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It's just a show!!! Everyone is so judgemental. Tamra, you are fine. I'm sure they edit most of the show to make you look a certain way. I hope you are not taking offense to all of this? Enjoy your life and try to be a good person. Life is too short.

TAMRA,,,, i love you you are my best housewife. but i was really shocked that you would be that cruel to gretchen, like how about if someone called you a gold digger and how about if you husband had cancer and is dying and someone said you are using him, that is so low and i can't belive that someone would ever say that, i couldn't sleep if i said that to someone. but there isn't any reason why you should of said that, and i bet you that gretchen is so hurt that you would do that, and be so mean in this time for her. I truly belive that you have a great heart and i love that you are so witty and fun and beautiful. but i think that you have to much pride and maybe you are insecure about where you are right now..

I liked the show with your Dad. It showed me that even as adults with children of our own, we can still be hurt by our parents or by something that we never got resolution from. I understood it wasn't neccessarily the divorce but that you felt abandoned. I admire that you put yourself out there for others to see and hopefuly get something out of or relate to.

Thanks for a great season!

wow. that's all i can say from reading this blog. You people here are so judgmental. Personally Tamra, i think your awesome. These people hating on you about Gretchen need to realize that if she didn't want people to know her buisness, why the hell is she on a reality tv show? so annoying. but non the less, you are fablous! cheers!

Tamra,
I'm your age & I think you look great, especially after 4 kids. You called Gretchen on her behaviour & it showed that she may not be so innocent. People shouldn't judge so quickly saying that you're jealous of her. We all have had moments where we've said or did dumb things, we just didn't have a camera taping our every word. You showed class in apologizing & saying how embarrassed you were of your actions. You're my favorite H.W.,& I enjoy your personality, I can't wait for next season.(P.S. I couldn't believe how Jeana was shocked at how you spoke to Gretchen when she allows her kids to talk to her like crap)

Even though I dont agree with a lot you did this season, You are so right in writing that we all make mistakes and no one is perfect,In saying this I hope that if you do decide to go ahead with another season that you take it a lot easier on the other ladies, remember just because they dont see things as you doesnt mean they are bad,
Your a bigger person then that Tamara and I know in my heart that what you do and say sometimes isnt the real person I truly believe you are,
To me I am a outsider looking in and so be more open to others and give a little of yourself let others see the real Tamara not the one you made us all think you were in last season,
In the very first season you were my favorite and I hope to put you back in that spot on the next season...
Enjoy you're summer and stay real

Peace to you and you're family
Judy

I love the OC Housewives most of all, but this season disturbed me alot. I think all of the wives have so much in their life to appreciate and its not about fighting, backstabbing and jealousy, I thought the show was to let us into your world once a week. Id love to see the real housewives again, without the gossip and hurtful jealousy. Everyone of you have more than I could ever imagine, and I loved the show because you all had so much class, and you didnt have room for petty jealousy, whats there to be jealous of, you all have great wonderful worlds. Enjoy it girls, not all of us are that privilaged. Who cares if Gretchen had a lover on the side, it wasnt costing anyone a dime, it was her business, and be nice to the new wives, its much more classy than being mean. Why cant you accept each other for who you are and just try to be friends. No one is gonna steal anyones thunder, we love all of you, thats what makes the show good. Bring back the OC wives we love

Tamara you are still #1. These other posters have the gall to call you mean???? Did they not read their own posts? Hypocrites.

You are my favorite housewife and always will be. As far as Gretchen is concerned you were only telling the truth. I thought this show was called "Housewives"? When did they start including "gold diggers"?

You called her out on everything I would have, BRAVO!!!

I wrote this very long response but I realized I couldn't send it. I don't feel that I'm in the position to be so mean and hateful to people, since I'm not perfect myself. Instead, we should be respectful and keep love in our hearts. Perhaps you should also learn that lesson - you have 21 years on me and should know it by now.

No matter what has been done and said, the season is over and the editing of the show,told the story. You are not a nice person and I think deep down inside you, you are a very unhappy person, and it comes out each time you make a nasty remark abt the other ladies. Your true colors show when you are around them and you hardly ever had a smile on your face,same as Vicki...I hope you are not modeling yourself after her..she is not a role model. Gretchen seemed to be the upbeat lady in the crowd,with the situation she had w/Jeff.....I am sure you are sick and tired ofhearing abt poor Gretchen and Jeff...your facial expressins showed that on the reunion and I was sad for you, since you seem to have no feelings toward other people. I would really like to know how you would have handled the same situation as Gretchen and lets see if you are the saintly person you think you would be..like Gretchen said, no one knows what they would do,until they walk in those shoes.She has the right attitude to NOT judge others,since you do not know their home life or the problems that might be in that persons life......but, then again, this has been said before and so many times, if you really read your blog, then you know, how people feel abt you and how unliked you are abt this issue you seem to have w/Gretchen. I hope you learn how to deal with this situation and you might be a better person for the next season, if not, I hope someone "Bitch Slaps" you on the show during one of the episode.

