Watching mornings at the Barney house was very heartwarming for me. Bravo depicted our routine pretty much on target except Tammy being awake. She never gets up until 9 or 10. You kind of catch this when she asks the kids if they want lunch, instead of breakfast. And “Why does the coffee pot make so much noise?” It was very cute to watch and made me laugh. Personally, I have never cared if she woke up early in the morning. I always loved to take care of the kids and loved to let her sleep in. And then there's the fact she takes care of them all day long. So she deserves to sleep in. This morning was a little different. It happened to be the kids' first time riding their bikes to school. I was a little nervous with their heavy back packs and followed them in my car. I did end up putting their backpacks into my car, and driving to their school while they rode. That’s what dads are for….
Funny enough, Sidney fell a few days later on her bike, and broke her arm.
Watching Jim and Alexis next planning their cooking class intervention of Tammy and Gretchen was endearing. They are obviously a team, and seem to go through life like that. They remind me of Tammy and me a few years ago. I hope they can maintain it and be happy forever. With God’s help and going to church, I know they will.
Garage clean-up day! It was nice to see all the family working together. We had a lot of things we didn't need. Did you see all the clothes Tammy had that she didn't even every wear? I wonder how she could have bought all those clothes with me being so controlling (hmm). How did she manage to get past my "control patrol?" And did you see how upset I was? (Yeah right!) The kids were so damn cute, even when they are just cleaning the garage. Ryan coming over was a nice surprise. I don't know why he didn't want to help????(Just joking). He was so proud of his new job and business cards. And to tell the truth, so am I. The knife scene was pretty funny. Ryan’s dad gave me that knife with a sword years ago. He wanted to show me his appreciation for helping raise Ryan. Many times he has called me to personally thank me for being there when he couldn't. It is always nice to be appreciated. He always said that I had done a thankless job, and wanted to let me know how he appreciated it. Back to the garage: I noticed there was a little friendly horseplay between Tammy and me. It was nice to see the old Tammy and Simon interacting. We were great together.
Both the “kids in the morning” and “the garage” segments were very nice and normal to watch. Unfortunately the only damper was Tammy constantly bringing negative comments and divorce into her mini-interviews between scenes. It seems like in every episode this year, she mentions it. Was it wishful and projective thinking?
One last comment. This is for our guest bloggers: I always thought guest bloggers are supposed to blog about the actual episode. It’s funny to see someone trying to ride the coattails of a story about someone’s negative situation, just to be part of the limelight. In the past, I defended this person when she was accused of being a publicity hound. I guess she proved me wrong. If in her blog she stopped at "It is none of my business or anyone's business and we should say nothing.” I would have had a lot more respect for her. My last blog came from the heart, and was therapeutic for me to write and release.
"Bravo depicted our routine pretty much on target except Tammy being awake. She never gets up until 9 or 10. You kind of catch this when she asks the kids if they want lunch, instead of breakfast. And “Why does the coffee pot make so much noise?” It was very cute to watch and made me laugh. Personally, I have never cared if she woke up early in the morning. I always loved to take care of the kids and loved to let her sleep in. And then there's the fact she takes care of them all day long. So she deserves to sleep in."
WOW. Passive aggressive much?
For your family's sake you should really stop blogging. It is evident that you are going through a rough time right now and taking side swipes via your blog, no matter how small you might think they are, will in no way help the healing process.
You mention that writing and releasing your blogs are a type of positive therapy for you. As an adult child of divorce I can guarantee that when your children read them they will see it differently.
You clearly love your family and want the best for them. I commend you for your courage and bravery....having to go through this in the public eye. But maybe it might be a good idea to write your blog and then instead of going public with it, keep it in a journal and discuss with a family counselor. Your children will thank you for it.
I know we only see edited versions of this "reality" show, but in my opinion Simon comes off as a guy who truly cares about his kids (including Ryan) and his family. To boot, he's pretty easy on the eyes... if he played on my team, I never would have taken him for granted ;)
I enjoy your blogs, they are uplifting and you are an AWESOME dad! Your children are very lucky to have such a caring parent! AND I also agree- Jill, shut up already and go away! I'm glad you and Alexis addressed the comments that she made and sent the publicity hound to the doghouse! Way to go!
