Wow, I can't believe the season is over. On the other hand, it seemed like it was never going to end. This was a really hard season for me and for some of the others. I have learned so much and honestly feel really bad about some of the things I said. I have learned that I need to keep my thoughts to myself, especially if they are not nice ones and to be more understanding of other people's problems! I do read my blog comments and I thank everyone that writes in, even if it was mean. I take them all into consideration and I try to become a better person. I definitely felt that I was the mean girl this season and although I think most successful shows usually have at least one bitch, I am not sure I liked filling those shoes. I wish they would have showed more of my kids and family life. We filmed so much together – BBQ, pool parties, birthday parties, father's day, family day at the beach, Harley rides. I guess those moments were too boring to show. I think the show took a turn in a different direction this season. It was more about all the girls filming together and capturing drama then documenting our individual lives. Any time you put a bunch of ladies together who are not necessarily friends, there is going to be some drama.
I was very happy that I got to film with my father. I know from a lot of the blog comments that people did not understand why I was so upset. It was not the divorce that hurt me and my brothers. For 25 years we had a very tight family, then in one day he stopped being there for us and he left my Mom for her friend and turned his back on his family. He never tried to explain his actions. We all know that divorce happens, and you deal with it the best you can. But abandonment, whether it is emotional or physical, is a very serious issue and hurts at any age. Having been divorced with a small child and having gone through my parents' divorce as an adult, I learned a lot. Make your kids first priority and just because you are divorcing your spouse doesn't mean you're divorcing your children. Communication is the key to happiness.
Tamra one thing I learned in this life is that how you treat people reflect on your life and if you are happy in your life. Well, from watching the show I can surmise that you and Vicki are very unhappy in your lives. Yes, they focused on all the negative things but they still happened. They didn't make up the nasty comments said, you did. I can't believe you said that you and the girls think that Gretchen was paid to be with Jeff a week before he died. I decided after watching the OC's season finale and the NYC's debut that I am not going to bother with this show anymore because what was once a fun show, my guilty pleasure is now an hour of negativity and I don't need that in my life.
Tamra, It's a crying shame that you can't respond to all these blogs trashing your character. It would be interesting to hear what you have to say about your childish insecure behavior. Let me just remind you that once you became married you also quit working and took on the role of caretaker. Children, husband... household whatever, you still quit working! Does that make you any better then Gretchen?? Also, remember.... Jeff was diagnosed with his disease AFTER they met.... did she bail "NO"... she stuck by his side. I found Gretchen to be very outgoing, complimented everyone all the time, spoke highly of all the women and their qualities, gave gifts to all of you and never once acted insecure, immature, un-grateful or un-worthy of Jeff's love! You and Vicki on the other hand... you should be ashamed of your actions! Gretchen is a way better person then either of you two could imagine, but you two were simply too busy cutting her down to realize it! Oh and a note to you.... wear less makeup... you look horrible! I can only hope they bring in a new OC housewife that will tear you to shreds. Obviously Gretchen has way too much respect for herself to act like YOU!!!!
have you ever asked yourself where you would be if it wasn't for simon? do you remember your life before he married you? it's not as if you're a self-made woman like jeana & vicki; and jeana is so sweet to everyone. good for gretchen for calling you on the very disturbing naked wasted episode. that was way more than dark. hope in the off-season you can try to become humble and thankful instead of so self-righteously judgmental & snarky. good luck with that.
I think you are so funny! You are my favorite girl on the show. You know what? You say it like it is! And by the way, I do think Gretchen is jealous of you! AND you are the hottest housewife in the OC.
This season quite shocked me with your actions, I only being 18 would be mortified if my mother said or acted that way. I hope that you learn from this and give people a chance like you so claim that you do. I would like to state that you had no right to rag on Gretchen like that, have you ever been through that situation? Well I have with my dad, grandma, and grandpa and there were times when we just had to get out of the hospital just to realize that life was still moving and uplift our hearts even when times were certainly going the other way. My grandpa even wanted us to live still. You should defiantly look at your self and see you are no where close to me moral upbringing.
