Tamra Barney

Tamra Barney opens up about her relationship with her father.

on Feb 10, 20090

My decision to show my relationship issues with my dad on national TV was a big decision for me. But, like I said many times before, there is something very therapeutic about seeing yourself from the outside. I knew when my Dad heard the things I had to say and watched his own reactions, he could see how bad it hurt us.I grew up in a very traditional middle class family in Glendora, CA. My father was a business owner and my Mom stayed home with me and my two brothers. There were never any BIG issues that us kids knew about. I think as a kid you always want to believe that your parents are happy and will stay together forever. I was 25 years old when my parents divorced and of course the situation with him. Marrying my Mom's friend was a hard one to overcome. I spend the last 15 years of my life acting as if it NEVER happened and I moved on with my life. No one ever heard me talk about my dad and when I was asked about him, I had a hard time keeping the tears in (even as I am typing this right now).

Growing up I was the only girl and I was definitely Daddy's little girl. I don't think it matters how old you are, you are always daddy's little girl deep inside. I would talk to him on the phone occasionally and see him maybe once a year, but other than that there was little communication. I will always remember the day when my Dad called me and said he was divorcing that woman (my mom's ex- best friend), I knew that I would have my Dad back in my life. The first thing he did was come and see me and the kids and we got to catch up on what was going on with our lives. Shortly after that he decided that he needed a change and moved to Iowa (where he was born) and retired. Although I wished he could have stayed closer so he could spend more time with us. I respected his decision to move away and start his life over.

9 comments
Viewe
Viewe

Bless you Tamra. Although I do not hate Simon, he clearly is angry and taking it out on you. You tried so hard, I know where you have been. It's tough but you never deserved to be beaten up this way. Bless you for trying to be perfect at everything he ever wanted you to be. Keep smiling.

An Iowan
An Iowan

I'm another viewer from Cedar Rapids, I really appreciate that you took the show to Iowa so that the country can see how badly we were hit and can know how bad conditions here still are. Thousands of people are still not back in their homes and the damage is overwhelming. Thank you for your kind words. I hope your father is able to successfully complete the restoration of his home, he seems like a really decent man.

Abbey
Abbey

Tamra- Thank you for sharing this part of your life with us. My parents are currently divorcing and, as an adult child of divorce, it really is difficult. My relationship with my father has drastically altered and it was comforting to see you make peace with and discuss your relationship with your father, albeit odd since you are a stranger.

NYC is so much better
NYC is so much better

You are a despicable, pathetic excuse for a human being. I pity your young children.

Bravo, please don't bring these hags back for another season. Move on to a new of set of wives in another city. Tamra and Vicki have RUINED this show with their 6th grade jealousy of Gretchen and nasty behavior towards Lynn.

Lana
Lana

You are jealous of Gretchen's beauty and life, and because of that insecurity, you make her try to feel the way you feel. You didn't sick Ryan on her but you did not pull YOUR SON aside and tell him to behave appropriately. If you realized they had disappeared, you should have gone to find them, not gossiped about it in an interview. What kind of a mother are you? You had no shame about your own son but were ready to point the finger at Gretchen? You are the one that made her drink shot after shot, and from what it looks like you drink a lot as well, you know that a person in that state does not know when to stop. You are mean, vindictive, and sick. When Don and Simon leave you and Vicki, I hope you realize that you should have used your "fame" for good instead of evil.

julie
julie

hi tamara,

Good for you being a true and honest person!!

I feel that you, Vicki and Lynn - are the only honest housewives on the show.

I am writing to you - because i fell that you were unfarily "misrepresented" and unfortunately, edited to be "the bitch". I feel that you are a great wife to your husband Simon - and the (2) of you are doing a great job building a great family live for your (4) beautiful kids. (A good relationship w/ your husband is a great foudation for kid's home life - hats off to you!)

I feel the editing to show you "mean" to Gretchen was unfair to you. It was inaccurate portrayal of you as a person. You were only questioning what type of action (e.g., going to Lake Havasu) went one's mate is in I.C.U. (E.G., hugging/kissing other men and wearing hot outfits - when one's spouse is clinging to the last days of life.)

The fact that you were singled out as "the mean person" when this, obviously shameful activity is occuring - says more about American society than it says about you. You look out for your kids/husband - that's the honorable road. Flirting with other men while one's mate is dieing - well, that's a little less than admirable.

I believe the biggest item that BravoTV tried to make you bad was the "7 course" meal was that they made you out as the "instigator" to get Gretchen "Naked Drunk". It is OBVIOUS to anyone that Gretchen needs NO encouragement to "party" and "take" drinks. This is who Gretchen is. The fact that she blamed you for what is an obvious pattern of behavoir in this "grown woman" is, well, laughable. (The other shots of Gretchen in O.C. bars drinking and cavorting with men - is well, more the sufficient proof of Gretchen's typical evening behavoir.) And to blame you for her flirting with Ryan, your son, is well even more laughable - and a bit despicable. The boy is 22 years old - is pretty obvious how he is going to behave. Gretchen pulled out the "hot girl flirting" routine pretty early in the evening.

I believe the reason why Gretchen points you out - is that Gretchen is jealous of you. Gretchen knows that:

* You have the handsome husband * The (4) beautiful kids * The beautiful home * The wonderful live

So, in essence - it's the opposite. Gretchen is jealous of you - whereas, you, of course, have nothing to be jealous of Gretchen.

I saw you give Gretchn many chances. She has shown 100% incapable of recipricoated your kindness. And she's obviously not a sincere person. (The whole "I love Jeff" while flirting with men at every rest-stop she can find, is well more than laughable.)

Fun stuff! I just felt the need to write to you. I think you are a good person, good wife and good family person - and that Bravo should be ashamed for making you out as the "bad girl"

All the best!!!

xxoo, julie

Viewer
Viewer

U guys are all freaking crazy! It's sad but so funny!

Viewer
Viewer

Grow the hell up and stop whining and crying for your Daddy! GET OVER IT!