I honestly cannot say that I enjoyed this season's Housewives. Most of all, I had a hard time with Tamra. I've seen jealousy at it's worse, and for you to condemn Gretchen because she was trying to have a life in spite of taking care of her sick fiance` - you are such a child. So what if she had a friend, and so what if she dated or didn't date him - it wasn't your business. If you were such a "friend" as you called it, why didn't you just tell the guy to stop calling you and your husband or you will call the police on him. If he wanted to expose Gretchen, that was their business - let him!! You were mainly jealous of Gretchen, but most of all, you wanted to be like Vickie so bad. Believe me, Vickie is no prize either, with all her insecurities. She sat there at the reunion as though she was the queen bee, and you Tamra, was her flunky - doing and acting however Vickie dictated to you. You were pathetic to say the least, and I hope, if there is a next season, there will be someone to treat you the way you treated Gretchen. You deserve that!!

Tamra... First of all, I love you and all the women of OC (and NY too). Each of you are unique in your own ways with interesting personalities!

I don't think you were the mean girl this season. I think you were being honest. I am so tired of people getting beat up for being "human". No-one is perfect, no-one says exactly the right thing at the right time... EVERY time.

I can't wait to see what happens next season- don't EVER stop being yourself....Some of us love you for it!

I totally agree with Christy saying that it is none of your business about what Gretchen does with her personal life. It is none of your business who Gretchen dates and it should not affect you but it does because you are so jealous of her. Your mind is warped because you think Gretchen is jealous of you and what you have. Also, you and Vicki are very mean girls ganging up on Lynn and if you don't realize that you are mean then you are just incompetent!

U need to grow up(U R /40!) and stop being such a jealous B....
U are somewhat attractive for your age, but that "somewhat" flies away with your nasty attitude.

It's ok to be honest but, as someone who's been known to lack tact in my life, sometimes there are just better ways of saying things. Everyone can have an opinion about what Gretchen does or doesn't do but ultimately she's the one that has to live with it. Caring for a dying person is tough. I gave up a life when I wasn't much older than you to care for family who, one by one, have all died. It's tough & we get through it the best way we can, perhaps not always the "right" way but maybe we can hope to walk away a bit wiser for the experience.

As for you dad, I understand from a bit of a distance. My sister abandoned her child, died when he was very young. I could see the pain he still carries as a result but he doesn't understand that walking away was the kindest thing she could have done for him. She was screwed up & died before she could "get it." I think your dad got it but it's good that you were able to convey your feelings before it was too late.

Now if you could just figure out why the need to correct Gretchen's ways. I don't think she's a bad person. I made plenty of mistakes when her age, when your age too, but I got something good out of most if not all of them. Sometimes it's worth the trade.

My goodness! I feel I am back in high school where all the "she said, she said... and I am gonna tell on you, and it's not fair" is going on. But I guess that is all part of the show and why they use you. yep... use you.

I am glad the show is over. These women are so childlike. Tamara you are the worst! I am ready for RHWONY!!!!!! I am ready for some real laughs, and real class. With the exception of SILEX!

Tamara I always thought u were the hottest H.W. & still r . U know why ... because Gretchen is not a H.W. u r. Sooo it still belongs 2 u. Now that doesn't mean u were not off line w/ Gretchen. I just think u had 2 resolve some issues w/ ur dad. & I'm so glad u did. Because we all deserve that, I could relate. I also made peace w/ my dad after 3 yrs. I don't need 2 tell u any thing else about being an instigater & involving urself more than u should have, because I think by this time u learned the hard way & stuck it out like the strong woman that u r. Just find that kindness u have deep inside urself & let it out some more u'll see how u'll like urself a bit more. Think twice before speaking. It WORKS! Trust me.

You are a bully.

You use to be nice what happened? It looked like you changed at 40...I get it but be nice to the ones you claim are your friends! You can never have to many freinds.