I watched the final episode two nights ago and have been wishing ever since that I could sit down and talk with you, Tamra. I see this morning that I am not the only one who was saddened by your behavior this season. I was raised to never say a critical word about another woman, but to instead to find something beautiful about them and focus on it. Likewise, I was raised to give people the benefit of the doubt and put the best construction on everything. It has served me well and enabled me to raise two beautiful daughters who are amazingly kind-spirited and loving towards others.
I run a business working with 14 other women. When they were interviewed, I made it clear that they were entering a gossip free community and they signed on for it. They understand that the behavior you exhibited is hurtful, damaging and creates an atmosphere of distrust. What results in a healthy environment when others are not being judged is an amazing place to work in which women are built up, from the inside out. This attitude stems from them, reaches others and spreads like wildfire. Beauty from within makes achieving beauty on the outside a piece of cake.
I can guarantee that your life will be better if you love more and judge less.
Your comments were warranted.. Gretchen is not a girl's girl. She is only out to get attention from men.. I would NEVER trust her either. And the comments about Slade. Too funny he DID look strange. I have seen homos look MUCH better. Nice to see you make up with dad and help mom get a new look. Hope to see you in another season.
BTW you are not mean. YOU ARE HONEST!!!!!
Please open your mind and stop projecting yourself onto others. You have no capacity to feel happiness for others. If you work on it now then when your kids get older (especially the girls), there won't be envy with your own children. I think part of the reason women like Lynn don't educate their daughters and prepare them for the future, is because she wants them to fail and always be needy and ask their mother for help and approval. In the parent's sick mind then the kids will never surpass them. On the contrary, most loving parents want the next generation to do much better than ours.
You have your father's love and approval now. Maybe it is time to really start feeling the kindness that I know you are capable of toward other people. I love you at times and other times I think your envy and jealousy is so ugly. You are sooooo GREEN with envy. Try to feel for others. If Gretchen were a Gold Digger, so what. You have a great husband and gorgeous healthy family with obvious resources. Gretchen is mourning the loss a significant other, who cares if she has a motorcycle. Try to stay above the 'crap'.
Tamra: Wow! I really liked you last season and how things have changed. After moving away from OC several years ago I have forgot about the homophobes behind the Orange curtain. Thanks for reminding me! It only took two seasons to show your true colors and one episode to lose me as a fan.
I've watched this show from the first episode but I might not watch it next year. I will watch it if you, Tamra, are kicked off the island. I don't throw the word "evil" around lightly, but the episode where you got Gretchen drunk comes pretty close. Anything to eliminate the competition, huh? You're lucky, as one poster said, that she didn't hurt herself or get into an accident, but I guess you couldn't resist the sheer fun of it. As for Gretchen not being seen much with Jeff in the hospital, I'm betting either the hospital or Jeff himself put the kibosh on that. Think about it.
And if Gretchen is a calculating gold-digger, why didn't she get herself into Jeff's will? I'd much rather see Gretchen next year, rebuilding her life, while you (off camera forever) figure out what's wrong with you. Vicky was also vicious to Gretchen and her woo-hoo has always gotten on my nerves, but at least I can respect her as a hard working businesswomen. You, not so much.
Tamra, I never blog but I have to say I think Gretchen is a very scary person. I also have the misfortune of having a narcissistic personality in my life. How gullible so many viewers are. I totally understand why your defenses where up. Hang in there. You are very funny and a nice genuine person.
I think all these nasty comments are coming from Gretchen's sorority. You are realistic and told it like you saw it!!! Gretchen is fake and it shows.
I don't think that you should let the viewers of your show change who you are. You are a person who tells it like it is and that is refreshing. You don't tell people what they want to hear, you tell them the truth. I happen to agree with you about the comments you make about Gretchen. She seemed to be with Jeff for his money. It was awful how she went on so many trips when he was in the hospital. You are right about how she wants your life. I think that she was jealous of your life. You have a wonderful life filled with joys and trials. You have a loving family and that is all that matters. Your life wasn't always glamorous but it's not how you start the game it's how you finish and girl you are finishing on top. You have a great life and nothing to be ashamed of. People will always be jealous of successful women, don't let them bother you. Hold your head held high and be who you are. You are fabulous. Don't let the haters bring you down. The only opinions that should matter are those who love you. They are the only ones who truly know you. I wish you continued success in all you do in life.
