I can't believe that you got divorce and keep Vicky as a friend!!!!!!! No way!!

My goodness this was one funny episode. I wish you would make up with Gretchen....You cannot believe everything you read/hear about her either. You and Gretchen are probably the only two on the show with personalities....not perfect, but no one is. You two are just witty and I wish you two would drop the drama between you two.

I must say Tamara, I was not a fan of yours, but lately, you are really starting to think for yourself. I was so happy when your husband was arguing with Vicki, and afterwords, you came up to him, and told hi you wanted to be on his side. That is what he needed, because Vicki really does cause a lot of conflict, and wants every one to live like her, and it doesnt happen that way. Some couples are best friends, and love to be together, so i won't judge you on that. I really truly hope your marriage gets back on track, and dont allow the finances get in the way, because a lot of people are not as they vow to do when they are married. Good luck girl, high 5, big fan now.

Tamra, you are my favorite housewife! Good luck to you and Simon both as you go through this difficult time. I am currently married to a wonderful man who is a stepdad to my twins from my first marriage. As you know blended families are tough. I REALLY felt for you when Simon wouldn't speak to your son. It's so hard to make everyone happy - darn near impossible! I'm going to check out the products that you mentioned in your blog. I would love to know where you got that lime green shirt with the crystals, the one you wear when dishing on the show, too cute! Take care and I'll keep watching. Mazel to ya!

I will admit that the dinner scene was just a riot! And much needed with all the drama and stresses going on. I was not thrilled with what Vicki said regarding Alexis's class, as that was not a class issue... it was something whereas she couldn't swallow it without throwing up and I think we have all had one or so incidents like that. Vicki was overly animated and judgemental as usual. I realize she was under stress with her daughter's health scare.. but she tends to overdramatize alot. I am glad that Alexis gave her a piece of her mind and defended herself! Vicki is the person who you must stand your ground with, as I am sure you know well. I know that when she threw those comments at Simon that you told her in confidence... it was so hurtful. I think that is horrible to do to a friend. Venting is what we do with friends and a way to clear our minds and make sense of things. I am glad you are doing well... no matter what anyone says about Vicki... she was NOT the issue that made your marriage fail. I also do not agree that you changed because of her. We are always evolving.. and sometimes we are wanting to do someting in life and until someone else points it out or says it aloud... we do not acknowledge it. Doesn't mean they are responsible. It seemed that your marriage was already in question and that as time went on.. you finally realized it wasn't working for you.It happens..move forward and be happy... leave the past behind and always learn from your mistakes.

Best wishes Tamra.

Hmmm. You wanted the viewers to believe what YOU told US about Gretchen. It seems like now that the shoe is on the other foot (yours) that you want a courtesy you did not extend to her.

I've always appreciated that you were your own person, but I wonder now that you have had some time to reflect (and your personal circumstances have changed) if you would have chosen to behave a little more generously with her.

I'm sure that Lynn does need a friend now, and I hope that you are friend enough to be honest with her about her circumstances. You were aware of your family's financial situation ~ and you were brave about having to sell your family home (which had to have been a heartbreak!) and do what you needed to do for your family. I hope you encourage Lynn to do the same.

Tamra, I'm glad to hear that things are going well for you and that you are getting some work - that's wonderful! That's what you need more than anything right now - the power to support your family. I don't blame Alexis for spitting out the liver, I did that once, in a much less swanky place. But, I was much more discreet about it. After all, that is the polite way to remove something from your mouth that you can't chew, a piece of gristle, for example. It was ok for her to use her napkin, she just needed to do it quickly, quietly and discreetly.

Tamra:

I feel that Vicki had you back, but you did not have her back. I'm speaking of the situation with Alexis.

This is not about this blog but oh well.I just wanted to say "Why would you say that stuff about Gretchen Rossi???"

Tamra, Kudos to you for making your children's happiness your first priority! Everything else will fall into place! Peace

Although I don't agree with how you handled things with Gretchen I am so sorry to hear about your divorce. You sound like a very smart lady so you will be fine..all the best

Tamara, try to work things out with Simon and DON’T get divorced! He is a good man, a good father, and he loves you! Go get some counseling – don’t throw 11 years away! And don’t let that witch, Vicki, get in the middle of your marriage! She DID break the girlfriend rule and you cannot trust her at all! Go back to your husband for you and your kid’s sake! You have a good heart, and so does Simon…don’t let this show or anything else come in between you!

So your divorce is final. Good luck to you and your children. Hope you do well and hope your son is fine, also. Take care.

I was really sad to hear about your divorce. If there is anything you guys can do to come back together please try. I do not see what goes on behind closed doors so I cant pass judgement. Good Luck to the both of you and your family will be in our prayers.

Tamra I am glad things are getting better. However, you state that you just ignore Alexis at the table on the phone but int he episode you said she was being rude. I think she was being rude. If she didn't want to leave her husband she should have stayed home, what's the use of having a night with the girls if you're is taking up your time at the table anyhow? I also wish that you and Vicki could repair your relationship. She may have overstepped but I am sure she was just trying to protect, whether it be right or wrong.