Tamara come on who are you to tell Gretchen she's a troubled girl.You were a very troubled girl and probably still are. You and Vivki are so jelous of Gretchen and yes you are jelous. When asked at the reunion show why you did what you did to Gretchen you said "well I guess I am a mean drunk" get real you planned on doing all of that to Gretchen while you were planning your etiquette party which is the funniest thing ever. you have none and no class or manners. Vicki was right there with you and you wanted your son to come on to her and hoped and prayed she would get caught on TV doing something bad so you could say see, see I told you Gretchen was bad. Get a life with your kids and try to help your son be a decent guy. you probably can't do that maybe Simon can. But remember your the "troubled girl" not Gretchen. You and Vicki need to grow up. You will both be off the show by next season your not the kind of women anyone wants to watch. bye, bye

Tamra, You are a very insecure woman. So is your friend Vicki. You have money, a husband and children who love you and you still are a very jealous, vindictive,unhappy, mean spirited woman. Gretchen did not deserve to be treated that way. Shame on you. You need therapy. I feel sorry for you and Vicki.

Last season I wasn't so sure I liked you. But this season I think you were great! You have a great sense of humor and similar to myself. A real person that was honest enough to express her real thoughts and feelings. We all do it, we just don't get them aired on TV. I think you would be someone that I could really get along with. It's not about jealousy at all, it is about an honest opinion of someone and you had Gretchen nailed to a "T". I was very happy to see the truth come out. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. You're GREAT!

Tamra
Way to go girl! You smoked the others. I love your one-liners.

Good Job Jill Easter you said it well!!!!

Tamra,

Hey I am 18 years old and started getting into this show when it first started. I loved all the HW at first and of course since I am young, the youngest HW are always my favorite. I think that you made some mistakes this season but in all honestly everyone does. There are alot of full grown women who are commenting you who need to realize that you are only human. I personally love Gretchen and she is very nice, but I think that she stole a little bit of your spotlight. What I wish you could have realized this season is that she didn't do that on purpose. I also wish they would have showed more of your family life. I miss the old show where is was more than just selling drama. You ladies all deserve better than that. I hope next season mellows out a bit..and I really hope to see you and Gretchen friends.

Being the son of a single mother I have great appreciation and respect for you as a mother. Of course it dwindled especially how you treated Gretchen and judged her as women tend to do. I am sure you are a great person but your lack of empathy for another's situation makes you ugly; At least in my eyes.

Maybe you are jealous of a younger more bubbly you? I am sure you must be envious of her relationship she has with her father. I just saw the reunion and see you make faces when Gretchen was speaking about her late fiancee. You have an ugly soul.

Let me just say that after watching the reunion show,I felt sick to my stomach. Whether or not Gretchen and Jeff were engaged,or she was just merely a "caretaker" is really none of anyone's business,especially to you Tamra. Also I could care less if Gretchen was doing the whole LA Dodgers baseball team,it's none of your business and neither is it any of ours,the viewers. Im sorry but what Gretchen does with her life is HER business NOT yours! If what she does in her life DOESN'T affect your life,then just STFU!!!!

granted, SOME comments were rude, but come on people, I don't care what kind of arrangement you make with your dying partner. By their bedside is where most of us would be. Gretchen was having waaayyyy too much fun in bass lake, vegas and all the parties she went to. And it got kind of old listening to her "poor me" excuses and crying.
And if you would watch and listen to the reunion again, Gretchen couldn't think of the lies quick enough.
She said all the right things infront of the camera when she had time to think about them during the season.

Hottest Housewife: Jeanna

P.s., Gretchen is not a Housewife! she is a single individual looking for money as was/is Jo.

TAMARA! you are my al time favorite housewife<3
"heeeeeey gurl heeeeeey"
I love how you were so up-front and real this season. Not alot of people can be "real" in front of cameras; and about the people cal you a mean jaelous bitch, forget them, they're jealous of your lifestyle, and the people who blog about you, they are just making you more famous.
To the hottest housewife in OC, can't wait until next season.

Hi Tamra,
First I would like to start by saying how sorry I am that you had the experience of abandoment by your father. No matter what age we are, when someone we love betrays us it hurts! I really felt your pain over that! After watching the show this season, I feel you were mean to people, especially to Gretchen. I can understand that it must have been frustrating for you to have some inside info that made Gretchen look like a phony. But the way you handled the situation and behaved toward her and others this season just made you look bad, not her. You were acting like a phony and a back stabber. I am not sure that Vicki is the best choice for your BFF, the two of you seem to feed negativity off of each other. Remember: what we focus on expands. So if you focus on anger, jealousy, and bitterness, those feeling will continue to grow inside of you and make you an ugly person. You are a beautiful lady, focus on the beauty inside of yourself and others, it may make you look at life in a different "light" and others will see the beauty in you as well! I hope to see the beautiful side of you next season.

