I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas and have a great New Year. I know the kids and I did.
This week’s episode was all about Vicki and Donn rekindling their marriage. I hope what we saw was real and that they are truly in love again. I would love nothing more than for both of them to be in a happy marriage. Donn has expressed to me over the years that a happy marriage is all he has wanted. Hopefully Vicki has finally realized what she has with a great guy and that the grass is not always greener on the other side. I have to say I shed a tear when Vicki brought out the picture album at dinner. You see, I've been with Donn when he has been upset and heartbroken over his marriage. So it was especially touching to my heart when Vicki reached out to him and showed him love. It would be nice to see all the wives do loving things for their husbands. Good for you Donn and Vicki. I wish you much happiness.
This brings me to Vicki and her influencing my wife. As much as I would like to blame someone for Tamra’s behavior, my wife really is the one that has to take the responsibility for her behavior. I gave up influencing her from the beginning because I trusted her to make the right decisions. Back to Vicki influencing my wife. If someone tells you to jump off a bridge, and you do, who is to blame -- the instigator, or the person that actually jumps?
Tamra has also made her choices in what she has said on the show this season about me, (her husband). My belief is you should never disparage your spouse to anyone for any reason (especially on national TV). All season long, I have been unpleasantly surprised by some of my wife's comments and conversations about me. I have no idea what she says or has said on camera until it airs. If I'm not present, I don't see these scenes until they air unless she tells me about it. And she never tells me about it. Hmmm. More about this to come…
Instead of blasting your wife off in the internet, why dont you be a man and tell her yourself. What kind of man are you to be talking about your wife on the internet, and you are criticizing her for doing it on TV.... ? If you thought it was so bad that she did that to you why are you lowering yourself to her level?
The breakdown of any marriage is hard on all involved, and yes mostly the children. They being as young as they are really don't understand all that is going on, and why. You, yourself hold the power to help them come to terms with this. Give them all of the love you have can. Tell Tamra your taking you life back and start living for yourself and your children. It will be hard, but you have it in you to do this. If Tamra wishes to make a fool of herself, so be it. But don't let her pull you or the children down along with her. It will get better as time goes by. And you will ( I hope ) find someone who will love you for just being you.. I wish you all the best in this New Year. :)
Following you guys for the past few years and then seeing this episode was very tough for me, I myself am going thru a divorce, at 30 years old with 2 children, its a tough rode to travel. Divorce is awful, it brings out the worse in everyone, you are always taught to protect yourself, and protect the ones you love, however thru divorce, you gotta chose sides and ultimately whats right for you, cause in the end of it, you will be standing alone. When there is children involved however, i think alot needs to be based off of them... This was a pretty tough call on your part, but i believe everything happens for a reason and you are soo right when you say, "what doesnt kill you will only make you stronger"... do believe people do grow apart and sometimes its just best to say Goodbye, although it hurts like hell, you will make it thru, just as tamra and the kids will also, never lose focus of your children, in the end thats all you truely have! God bless you and good luck to you both....
That was painful on the outside looking in, I could not imagine your hurt.
Tamara needs a reality check, she needs to go to MTV.
its funny when she says she doesnt know what to do about her marriage. hmm, get over yourself and quit the tv show?
Oh so that's why you filed for divorce. I CAN see your point about speaking negatively about your spouse. Reality TV does not make for a happy marriage.
Hi Simon, now I can never understand the types of people who go on these shows, but from the little I know of you via the show, you seemed to be very adamant about protecting your privacy (which is bizarre since you're on a reality show, but very understandable from a personal point- being that maybe the money was good, the show was fun, you're not an exhibitionist but thought you'd give the show a try) and behaving responsibly on the show since you're a family man with a family and a reputation to protect. Tamara on the other hand didn't seem as keen on being "responsible", which yes, has probably wreaked havoc on your and her image. However, this is the woman you married, and I'm sure you knew she could be embarrassing, annoying, a pain in the rear, etc, but even if you didn't, try and work it out with her even though you're incredibly hurt by her actions. She may have been lashing out out of hurt (you always seemed a bit distant/ authoritarian on the show towards her) when she said those things. Either way, don't let your pride prevent you from at least trying to settle whatever differences you both have, in private. And if counseling doesn't work, then maybe divorce is the next step. Just give it some thought first before heading towards splitsville. Divorce is neither pretty nor something you do in a haste. Wishing you both luck. And hopefully, your wife grows up. Sheesh!
