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Tamra, your rock. I agree with your feelings about Gretchen, and glad you bonded with Lynn. You do not have to get along with everyone and the others should not be forcing you or egging you on. Of course, the key is to be cordial. The show has become so adversarial ever since Gretchen joined in. She doesn't belong with this group but unfortunately her antics bring ratings. Keep standing your ground. If I ever bump into you in Newport, I'm going to High-5 you!

I love you Tamra! You rock and are the hottest housewife. I too was a young mother and kept my looks. And work hard at still keeping my relationship exciting. You please and do for yourself. No one is perfect and people commenting on you is so blah!!! We all have said and did things. But on with it. I love that you call Gretchen out. And love love love when you said "You prey on old men!!" that was a true moment and i laughed so hard! Love and support you!

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I love the show, but was so annoyed at your behavior. It was so clear that once Gretchen joined the cast your insecurities came to the surface and she stole the spotlight and as far as I am concerned, the title of hottest housewife. To say you were not jealous is so far from the truth, because your actions clearly proved otherwise. In my opinion, you try way to hard to be cool instead of just being yourself. You were a total hypocrite this season and your cat claws were so unattractive. Don't try so hard Tamara and maybe you will be liked more. Be yourself, be nice and you will be liked by others.

you too need to be nice. so mean spirited and there is not point in all that. and your language?!

Tamra,

I felt for you when you had the re-union with your father and it was good to see you two reconnect. My father past when I was 17, you had me in tears.

As for Gretchen I was paying attention to what she was saying about "her Friend" oh no he was a STOCKER first, oh then a ex boyfriend that she never dated..oh then a friend of the family... if she could have kept her story straight then maybe I would feel bad for her.. but you called it as you saw it and as it was. I do believe she is a very insecure woman and trying to grab an identity ..namely yours. I think she should donate the Harley to a cancer society to auction off it would be the right thing to do.

If my future husband was sick with cancer in the hospital I wouldn't be basking in the sun by some lake or at every event that took place in the neighbourhood.. I would be beside him till the end.

Thank You for calling her out... you certainly had her frazzled...

I hope that your father takes a bigger part in your life and gets to know your beautiful children.

Tamra, you are obviously jealous which brought out your vicious nature. How low classed you were on the re-union show. Have you never heard of "Mind your own business, or if you haven't anything nice to say"???
You are not the hottie you think you are. I saw the nightclub episode where you displayed your jealous side with your husband. Your dancing was a joke - you looked like a has-been stripper.
Gretchen is naturally beautiful, a lovely free spirit.
You and Vicki trying to put a slant on your past catty remarks makes me turn the channel to other real housewives shows.I've watched from the beginning. No more.

Just wanted to comment that I have always been a fan of you Tamra but since watching this season I lost alot of respect for you. I just seen who the real Tamra is. I actally feel kind of sorry for you for making a complete ass out of yourself. But I will say that my husband and I just watched your reunion show and we both were disgusted at how low you went with Gretchen but towards the end of the show we both we laughing at how jealous you were it was written all over your face and your low blows showed it all. Because of you Tamra that reunion show was my last show I will watch of the real housewives. Its gone a little to white trash for me

Karma is a bitch though- good luck with that one

Tamra you rule! Don't ever change! Gretchen is a liar and an attention craver and thats it. She ruined season four for me because she tried to make everyone feel so sorry for her, I didn't buy it and apparently neither did you! People can say you girls are hard on the new girls, but its not like you were one of the original housewives and you were able to fit in just fine! Just keep being yourself and doing what your doing its clearly workin for ya! Can't wait for season 5!

And to think....all of this drama started because you were so concerned about being the "hottest housewife". What a load of immature crap!

Tamra, Have you seen G.I. Joe yet??? The brunette looks just like you!! Go see it with your hubby, he'll love it.

Hi Tamara, I love the show!! I watch it every time its on even if I already seen it.
I must say tho... You have talked about your mom and dad splitting up. Now dont get me wrong that is a sin that it happend to you. But you act like its the end of the world. You can still call you dad and talk to him any time you want. I was 21 when my dad died and 23 when my mom died (I am 26 now) I would give anything to pick up the phone and call one of them. They split up they are stil in your life be greatful for that. I wish the day my parents died my family didnt call apart but it did, and I can never get that back no matter how much I pray and hope.