Tamra, just finish watching the renunion, WOW!!! I cannot beleive how jealous you and Vickie are of Gretchen, You and Vickie need to seek counseling for your father issues which is half of your problem, And stop hating on Gretchen, she has it going on and you guys cant stand it because your old married and washed up!!!

Tanmara,
You are pathetic. You obviously are very jealous of Gretchen. You need to get professional help, and take Vicki with you. I will no longer watch the show because of you and Vicki. What a waste of time.

Tamara,
You are pathetic. It is so obvious that you are jealous of Gretchen it is ridiculous. You talked about moral character, damn woman, are you kidding? Do you even have the vaguest notion of what morals are? I highly doubt it. You and Vicki are two wannabes. You truely need some professional help.

So much JEALOUSY, So much denial of your actions.

I thought you and Vickie acted worse than Junior High girls. You were jealous of Gretchen, no doubt about it! Who cares if she was going with a man old enough to be her father? It was none of your business. Vickie was my favorite until this season. I hate to see women treat other women like you and Vickie treated Gretchen and Lynn. A good name for this season is "Women behaving badly."

You mean, jealous, nasty woman. You are clearly insecure about yourself and your own shortcomings. Why else would you find it so necessary to tear down everyone else? I honestly don't see one redeeming quality about you. It is amazing to me that Simon stays married to you. I guess arm candy doesnt have to be nice. Although, I would watch it if I were you, your 40 year old body will need to be replaced with a younger woman sometime soon.

Why attack Gretchen like you did? It seems to me at least that you were trying a little too hard to be Vickie's BFF. Don't you even see how she let you do all her dirty work for her? Do you really think she respects you? She doesn't. You are not even close to being somebody she would allow in her circle if you weren't put together on this show.

As much as you gave Gretchen a hard time, I've got news for you.. she is not only way hotter than you, but she is also sweeter and much smarter than you. When did she tear somebody down like you do? I dont remember seeing that at all. So she is a flirt, who cares? Why is that your business? She was never anything but nice to you. Even when she was thoughtful and gave you all gifts on the last show.. what did you do? Again, you and Vickie found a way to make fun of her.

You seriously disgust me and anger me more than any other fake housewife of the O.C.

I was a fan of this show but I stopped watching because of your horrible behavior. Being 'mean' isn't a trend, it is inexcusable. I hope Bravo reads these comments and gives wonderful and exciting women like Gretchen more of the spotlight and I hope they ditch you because you are an example of all that is wrong with this world.

I'd also like to know if your husband actually paid full-price for that tennis bracelet, or if he had a deal with the store or manufacturer, and so either got a huge discount for it, or got it for free, in exchange for the exposure on a popular TV show. It's called "product placement" and can be an effective marketing tool.

If he didn't actually put out the cash to pay for it himself, it's kind of a different thing, isn't it?

Tamra,

I sat cringing this season watching you and Vicki. You used to be my absolute favorite HW, but you completely embarrassed yourself. Whether or not you are jealous of Gretchen is besides the point. Your behavior was pathetic! She's younger than you, better looking, but most importantly, is NICER. Your trashy attitude made for fabulous tv! Hopefully you and your pathetic buddy Vicki will be back to redeem yourselves next year.

Shame on you Tamara!You could have redeemed yourself at the reunion show, but noooo! Your so mean and come across very JEALOUS! Seriously look closely at yourself and your own life.I can not watch another season with you trashing EVERYONE!You and Vicky need some distance between yourselves. Your poison multiplies when your together! It's very obvious you can't stand not having all the attention. Let it go!

The show definitely took a turn for the worse this season. One reason I always liked the OC housewives better than Atlanta or NYC was that the show was not all about the women being catty and mean to each other. There was not a lot of drama and it was just about their lives. This season the OC show followed the same path as the other two shows and was all about fighting and drama. Go back to how it used to be...the show was a lot better.

Hey Tamra,
Loved you this season in the O.C.

I was totally inspired by your ability to confront and
resolve your abandonment issues - and reconcile things
with your Dad. There's clearly a lot of love there.
My parents were divorced when I was 38, and I'm still
struggling to work through many of the same issues.

Please keep us all posted on the kind of response you
get when you list your old implants on ebay!!