If you didn't want to be on the show, then you should have put your foot down. Your wife could still appear with out you being filmed. Also, why do you have a blog if you don't want a part of this? I don't know you or your wife, but it is obvious that you both chose to make your lives public. Lives that used to be rich with gifts and money and false pretenses of marriage and commitment. You are both to blame for any problems in your relationship. If you love your kids stop blogging and stop appearing on the show. Right now this all smells like a publicity stunt, perhaps this tryst will trump your tequila business in earnings?
I have to admit that I'm not the LEAST BIT surprised that Simon has filed for divorce, particularly after last night's episode. Tamra is classless and cruel. There is a BIG difference between voicing an opinion and being down right cruel and hateful. Sadly, my heart goes out to her children. I've never liked Simon's arrogance, but I do feel sorry for him for having to endure Tamra's behavior and the public humiliation if has caused. Tamra needs to grow up and be true to herself. Life is too short to be nasty to the core. Simon, good luck and learn a lesson from this. Not all pretty packages are filled with joy.
Simon - After reading this blog, I feel for you. The fact that you are hearing this for the first time on TV like the rest of us is unacceptable. And I am very with you on the hypocrite piece. Don't pretend to be someone's best friend and then trash them behind their back. I also agree it is best to keep company with people that are positive.
I think you are getting a raw deal. If you still want to save your marriage (and there are children involved so think long and hard before you divorce), I would get off this show. I would tell Tamara it is the show or your marriage. That will test how committed she is.
Good luck to you. You seem like a good man.
Simon, I am so sorry for you and your children distress. Unfortunately, reality tv seems to cause so much unnecessary conflict and stress within a family and a marriage. It's painfully clear that your wife has a much different focus than you. Unfortunately for her, fame and status are fleeting and fortunate for you children are forever and there love is too precious to dismiss.
I suspect that after some time passes- REAL reality will set in for Tamara. The fact is no one is recession proof and what few millionaire that might be left aren't exactly lining up to hook up with a narcissistic, over 40 mother of 4.
Simon.. wow if my husband acted like you I would say exactly the same things your wife did . For you to post this on a blog on bravo is just WRONG! Your wife is really a sweet and wonderful woman and you marrried up for sure. IMO you deserve everything she said and more. You are an ass.
wow... I read all of these blogs and I am amazed that hardly any one take Tamara's side.... Yes, you both should consider your children first and foremost but wow.. as intellegent as you are Simon, you come off as thinking you are better then not only your wife, but others around you. I agree with A lot of what you say, but at the same time, you are very condiscending, especially to your wife. You are very judgemental and do not even consider your wifes point of view. You seem to view her as stupid. I think you thought that when you married her..... and liked it because it gave you power. which tells me that you are insecure. I am sure she has her issues... but you don't even try to look at her side... that is where a big part of the problem lies. I think that you can make this work but both parties have to admit their weaknesses... Look at Vicky.. as strong of a woman that she is ..and portrayed that she didnt need her husband, has humbled herself and admited that she was wrong and changed her position. I think that is something you need to do....
Simon - you are the only sane one on the show. I can tell you truely love your wife and your family. Too bad that Tamara can not see the forest for the trees. Good luck to you and your children in the future.
I found it a bit hypocritical that this blog is mainly about how you shouldn't ever do your spouse dirty to others, yet you are on here doing exactly that. Is your justification that Tamra did it first? That doesn't hold water based on your view that one should NEVER disparage our spouse to others. I'm sorry you're having troubles and I hope things look up.
First of all instead of blaming others look at yourself. You are a very CONTROLLING husband and it was okay for a while but now your wife is sick of it. Of course you thought you had this wonderful marriage as long as things went your way. Do I believe your wife has changed YES, is it all for the good NO but really you need to LOOK at yourself. Watch each of the episodes again and REALLY look at yourself. You really think Alexis and her husband have a good marriage? I will bet you unless he changes they will DIVORCE too. He is VERY controlling. They do everything together (like you said about you and your wife) because he doesn't trust her to do anything by herself. I believe if you change and treat your wife like a person and not control her every move the two of you could mend your marriage. She needs to change too but as long as your blaming others your never going to save this marriage.