I still love you and the show, it was just something that really buged me. Please keep in mind it could be alot worse, trust me I am living it.

I saw the new girl Alexis. That should stir things up. It will be a fun and interesting season for sure. We saw how you treated Gretchen. We know how you will react to Alexis for sure. Your insecurities will for sure come out. Because you are not a sincerely person. That is just how you are portrayed on the show.

Tamra,
I can see why you would be so passionate about Gretchen's alleged bad behaviour. I'd be very angry if I felt like she was using someone like that too (along with the lying etc.), and I know that I would have a hard time being around someone like that. I have made a point of removing those people from my life to avoid reactions like what you had, which is only natural. We all say "mean girl" things when we are angry. I question Gretchen's sincerity because of her response to your anger, although in my day to day life it doesn't really matter! I don't think that this situation makes you a mean girl, just a person who cares when others might be getting hurt or taken advantage of. Go Team Tamra!

I have to be HONEST and "tell it like it is" Tamra. YOU need to worry about YOU. Worry about your family and quit worrying about what is going on in Gretchen's life. I realize that the show truly edits a lot. That there is a lot we don't know. But HONESTLY, your blog and your reaction on the reunion show DO NOT LIE. I would be upset if some strange guy was calling me asking about Gretchen. But let it go for goodness sake! Why do you feel the need to be up on the latest and greatest with her life? And who the hell are you to judge another anyway? Do we dare talk about how young you were when you got pregnant? Do you have a clean closet with absolutely NO skeletons in it whatsoever? All of us have our flaws, downfalls and circumstances that we've either chosen or have let get out of control. Kuddos to you for "telling it like it is", but BAD form in the kind human being department. I'm sorry but I refuse to believe that you aren't a jealous person. It screams from the screen, editing or not.

Work on you sweetheart. Quit worrying about what everyone else is doing. Best of luck.

Tamra, I thought you were awesome on this show! You really put yourself out there, exposing your vulnerability in the relationship with your father. That takes guts! Good for you! Relative to Gretchen, you know and saw a lot more than we did. You voiced your opinion and I happen to agree with it. I'm sure a lot of us did. Anyway, cheers to you and your beautiful family. I'm sure you are a hoot to hang out with. And you are a hot chick! I aspire to be as hot. :)

Tamara,

I think your amazing! you just speak what the truth really is. I can tell your not jealous of Gretchan and you shouldn't be she can't even compare to you.

Tamara you are one of my favorite housewives, I would be upset to if some guy started calling my phone in the middle of the night telling me he is Gretchens boyfriend.If Gretchen was telling the truth about leaving a party with this guy and then had to make him get out of the car "How would he have gotten your cellphone number?".I think you had every right to act and react in the way that you did.

I think that your reacton to what was going on with Gretchen was absolutly normal. I am shore she realy did care about Jeff. I also think that it was verry clear that she was living a double life and that she felt entitled to do so because she is young. I could see that that bothered you and that you were drawn into the middle of it. I don't think people should get a get out of jail free card because of her family situation if she was taking atvantage of that same situation.

Well, it is pretty obvious what your problem is and has been for quite awhile. I knew you were not a natural blonde but did not know until now that your natural color is green. Your cruelty was uncalled for. You just couldn't stand it when Gretchen came on the show and as nice as she tried to be to you, you let the little green monster take over your body and blew it for yourself. Now everyone knows how shallow and petty you really are.

People need to realize that out of hundreds of hours of film that they only use what they want to actually make the show. If you had to pick and choose between a mom at home doing chores or the cat fight on the finale...everyone would watch the cat fight.

No one actually knows the truth about their lives but them. Seems like there were some things that were being hiden from viewers.

Ok some of you people are taking this way to far, keep in mind you’re only seeing a few minutes of footage out of how many hours of filming. To call someone names, that’s just a bit much. Honestly, if we (the average person) were filmed for hours we would be pretty boring, so of course they chose the less than perfect moments to show. Otherwise we viewers wouldn’t want to watch. Fact is we only watch because we want to escape our own drama. Face it, its more fun to watch how the other half live and fight.
I think you all are wonderful women, it just doesn’t come across in every episode.

