Tammy Knickerbocker

Tammy Knickerbocker reacts to her daughter's Playboy mansion visit.

on Nov 14, 2007

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I've been asked what advice I would give other mothers out there who are helping their children through a grieving process. Tough subject, I must say. My first motto in life is to try and look at the positive and good in everything, second: deal with it, and then third — hopefully live with it the best way that works for YOU, without always taking into account what you are "supposed" to do or what society expects you to do

I try to help my daughters through their grieving process by reminding them of all the good that their father taught them, all that he gave them, but more than anything I want them to know that their father loved them. I grew up without a father and it was extremely difficult, but I also knew my mother loved me no matter what happened and she was always there for me.

I want my girls to know that I am there for them and it is okay to take the time to mourn, and that they need to do so in order to heal. So the advice I would impart to other parents is too spend as much time with your children as possible. They may not want to talk about the situation much in the beginning, but they will express their feelings more as they are able to handle them. Don't push. Also, it is a really good time to bond with your children because during this time they need to know you love them and that you are there for them because mainly I think they are afraid of the unknown.