there's a lot of things i question about the women on this show. having elective plastic surgery when loosing the roof over your head, wanting a friend who is struggling in their marriage to take an all girls vacation that will probably strain their relationship even more, and throwing parties it seems you can't afford and many more! but also the whole time i've been watching this season i've been thinking omg my husband would be sooo upset if i was saying these things about him on national tv. i think there's a time and a place and it is not on your show. that being said i think your wife has chosen bitter people to confide in when it comes to her relationship with you. i understand sometimes you just want to vent to a friend but you must be careful to pick someone who will mostly listen and give only sound advice or none at all and truly have your BEST interest at heart. I just feel friends should never come between spouses and it's rediculous for someone (possibly tamra) to let that happen. anyway hoping you guys can work it out if possible. best of luck!
I do like you very much, Simon. From what I have seen, you are a gentleman and have a lot of class. I have to tell you, though, that you have to give people space and it seems as if Tamra needed some freedom and space to be herself outside of the kids and your marraige. That is where things like a girls-only trip come into place. Girls that go on girls' trips don't cheat on their men. The purpose of these trips is to get a little freedom and have a little fun! It's like a slumber party for grown women. There is no cheating going on. I attend an annual ladies trip in Cabo so I know what goes on. Sometimes people cheat because they feel smothered and need to be able to get away for a bit.
All I can say is wow! I am a little floored by what I saw on TV and what I read in your blog, Simon. I would like to address several of your comments. First, regarding Vicky, it almost seems to me that Vicky is asking Tamra to choose between you and Vicky. For Tamra, this should be a no-brainer, she should be choosing you over anyone else. You are family, not Vicky and blood is thicker than water. The fact that you learning about Tamra's true feelings about you at the same time the rest of America does, is troubling. From what I have seen, I also think you need to relax. It takes two to tango and I think you need to compromise a little bit. But this is reality TV and I don't think we see everything we should, only what BRAVO wants us to see for more drama. I hope you can both work things out.
Simon- Sorry about last night's episode. It was painful for me to watch so I cannot image how you feel. Tamra had no right to air your dirty laundry on TV. I think that is the curse of Reality TV. Good luck in deciding what's best for you and your children.
Simon, You seem like a really nice and genuine guy. Quite frankly the only one on the show who appears to have any class or conducts himself like a gentleman with some brains. I never comment on this crap but thought you should know that your wife appears to be tactless and shallow and I'm quite certain you could do better. It pains me that your children unfortunately will pay the price for her selfish behavior. I agree, no good women would disrespect or make negative comments about her husband to anyone. She should have tabled that conversation and her feelings for you and with you behind closed doors. Remember if when the chips are down your mate does not support you and work through the challenges together than you have the wrong mate. The good times are easy it's the low times that require true love and understanding to prevail. Hang in there I think your "Great". My heart goes out to you and your family.
You said several times you should not talk about your spouse publicly, but you are blogging about your wife and marriage issues on the internet???
Simon, I am saddened over this situation; sad for you, Tamra and the kids. Do I agree that Tamara aired your problems on national tv? No, I don't. However, in times of emotional stress you do things that you normally don't do. I have watched the show since it came on and although I think you love Tamara; I don't think you try to control her to the extent that some people might think but you are VERY condescending towards her. You really are. I find it odd that you waited to file divorce papers the day after the episode aired? And you cc'd an email to Gretchen - Gretchen?? The woman who for all intent and purpose is white trailer trash?? Shame on you. You may want to conquer the world for your children - but their mother is still going to be in the picture. You two need counseling to help you get thru this. My thoughts and prayers to you all!
SIMON I AM SURE YOU COULD FIND SOMEONE YOUNGER. ITS TO BAD THAT SHE THINKS THE GRASS IS GREENER, GUYS LIKE YOU DONT COME AROUND MUCH THESE DAYS. THERE ARE PLENTY OF WOMEN WHO WOULD LOVE TO HAVE A GUY LIKE YOU. JUST WAIT TILL YOUR WITH SOME HOT CHICK SHE WILL FEEL IT THEN.
TAMRA YOU REALLY DONT NO WHAT YOU HAVE!!!