Tamra, You and Vicki were definitely mean this season. I don't believe that you are jealous of Gretchen, but your behavior did come off as so. I didn't understand why you and Vicki were so upset about Gretchen showing off her Harley when you showed off your bracelet and Vicki showed off her Rolex. Another thing that bothered me about you is that you told your child to shut up. What mother does this? I think the way you acted to Gretchen is the least of your problems. You need to work on being a good mother and a good friend to other women. Oh and stop spending money on crap that nobody needs. All of you housewives should know that with the exception of Laurie and Gina, you look like you live above your means and remember that money does not buy class.
Tamra, I am truly aghast at your childish, mean, cruel and insensitive behavior this season. I felt like I was watching an immature high school girl who was focused more on stirring the pot than on being a friend to anyone. Everything that came out of your mouth this season was critical, judgmental and backstabbing. Your treatment of Gretchen was appalling! Right down to continuing to feed her alcohol, even when Jeana was trying to keep it away from you. You thought the whole thing with Ryan was funny. You helped create the situation, you encouraged it and you egged it on. Did you get as much pleasure from that as it looked like you did? Are you so insecure in being displaced as the most "beautiful housewife" that you are willing to completely destroy another individual? From where I was watching, I would say that you are. If you are not that evil and vindictive a person, then you need to stop and do some serious self-examination. You don't seem to take very well to any competition. Until this season you were one of my favorites. You were funny, vivacious, and crazy. This season you were outrageous, mean and evil. Get it together, girlfriend!
You are so visibly jealous of Gretchen it's funny you don't implode. There will always be someone younger and prettier than you, honey, so perhaps it's a good time to work on your personality and begin to embrace the concept that you maybe aren't the center of the universe! You are a faded flower next to Gretchen and you respond to that with snake like venomous strikes that only reflect on your lack of character. Trying to get someone drunk so they act bad doesn't really make you look good. There's a lot wrong with Gretchen, but Cupcake, there's a lot more wrong with you. You have really brought home the fact to me that money and class can be a long way apart.
I thought you acted like a 12 year old girl. "I want a pink Harley".. Get over yourself. The thing is, you can take the girl out of the trailer park, but not the trailer park out of the girl!!! This is you, not Gretchen.
Jeana and Gretchen have the right idea, be yourself.
I was very shocked at Vicki and Tamra's behavior this season. It seemed like they were both Jealous of Gretchen, and that's why they were always backstabbing her. It also seemed like was always about competition. Tamra and Vicki are spoiled ladies that need to reevaluate themselves before talking crap about other people. I really think they try too hard to look good and be better than the other housewives. I don't know who in earth can actually call these ladies friends. I surely wouldn't. They just have too much drama.
Tamra, Last season I thought you were "an acquired taste." So many of my friends did not like you because you have always had a mean streak about you. Now, I think you are a disgrace to the human race, particularly to females. It is sad and deplorable to know that women like you exist. You are the embodiment of FAKE. Stop blaming your dad for your problems. To quote you "you are a big girl" (as you referred to Gretchen owning up) plus your father did not abandon you. HELLO! you were 25!!!!... oh yeah, and with a son, right? Get over it and own up the fact that you are just mean.
P.S Gretchen is the HOTTEST house-wife. Regardless of what you say or do... Have you heard the news? NATURAL is true beauty and as much as you can say, do or get done, you will still be artificial.
I honestly feel sorry for you.
You have been hanging around Vikki too much this season. She pulled you in to make you believe that you two are better then everyone else. So what if you think Gretchen was "hired" to be by her mans side. It seem like your jealous of that fact. Or you just cant appreciate their relationship.She is a very genuine person and I cant believe you down talk her the way you do. P.S. the "naked wasted" night. Don't deny it, Im a girl, I know you tried to get her wasted and shove her into a vulnerable situation. Her friend Lynne wanted to talk her home, but you wanted to see the perfect Gretchen fall. Faithfully she didn't. You are pretty low.
