I am so sorry that things have come to this for you and your family. I pray that the Lord strengthen you both and give you the wisdom to handle this trial. I am really sorry for you both.

Simon,

Stay strong and embrace this new chapter in your life. If she is moving on, then you deserve to as well.

Bless you.

I just wanted to say that it must be very hard to deal with your personal life on national television. It seems to be that its harder to deal with your personal issues.. each day. I do hope the best for you and Tamra. Is she doing okay?

Simon,

I wish you and Tamra all the best. My divorce was final last week. It was a bit of a bumpy ride, but for whatever reason it is the path God chose for me. I have said many times that we make plans and God just laughs. It will all work out for a reason.

Also, it is ok to be angry, sad, happy, and back again. It is just your head dealing with what your heart already knows.

I attended a Christian-based divorce seminar that was very helpful called Divorce Care. They have a website. If nothing else, sign up for the daily emails...amazing.

Also know that your children will be fine. They really are very resilient little creatures.

Simon, you are the most unbelievable man out there. It is so sad when someone like both of you can't find happiness in each other. You are the only one out there that can probably handle our little wild Tamra. I do understand how Tamra feels a tiny bit. I am 43 and the last few years I have changed also. I kept a lot of things inside of me and my husband had no idea what was going on with me. He thought everything was fine. There is something about us girls when we are wives, moms, friends, cooks, cleaners, doctors.....you get what I mean. We suddenly feel like "who the heck am I"..I know Tamra feels that. The sad thing is when she gets to that point where she finally finds out who she is and wants that family stability you wont be there for her any more. I was lucky enough to get past my little emo crisis and my hubby and I are happier for it. Then again we were not on TV. Simon. Please do not do any more tv. YOu are a good man and trust me you will not have any trouble finding someone. You never know where God will take you both. May just be into each others arms again. We all love you.....

Hello! Well, i do wish the best for you and Tamra both. Its very trouble, when your personal life is displayed on television for the entire country to view. But i do hope the best for the both of you. How is Tamra doing with all of this?

Hello! Well i do hope the best for you and Tamra. Its just crazy when your personal life is displayed on television, am sure it does not make anything any better. How is Tamra doing with all of this?

I have watched this show from the very beginning and I loved it when you two joined the cast. I thought you both were incredible individuals as well as a great team. I have watched both of you change through out the past few seasons and can see that you both have different ideas about what will make you happy. I wish both of you the best of luck in finding your new paths. I believe you will find the right woman for you who will allow you to be the right man for her. I hope you continue to find peace in letting the past go and best of luck to your new and very bright future.

God Bless you, Kristy

I'm shocked that it is over. I thought that you would both be giving it another shot. If you say she wants her independence, then give it to her. Give her a few weeks/months. Seperate. Dont divorce just yet. See how this independence pans out for both of you. I have a feeling you will both realize the grass is not always greener.

Simon, it is wonderful to read that you have found the strength to let go of the negativity and push forward to embrace the positivity that will indeed come. Be patient, be mindful, and peace will eventually settle into your hearts if you open up to it!

Simon, You are a VERY special man with a heart of pure gold. The love & sincerity you showed us, the viewers, as well as to Tamra, was unquestionable. I was raised in a home where my father "fiercely" protected and supported his wife & three daughters. Although some viewed your actions as "controlling," others KNEW that those action were mere images of your love and protection of family, which always came first. You are a young, intelligent, and handsome gentleman who "will find love again," (probably sooner than later.) I will pray for you, and wish you all of God's blessings!

Hi Simon,

You are showing A LOT of maturity right now. After having gone thru this experience once myself, I regret all the fighting we went through. Frankly, I am embarrassed now. Emotions run so high during a break-up that you get lost.

If you are really as accepting as seem to be now - then you will be in good shape going forward. Don't mask the feelings (men do that) but just gently acknowledge them when you feel them. By doing this the bad feelings will dissolve away and not continue to stay with you or haunt you. You are going to feel bad but for awhile, after all you are mourning the loss of your marriage.

Talk to you kids - A LOT. My parents divorced when I was young and because the way my mom mis-handled it, I was left with abandonment issues all my life (in my 40's now). Tamra spoke about that on the show as well.

You will find love again. Don't jump into something quickly( most divorced men do that too and regret it). My mom told me something when I got divorced - She said don't make any big purchases or life decision for at least 1 year after your divorce. Cuz although you don't know it you are 'temporarily insane' for about a year. She was right. I needed that amount of space to get a better perspective.

