Last year I didn't spend much time with Lynne so I was never close to her. This year is a whole different story. I always say "to know Lynne is to love Lynne." She is so funny, so sweet and never has a bad thing to say about anyone. It is really hard to think badly about someone who would do anything for a friend.
When news broke of my divorce Lynne was the first one at my front door with flowers, card, chocolate and wine. She had tears in her eyes and was so concerned for us. I will never forget it. Thank you, Lynne.
My life is changing in a big way and we are all adjusting day by day. I do not know what the future holds for us at this time, but I have a feeling we will all be OK. Again, thank you to everyone that has been reaching out to me.
I don't blame Gretchen for not taking down her blog. You started this mess. You never liked Gretchen from the beginning. You have always behaved as if you were jealous of her.
I think your your wonderful and you never give up on your son . I know it must be hard. I have 2 babies and I am not ready for those years !
Tamara last season i could deal with you a little, but this season you disgust me. You treated Lynn like crap last season and now yall are best friends..please! You and Lynn are my least favorite housewives.
Could you for once acknowledge that you have said at least if not more than is said in her blog. Grow up and admit your own faults and maybe then things will work out. If they don;t then at least you will stop teaching you son to blame everyone else.
Sorry about the divorce and what your children must be going thru... But 6 sentences about the divorce... seriously Tamara, and the very next paragraph you're talking about Gretchen. Get your priorities together. Your obsession / jealousy of Gretchen needs to come to an end. Think of your kids at this time and building the life you want.
I'm sorry things did not work out with Simon, but I am glad you had the courage to let go of something that was making you unhappy. You go girl!
Best of luck!
You are a rock star! I think it helps to hear it some times. Life has it's ups and downs, you are at a down spot at the moment. But you know what that means it's all up from here, the sky is the limit for you. So reach out and grab your stars, they are yours for the taking. As far as Gretchen goes let her keep spreading the lies it just makes her look stupid. Who cares what she thinks she looks like a drag Queen. Again Tamra you are awesome good luck and god bless!
Wow Tamra, you have come a long way. I love you now. Keep your head up. You are beautiful and will have no trouble finding another love when you are ready.
Divorce is tough.. I am sure it will be tougher under the camera lens. Just know this to shall pass and you will look back at the memories and understand clearer. You are a beautiful woman. I left my first husband because he tried to control me. I had enough of it. He never did figure it out. Controllers never do. It's always someone elses fault. Good luck Tamara keep your chin up. Think before you act with your new found freedom.
Tamra, Are you for real? Really??? I read Gretchen's blog and all I was able to find were facts. She has pointed out some great points. I'm sorry, but it's called karma... this is why you do should not lie and talk about people. It's sad you chose friendship over your marriage and kids.
Tamra, I'm sorry you're going through a divorce. It is so painful. But you will get through it because you have a support system of family and friends. Try to focus on all of the other wonderful things going for you.
Please let it go with Gretchen. You're being very hypocritical. You have made nasty comments on the show about Gretchen which reaches far more people than her blog.I hope that through this difficult time you will realize what's most important in life. And that this issue with Gretchen is small and it's time to move on and be grateful for this dynamic circle of friends on national TV giving you so many opportunities.
It is also amazing that you are either intelligent enough to realize that thise of us whi watch are not stupid. Do you forget what you did to Gretchen at your party last year?????? As far as your son goes...Don't forget Karma, it may not only come back at you but it is directed at all those close to you. For your Childrens sake maybe it is time to become a women and leave adolesence for the first time your life!!!!
Now you want to keep things private LOL, my my what a difference a year makes. You wanted to comfront gretchen for being a cheat because it probably stirred up the fact that you were doing the same thing. People that live in glass houses should'nt throw rocks, in your case bolders.How does it feel to be broke and divorced? I guess your best friend vickey will give you a job now that she got what she wanted.
Disingenuous and hypocritical. You brought a lot of this onto yourself. And everyone saw how jealous and nasty you were to Gretchen right from the beginning.
I am so sorry to hear this news......people are way too judgemental. I hope u guys work it out....don't let others tear u apart....you're beautiful, smart & seem like tons of fun. I wish i could find a friend like you! I hate jealous -itches.....y do women pick each other apart? I haven't had a true girlfriend in yrs due to jealousy because of what I have or because of how I look. You stand your ground. I think you're a sweetheart & so is your family.....u tell it like it is!kp your chin up!!!
Hi Tamra, From watching the show I think you seem like a great person. I'm sorry that your marriage has not worked out. I divorced my Daughters Dad over 6ys ago and I'll tell ya we couldnt get along any better. I have since re-married the one the most wonderful man ever, & my daughter adores him. Remember time heals all and before you know it this heartship will soon be over. Best of luck, Hang in there.
What are you smoking these days? YOU are the one who has slammed Gretchen in EVERY single episode this season. Her blog says nothing nasty but merely proves that YOU were the liar all along.
She finally poked holes in all your lies and you can't stand it. Maybe if you didn't lie so much you would not have egg all over your face once she told the truth.