Tamara
you are seriously my favorite house wife... i mean who cares if they called you the mean girls you were speaking the truth, so there for if its a fact then its a fact.... i hate how people try and make you look like bad when all the girls talked trash on one another threw out the show.... You rock... your hot and your a great mom.... cant wait for the next season be even meaner.. hahahaha

Tamra,
I was so surprised that during the final show you went for Gretchen's juggler....you seem to have a huge axe to grind...your facial expressions told the whole story...you were really out of line with her....I'm surprised she didn't get up and "bop" you one! Surely there is so much that goes on behind the scenes...but girlfriend, can't you control yourself on camera?

Hi Tamra,

I think all these posts are ridiculous. I loved watching you this season as much as every season before. You are a confident woman, that is invested in her family, and genuinely cares about others. You are definitely the hottest housewife!!

Tamra, please note the hypocrisy in all of these posts deeming YOU judgmental. Save it people!

Tamra. I think you called gretchen on her bs. I mean who really thought that her and neff were engaged. She barely was shown with him! I agree you appeared mean in tv series but it's reality tv and they always edit things to get what they want. I think you were beyond brave to be who you are and you spoke your mind. This is what all people should do. You read gretchen this zeason and just because she appeared as pretty and caring doesn't mean she is. And as far as lynne she is ditzy. There is noting worng with saying that. Glad you say where could make improvements but I thatnk your for being honest.

Great job on calling Gretchen out on her sneaky behavior. I think you are the most interesting and fun to watch housewife on the show.

Tamra,
I understand you were going through some though situations with your dad this season, and my heart really does ache for you in that sense. It seems like your relationship crumbled and I can totally relate. However, what you did to Gretchen at your party was absolutely mean spirited and there's no excuse for it. Don't play the "she's an adult" or "she has inappropriate relations with my son" card. Please. If you were a good person, you'd think about how it made her feel and apologize for it, instead of accusing her of things she obviously didn't do. I don't know why you are out to get Gretchen, because she seems like a very considerate person. Jealousy maybe? I think instead of making accusations about her, maybe you should get to know her because she seems like a really nice girl (not to mention she went through a lot with Jeff). I just think that next season, you need to sincerely apologize to her because the way that you treated her was extremely immature and mean.

I have been a fan of the show since the beginning and I have seen the housewives come and go, but this season was more drama filled than entertaining.

Tamara, "What's up with you?" Why or who elected you the person to dump all over Gretchen? All of you ladies are some what attractive. So what's up with the jealousy? Do you really get off on trying to hurt this girl? It's okay, that you don't like her, but why do you go out of your way to be mean to her. You made yourself look very stupid on the last show. Who cares if she has another man. You and Victor need to read these comments and take a very good look at yourselves. I hope you and Victor decide next season to take a break from the show, because if you're back, I won't. I could have been really mean with my comment but I decided not to because I wouldn't have been any better than you.

Tamra,

YOU ARE AWESOME!! Way to tell it like it is and call Gretchen out on her lies and stand your ground. I'd be equally as pissed if some girls ex, current, soon to be boyfriend was calling me at 1 a.m.! Don't listen to the haters out there they are jsut jealous of you!! Keep rocking out girlfriend!!

TAMRA!

YOU are my favorite and continue to be. You are hilarious and sometimes the truth hurts and that sucks for those lying! I am an avid Real Housewives watcher (all the way from Season 1) and absolutely love the show!! I hope you return for SEASON 5!!! WILL THERE BE A SEASON 5??? I also don't think you were pimping Ryan out. That is the only thing they could come up with to hit you with? YEAH good oneeee.

So, I've never posted to a blog before, but I watched the show all season and I was actually yelling at the tv last night during the reunion. I'm sure editing focused on every catty thing you did and made us 'hate' you in order to add drama. At the same time, you definitely come across as insecure and very immature. You're a beautiful grown woman with a great family. You need to just get your nose out of Gretchen's business and stand on your own. People should be talking about you because you're awesome, not because of the shitty things you say and do.

Hi Tamra,

I think you are getting a bit too much flack for this season. Yeah, there were times when you said something "rude"..but it was probably also honest. I believe that everyone should be able to speak their mind and the other people involved in the situation should do the same. As long as you are willing to listen to the other persons side with an open mind, everyone has a chance to learn something and understand others feelings/opinions as well.

On the other hand...Vicki is awful. I am not sure that anyone could take over the bitch title with her on the show. She is just downright RUDE!

Can't wait for next season!!!

Tamra,

I agree with you I don't think Gretchen should have gone away on vacations while Jeff was so incredibly sick. He didn't get a break and if she really loved him then she wouldn't have wanted a break either. Going out to dinner fine, vacation not fine. I do think you were a bit mean at times but that was only after you found out Gretchen went to Bass Lake so I totally get it. When my dad was dying I felt guilty about going to my part-time job let alone going on a vacation.