I want to say that you added alot of spice and made what would have been a very boring show exciting to watch. I do love Grechen and she reminds me of my daughter alot! very friendly and fun full of life. I love that about her and like my daughter she has lot of girls that dislike her for those very reasons. Also that my daughter is very beautiful inside and out just like Gretchen. So yes I do Adore her. But you I do like to watch. You are full of drama and interesting. But you need to work on your snobiness. Also stay out of others drama. It wasn't your call to make her love life public. Live your own life and focus on your own family.

WOW, is the only word for it. Such hate & jealously. You really need to take a good long look at yourself and realize
how lucky you are. You have so much to be thankful for and
yet you still are not happy with all that you have. You are such a mean and cruel person. I am a single women with two teenage children and would love to have the opportunities that you have. i just can't believe you what a mean, cruel and unhappy person that you are. Be happy with yourself and stop being so concerned about Gretchen and her life. You are the most shallow person i have ever seen. Why must you
try and make everyone look bad so that you feel good about yourself. REALLY SAD. I hope your not on next season. Get some help.

Whoaaaa.
Exposing someone on national TV is really being a mean girl!I bet your past isn't all that perfect- so get over it. Would it kill you to think before you open your mouth hon?
You seem very shallow and looking for the next person to pounce on....
What comes around goes around-karma will bite you Tamra!

Omg you and Gretchen seriously look so similar! I swear to god if I saw you two walking down the street I would think your her mom!

Tamera, what goes around comes around...
We aren't perfect creatures, we all get jealous from time to time. But to see that you have an all out hatred for Gretchen is ridiculous.
I use to think that you were a beautiful/good person, but now all I see is how this beautiful person is ugly. The inside has finally come out and there it is in all it's glory...jealous, hatred, ugliness is what I see. When I see the show, all I get is that you are so jealous of Gretchen b/c she is sooo sooo beautiful gorgeous, and her heart makes even more beautiful than that...so down to earth!
Gretchen is my favorite housewife NOW!

Mean, mean, mean. How does a person like you sleep at night? Seriously, if you are a part of next season (if there IS a next season) I will not watch. I refuse to sit and watch someone so heartless and cruel treat other people so poorly. No matter WHAT happened, you crossed the line. Call it "good tv," blame the editing... whatever. Own up to your bad behavior.

You and Vicki deserve each other. 2 sad little rich girls who are so jealous that you make yourselves look like idiots trying to hide your jealousy and you did a great job. Your older son is NUTS!!!! He wants to live in you and your husbands house for free and have no rules. He wants to come and go as he pleases at his age if he wants to do that then he should be on his own. but I noticed that you are reluctant to allow Simon to deal with him but you do so that there is no tension between you two. it seems it has more to with losing Simon and his money than doing what is best for you son. You should learn tough love as your husband has. You really ar a sad women though, you behaved like a child in just about every episode judging and picking on Gretchen. You really made yourself look ridiculous. I just laughed and laughed because it has to be so sad to be so insecure. you and vicki were really the allstars of how not to behave as adults. I hope after seeing all the episodes that you realize what an idiot you are and change but I doubt that you will. The really funny thing is that you probably really don't like vicki but because of her status you play along and hang with her to make sure that you are still in the "In crowd". What a sad life. I am nearly as wealthy as you or any of your "Friends" but I have a husband that loves me and 3 beautiful kids and the best friends you can imagine and that makes me 100 more wealthy than you.

Tamra. You are not a very nice person. I am not sure why you are so angry with Gretchen. Whatever is going on with her ex or with anything private in her life, its really none of your business. If her ex called you you should have hung up on him. Are you that thrilled to not be the new girl on the show that you have to pick on her as well? What are your motives? Very sad, that you are that mean. Hope you have learned from last season to pause, and think before you open up your mean mouth.

Tamara,

As a woman who also lost her husband to cancer, I think it's ridiculous what you put in your blog about Gretchen, "spending the last three months of his life on a reality show". When our loved ones are fighting cancer, we NEVER KNOW how long they have. Some fight for years, and some for months. What a tasteless and rude comment to make. In reality you have no reason to dislike Gretchen other than your obvious jealousy. Please return to the classy Tamara we knew before. Because no matter which way you slice it, it is unclassy to kick someone when they're down. If anyone in your life ever loses a fight with cancer, you'll know what I mean.

I just wanna say "Thank You" thank you for telling that Gretchen how it really is!!! I didnt for one secound belive her true love for the man that past away.She is so phoney!!!! Thank you for speaking out when no one eles would!!! She deserved every second of being humilated on tv.....I REALLY hope she dosent come back!!!!!