YOU are also the one who slammed your husband in almost every episode as well.
It is hysterical for you to act like you are now being respectful? You have done enough damage with your trash talk frankly.
You are a classless loser who seriously needs to get help for your habitual lying.
Tamara - You ROCK....and you're gorgeous *ITCH....yes, I'm totally jealous.
Let go of the anger with Gretchen, you're just raising your blood pressure and cutting time off of your life. I agree with most of what you're saying but there comes a time you just have to "shut up and be right" instead of trying to get everyone to agree that you're right.
From what I saw, Simon was a bit controlling but I'm sure we didn't get the whole picture. However if you guys are unhappy and you don't think you can repair the damage you've both inflicted, then by all means get away from one another. Wish each other well (and mean it), love one another for the times you had together and the children you created and move on. Life is short - don't sweat the small stuff.
Can't wait to see what other things you can spin off of your time on the show. Makeup line? Clothing line maybe? You have style and taste and anytime you want, feel free to come teach me your tricks!
Tamra i really dont understand you, in one breath you say that you arent talking about gretchen well hunny you talk about her and put her down every chance you get. You act like your so perfect well not from my view. You act like a victom but your not. you say one thing and do another your husband hit the nail right on the head when he said that to you. Ill be praying for you
While Bravo does a great job at editing the show to make it more dramatic and lure in the viewers and ratings I have to say from what I've read and viewed I'm not surprised at how the events have turned out. Your relationship with your husband just speaks volumes about your character and the fact that you continuously attack another woman just to make yourself look better also speaks volumes about yourself. You're not happy with your self and that then affects your marriage, your parents and your relationships with others. There are people that are out there, trained professionals, to help you and if you ever want to live a happy life, you should seek them out. What this show has done is just portray you as a jealous and petty woman intent on creating lies and drama. It's a shame the show views Lynne having a weak personality and has followed you like a sheep and followed your lead in bad mouthing Gretchen. Maybe this show is not the best course for you to improve your life. I pray for you, your husband and that of your children.
When The Real Housewives of OC first began, I thought you were superficial. Obviously I was wrong, as I have seen you grow more than any of the other housewives - as your life has been the one changing the most before us. You have had to make some incredibly difficult decisions and I wanted to comment to compliment you on your grace in the 5th season. In this past year, my parents divorced after 22 years of marriage - largely due to the economy. It is a very difficult thing for a family to endure as you well know - yet like my mother, you are a mother who will do anything for your children and I commend you on being such a class act in such a hard and trying time. I hope you are doing well and keeping a sound mind.
If you had spent less time worrying about Gretchen and more time concentrating on what was going on at home... I'm just saying... KARMA.
Just wanted to reassure Tamra things will get better. I recently seperated from my husband and it was the right decision. A HARD decision, but right nontheless. Hang in there ! :)
NOOOOO!!! Please make it work! I was hoping that the two of you would figure things out!
Think about the kids, you are a child of divorce and you know how it can destroy children. If there is a shred of hope then just try to reconcile. I am so sad for you two but mostly for your beautiful little children. as an outsider, you looked like such a lovely couple? Don't let Vicky run your life, she will not be happy unless everyone worships her. She is TOXIC! Stay away and hang out more with Lynn, she is soo lovely and has a huge heart. I'm so sad :(
I've been watching for 3 years I think that u make problems more than what they are and it realy makes u look cheap and bad
I have watched every episode and I think you are reaping what you have sewn for years. I don't want to be cruel, but you put your life on display for all of us to watch and opine and I think Bravo needs to be fair to all of us bloggers and let us have a voice too.
Tamra - hang in there. I recently seperated from my husband, and it was the right thing to do. Just love your kids and be as friendly to your ex as possible, and say lots of prayers. It will get easier. We still have once a week family dinners and get along 100 percent better this way. :)
awww poor Tamra whose the victim now - first its Gretchen not its your husband...everyone is so wrong to you!
Hola, Tam. I have come down on you in past for dealing with Gretchen. It's not that I thought she was innocent,it was more that I thought that you were below the belt mean. I think she is one of those people who is extrememly magnetic, but is never really forced to be honest. I do not see her as someone who takes responsibility for her choices. I think if she ever did take responsibility, you would not be so enraged... but your anger was ugly and reflected back at you. She is like Teflon.
However, I think the tide is changing in that there is only so long a person can hold her facade. I think what you need to do is let her hang herself with her own rope, and ignore her or just respond with objective facts devoid of judgment. (Facts speak for self.)
I thought the psychic dude was fun and right on the money with her - I think she cannot be alone and needs attention and fun to the exclusion of good judgment. Slade is a total schmo, so, good luck with that. Hearing him lecture Lynn and Frank was a true pot calling kettle black moment. He is an opportunist. They are REALLY good at keeping people tied to them by preying on their weaknesses. I really hope he is not her "manager."
I hope that you and Simon are able to maintain your civility - you are doing good so far - and not bash eachother. He should not accuse you of infidelity and verbal abuse either. He is not a helpless victim. I hope he chooses to take the high road even if he is angry and hurt that you need space. It would be great if you could work it out (I say that not knowing anything that goes on behind closed doors) and enjoy a marriage that doesn't feel stifling.