I have to defend Tamra in the reunion show...If Gretchen did not want her business told about what she was or wasn't doing with this other "ex-boyfriend", then where does she get off giving this guy Tamra's phone number?? I think Tamra had every right to meddle in that one!

I'm watching the 'Confess' show right now. Tamra, you and Vicki are really mean to the other three. You should have owned up to it. T and V, you both come across as extremely bitter, intensely negative, and just oh so poisonous. I have to say, if either of the two of you are on the show next season, I will not watch it.

Tamra,

Calling Slade a "Homo" on national Television. No Class. You Stating ALL that stuff about Gretchen, which was apparent that you didn't CARE to hear her side. Can you say SLANDER????? I hope Gretchen talks to a Lawyer.
I believe my most favorite is on your My SPaCE. Proclaiming how much you LUV your gay fans after your childish comment. Once again, On NATIONAL tv.
NO CLASS!! And the ignorant way you speak about Lynn, being stupid.
I have a close family member that is "slow", would you like to come over to her house & Call her Stupid as well????

It must be tough getting old, right Tamra?

Wow, I kept waiting for this to be some big joke or something. Can't believe how really evil you are. I can honestly say I never saw this coming. I guess you were on your best behavior last season - you should go back to that! I feel so sorry for your husband who really deserves to have a much classier wife. Hopefully this opens his eyes.

And I can't imagine how your kids will turn out. And your oldest is not a "boy" - he's a grown man. He knew exactly what he was doing in trying to take advantage of a woman his mother got drunk. Good tag team there "mom" - holy!! So beyond disgusting. As drunk as you got her luckily she still had something in her to get your son off of her. Lucky the cameras where there or who knows what he would have done. You were very sober when you hatched your plan to get Gretchen drunk - it was crystal clear. And to bring your own son into it. Wow. Would it have been too motherly of you to pull him aside and tell him he shouldn't take advantage of women that are intoxicated?? It is illegal you know. Hopefully some other mother does not play the same trick on one of your girls when they are older.

This show used to be such a fun way to see into the lives of women that have such luxury and some that have really made it so far. What is it exactly that you do?? This season was more of a train wreck. Not sure I will watch another season with you in it - actually I'm sure I won't.

Tamra,
I love you and do not think you are a horrible person. You are a real person who tells it like it is. Someone needed to out Gretchen. She might have looks, but she sure does not have class. I have researched this boyfriend of her and it disgust me that she can put her whole life on tv, but the life we saw was all a lie. We want to watch "real"ity tv, not a fake person who tries to be something she is not. It is sick. I could tell from the beginning that she was all fake. Least you are gorgeous and real. You might say somethings that is just like "i cant believe she just said that" but least you say whats true. Gretchen tries to use her looks to get whatever she wants and that is the lowest life ever. Cant wait to see you next season and dont worry about the critics. There is always going to be a critic on everything. Hope to see you next season and not the fake blonde who lives a lie. Karma has bit her in the butt.

Tamara, you rock. I think you are the best housewife next to vicki. As for gretchen what a gold digger, bia, thanks for spilling the dirt on the final show. I knew she was a phoney!!!

I just had to say that I admire you for having such a frank discussion with your father about the hurt you felt. I experienced something similar but I was only 15 when my dad left and now at age 46 still haven't had the courage to speak to him face to face about the effect it had on me. It took a lot of guts to be so open about how much you still need and love him!

Here is some food for thought Tamra...As a fellow Ladera resident, ponder this one:

If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us.

-Hermann Hesse (1877 - 1962)

Tamra
You really ROCK
At list you are Real and is nothing wrong to be honest.
I don't know much about Gretchen because she sound prefab,
is tiring to keep watching that character or whatever she play.

You were definitely the mean girl this season and should not be proud of it. Gretchen is the hottest housewife by far.

Well, I just watched the tape of the final "confessions" summit and I have to say that I feel pretty manipulated after seeing a run-down of some incredibly important things that happened off camera. Like many viewers, I was disappointed with Tamra this year because she came across as needlessly jealous of/mean to Gretchen. Vicky too. This was especially hard because Vicky and Tamra were my two favorite characters last season. OTOH, Gretchen became one of my favorite characters this season because she really did seem to care about Jeff, she clearly wasn't a gold-digger because her family had quite a bit of money, and she couldn't help that she was beautiful and very young.