Wishing you both all the best! This too shall pass!

Don't do it! Go to church together! Keep trying!

Bye Simon and good luck.

Dear Simon... Very sad situation indeed. I loved the way you stuck up for Tamra, after all she is the mother of your children. When all is said and done,and all this "reality" is a distant memory, I hope you and your children find happiness and contentment. I cannot fathom someone wanting to be famous for no reason other than your T&A!!! So many people are deserving of admiration in this world...ie doctors, teachers and leaders of peace etc... Simon you seem to be a decent man, thank you for sharing.... good luck to your family..let you feet stay on this earth .. wendy

Simon,

If it could only be so slam-dunk. Best wishes as you make your way through this difficult journey.

Simon, thank you for sharing your thoughts and showing such respect for Tamara and the value of marriage as a whole. Keep your faith, hold those littles ones close and know that you will only become a stronger man from your trials and tribulations. Lots of good vibes coming from the midwest. - Crystal

Simon, I am sorry for your divorce. Speaking from experience, you will see your moods go thru peeks and valleys. Divorce is hard, but its not the end of all. Always look to the bright side, keep your business between you and Tamra ONLY, don't air your dirty laundry and just be fair to eachother. That goes for Tamra too. If you treat eachother nice, the kids see and learn from that AND you will have very respectful and happy kids. If you do the right thing, you will see that raising your kids in a divorced family can work out very happy and successfully.

i can somewhat imagine the pain you are going through I am sorry to see that things could not work out for the two of you to stay together. i wish the both of you the best of luck with everything stay strong for your children.

Tamara is very quiet and this is the way this private matter should be handled.

You sound very healthy and at peace..I wish you both lots of luck in life and in love.

Simon, I understand respecting privacy, but maybe you and your wife should slow down and not get caught up in the world wind of emotions and show us the dirty laundry. From your blogs of pouring your heart out, to your wife being on Andy's show giving "her side." I am not sure if it's us as the audience who need to respect your privacy. Maybe, this should be playing out in silence from you guys. Although, I love the show it's evident all of this is "real" and I am not entertained by a hurting family. So, keep some things to yourself and don't feel the need to defend or explain actions. This is your life, not just a tv show!

Dear Simon,

In your opinion did the show have much to do with martial problems?

good for you simon,your right to let go of anger it only causes more problems.

Aw Simon, you're such a sweetheart. Way to take the high road. It's a very respectable thing for you to do. Thinking about you and the kids. Praying for you. I can't imagine what I would do if mine was not faithful. It would rip me apart. You are an example for all.

I like the quote at the beginning of your blog. Thanks for sharing your side with your fans. "The Serenity Prayer" came to mind after reading your second paragraph. My best wishes to you and your family. I'll miss you.

I wish divorce was that easy. Unfortunately, I think they are both in for a big surprise. The only ones that win are the attorneys.

Hi Simon,

You are showing A LOT of maturity right now. After having gone thru this experience once myself, I regret all the fighting we went through. Frankly, I am embarrassed now. Emotions run so high during a break-up that you get lost.

If you are really as accepting as seem to be now - then you will be in good shape going forward. Don't mask the feelings (men do that) but just gently acknowledge them when you feel them. By doing this the bad feelings will dissolve away and not continue to stay with you or haunt you. You are going to feel bad but for awhile, after all you are mourning the loss of your marriage.

Talk to you kids - A LOT. My parents divorced when I was young and because the way my mom mis-handled it, I was left with abandonment issues all my life (in my 40's now). Tamra spoke about that on the show as well.

You will find love again. Don't jump into something quickly( most divorced men do that too and regret it). My mom told me something when I got divorced - She said don't make any big purchases or life decision for at least 1 year after your divorce. Cuz although you don't know it you are 'temporarily insane' for about a year. She was right. I needed that amount of space to get a better perspective.

Wishing you both all the best! This too shall pass!

I think your words are touching and hope that the media leaves you alone and that you and your family can heal.

Simon, From what I can see on the show, you seem like a man who wanted to protect his family from the destruction 15 minutes of fame can cause.