Well the reunion special just aired in Australia, and I felt for both Lynne and Gretchen for how Tamra treated them.

Yes, ok editing by producers can put you in a bad light as what I beleived happened to Vicki however comments in Tamra's blog and on this episode just showed how narrow minded and immature she really is. She maybe older, have grown children and experienced the world, however Gretchen handed herself with more class and elegance than anyone else on that show.

Like the old saying goes "Treat people how you want to be treated."

I love the show! The Orange County Housewives are the best, most entertaining, and the most attractive!Concerning the Bass Lake issue Tamara is in the wrong and she needs to grow up. First of all to clarify something Gretchen was there with FAMILY! If she had been there with a group of friends then it would have been different but she wasn't. Tamara has no idea what Gretchen was going through and until she knows what it is to go through that she should keep her opinions to herself. Or maybe Tamara should learn the correct way to speak to people. I love Tamara but she showed no class in that situation. Gretchen did not deserve any of that. I know my comment is late and seems silly now but I just had to get that off my chest. Gretchen I totally understand the need to get away and Tamara try ro be more understanding next time.

i think gretchen was adorable, the whole season she was fun and kind to everyone even with what was happening to jeff she said not a bad word about anyone i think tamera was pure trailer trash from day one and was NOT the hottest house wife she was cruel and nasty and jeleous ! i think vicki and tamera make good friends they are as screwed up and pathetic as each other !

Tamra,

Lauri was so much nicer to you when you first joined the show than you were to gretchen. You and lauri are both hot but your younger. You are much hotter than alot of women and alot of women don't treat you the way you treat others when their jealous. I don't think you really care about gretchen and jeff's relatinship that much, and gretchen's morality level.

You can't always be the best looking, the richest, the smartest, the nicest, or the one with the best relatinship etc. Be grateful for what you got, your a lucky woman, cut out the cattiness.

Tamra your without question my favorite housewife on the show!
I think you are the hottest housewife!
I think you look fabulous for your age! and that you are a great mother, wife, and friend!
you keep the show entertaining!
I hope you are in the next season! and its even better then the last!

Ps. Blonde's do it better!
LOVE THE SHOW =)

I Love this show! Its true, they only show what will bring the ratings up and what will actually make more money. However in my personal opinion on Tamra is that she is such a HATER!!! It seems like once Gretchen got stuff no matter what it was she would just get all upset and start hating which led to the shit talking & the little high school attittude. lol its funny how Tamra always thinks she is so hot when in reality she's not that pretty or hot to say the least. I honestly don't understand why or how her husband is with her, it seems like he deserves someone a lot better than what he's got now. I don't understand why Tamra was always so concerned with what gretchen was doing or getting, why do you care??? you don't support her in any shape way or form, you don't feed her, you do absolutely nothing for her so why even waste your time on being so hateful? IDK anyway that's my personal opinion and how I feel about Tamra.

hey tamra!!! i love you mama!!!! your my favorite on the show!!! keep up the honesty..your def. the hottest and you know it!!! you need to bitch slap and her deadbeat daddy boyfriend ugh they are so gross!!! say it like it is sister!!!

I really enjoyed the show.I think Jeana is very positive and can see things from every angle. Tamra was an individual I least enjoyed, she is spoiled and is definately not the hottest house wife! She makes huge deals over everything and jelousy is very obvious, most girls think a pink harley is a pretty cool idea. But instead of being happy for a friend Tamra acted like a spoiled 3 year old who didnt get a toy she said she wanted first. You dont put "dibs" on anything past the age of 6. Grow up Tamra!!

all i want is to be able to purchase all the seasons of the show. me and my girls love the show. We look forward to another year of it. Please make more dvds for us to buy. Love you all.

What's the scoop? Gretchen is "Back" with her new "Marketing" blog... Selling herself and everything she can get from her fame from the show and Jeff's passing? Make up... fundraisers, saying she is "woman of the year for Leukemia"? Does she take Slade to these events, also? And wear her $65,000 diamond?? Oh, my gosh........ What has this world come to????? Is she going to be on your show next season? Please say, "no"... It is appalling that she is now the "it" girl for Leukemia??? And, her blog is 7 pages of "Whoa is ME" ... how poor she is... and how she is "getting on her feet", and then, 5 more pages of her photo ops and selling herself like a fund raising prostitute..She WILL do anything for attention!!!!!!!!She is a TRUE golddigger!!!!!!!!!!! I wonder what Jeff's family/kids think of her now?? I hope they are all well... and can soon live without being in "her" shadow forever.. It is sad how she "took over" Jeff's life/family and got her fame and fortune from his misfortune...and, people still believe her and support her... just because she puts on her act and looks pretty? Yikes!!! What a World....