TO SUM IT ALL UP ITS NO DOUBT IN MY HEART THAT TAMARA AND U(SIMMON) LOVE EACH OTHER... THE PROBLEM BETWEEN U AND TAMARA IS THAT U R 2 POSSESIVE..YES TRUE THATS YOUR WIFE NOT YOUR PROPERTY. UNDERSTAND WHAT SHAREING AND EQUAL IS REALLY ABOUT AND PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT TAMARA FRIENDS ARE JUST WHAT IT IS, TAMARA FRIENDS. TO CLEAR ANOTHER THING UP WITH U. YOU KEEP BLAMEING VIKKI 4 TAMARA CHANGING ITS NOT VIKKI TAMARA IS LIKE A CAGED ANIMAL WAITING ON SOMEONE 2 HELP RELEASE HER..ITS NOT VIKKI DOING YOUR WIFE WAS SUFFOCATING.
WHY DONT YOU HOOK UP WITH JOE SLADES OLD GIRL, THAT WOULD MAKE FOR SOME GOOD TV. I WOULD LOVE TO SEE SLADES FACE ON THAT AND THEN YOUR WIFE WHO DIDNT NO WHAT SHE HAD. KILL TWO BIRDS WITH ONE STONE.
I just watched the marathon yesterday first the first time. It was very interesting! I really don't like watching reality shows. I think that they suck, but when I came across Real Housewives I found it to be very real. I could relate to some of the things that was going on in their lifes. I will stay tune and see what happens next!
I loved what Vicki had done for her husband. That was so beautiful it made me cry for both of them.
As for Tamra and Simon...hmmmm I could never be with someone that questioned my every move. People need room to breath, think, some alone time. Simon need a hobby, some thing to do, other then driving his wife crazy. Made be they need to get away, just the two of them to rekindle their love. Simon you are not always right and Tamra is not perfect. But that is what make her who she is. Tamra is still learning about life, family, and being a wife. Women are not born WIVES. We become better wives in time. You have to become a better husband. It is not about money, cars, jewlery, etc. Give her room to be herself, don't yell at her and nasty. Change your tone! You are too BOSSY!
Well, marriage is a two-way street and having been married for almost 20 years, there are rough patches when you question everything. However, Tamra was trying to let you know how she felt, that she was unhappy, that she did not want to live without being heard and moving forward. And you shut her down over and over. You tried very hard to control her behavior on many occasions. Most importantly, you never gave her your trust. And when she had been rejected and not heard so often, she broke down, especially with her mother. She has faults of her own and some traits that I don't like. But it was hard to see her in such pain. Ultimately, a divorce may be inevitable. I worry the most about how the problems and lack of communication/empathy will affect your children. Please get some counseling.
Simon, ur a control freak. You come across as insecure and vindictive. Go back to work and stop blaming Tamra for your problems. Be a man. Own up to your failures and maybe you can save yourself from total humiliation.
Personally, If you don't want to be apart of the show then why do you have your own blog? I don't see any of the other guys having a blog. Yes maybe Tamra let the show go to her head a little bit--but you sir have been quite the control freak and driving her away. There are tons of men out there that are confident and don't need to control their women. You need to stop pointing fingers just at Tamara, you have changed just as much as she has since yall became apart of the show. Sorry yall's relationship will never be like Alexis & them, stop trying to copycat them.
At this point I'm feeling very manipulated by this show and I don't believe anything anyone says anymore. On Radar Online, after you had this season's shows "in the can," the two of you are walking hand in hand and giggling to a reporter, and you said that you are "just really good actors." That video interview was AFTER all these dramatic episodes were filmed. Then, you actually waited until January 7 to file divorce papers?? Isn't it an odd coincidence that that was the air date of the show? Were you put up to filing on Jan. 7 by the producers, who didn't want the surprise of their show ruined?
Assuming it's all for real, I am not sympathetic to you. I think your ideas about not traveling alone are antiquated and destined to make a spouse feel they can't breathe. It shows a real lack of trust. Some of us don't believe the wife has to OBEY the husband anymore...that's why that word was taken out of marriage vows years ago. How you could keep telling your wife that your marriage was "perfect" (suddenly here you say that no marriage is) and that your marriage was working when it was obvious your wife didn't agree was stunning to me. Did it feel perfect at the dinner with Alexis and Jim?
And as far as your comments about not talking poorly about a spouse, it seems to me that's most of what you've done, above. I've never been a Tamra fan, but I'm with her on this one.
People get older and change. Tamra may have changed and you may have not. Therefore, you may no longer see eye to eye. I think it's ridiculous to constantly blame or imply that Vicki is influencing your wife, in a negative way. Everyone is influenced by people in life. You guys have grown apart. Move on or fix it as Tamra's mother stated.