Simon, don't give up on her yet.. I watched the show and it is clearly that she loves you she is in a weird place right now... Give her time she is a good woman (from what I see on the show) you are cute together this is just a bump in the road... Let her know you are there for her no matter what.. Good luck and you and your family are in my prayers
Simon, My heart goes out to you, Tamra, and your children. Divorce is painful for everyone involved. I can promise you, there is a light at the end of the tunnel; once you get through the darkest part of that tunnel, you will see it.
While we viewers obviously do not see everything that goes on in your lives and cannot dissect the reasons behind the dissolution of your marriage, we can evaluate the evidence that was presented. So while I cannot assign a larger portion of blame to either partner, I can say unequivocally that Tamra was totally wrong to bash you on national television. Not only was that unfair and harmful to you, it was also damaging to your children, for they will, at some point, hear her words.
I wish you well, Simon. You have the strength and courage to make it through this, as long as you keep your focus on your children.
Why are you blogging Simon? Is it so you can "lovingly" point out yet more of Tamra's faults? Go away - last time I checked you're not a housewife.
simon for you own sake stop putting tamra down it really just makes YOU look bad...let the scene speak for itself...the last thing you would want your chldren to know is that you are pubically putting their mom down...it is time for you to take the high road...and yes tamra had a lot of clothes she didn't wear but were your extravagances shown??
Don't you think your last paragraph was a bit hypocritical ?'' I sympathize with you, and everyone can understand you are going through a very difficult time. But I agree with the Guest Blogger'' / unnamed person " ?? " (Lol) You should go see a therapist to vent.. Not blog your feelings about your WIFE the way you did. Those words will forever be on the internet. Did you think about that? Or did you really think about that ??? Hmm.
Simon: I wish things had worked out differently. You're such a dad, it's obvious that being a father is a big part of your personality. I know you'll still be a great dad to your kids and Ryan too. I think you're a great guy and more obliging than controlling.
i adore you and think (based on what we see) that you are a wonderful man & husband. It pains me to hear what Tammy says on the show about you and your marriage. I wonder, if you were never on the show, would you be in this situation? I really hope you find happiness again.
My hear MELTED when i saw you drive with your kids riding your their bikes...so sweet!
all of you need to man up and stop saying "to our guest blogger..." or "someone said this in their blog about me last week and..." you all would look like grown ups if you addressed the person instead of trying to beat around the bush you just look pathetic... its like you're tryin to be mean in a nice way? grow up if you dont like what she said then say "To Jill mind your business" lol you guys are funny... oh and I have to say that u calling her a publicity hound is quite interesting b/c i think you are the only housewives husband who blogs so often on a show that your wife is suppose to be the main focus...
personally i think that you and tamara's business especially with a divorce that involves children shouldnt be aired. I mean it is probably already hard for them as it is and with their friends or friends parents watching and knowing all your business has got to be even harder on them. why would you even want to subject your children to something like that, I could never do something like that to my kids. Be a parent and think about them and not just yourself
I understand that you are hurt and I am sure it is hard to see your family in happier times. Divorce is very devestating, but I don't think you calling out Tamra is very mature. There are two sides to every relationship and I am sure Tamra has her side. Weren't you so mad at Gretchen for saying bad things about Tamra now you are doing it.
Who's riding who's coattails? Dude - you're separated from your wife. You're no longer an OC Housewife. Why are you still blogging? Maybe you should stop riding your wife's coattails - she's the housewife with the blog, not you.
Wow, Simon. What a passive aggressive blog. You wrap your sentimental comments about Tamara in between snarky jabs at her....she sleeps late, buys a lot of clothes she never wears, isn't around for her children in the mornings, is thankless about your fathering Ryan. Your transparent negativity is on display throughout this entire blog. Maybe you wouldn't be headed for divorce if you were more honest in your comments with readers and Tamara. Possibly, she has grown tired of your passive aggressiveness that you pretend is caring and nurturing. You are not fooling anyone.