Tamara,I think your awesome regardless of what people say!I love the way you home is decorated where do you get your insperation from?
I really pity you. It's none of your business as to what Gretchen's personal relationships entails--past, present or future. Your views/comments of her personal life, real or imagined, are in fact a thinly disguised hatred of Gretchen's beauty, brains and class. That classifies you as jealous.
It appears you are basking in negative attention, which is, even at base level, attention that you so desperately seek. This could be viewed as narcissism.
Did it occur to you that perhaps the producers sized up your character/personality flaws and realized the immediate threat to your self esteem a vivacious, beautiful, young, collage graduate would pose?
It makes great television to see you make a complete fool of yourself. You indeed, have hurt yourself. This goes for Vicki too. Yes, I pity you.
Tamra, I love this show; I watched it every week. I think you and Vicki have serious issues: jealousy and insecurities. I know that you ladies have a soft side in you, but it's too bad they didn't display that. Both, you and Vicki looked ridiculous this season. A bunch of jealous,spoiled,catty, always needing attention, women. You both have too much DRAMA. I think when Gretchen came to the show, it was all about competition. And, you don't like her because she was prettier and younger. It seemed like you can have all the bling in the world, but that still wouldn't make you guys happy. I think you ladies need inner peace, you also need to see a shrink. Stop hating and judging other people especially Gretchen. Don't hate- hater!
Tamra, Here are the wisest words of wisdom for you to think about and try to apply to your daily life: NEVER, EVER judge another person until you have walked a mile in their shoes. You don't know what that person is dealing with-everything might look great on the outside, with the happy face and cheery disposition, but inside they may be fighting the demons of life. I have learned this lesson from both sides-the one judging and then having others judge me. Isn't reality tv a bitch? Here is my summation of you & Vicki: Grown women, with careers (being a mom is a career), husbands & kids, behaving badly. You two remind me of when I was in junior high and high school-SERIOUSLY!!!!!! In the previews for the reunion show, you tell Gretchen she is troubled. You might be right, so your solution to helping another person is to get them naked wasted, not be supportive, tell others that she is stalking you? Are you crazy? If you think someone is troubled, the last thing you do is get them naked wasted. If you knew or cared anything about Gretchen, you would know for a fact that she is hurting and instead of getting her wasted (and then insisting she stay the night) you would offer your ear & shoulder-NOT SHOTS OF TEQUILA! I'm not a psychologist and I wasn't there, but even from my living room I can tell Gretchen is hurting and needs friendship and support. Sometimes people over compensate when they are trying to make friends or are feeling down. Your personal issues you have because of your Dad, don't just disappear when you talk them out-they've been there for 15 years and might be there for the rest of your life. I know this from personal experience and only after 20 years did I figure out that my feelings of abandonment were to blame for failed relationships and other issues. Think about your daughters-would you want them behaving the same way?
I think Lauri showed be put back on the show next season. She is such a lovely person inside and out. Maybe, the other housewives can learn a thing or two from her.
Tamara, what can I say. At least you saw for yourself what a horrible person you were acting like. I wont judge and say you are a horrible person because I don't believe that's true or fair since I only know of you what the Bravo producers allow me to see. But even you can admit that you said and did very mean things this season.
I'm sure there's more to Gretchen as well and yes she does seem to be someone who likes attention but hey - who doesn't? Can you honestly tell me that when Vicky screams out in the middle of a party or at a restaurant " WOO! HOO!" That she does not like the attention? Of course she does but you don't seem to be bothered by that. Only by Gretchen. I think you may feel a bit threatened by her and thats where these comments and things come from. Gretchen is young and beautiful, but you are just as beautiful. I dont think you felt threatened by any of the other housewives and so it was easier to be friendly with them. I'm glad you were able to see how you portrayed yourself this season and hopefully you can work on that. After all you have young daughters - dont you want them to learn acceptance of others and how to be a true friend? You can't have true friends until you can be a true friend. Kids learn by the example of their parents. Give them good examples to go by.
Health and happiness to you and your family!