Simon,

This whole divorce has the ability to turn very ugly very fast; but reading your comments just now, I can't see any reason why or how that could happen! I hope Tamra is able to do the same -- and genuinely and sincerely take the HIGH ROAD. Your blog was poignant, honest, and I truly hope that you do exactly what you said you would do and wish for nothing but the best for Tamra and be the best father you can be to your children. I'm the product of divorce myself; once my parents put their pride aside, stopped fighting, and stopped putting me in the middle of their issues with each OTHER, it was a far better situation. May you be granted strength, patience and wisdom during this process; I wish you nothing but happiness in the future!

Hi Simon,

Your post was very touching, and it's hard to let go of pain. You have your priorities straight and you are a wonderful father. I wish you the best and hope you find your happy place, too.

Sincerely, Christen

You now have a chance to start " fresh " So sorry about the way things ended for you both, guess it wasnt meant to be ( sort of speak )Best of luck to you and the kids, from what I see , you are a great man and father.

ISimon, so sorry to hear about your divorce and shocked as well, I pray that everything works out for you in the near future. Take care.

Hi Simon, I have a feeling you two will find your way back to each other. I know your still in love with Tamera. Give it time and give her some space and I'm sure you will reconnect. Communication and patience is the key. Good luck to both of you! I love the show. :)

Simon,

This is just so sad and I am sorry. With the show, financial issues and now the divorce, your kids will need you more than ever. Keep strong

Thanks for letting us know, we are all wishing you, Tamra and your kids the best. Divorce is so painful for all, but getting to the point of accepting it and working for a healthy relationship can be the best way of handling it. I appreciate your blog and putting it all into persceptive, this is a real family dealing with real problems...not a TV show. God Bless

Hi Simon, I have a feeling you two will find your way back to each other. I know your still in love with Tamera. Give it time and give her some space and I'm sure you will reconnect. Communication and patience is the key. Good luck to both of you! I love the show. :)

Hi Simon, I have a feeling you two will find your way back to each other. I know your still in love with Tamera. Give it time and give her some space and I'm sure you will reconnect. Communication and patience is the key. Good luck to both of you! I love the show. :)

Mr. Barney, The deterioration of a marriage is wrenching enough without having to do it under public scrutiny. I can't help but feel a little guilty about witnessing such a private matter. My apologies, my sympathies and my best wishes to you moving forward.

You seem like a stand up guy so certainly good days are yet to come.

PS Simon You are VERY handsome!!! lol if I lived in California we would be friends FORSURE!!! lol hope this note makes you smile.....

Simon,

I am so sorry for your heartache. You are suc as asset to the show. Don't be upst because Tamra seems happy to be single. It is new to her and she will quickly came to realize her loss.

Keep your chin up and I will remember you and your family in my ptayers.

Wow! I loved you guys as a couple. So sorry to hear that all this is happening. I wish you both the best!

Simon,

You're pretty darn hot yourself.

Simon,

Forgiving Tamra is the key to moving forward. Going through a divorce is like greiving a persons death. Many steps to go through until the hurt begins to dissolve. The hurt never truely goes away but getting through each day becomes a little easier. Take care of your babies and yourself!

Thanks for the blog entry Simon. I know it must be hard to talk to the public about such personal affairs but this is reality tv and we do see bits and pieces. I can tell you do love tammy and I wouldnt count you two finished just yet. Things have a way of working out. In the mean time, keep your head up man. Your good looking guy and should find some good friends to hang with. Tamra is sexy but your hot too! Goodluck guy.

Simon,

I don't know if you read the blog comments or not, but I wanted to interject a comment from a man's point of view.

I find the antics of the Housewives to be a guilty pleasure, but I realize a lot of what turns up on the show is skillfully edited.

You have impressed me with the way you have handled the situation with Ryan and the housewives in general. I'm sure it hasn't been easy for you being part of the show, but I find you to be the most sensible member of the entire cast.

Best of luck to you in the future. I'm sure you'll land on your feet.

May you find all the happiness that you deserve and remember all things happen for a reason, sometimes you have to go through the bad things in life to get to the good and Im sure nothing but the best lies ahead for you!

Simon,

All my best to you. When ever you have a weak moment, revisit your last blog to remind yourself what is important. You are a goos man and only deserve the best.

Hi Simon,

I could see it coming but was hoping it wouldn't. I have watched the Housewives from the very beginning and Tamara is a very strong willed and cconfident woman. She needs to have room to spread her wings and fly. It's too bad you weren't able to give her her the support she needed to be her own woman. I am just sorry that it had to end this way. I hope that you will both be happy in the future.

Kim