Anyway, good luck to you and your kids. Maybe try not to mention Gretchen at all - like a non entity. Or, if she writes about you, just briefly and factually dispute it and move on.
Tamra I hope the absolute best for you and Simon. I see so much of my own husband in him. I think you are both wonderful people but unfortunately have grown apart. Thanks for allowing us a peek into your life. Don't forget...keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Keep your chin up and continue on your path to independence.
Hi Tamra. Keep your head up. Your relationship was toxic. I find it interesting that I commented on Simon's last blog entry and told him he was immature and controlling ... and most men are like Don. Secure, open minded and willing to trust.
Needless to say, he decided against posting my comment ... he seems to only post the one's that tell him he's great! Well ... Tamra ... as you already know. Simon sucks! I've never seen such a bigger jerk ... he's like a little kid that wants to take his ball and go home.
I wish you well ... just keep your eye on your kids and you will find happiness and a much less controlling partner.
Tamra- I would have to say that you are one major backstabber. You like to preach that you are a better person but you like to dish it just as much. You claim that you are best friends with Vicki, but you threw her under the bus too while in Florida. I hope she sees the video clips of you doing that. Do I think that Gretchen is innocent, heck no, but if you are going to point fingers at who is mean and nasty, start fixing yourself first. You are NOT THAT INNOCENT!
I hated you last year but I am starting to see a more down-to-earth side that is more real. It is obvious that Gretchen is hiding a lot. Also, I think ridding yourself of an obviously controlling and toxic relationship was the right thing to do. You will set a better example for your girls that they should never allow someone to treat them in such a demeaning way. I hope your kids are o.k. and wish you all the best.
tamara, sorry for all that is happening in your life BUT YOU HAVE BROUGHT IT UPON YOURSELF you need to sit and watch the whole season!!! really think about getting metal help!! now before you hurt yourself and your kids!! your furture is going to be dark!! get help!!!
gretchen is wonderful, expect that!!! grow up!!! there will always be a younger and pretty woman from now on, face it your getting older!!
Tamra, if I were Gretchen, I would not take down the blog down either. Your have been horrible to her wake up you are not innocent out of this. You have lied about her. She did not get money from Jeff. You Need to apologize She is really greeving. Maybe w/Simon gone you will understand loss. and be nicer. You have been so mean to Lynn and now she is your best fried. Does she know all the bad things you have said about her???? You are true white trash. I would not trust you at all. You owe everyone an apology. Which I know you won't do Because you don't know how to say I AM SORRY
tamra i'm happy for you that you're setting healthy boundaries for yourself w/ simon. it was so unhealthy the way he tried to control you, not letting you go on the girl's trip to florida, not travel w/out him, etc. all of that is unhealthy and ridiculous. it doesn't work. simon doesn't need to control a wife like you're a child. you're an adult who needs to be respected.
Tamara Can you explain why you owed more on your home that it was worth? Does this explain how Simon bought the yacht, Rolex, LV purse, custom bracelet, botox, tequilla business? Did yall take a equity loan out on your home so you could act like you could afford all of these items? I don't understand?
Hang in there Tamara. You always seemed so much more independent than Simon preferred. You guys both deserve happiness and if it's apart then so be it.
You are always so mean to Gretchen! I like you both but everytime you are away from any one of the ladies, you talk smack about them. Maybe it is where you are in your life, but you have something negative to say about each and every one of them! I feel really sorry for you! You are negative and mean about something or someone every single time. You hide behind it. You are the nastiest, meanest housewife ever and seem really hateful. Why go there? If you can't say something nice...don't say anything at all...it's a good rule of thumb. Leave Gretchen alone! She is a sweet girl with good intentions and if you hadn't been such a bitch to her at the horse races and really, everywhere, (you guys were hateful & horrible!!!) You have been ugly, mean, rude, and all the things no one wants in a friend. She would not have written that blog otherwise. You deserved everything she said. Get over your insecurities...she is not your competition. Compete with yourself...and be better!! You are worth it...stop putting down other people to make yourself look better...it doesn't work. Never has....be sweet. I know you can. You count and you are important just for being you...you just need to learn to stop being ugly and negative to her and about others. It only hurts you, not them. It makes you look really bad every time you say something ugly about them. Get it? Seriously! Take care!
Tamra, I am sorry to hear of another tragic divorce. Did you and Simon try counseling? It can be a marriage saver!! Many times it forces a spouse to look at themselves and how they contributed to the breakdown in the relationship. It is highly recommended. Good luck.
Tamara I think you are a beautiful woman but you have been led astray by Vicky. She is a manipulator and she says Jeana was too much DRAMA. wHAT A JOKE! I only know what I see on the show with Simon, but what I see is he was trying to tell you that Vicki was a bad influence and I agree 100%. What woman would expect you to pick her over your own husband?! I hope you get your priorities straight and realize that Simon expected you to behave in a respectable manner on the show and you have not.