It must have been hard to watch your family as it once was. However, you had just as much to do with this divorce as Tamra did, even more publicity wise than her. People with glass houses shouldn't throw stones. I bet next weeks episode will make you real proud of yourself and how polite and well mannered you are with WOMEN of the show, notice how its THEIR show and not yours? I hope what you get from this experience on Real Housewives is that sitting there telling your wife who to be friends with, what shes can and cannot say to girlfriends, when and where she can go, it doesnt make a marriage last at all but rather puts an end date to it.
Your blog makes you sound like a weirdo. You get your little jabs in while trying to come across as nice. It's very transparent.
Jill's blogs are great. If don't want people to speak about your life than don't do a reality show.
Simon; In the garage cleaning episode there ia a car under a Ferrari cover. Is it a Ferrari? Why not sell it and use the money to pay down debt? Also Why not sell the unworn clothes on Ebay or Craigs's list. I would think that your families notoriety would drive prices in your favor. Maybe trade the Benz for a less expensive vehicle. Ebay or Craig's list the Rolexes and any other items.
Why are you even blogging? YOU ARE NOT A REAL HOUSEWIFE OF OC!!! Go and get your therapy at a shrinks office like everyone else does!!!
Simon, stay strong. I know there are two sides to every story but I didn't see you rolling your eyes or making snide comments like Tamra was when you were cleaning out the garage. She obviously gave up a while ago when the going got tough. You should be proud of the way you handled yourself. It takes two to make a marriage work, not one.
Reading your blogs show how immature you are. Wow! every single statement is a stab/funny remark about something but at the end of your statement "joking" whatever your not... you so immature what grown man writes what you write? you sound just a tad bitter towards Tammy's and the divorce. And like Jill and I'm sure others are wondering "Why are you still blogging" what other man is blogging on here!? really!?? you have said your piece last week on the blog, that should have been the be all... your a man... Man up and leave the winning to the HOUSEWIVES of OC!!
I am so blown away by how mature you are handling this situation. Best of luck to you and your children! You seem to be a wonderful dad and once your heart has a chance to heal, and when you are ready, you will find someone who deserves to be pampered by you...and who will pamper you right back!
I feel sorry for Tamra/Tammy. It is so obvious that you are angry at her. You don't like the person that she has become.
If you say these things to us, you must just want to hurt her...
I feel sorry for the children because your anger will spill over to them.
Divorce is the best thing in this situation. Let Tamra/Tammy have a good life without someone being so mean to her.
If you speaking of Jill Zarin please know that when she does speak or blog she does it from her heart with good intentions..... not with malice. She's well respected by many Bravo Fans and I would think that's why Bravo asked her to "guest blog". I think your Great Simon and wish you & the kids all the best with your new life. People really do care about you.... even Jill.
Blessings from Texas !
I keep praying that you and Tamra will keep trying instead of hollowing through with this divorce. Try talking to a Catholic priest maybe.
Simon- I have to say that it was nice to see the family scenes and the two of you interacting and doing normal family things especially in light of what's going on now. It seems as if you still have alot of love for Tamra and hopefully that won't tear you up as you go through the divorce and let that same love enable you treat her with as much respect as possible for the kids sake. I have to say that I'm not surprised by the divorce, Tamra seems really unhappy and has made some very disparging comments. I don't know if it's Vicki's influence or maybe she wanted to spread her wings a little that caused the unhappiness but whatever it was, let her go. You can't cage a free spirit like that and I know that you don't think that you are controlling but you are definetly more conservative than Tamra and she may have felt that she had to suppress some of her true nature in order to keep peace in the family. If it was meant to be then she will come back to you, if not then take what you can out of the marriage and see it for what it was, a deep meaningful relationship that I'm sure has taught you many lessons but unfortunately didn't stand the test of time or reality t.v. I wish you the best.
Simon you are such a sweetheart and I hope you can find some happiness after all this mess is over. I hope your heart heals soon. Keep being strong for your kids. What was Tamra thinking letting you go?!
Simon, I couldn't even imagine the stress you and Tamara are going through both on and off the show. I do hope that you continue to be there for your children as you have always shown to be. Support each other, divorce is not an easy thing to go through. You and your family are in my prayers.
Simon, you seem like a really sweet person. Please don't let the negativity get to you. I feel for you and your family and have never thought you were controlling. I wish you (and your family) nothing but the best.
