Tamra Barney

Tamra talks about the St. Regis disaster, her argument with Gretchen, and her new friendship with Lynne!

on Nov 6, 20090

 

I was so happy to see the show stated out with my daughter's "red carpet" wrap party. Sidney is very much into theater and Beauty and the Beast was the musical she had just finished. I'm upset they didn't show a lot of the party and focused only the tension between Simon and me. Simon had every right to be upset, just not with me. I admit that the comment Ricky made was out of line, especially at a kids party.

There was so much more to the party. What you didn't see was award ceremony where the kids were given faux-Oscars and gave acceptance speeches. The kids walked the red carpet and sang some amazing songs from the play - there were so many talented kids.

St. Regis was a total disaster! I walked into Lynne's party NOT wanting to say a negative word to Gretchen. I sat there minding my own business and Vicki and Jeana kept stirring the pot. Gretchen and I even had a conversation, we decided we DID not want to have a fight on camera, and it was not the time nor the place to do it. We were there for Lynne and wanted it to be HER day. We both knew that we needed to clear the air and talk things out ... but NOT there. Then all hell broke loose and it wasn't my idea! It was a lot of 'he said she said' nonsense. I actually walked out of there and decided I was done filming and wanted off the show. This is not what I wanted this season, but I signed one of those things called a contract and there wasn't much I could do but try to change things around in the future.

Gretchen and I had a lot of outside influences that determined our lack of friendship last year. It was a lot more then a phone call in the middle of the night. I don't care to elaborate on everything that happened and if I have to take 100% of the blame, so be it. I really do try to move on this year and concentrate on the things that are important in life.

 

124 comments
Viewer2
Viewer2

Tamra, Keep your head up, girl! Don't let any of them get to you. From what I saw on the show, Simon was a complete control freak and the manner in which he spoke to you was disgusting. It is emotional abuse and no one should have to put up with it. Start a clean slate and get on with your life---the world is yours for the taking. I know its tough to get divorced and start over, particularly when you have kids, but just take one day at a time and set your goals high. You'll be surprised as to what you can achieve! Best of luck to you!!

Polish Princess
Polish Princess

Who makes the gorgeous black bathing suit you wear in the opening credits?

White Sunglasses
White Sunglasses

Love the white sunglasses you wore to the tennis match ... who makes them??? Please do tell!

Bren 12
Bren 12

Tamra, I think you are an amazing woman!! Down to earth like Vicky. Your husband reminds me of mine with the controlling behavior. I am a big fan of the show because of you and Vicky.

Odie5804
Odie5804

Tamra, I loved it when you first came on the show, you showed yourself to be a strong and beautiful woman who knew her own mind and was comfortable in your own skin, something happened though and you became a different person when Gretchen was introduced. You are a great mother and I admire that about you. Quit worrying so much about Gretchen because that is beneath you, you are a good person at heart I feel but this war with Gretchen is going nowhere fast. Let's face we have all done things in our past that we are not proud of but the good thing about that is that it is in the past and we all grow from our mistakes, look at yourself as an example you had a child at a very young age and you are not that same person are you? Would you like someone looking at your past and holding that against you I think not. Keep being the good mother that you are and I am hoping that all your troubles will work themselves out and remember you are not alone.

ogb

NiceLady
NiceLady

Well I couldn't get why whatever someone told you about Gretchen was of interest to you. You should have stopped it or had a block put on, to discontinue further calls to your home. If you were not interested that person would not have continued to call.