Hey Tamara,

I just wanted to give you an honest to goodness compliment. To be honest, I did not like you very much last season, although I did not dislike you, but this season you have become my favorite person on the show. I can tell you have grown tremendously as a person, and I'm sure all the viewers and everyone on the show can see this too. I now see you sticking up for underdogs, being diplomatic, and being a good sport. I see you being down to earth and honest about things, (it's so refreshing to see someone in your postal code being honest about money). My heart goes out to you as you try and be peacemaker to everybody. When you speak you now seem to radiate a new warmth...you glow. Keep doing whatever it is you're doing now because it's working wonderfully! If I was your mother I would tell you I was proud of you...lol. Seriously, you won this viewer over. (And I'm not easy to win over! :)

- Autumn

Tamara, I always liked you on the show...but now I totally have respect for you. Lynn confided in you and was so hurt by what was happening with her husband and home. I got the impression that you thought it would be best if she forgive him and do the best that she can. Great advice, she had tears in her eyes and you could have taken her side...you listened to her and gave her the gift of forgiveness towards her husband which probably meant more to her. I'll remember that for the future...thank you.

I am sad you are still considering divorce. Marriage is hard work and it takes commitment. I don't know the circumstances, but you should try working on your marriage and sometimes it takes a while to get back in the groove. Sometimes it may take a year, but it is worth it!!!! Good Luck

I am sincerely sorry that you are divorcing. No family with children should suffer- especially when the kids are so young. I wish you the best. It seemed you had a good husband but maybe needed to explore your independence or other men- don't want to judge you- because nobody knows the truth but you.

I wanted to ask why you acted as if you didn't know whether the tattoo you got on your finger was going to hurt or why you pretended that it was your first time? I remember the episode where you tramp stamp was discussed- so the newest tattoo episode made you seem "ingenuous".

BTW- You seem more relaxed this season and honest too. You're not so obvious about being jealous of Gretchen's beauty, body, and youth. It suits you well- makes you appear more classy. :-)

tamara, you rule simon stopped blogging.......you win. Jackie Collins thinks you are awesome. make money, move on, marry rich

you are AWESOME!

alexis, don't take her out of the trailer park

rock on, u r by far the hottest housewife

Tamra, You have handled yourself with such dignity and grace the past few episodes. You have let the friction between you and Gretchen pass and have stayed out of the fight between Lynn and Gretchen and Vickie and Alexis. You look like the classy yet sassy girl I loved the first season you were on. Keep taking the high road. It may be a rougher ride, but you will enjoy the trip more.

I am amazed to say that the progression of your marital demise has intrigued me... is it possible you would entertain a direct dialogue via FB?

Is it true that Simon filed for divorce?

I am curious about Tamra's blog as it pertains to divorce and life experience... but how to know?

Tamra, I was very happy with how you have handled yourself the past few episodes. You put aside your differences with Gretchen and stayed out of the fights between Gretchen and Lynn and Vickie and Alexis. Taking the high road made you look classy and sophisticated. You were more like the Tamra we all fell in love with the first season you were on. Keep taking that high road. It might not be as easy a path, but you look so much better traveling that road.

Tamra,

Sorry to hear about the divorce. Everything happens for a reason. Keep your head high and keep doing a great job raising your beautiful children. I really wish you would mend the friendship with Vicki. All the best!

Tamara -

Where did you get your jeans you are wearing in San Fran?

Tamra, I am so glad to see you come into yourself and be a strong lady. I am glad to see you not be a follower anymore. You are a smart beautiful lady and you deserve the best. Stay strong and I will be praying for you and your family.

Vicki should not bring up stuff you tell her as a friend! I would be very upset if my friend did that to me. Even if Vicki does not agree with how Simon treats you, she should never tell him things you said. She can have her own opinion. I have to say Tamra I like you a lot better this season! Try and just things go that Gretchen says, you guys are too old to be fighting like this!! Good luck with everything.

Tamra, I've had mixed feelings about you over the seasons and I can't help but feel your break-up is a good thing for you. Simon seemed very reluctant to take responsibility for a lot of the issues that had to be dealt with -- it wasn't all your fault! I'm glad to see you rebounding and moving forward. You're a beautiful woman, smart, and have a great personality -- you're going to be OK! God bless you and the kids!

so I did the shoe survey. I could not continue. They only went up to a size 10. I wear an 11 or 12... :( hard to find shoes.

Tamra-I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself and leaving Simon. He clearly appeared to be controlling and I felt for you as I watched the show. I'm sure it seemed daunting to be on your own with young kids. Keep the faith, you're a beautiful, talented, hardworking woman and remember women can do anything once we put our minds to it. I wish you luck in the future and am glad you and Simon are working out am amicable divorce. Its important to keep the kids best interest first. Have a great time at Disneyland with your family.

