Tamra Barney

Tamra Barney opens up about her relationship with her father.

on Feb 10, 2009

My relationship with my Dad is wonderful now. I will always have some kind of pain in my heart for the lost years that we had. But I am looking forward to many years to come. My kids love him and are so happy to have their Grandfather in their lives. He calls me a few times a week and is constantly giving me advice on things. I always wondered – does it hurt more when your parents divorce when you're 5 or when you're 25 and life is no longer as you have always known it? I would have to say that neither situation is easier, you just have to make the best of it. The day me and my Dad sat at the lake is a blur to me. I had so much emotion going through me I forgot what we even talked about. When we sat down there and started talking, I forgot the cameras were even there. I had so much to say and so many questions I just started pouring them out. When I got home Simon asked me "how did your talk with your dad go?" I responded that I didn't know...I really didn't know. I had waited 15 years to confront him and I couldn't even remember what we talked about – it took a week before I could really remember what was said. I am so lucky that I have it all documented. There were so many other things that were said but not aired. From the footage it looked like he blamed my Mom for running off with her friend, but that is not the case. I found out that they DID have problems and they were not happy. They did a good job as parents and never let us kids know anything was wrong.

Meeting my "Waddle" cousins in Iowa was a blast! Yes, Waddle is my maiden name and I would have to say I was quite happy to get rid of that one. People still tease me that I went from a Waddle to a Barney. Nancy is just crazy fun, Lori her sister is more of the voice of reason. She is more of the reserved one, but from what I hear she has got a wild side to her too. I would have to say I almost fell off my chair when I heard what she said to Ryan. I know she was joking but Nancy, you need your mouth washed out with soap. Tony, Nancy's husband is so adorable and seems to be pretty quiet most of the time ( I guess Nancy has a big enough voice for both of them). Sophia took a real liking to Tony he was like the Child-whisper, all the kids loved him. I have gotten a lot of calls from relatives in Iowa since I visited and enjoy talking to them all. Nothing is better in life then to have a huge family that supports you. Happy 50th Birthday Nancy-duck.

I want to close with this – my heart goes out to all the flood victims in Iowa. Walking down the streets and seeing all the devastation was very heart breaking, my kids still talk about it. It truly looked like pictures I had seen from Hurricane Katrina. My Dad and Amelia were lucky – they had the money to repair their house. Most people there had to walk away from their home with nothing and will never be able to move back. I wish them all the best.