Simon, sadly I think she married you for the wrong reasons. I hope that she can start going to church, humble herself, and learn what it means to marry for love.
She can change and be a good wife. Sounds like she better do it quick though :( I hope it's not too late ......
I had a husband just like you and I personally have no sympathy for you. I see nothing but a controlling personality in you. It is no wonder that Tamra had to talk to her mom, friends about the situation because she didn't feel comfortable enough to talk to you. You basically shut her out of her oldest son's life. Regardless of his choices in life you just don't do that to a mother. It devestated her that you basically made her make choices between the two of you. You would not let her go on vacations by herself what the hell is that about, are you so self absorbed that you have to be with her at all times to supervise??? You need to take some responsibility here as well and not blame Vicky and lay it all on Tamra. You posting that little letter may have gotten you a little sympathy but please the majority of us that watch all the time....we know how you really are. If I were Tamra, I would have left you a long time ago!!!!!
i couldn't stand to be in the same room with you...let alone be married to you...maybe this show will help you to see yourself more clearly...yuck
simon i think that there is a lot that we don't see on tv between you two. From what we do see, i dont think that you try to listen to Tamara, i think that you want it a certain way and thats fine but you can give a little too. when there are huge changes in a relationship you have to work together to fix them i total think that you want them one way and that they way to be. People change as they get older. maybe tamara is finding out who she really she and wants to be like. All woman they want to be heard, so listen. She has a son that she choose not to do anything to help him be a man and i know that is hard to see, but maybe that has something to do with you to if you are always complaining about him. Moms tend to protect their children when they feel someone is attacking them, with step kids my suggestion is let the mom deal with her son, but it maybe to late, however you married her for her then and the son was the package deal. If leaving her is your last choice just remember that you will be in the same boat she was in when the time comes that someone other then Tamara corrects your children you will see it. Maybe Tamara acts out because you want her to be there for you and the struggles that you deal with but you may listen but dont care to hear what she is saying. Wives do not stay home, cook, clean, take care of the kids and throw a party when the husband comes through the door anymore only because the same respect does not happen so we have given up on trying to make men happy and try to find yourselves.. find that person that tamara use to be and try to work it out. it is VERY selfish to not have tried to get help and just give up.. if you cant stand the woman then go ahead but i am telling you it is a long road with divorced families. it may be even hard then staying together
Simon, You are the most rational and grounded person on the show. Your soon to be ex will be dancing for pennies on the sidewalk a few years from now or possibly working in the food service or housekeeping industries. Or perhaps we'll see her on Celebrity Rehab recovering from her ego addiction.
In case anyone from Bravo is reading this...can we please vote Tamra off the island? Or better yet, once Simon gets a new girlfriend swap her in for Tamra.
i love tamara!!!! simon you are very controlling and you didn't let her breathe i would have left you a long time ago you need to get your head out of your ass and take a look at the big picture you treat tamara awful and you never liked ryan and wanted tamara his mother to disown him how dare you i think you are a horrible human being and you are losing your family because of your actions and your insecurity and i can see you dragging your wifes name through the mud for your own pleasure and you need to remember that she is the mother of your children and you need to stay off the show it is the real housewives not househusbands you act like a baby when your on the show give it up get a life and be a man
Apparently you need a wife that will bow down to you, and do everything you say. That is not Tamra. If it was who she was when you married her, good for her for growing a backbone and asserting her independence. Your choice in being friends with Alexis and Jim shows what you really stand for. Jim is a chauvanistic pig and I predict Alexis will grow tired of it, just as Tamra did with you. I am sorry that your family is going thru this. But, instead of blaming Tamra for all your marital problems, you should check yourself as well. Sadly, most men wont and dont. They move on to a younger woman, hoping to be able to shape and mold her into what you want. Guess what, all women grow up and see the light eventually. Good luck.
Wow, I am so sorry Simon! I agree that what she said on camera was terrible, and if she really said that on NYE 09, I am speechless!! Having had a relationship that has had many ups and downs, threats of divorce, I found taking a break and therapy works wonders! We have been going for 2 years now and hopefully will go for many more. Sadly, that doesn't always work, money and fame changes people. I wish you the best and stay strong for those kids, they obviously need you, a positive role model!!