I don't think you are the mean girl. I think it is a tv show and drama is needed for ratings. I don't think people realize that most likely all you girls wouldn't hang out normally unless on the show. Yes, Some of the things you have said were mean but everyone on that show has said mean things too. Lynn and Gretchen are new so what gossip or crap could they really come up with.lol I think you all have good and bad things about you guys but what person doesn't. Maybe Gretchen for you was a little hard to take because she was young and pretty and new to the show but also don't think people didn't see her copying you and Vicki but i think it was her attempt to fit in some how. Gretchen knew going in that she did look like she had a sugar daddy and probably will always be questioned on that. You and Simon have a great relationship and he worships you, let him be your relief and gossip buddy because he will never rat you out or hold it against you. Next session somehow I think more drama and maybe a new villian.lol
Where do I begin. You must be so miserable in your own life that you get pleasure from trashing someone like Gretchen. The only thing I think you could accuse her of is making a dying mans' last year on earth a happy one. Who are you to judge? Get a mirror and take a good look at yourself. It's not pretty.
Hey viewer Angie..yes Tamara is awesome, AWESOME nasty and mean and the inspiration from her home decor most probably comes from jealousy and being mean spirited. God bless her home and the family especially the mother of the family.
It is NOT true that when you get a group of women together, whether they know each other or not that there has to be drama. Grow up. Women who have real manners and truly know their "etiquette" know how to treat other people. The drama this season wasn't some sort of hormonal accident. If you want to know what caused it, go look in the mirror.
Very true viewer Luka about Tamra being awesome nasty. I just hope that the beauty of her house reflects her attitude and that she'll realize how mean-spirited she is. She is so defensive about everything which strikes as being selfish and her bitterness comes out of her by putting other people down. I feel so sorry for her kids for they probably too will find happiness by being mean to people.
you are hot but that doesnt give you the right to be so mean to everybody. i couldnt believe what you said! i really do think you are more than this and i hope next season, you and vicki calm your mouths down.
OMG! What the heck happened to you this season? I can't figure out which Tamra was real, last season or this one? For the record, I liked you much more last season! You know you always say you are the "hottest" housewife, but all I saw this season was pure UGLINESS! I'm glad you were able to heal some old wounds from your past, but sister, you need to work on YOU in the present day. Enjoy you time off camera, I know I will.
I see my own thoughts are much the same as other viewers. Tamra, get over yourself. How did you ever get such a nice husband, or he seems to be on tv. Its a close tie between you and Vicky as to which one is the worst all around person. You both make me cringe to watch you. I sincerely hope that a lot of this stuff is put on just for show, but I'm afraid it isn't. You need to leave Gretchen out of your own misery and jealousy. I hope she is back next season. I would not miss you or Vicky.
You have no manners, and remorse towards other peoples feeling. You have so much to be thankful for but you jealousy and envy towards other people wont let you see straight. Gretchen and Lynne really try to be nice to you and all you do is trash them. If you feel someone may have as much as you do you throw a fit and act like a toddler. Your so hateful your probably happy that Jeff passed away so now Gretchen has to get a job and support herself. But you see Gretchen actually has a brain. She can make it on her own and needs to man to support,her unlike you.
Are you the housewife that criticized Gretchen for getting emotional and crying at times? You seem to be quite the "drama mama" yourself. I'm telling you like I told Vicki about Gretchen being an attention-getter, aren't you being the pot calling the kettle black? Also, you are not the hottest OC housewife. Get over yourself. And what was the big deal over the little gift of friendship that Gretchen bought for all of you. Couldn't you and Vicki just accept something that came from the goodness of someone's heart. Perhaps the two of you are just so selfish you would never think of doing something nice without strings attached. Or maybe it wasn't classy enough? Maybe Louis Vuitton would have been acceptable?
Wow, Tamra you are a petty, insecure woman who is obviously delusional. We all know that shows have editing and they always try to mold someone as "The Bitch Character" but you are just an awful person. To try and take etiquette classes and act like complete trash at your "fancy dinner party" was absolutely laughable. Just face it, you're jealous of Gretchen b/c she is gorgeous, young, spunky and classy, while you are only pretty, old, obnoxious and trashy. Can you also add dumb to that, since you can't even backtrack your arguments to make yourself seem like a semi-decent person.