But turns out that Tamra had a pretty good reason for being wary of Gretchen--the whole "Jay" romance/friendship. There were a couple of odd things about this exchange: (1) Gretchen never explained why she referred to this guy as both a "stalker" and a "family friend" (2) no one asked how this guy got Tamra's private cell-phone number when the show was taping. One would think that Gretchen would've explained that this Jay guy had stolen it off of her cell phone when she wasn't looking, but all she did was flip the script and bring up Tamra's [admittedly] horrible behavior at the etiquette dinner.

Gretchen didn't take responsibility for anything during this last confessions-summit episode, but Tamra did own up to what she had done and said. Kudos to her for that. I have a lot more respect for Tamra now and I am a little mad that I was manipulated into feeling sympathy for Gretchen. There is a lot more to her than meets the eye and she totally lacks self-awareness.

i would be so embarrassed if you were my mom or friend. you are such a mean and horrible person. get over yourself, you are not the hottest housewife. hope your 15 minutes ends soon, you are so annoying to watch on this show.

Tamra,
I am done with you!! You are a jealous, mean blond bimbo. Get a clue. You believe what Jay says despite the fact that he is ringing to confide in the one woman that has treated Gretchen the WORST - YOU!!! If he had Gretchen's best interest at heart, why would he call you and not, say Jeana. Sucked in much? You are clueless!

Thank you for exposing Gretchen! It was so hard to watch her horrible behavior, when her fiance is on his death bed in a hospital and shes off vacationing with a boyfriend. Makes me so sick!! What has happened to this world when people think this is okay behavior. Thank you for saying something, because Gretchen is one sick person.

Tamra,
I was so disappointed in this season's show, because you were so incredibly mean! I know you've heard just about everything there is to hear about it, but I just had to vent, because I just got done watching the "Confessions" show and am fuming over yours and Vicki's attitude on the show. Neither of you were nice even at the confessions. Own up to your rude, disgusting behavior and move on. Gretchen is so sweet and so is Lynn and to have you talk about them like that just makes you look jealous and childish. Instead of being a hater, step back and look at yourself in the mirror and be happy with how you look, because most women out there aren't as fortunate enough to have your looks. I realize that by my saying this to you, I am being mean, but it's the only way to get my point across.

Tamra, it was nice to read that you can actually acknowledge that you were so awful to others. It was really hard for me to watch at times. Part of me felt sorry for you that you were obviously so lacking in self-confidence that you would resort to the sort of tactics you did. It's just ugly, all around. Regardless of your feelings toward Gretchen, and whether or not she deserved it...it all came across as catty, jealous and totally pathetic. I think you started spending way too much time with Vicky, and her negative attitude and energy started to transfer to you. She is one of those "toxic" friends you are better off without. She constantly snarked that Gretchen was an attention hog and that it was all about Gretchen...when the truth of the matter is Vicky can't stand to NOT have the world revolving around her. She was jealous that she was not getting the amount of attention she might normally get. She came across as bitter, used up and disgusting. Her holier-than-thou attitude was just too much for me to watch this season...such a hypocrite. I hope, for your sake, you distance yourself from her and try to establish some real friendships. You seem like a nice enough person (in seasons past) and I think it takes a big person to take a good hard look at themselves and say they don't like what they see. Best wishes to you & your family. I hope you really do try to change. :) Here's hoping this is Vicky's last season on the show. blech!

Tamra,

When I watched last night's "Tell All Show", I can see an angry, tensed Tamra, like hatred and angst seeps through you and you look like a MAN, Tamra!! Seriously, you looked liked a man!! Chill girl and probably it will help smooth your features and you will look like a woman again.

u go tamra! you are so right and gretchen is a huge liar...im glad u called her out!

Tamara, you are so beautiful!! Why are you so mean to others?? Oh well, it makes for good tv~!

Man, Tamra, you even look evil when you talk about Gretchen. It's like you take sick glee in trying to tear her down. Really, though, it only makes you look worse.

Funny how that works, huh?

My husband asked me why I watch this show. I said, "Because it makes me feel so much better about myself because most of them are so dysfunctional." That includes you love, dysfunctional. Need I say more?

Even my teenage daughters could not believe how mean and nasty you and Vicki were - especially to Lynne and then to Gretchen. You should be embarrassed. FYI - It is not cool to get drunk in front of your kids - do they really need to see that?

People keep commenting about jealousy. No, you're not jealous, you feel threatened! IF there was an "arrangement" between Gretchen and Jeff, is it your business? If it was comforting to him as he was dying, what's wrong with that? I guess you feel if you throw enough at the wall something will stick.