It seems to me Simon has his head on straight. Great job with your kids. It is nice to see fathers interacting and enjoying their children. Divorce is never good but you seem to very positive about your family and making everything work. Once again you seem to really care about your family. Considering women on the OC focus too much on themselves and what they want, it is nice to see someone not so selfish.
Simon, no one talks about your divorce more than you do. If you want it private, then don't publicize it. Simple as that.
I was really sad to hear of your separation. Especially since you have small children and I can see the love you share with Tamra.
But to me...and maybe just me...when you blog on here and mention anything about "Tammy" it at times sounds like a back handed compliment.
At times you come off a smidge passive aggressive.
Please remember Tamra is the woman you chose and vice versa. You should never try to undermine even in the smallest of comments the mother of your children.
Sorry for your loss.
Simon, I am sorry for all that has happened to you and your family. I do not think that you are a control freak at all. I appreciate your efforts and was very jealous to see that there are men out there that can take responsibility with the children and the home. I am very type A and I appreciate your heart. I know that you have better things ahead of you. There are women out there that will appreciate your concern and not view it as controlling.
She sure shopped alot for sure. Hopefully the divorce will work out for the best. You need a wife that is more like alexa. Don't fret she is not all that.....
This episode was so endearing for so many reasons, it also made me sad to see that those happy days and moments well, sometimes it just isn't enough I guess. Your youngest wanting to keep everything, so familiar. You on the pogo stick and all. And following them in your car, been there, done that. Didn't get a t-shirt. That's ok. I have smile lines to remind me. I could also tell that you, Tamara and Ryan were all proud of his getting a job and business cards. I hope he thrives too.
I agree Jim and Alexis, especially Jim really changing my opinion.
May all of you (ALL OF YOU) find peace and the children thrive.
Regards, Rev. Deborah
simon - i don't watch this show often, just caught up on HULU today - but i am so amazed at what a reasonable and great husband and dad you are - watching you and tamara are the only reason i watched all these episodes today - i pray tamara will come around - and get over whatever she's thinking is so controlling or bad - i know these episodes are probably way late and time has passed since all the filming probably, but i sure hope that things are calmed down for her and she's the happiest real housewife in orange county - she should be with a hubby like you.
Obviously your wife has been wanting a divorce for a while since you guys started the show. I don't think she would have wanted one if you guys had never agreed to do the show. She has no idea how good she had it and I don't believe she really tried to work on her relationship no matter what she says. She didn't really try. She is gonna regret it once she's single again and tries to find another good man to settle down with. She's just gonna hop from one man to the next until she realizes what a mistake she made. It's her loss not yours!
TEAM SIMON!! I even stopped watching this silly show because these ladies have gotten so fake and caught up in fame. It's not at all as "realistic" as it was in season 1. I am sorry your marriage had to suffer the consequences of this. Keep your head up and realize you're better off without and OC housewife. You are sincere man who has respect for women and life. That is a rarity these days. Wish I could find a guy like you. Just don't let it go to your head too.
Still having a hard time trying to figure out why you are still blogging and making comments when you want to live a private life???
Yeah, I agree, Jill is great! She has a lot of common sense and people would do well to listen to her. Being open to her suggestions is the smartest thing folks could do. I'm glad she guest blogs and wished she did it every week.
Simon, you have to admit, your blogs are very self-righteous and borderline naracissistic. You are making back-handed, slanderous comments about Tamra which are VERY obvious. JUST LET IT GO...for the kids sake! Oh and leave Jill out of it, she is the least of your problems!
I believe Simon is a good guy and Tamara was feeling trapped inside herself. Here's my story. I am 52 years old and have been married 35 years. I think I felt like Tamara, trapped, smothered and unhappy for most of my marriage. We have children, one married the other in college. We now have a terrific marriage. I think if Tamara would stop and look at the big picture, there are not all that many "good" guys out there. Especially willing to take her and her baggage.
Simon's problems with Vicki is another thing. Vicki is a strong woman who has her head on straight. ( Good job, good work ethics and has a strong marriage now.) He is not used to that and I think if he would stand back and look at the big picture he would see that.
I wish you luck finding a perfect mate!! Really!!