ThreeD
ThreeD

Tamara, I agree with Louisiana Girl that you & Gretchen may be a great deal alike & that is why you have trouble getting along. Obviously, both of you tell it like it is and are not intimidated by anyone. I think a lot of your trouble is Vicki. Maybe you should work harder on your relationship with Gretchen & Lynn & say goodbye to Vicki!

louisiana girl
louisiana girl

Tamera, I think the reason you and Gretchen don't get along is because your so much alike. Both of you tell it like it is and don't take anything off anyone. The show gets better ratings while fighting with each other but HEY just go with the flow and enjoy the ride. At least you are getting a pay check from it and that helps in this economy. Even if Gretchen was seeing a man while engaged to another, it's not your buisness. If it's true about your upbringing not being so wonderful, that's none of anyones buisness either. Listen to a fan that likes the show and never misses an episode,RIDE THE RIDE TILL IT STOPS, WHEN IT DOES STOP, GET OFF AND BE ABLE TO SAY "LIFE WELL SPENT."

hawaii girl
hawaii girl

tamra - dont hate celebrate. gretchen is way pretty - you are too in your own special way. lol

camps
camps

I just think the whole idea of who is right or wrong (with Simon) is not what matters, not at all. When you love someone the point is to understand them and vice versa--that is more rare and important than any momentary disagreement.

texastech_angel
texastech_angel

Tamra, U r my favorite!! dont ever let anyone bring u down u and ur kids are amazing!!! email me i would honestly love to met u

texastech_angel

team  Gretchen
team Gretchen

Tamara, You say you Don't care what Gretchen does with her life but every time the show comes on all you do is talk about her. If u dont care than get over it and stop being so Obsessed over Gretchen....Lol

cherbear03
cherbear03

Tamara,

Look girl I love you...but can you pleae be a little more respectful of yourself as well as others and not judge Gretchen. You and Vicky are so judgemental. I think you are beautiful and fun but I dont like the other side of you. If you believed in God you would say a prayer for Gretchen and not belittle her.

Often
Often

I wish someone would tell Tamara that the "t" in "often" is silent. She says it in almost every scene, mispronouncing it every time.

m & m
m & m

I see how it bothers Tamra to be put in the middle of Gretchen's situation and that she did not agree with the idea of the relationship between Jeff and Gretchen. I think that she has every right to have her opinion on it. However, I feel that it is not okay for her to openly diss Gretchen. It is one think when you think and have opinion, but when you act and speak upon it, you have to own up to everything you do and you act. Go ahead and hate Gretchen but why be the lower person to be mean and give her heard time. If you can care less, then it seems like it's a better choice not to care and leave it alone. I don't see the need to attack Gretchen.

God's Angel
God's Angel

Dear Tamra this is my first time commenting but I am a fan of the show. I ask you as a woman to not spend your time acknowledging Gretchen either by thought or conversation. Gretchen is who she is and obviously a person who is not a good person and that judgment and conclusion I have come to by watching the show. Concentrate on your family and your relationship with Simon that is the most important thing.

twoile
twoile

What has happened between you & Simon since the presentation of the 18 kt tennis bracelet for you last b'day?

tlajj
tlajj

Tamra, Sorry to hear about your home and marriage problems. Those are really tough things to deal with let alone deal with them being aired on tv. Remember, your family comes first above all things.....a tv show isnt worth it if you lose your family in the long run. Also, it must be said that sometimes you are REALLY harsh to the other people around you. Think about that when you look at your own life/problems. Everyone has problems and anger and rudeness doesnt help anyone. Take care.

Loo Pi
Loo Pi

I find you entertaining on the show... just maybe be more positive in your dealings with some people? Trust me, the more positive energy you give to people the more you get back!! Looking forward to tonights epi!!

blndecook1
blndecook1

OC OUT i agree with evry word u stated. NICE

milehighchacha
milehighchacha

Tamara,

Don't waste your energy hating. You have allot more on your plate. We don't always have to get along, but when you stoop as low to not give someone the minimum amount of respect that all people should have with each other ....... you become just as bad as they are.

I hope you can focus your energy on other things. Hate and anger are such heavy things to carry. LET IT GO.