I have been a fan of the show since the very beginning, this season not so much. I thought I had seen enough of your cattyness in the previous episodes, until last night. I don't know what you wanted to accomplish by "outing" gretchen but it was very sad to watch. It actually made you look classless and showed how deep your jealousy is towards gretchen. True or not true, what business is it of yours anyways? Did you think that revealing this supposed "secret relationship" on national T.V. it would excuse your past nasty behavior? Did You think Fans of the show would now understand why you've been so mean to gretchen? If anything it made you sound desperate and petty. You and Vicki are quite a pair, misery does love company. For two women who talk about having everything, really have nothing at all.
As for Vickie taking the moral high ground regarding "underaged drinking", she can cast no stones to Lynn. I remember a few years ago she drank with her underaged children in Mexico and thought nothing of that. Vickie has transformed into a bitter negative person, which is really sad. Vickie was actually one of my favorites in Season 1 but not anymore, the shows success has gone to her head. Granted she's miserable in her marriage that's apparent from the body language and the interaction that's been portrayed on the show between her and her husband.
No wonder you both get along so well, as I said before misery loves company. Hopefully you both will watch the past episodes and get embarrassed enough to buy some class.

Tamra
A really good thing for you to remember is
LOOSE LIPS - SINK SHIPS!
Do you really want to be known for the kind of person you portray? I really have to wonder - and if so...you have some real issues that you need to dig deep to fix!
Sad!

I thought you were exteremly rude and snobby this year. You can tell that you have a big heart and I know you have a beautiful spirit inside. Instead of letting that come out, you let out you insecurities. I was horrified when you told your child to "shut up" at the beginning of the season! What is that? Remember that it is more important to be beautiful inside than out. Being nasty and snobby makes you so NOT hot!!!!
Stacey (a mommy)

How pathetic you are. I'm sure there are many women who want a pink Harley! That color is not just for you sweetheart. Get a life and get over your obvious obsession with Gretchen who is by far the Hottest Housewife!!!!

Tamra, I'm not sure why you think you have the right to humiliate people on national television. Was Gretchen lying? Who cares? Really. You humiliated her and Jeff's children for what? To prove you're a better person? WRONG!

If you thought the world was going to stand up and clap for putting that poor girl in her place, you were sadly mistaken. It totally backfired and YOU will forever be labeled as cruel and classless...and that's definitely NOT hot.

Tamra, Be strong and ignore the negative comments. For different tastes, different colors. I personally loved the way you acted this season. You were funny, energetic, and witty. I stand behind you and Vicki regarding everything involving Gretchen. Gretchen is just an unsuccessful "girl gone wild" in the wrong show. I would have reacted the same way because I would not like to be associated with a person that does that their fiancee (I mean, what would my hubby think?). To me she represents everything gone wrong with feminism lol As for Lynne, I wish she could see that you guys were joking- the same way you joke about Vicki being a control freak - Lynne's kind of an airhead but we love her anyways :P

tamara-its such a shame how your insecurity can take over your personality- i am amazed at how jealous u are of gretchen. u mentioned that you didnt like having the role of a mean girl-i think u enjoyed it very much considering-u were high-five-ing UGLY pig face vicki at the reunion show-u are 41 and TOO old to be reliving your high school days. get over it! gretchen looks better than you!

Tamra,
i'm not sure why everyone is giving you such a hard time! I think you tell it how it is and alot of people can't handle the truth :) i watched the reunion last night and was blown away on the Gretchen/boyfriend story, but at the same time it comes as no surprise! As a 28 year old women i couldn't even fathom dating a man 20 years my senior. It was so obvious she was only attracted to his money. Gretchen, i think you have a fun loving spirit but keep it real sweetie everyone knows you were using Jeff for the money. You said it yourself you weren't immediately attracted to him. Then what were you attracted to? I completely agree with you and Vicki, Lynne acts strange like she's highly medicated. It's painful to watch her lack of parenting skills and complete neglect of inforcing any sort of rules in her daughters life. She doesn't understand she's setting those girls up for failure as adults.

i'm huge fans of you and Vicki b/c i think you both keep it real and you're merely stating the obvious. Keep being yourself!

I LOVE GRETCHEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
CAN'T STAND YOU!!!
HAHAHA, JEALOUS?????

Tamra,

Aren't you glad you went on this show....I am sure that this isn't
what you were looking for. You were looking for Fame, Popularity
and Money and really all you got was Hatred from the American
People. Mean People Suck and God isn't looking down on you
right now thinking you are a good person. If I were you, I would
pack up my family and belongings and move far away from Orange
County. You need a lot of therapy and your kids need to get away
from this Mess you got yourself into. Too Bad.... So Sad .....