If Jeff wanted Gretchen to be his 6th or 7th wife, that's his choice and maybe she's a bit of a gold digger but it seems like all of the women on the show are, why didn't you ever question Lauri? Anyhow, from personal experience, to stay by someone's side while they are in and out of the hospital is unbelievably difficult and you used every chance you could to try and make it seem like Gretchen was a paid nurse/prostitute and get who you could on your side and all you could manage to round up was bitter prude Vicki. Also, big props to Jeana for standing by Gretchen's side, she's "The Coolest Housewife of OC" and whether or not Gretchen is a housewife, she's "The Hottest" by far but you can always be "The Most Insecure" Tamra. And for the comments you said about Slade, please, he was wearing a fashionable outfit, I'll disagree on his choice of Havaianas but to call him a "Home," darling, you need one in your life to fix that tired mess you call your hair and your choice of brown lipstick. Props to whoever did your styling for the reunion show.
Like they say, "you can take the girl out of the trailer park but you can't take the trailer park out of the girl."
Your snarky, self-righteous attitude is so old & played out...much like you. People who are comfortable with themselves and their lives usually find no joy in criticizing or judging others, yet you and Icky Vicky seem to make it your lives mission to tear down and ridicule the other OC ladies. You should be ashamed of yourself and should get some serious professional help to assist you in being a better person/ human being. If not, heaven help those younger children of yours, for fear they turn out to be anything like you or your amoral, sleazy son. Shame, shame, shame...
Tamra – I’m so disgusted with your Slade “homo” comment. You really owe a lot of RHOC faithful viewers an apology. I wonder how many gay people it takes to build a veneer to keep your jealous, anti-gay soul buried under so much silicone. I think you need us more than we need you… Just say’n
This will probably be a repeat of the other posted comments but you and Vicki are the worst. It wouldn't hurt my feelings if you two did not come back next year. It makes me sick how you two act towards people.
Your homo comment was unwarranted.
BUT I do agree that Gretchen is a fake and a liar and had no business being on a show about housewives when she was no one's wife and carried on with a lover off camera while her benefactor lay dying in his hospital bed. Disgusting wh*re.
I find it so funny how you criticize Slade's outfit as "homo" when it is a very trendy, while all you wear are animal matronly patterns which look more of a drag-like to me with your matching your dry hair and too-much makeup face. Definitely, the ugliness of your spirit seeps through you because you look evil.
I have enough of Tamra, please let her NOT be in the next season. I would rather have Gretchen or any new housewife so it would be more interesting and refreshing. I don't like to watch anymore of Tamra and her ev*l acts...it is truly depressing and disheartening.
I just love how you and Vickie complained so much about how Gretchen loves to be center of attention. You guys don't? From Vickie's "Woo-hoos" and your comments about how YOU are the hottest housewife...hello...pot meet kettle. It is a shame the direction you women have taken this season. I first started watching the show because the women involved were interesting to watch and seemed to really be "real" as far as your involvement with your children, work and spouses. Why don't you guys get over yourselves and get back to raising your children (who are WAY spoiled and disrespectful) and stop criticizing Gretchen so much.
I hope what we saw this season was a 'character' that you and Bravo created for impact and ratings. I cannot believe that anyone would be that mean spirited in real life. If this is the way you are I really feel sorry for you...there is more to life than money and trying to be beautiful on the outside....and that is true beauty on the inside, something that I personally don't see that you possess.
I feel so embarrassed for you and your family. I know there is editing , but my god you are a really mean and jealous person.
Who cares what Gretchen does. It's NONE of your business. This season really opened my eyes to the type of person you are. Trailer trash is spot on.
Tamra- Get over yourself! I cannot stand you and I'm sure many other viewers feel the same way! I do not know how Simon even puts up with you! It's very obvious you are jealous of Gretchen, you say she is a troubled woman um NO I think that is YOU! I will not continue to watch the next season if you are on it...