Frustrated Viewer
Frustrated Viewer

I read that you "don't want to elaborate on everything that's happened" where you & Gretchen are concerned, but how in the world does everyone expect the viewers to form an educated opinion on a 'housewife' when we are left out of so much of the loop. Just soon not see any of it if we are not going to get or hear 'things that count'.

Lori W. from Ohio
Lori W. from Ohio

I am glad that we will see you move on this season. I really hope you and Simon work things out...you are such a cute couple. I would have REALLY liked to have seen the rest of the party you threw...sounds like fun and a great mom moment for you!

pk
pk

i think its sad how the show has affected everyone. all the ladies are more like enemies and HS teens then women. the economy has affected some more then others and while friends should stick around through good and bad it seems like your "tv friendship" is not so good. good luck

MichP
MichP

Tamra - I really liked you before you started hanging out with Vicki! I think you need to spend more time with Lynne and less time with Vicki!!!!

TX Housewive
TX Housewive

Tamra,

You are my favorite housewive and I first have to start out with saying that I am so sorry with the trouble you are having with you home and marriage... I recently lost my home too, and was having marriage trouble too, and I know it can be stressful and a heavy weight in your shoulders. Before you lose your home do everything you can to save it, and when it comes to marriage the best thing to do is have communication, good listener, and take care of your husband by giving him everything he needs and giving him much love. If you go out alot I would say to minimize it and spend some more time with him, I know your young so am I but we have to do whats best for our families. Man have to carry all the stress when it comes to money troubles because they feel they are responsible, I hope everything works out.

Kris10
Kris10

Tamra... I think you are right on with everything you said! You rock!

priss
priss

Can anyone tell me where these ladies get their gorgeous embellished tops? Any ideas?

Felisha
Felisha

I watched the show and I guess that I am confused as to why it is anyone but Gretchen's business what she does.

Unhappy Viewer
Unhappy Viewer

I have to say that this first episode was the biggest dissapointment and the largest part of that was due to the Tamara/Gretchen. If Tamara you really wanted to stay out of drama that night you could have you are an adult woman and it felt like I was watching the terrible reunion show all over agian. Looks like me Thursday nights will be directed to a different network!

Confused...
Confused...

Tamara, when you first showed up on the housewives you quickly became my favorite one... I think you are an amazing woman and I believe you've had a lot of pain in your life.... And you're still standing and that's admirable. The thing with Gretchen is dragging you down to a level where I suspect you have fought very hard to get out of. I'm sure as viewers we only see 10% of what is actually going on but it seems you are very hostile towards her... Have you ever lost someone you love dearly? I have and I don't believe there is a measuring stick on how you should or should not behave. I can not imagine losing someone close to me and experiencing that pain and then also dealing with constant ridicule. The saddest part of this whole thing is I believe Gretchen would benefit from hearing about some of your painful experiences and how you managed to cope with them... instead of being constantly ridiculed.. You say over and over how you want to focus on other things this season but on last night's episode you spent your lunch hour discussing everything about HER life.. Is it easier to pick things apart in her life then to concentrate and fix things in your own??

Alecia
Alecia

I think the Tamra-Gretchen thing is on cooldown mode because from the previews I saw, Vicki and the new girl are about to be on and poppin!

Amasha
Amasha

Tamra, I have never blogged before. I have been a fan of the housewives from Orange County to New York and always kept my opinion to myself. What I have discovered is all of the shows focus more on the negative than the positive for ratings of course. I understand your point of view the only suggestion I have is Gretchen is the youngest and she needs positive influences. Maybe her values are different. Everyone does something wild and crazy in their 20's more extreme than others. Just do you who cares what people think.

B
B

Is it true your losing your house...... I hope not.... But seen it advertise. I hope you can get things under control... Sorry to hear that!