Tamra- You are my favorite - you seem so fun and appear so down to earth. When I watched the episode where you had Simon's name put on your finger it made me sad - you were doing something to try to keep your marriage together- it was a gesture that showed a lot of love. I know the show is edited and we don't see half of what is going on- he appears to be a very controlling person- I wish he would relax and I hope you can work things out. I agree you are entitled to go through this divorce in private. Good luck to you..... I do have to say Alexis and Jim get on my nerves- they are fake as they come...hope they are not on the show long.....and when they leave take the King of Fake- Slade...Gretchen can to much better. If they stay on- can someone tell Jim about the tanning bed goggle marks around his eyes-please-that looks awful.

Tamra, where did you get that Valley Catt hat? my wife loved it? Thanks

Wow! I think this is the first blog of yours that I've read where you haven't said anything nasty about Gretchen! Keep up the good work! The nasty comments just bring everyone down.

Hi Tamra, I enjoyed watching girls trip to San fransisco. It was nice to see all relaxed and having fun until,,,,. Seems your real life has been very positive way. I really miss you all when HWOC is over. I felt very close to you all as a mother. You are in my prayer. Good luck.

God bless you and your children.

Tamra, Although divorce is never a good thing Simon resembled the husband of a friend of mine and I bristled each time he felt out of control of you. Some men need to control their wives or girlfriends as to feel more in control of themselves. You grew over the last few years and looked for some independence. Quite frankly, you threatened him. Vicki, as your girlfriend who advised you, also threatened him. He tried to turn you away from her as to win you back to his camp. There are many insecure men on that show!! Stay strong and find your way. You will get there and be all you can be for yourself. Good luck.

Tamara, Your my favorite housewife, i use to live in CA my husband got laid off. It was a rough time i hope you reconsider your marriage with Simon. Some people just go threw rough times but dont give up. I wish you luck. Dena , Florida

It's nice to see you supporting Lynn in her time of need. We all have experienced financial difficulty from time to time. I hope all goes well for her.

I hope all is well with you too. I like hearing how well your business is going.

Tamara, I am sorry to hear about your divorce but I do think that was the best thing for you. It is quite obvious Simon has some control issues. besides being pretty, you are very smart and will always make it. Everyone always says oh try to make it work don't throw it all away but it can't be a one way street. Both parties have to work on it and it was his way or no way, or at least that's what it appeared on screen. You are a giver, doing for everyone else and he took advantage of that. Of course I am only going by my perception of what I saw on screen. But all I can say is, good for you for standing up for you!

Amie Tamara im sad over your divorce,its so hard when u have kids.I am the biggest fan ever of the show,thursday night is the only night of the week that i stay up.I dont dare miss it.Its my topic of the day at work.My dream is to come there for a weekend and hang out with all u ladys;im a mother of 4.and you all crack me up with youre differnt ways,attitudes,and loveeee the styles.The other house wives shows are to boring..I only want to watch yall every week.. Biggest fan Amie

Please go back and watch your first season of being on the show. That woman would not let this show end a 11 year marriage. You can make it work, and down the road your children will thank you for it.

T - your blog seems to come from a much happier place with far less negativity. I like seeing this side of you! Wish you well :)

You are my favorite housewife although I think you follow sometimes instead of taking up for your family or friend. Seems you turn on both when the pressure is on and it is BIG PRESSURE!! Always stay true to the values that you have and you will be fine ( your Mother raised you right). I love watching the show and I LOVE the Kronos products. I am so glad that you are promoting a product that actually works. I found it online about 2 months ago and I absolutely LOVE IT!! I am also 42 yrs old and loving my sons 11 and 9 and my fabulous hair!!!

I hope you find happiness and peace in your life - with or without Simon! You always look great, what's your secret for cellulite removal?

Tamara, You are amazing! Please don't pay too much attention to Vicky and her negative comments. She really seems to "insert" herself in your relationships.

You handle yourself well and appear strong and sensitive to others needs.

Much success to you!

Hey Tamra, I'm so shocked to hear of your divorce, you guys seemed so good together. I know we don't see the real deal and it's not about us the viewers I wish you and Simon strength and happiness and all the best Tamra. Be strong and be civil to each other.

I THINK UR A STRONG WOMAN U DESERVE TO BE HAPPY FOLLOW UR HEART AND YOU WILL BE FINE WE ALL ARE ON YOUR SIDE OKAY JUST TAKE DAY BY DAY MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN

tamra, i have never in my life commented on a blog but here goes - i too feel you should find a way to work out your marriage because trust me - the grass is not always greener on the other side - if theres no physical abuse or cheating involved i beleive you should truelly work on it - for the childrens sake - you will just repeat the same mistakes in your next marriage/relationship - the old saying "marriage takes work" is so true but its so worth it in the end - your kids are happier and as time goes on you two will come to understand each other better - ive been through some very difficult times in my marriage (like we all have) but am sooooo thankful i hung in there when the going got tough - you will be too - God bless you