Simon, The information being aired is very personal and should be kept behind closed doors. Unfortunately, drama sells (as sad as that is). I often wonder just how much a couple fully understands the consequences of their actions/behaviors when making the decision to make a family and friend reality television show. I feel more empathetic to your young children who didn’t have a choice of being a part of a publicly aired family and friend drama/reality show. Who is there to protect their image and privacy? Their future feelings of watching old episodes of you and your wife fighting and arguing over a drug addicted step-son, brother to them? Watching their mother cry publically about how she loves her husband but he is too busy controlling her? Simon is being depictured as a control freak and this is a consequence that will impact the long-term emotional health of your young children. John and Kate plus Eight is the perfect example of good intentions to make money and become famous. The feud between Kate and John has been a public scandal and both parties are trying to make money off their own private affairs. The children suffer in the short and long-term.
Hello, Simon: I feel for you and your family. All I can say to you is to fight the good fight. Your head is in the right place. Sarah
Simon,I pray everything works out for you and your children. Fame does crazy things to some people. You are not controlling, you are what a God-Fearing husband should be.
Simon, with due respect and with a lot of compassion for your situation, what can you be thinking taking all of this public? For the sake of your kids, you and Tamra should take a break from the public.
I understand what your saying, however, I don't think she meant it. I think she's depressed over loss of income and frustrated with your attitude. You can come off mean and cold sometimes. You have to know that. Anyway, I thinks she's just venting and maybe thinks about it when times are hard, but I believe she truly loves you and thinks the world of her family. You should listen to her more and go for counseling or take your wife to Alexis church. You need foundation in a marriage. You're suprised she feels this way b/c you really don't know her. Get to know your wife and fall in love all over again. Things will work out. Promise
I'm sorry your marriage is coming to an end. However, from the small snippet pf your relationship I saw on the show all these years with you guys, you seem very controlling. It didn't seem like Tamra was allowed to really voice her concerns for fear of your reaction. You not allowing her to enjoy her girlfriends alone is ridiculous. Woman, like to spend time with women and do girl things without men around. I don't see anything wrong with that. When you have your partner constantly having you in a choke hold and basically telling you what you can and cannot do, who you should be friends with and what you can wear, yeah expect your relationship to die. Tamra is a grown woman and regardless of who you think she should be friends with, it is her decision. It is her friendships. You shouldn't have a say in who she wants to be friends with. Can you voice your opinion? Absolutely. You're her husband, but you cannot put your foot down and basically tell her she can't do something. You are not her father. You're her husband. I think people forget that even in a marriage people need to be themselves and have some freedom still. Not to cheat or anything like that, but to be able to be who they are without judgment from their spouse (obviously within reason). People need a break from their spouse sometimes.
I think Jim and Alexis' relationship seems very controlling, and I couldn't imagine being in such a relationship. I think that is why you like it so. She looks pretty for him, stays home and takes care of the kids, has her fake boobs, bleached hair, and keeps her mouth shut and knows her place...and he controls everything. They don't fight because I guarantee she's not allowed to fight. I would be willing to bet that deep down inside she is a miserable woman who hides behind Jesus and money and pretends life is awesome.
After going through a divorce 7 years ago, and seeing what it's done to my family and I. Would I choose it again? Absolutely not. It's not worth it for the kids. It's really not. Kids would much rather their parents hash it out in counseling for the rest of their days then have to be like my kids and spend every weekend at Dad's, and all week at Moms. My advice? Loosen up Simon. Quit being so controlling. Go to counseling! Let Tamra be Tamra, and accept her for who she is, support her and be there for her when she falls. I have a hard time believing she would cheat though. So go save your marriage. Trust me.
Simon, everything you said makes sense and I agree with you. Respect within a marriage is HUGE and Tamra for whatever reason has chosen to disrespect you on national tv. My heart goes out to you, it probably feels like an infidelity of sorts. I'm very sorry for you and your children and hope/pray for your sake Tamra can wake up even if it is to co-parent with you. I don't think her behaviour left you any choice but to file for divorce. If you have any integrity at all you would have to. Only people who love me are allowed in my life. I get it Simon and I'm very sorry your marriage has come to this and that you had to find out in this way.
For all of those who say "get off the show, save your marriage!" You can't un-ring the bell or un screw the donkey. If a reality show "caused" Tamra to disrespect her marriage and husband then it could "cause" her to do any thing. Shame on her. She will understand what downsize means now.