Angi
Angi

I love all these shows, they are just one of those shows that are like a car wreck, you just have to look. But I'm sorry when you have kids and a husband and a LIFE you really don't care about other people and their lives unless you are jealous and not happy with your own life. And Tamara's comment on how she doesn't want to be associated w/ Gretchen...umm HELLO you're on a SHOW with her! LMAO shows just cause you have money doesn't mean you have class or intelligence! But hell I'll still watch the car wreck, cause hell its just TFF to not watch.

aardvark57
aardvark57

Tamara I hope you mean what you say about burying the hatchet with Gretchen. As the saying goes "you can't judge a person until you have walked a mile in their shoes." After losing my husband to cancer last year I can relate to what Gretchen went through and while some may frown upon her actions at times I do not feel that she played the victim like you accused her of. I also hope that the show is editing scenes and only showing the negative aspects of your personality, because I really feel sorry for you if not. Life is too short to be judgmental and catty like you are portrayed. Last season everything seemed so perfect between you and Simon but based on previews things don't seem so rosy this season. Remember what goes round comes around.

T
T

Tamara dont let Gretchen consume you. From the way it looks(only judging from the 1st episode) you are about to experience your own problems.... your hubby wass looking awfully P.O.'d... i pray things work out for you two. I know this is "for tv" however you still have a family that comes 1st.

Kerri L.
Kerri L.

Keep the positive attitude coming! :)

FL Housewife
FL Housewife

Forget the drama--let's talk about how GORGEOUS you look! You should doa makeup tip book. FABULOUS!

Talaholla
Talaholla

I think that there is some jealously toward Gretchen. I don't agree with her going out when her finance was dying it was out of line. As far as her crazy photos. Everyone makes mistakes. She's single and beautiful. I'm happy shes with slade. As far as her and Tamara. I like Tamara and yes she does look pretty and refreshed this season. She and Gretchen could be friends if people wouldn't instigate. Vicki isn't one to talk she's married and was kissing and flirting with guys in the past. At least Gretchen is single.

HILAREIH
HILAREIH

Love you Tamra! So glad you don't let Gretchen get away with things. So glad you're back!!!

Summer
Summer

Kinda a crappy way to start the season off, but I still love the show. I like Tamra and Gretchen and I do see tamras side of the story. Gretchens only human, shes alot of fun but sometimes i think she acts like the girl that finally got pretty.. just how i see it. But shes very entertaining and fun to watch. I love how Tamra speaks her mind, and stands up for what she believes in. I dont think shes jealous.. I like everyone on the show except.. Vicki.. i think she needs to get a clue! :)

OC Out
OC Out

I have decided to not watch this show anymore. I can't believe that most of you women are mothers. You would think you are all in high school. What used to be a fun, lighthearted show, has turned into a petty, embarrassing reality of what money and no class can do to people. Tamra, if you don't care about Gretchen you should act like you don't care. You are constantly talking negatively about Gretchen which is why YOU come off as the bully. You and Vicki are two of the most negative people and have turned me off of this show for good. You deserve each other.

Tammie Vegas
Tammie Vegas

Tamara you seem to be a very well put together lady. Don't think about Grethchen she looks like a corner girl and always want to be the focus in the room.I was very disappointed on the way Simmon seem to act they showed him three time being mean to you.I hope the two of you are doing better and I wish you and your family the very best.Good luck on the show and don't fall in with the reality curse.

NYC12345
NYC12345

Tamra, you must realize that all your snickering and judgmentalism is going to come back to bite you one day and that day will be very soon. So sad that you have allowed yourself to devolve into the classic school yard bully. Try to be a charitable generous person. At some level you must understand that whatever their relationship, Gretchen had feelings for her fiancee and that his death was probably very difficult. Be a better person and withhold your judgments. One day you may be in a similar position.

NATIVETEXAN
NATIVETEXAN

Tamra, You are a beautiful woman with beautiful children. Don't diminish that by judging the lives of others. Everyone is different. Being forgiving, loving, and helpful to others will do more than any plastic surgeon. It will put you back on the top as the "Hottest" housewife... with the latest mean, negative actions it has put you way down on most lists.