Simon I think your a cool guy and all, but I don't think your issues had anything to do with Vikki. The only reason why Vikki even made any type of comment(s) on your marriage was based on what Tamara was telling her. Tamara talked with Vikki as she is her best friend on various occassions about her conserns she had with your relationship/Marriage, and Vikki only tried to give advice based on what she was being told by Tamara witch was not good things. I think that it intimatdated you because you felt that Vikki controls Donn, and trying to get Tamara to do the same with you. I don't think that was the case. She just wanted to let Tamara know that she is stong and smart and doesn't need to be controled by any man witch is what Tamara was feeling. It takes a good balance to make any relationship/ Marriage work, so allowing Tamara freedom to have a little fun and to be a little more independent is not a bad thing. I felt that you wanted her to spend every minute of the day as a housewive, and not have a life other than that, maybe not your intention, but was what I felt. At any rate I think it was a lack of commuitcation with you two. She wasn't being totally honest about her feelings and maybe the only bad thing she did was confied to much to Vikki and not you about her issues, then again maybe she was to scared to tell you.I think both of you are great people, with different views on certain things I guess.