect your viewpoints then you need to be consistent with them. Stop the "Do as I say, not as I do'.
For example: You mention how a "Girls Trip" was not appropriate, as you and Tamra have hardly anytime to travel on your own as a couple, as well as having small children at home making it difficult to travel as you can't just get up and go, also mention how the show tends to push the ladies to perhaps misbehave a little while on a girl trips. All good valid points for not going on this trip, however then you both go. What happened to the can't get away alone together, the issue of the small children at home & etc. huh ?.
Be consistant with your belief's, then you won't need to defend them.