Of course no one is perfect. We all have lessons to learn and improvements to make. You are no exception. Gretchen is not perfect either, but she does have a big heart. Don't judge others too harshly Tamara, you must know how it feels after reading some of the other posts. A kinder, wiser woman will hopefully emerge out of all the ugliness you brought forth from last season. I have great hope for you. You are a role model for your daughters and I know you would hate it if someone were ever as unkind to one of them, as you were to Gretchen. I wish you and your family all the best. You must know how fortunate you are.

I am sure that being a reality show, we do not see the whole person. However, I do think that you should be more giving and compassionate to people. Maybe you should volunteer somewhere and help others so you don't focus on yourself so much. I did not see the Reunion show but I am sure it was not fun based on what I have read about it. I do enjoy watching the show and I wish the best of luck to you in your future. I also pray for all of you as I think some down to earth realities might make you see things differently.

Tamra,

Were you at the Kentucky Derby in a pink/peachy dress? If not, girl, I saw your twin! If it was you, you were as beautiful as ever! Ready for Orange County to come back on!

Hi Tamra all the way from Sydney Australia.
I think your so lovely and I do understand you,no way in hell that I would not be with the one I love.That poor man not just sick but dying,if you are in love you will be there around the clock.
You are a sexy woman you have nothing to worry about.
Forget all the rest you are the best,they are all jealous
Margaret.

(fixing what is missing from previous post)
I have yet to meet someone who is perfect, so you are not alone in that department. I love the show very much. It's great to see real success in all of it's colours. I wish they would show more of all of your successes. I do admire that you can say what you are thinking the moment you think it...whether it is right or wrong...ok maybe you could think about it a moment longer but whatever!
Cheers!

Hey Tamra I am not going to pretend I know you or any of the housewives. Let's face it we only get to see bits and peices of your lives. I think it is obvious we miss alot and I think people should be more objective about the drama on the show.
I think it's great if you take negative comments and can learn something from them. Just try not to let it affect you too much. I'm not sure how true it is, but from the show you seem like your a pretty strong women, so I am sure you can handle it.
I have yet to meet someone who is perfect, so you are not wish they would show more of all of your successes! I can actually find something I like / or respect from all of the ladies on the show.
Cant wait for more!

Tamra, I think you are a wonderful, beautiful woman. I think you seem like a great wife, mother, and friend. you aren't afraid to go have some fun, while you still portray a very put together girl!

Tamra-

You are one nasty, mean spirited b****!!

Tamra, when I read your blog it just confirmed my own thoughts. Of course the producers are going to take all the drama from filming and make those into episodes, or else the show would be boring. It's just unfortunate that it portrayed you in the way that some people are now making quite rude remarks about you. I honestly LOVE you. You ARE the hottest housewife, and you have an amazing relationship with your husband and your children. I think they should show more of that on the show then anything else, because it shows you are a REAL person. You are so beautiful and full of life, and you tell it like it is. NEVER change who you are...because from what I can see you are an inspiration to A LOT of women out there!!

Tamara,
What has happened to you honey I know that Gretchen was alot but she is very young and if you remember your first season you were wierd too.. ha any way doll, I believe that hurting people hurt others, and I believe that you are going through some issues and you are hurt. I will pray for you, you should get off the tv it could really mess up your marriage. I am a therapist, take it with a grain kim

I hope this gets posted for once! Tamara you are jelous and as soon as you admit that instead of going to the lengh you have to "out Gretchen" the way you have. You Tamara have no room to talk about anybody's business. You have had your share of being a bar fly and not living a respectable life. And your son is turning out just like you. You and Vicki are both real low class Vicie needs to stop trying to beat the clock and not let "boobies" come out and play while she is hanging on some guy in a bar. Wow you two are really sad and everyone I know don't care if you and Vickie are back on the show. You want to be a rock star and you need to fix your marriages and kids instead.

Tamra, for the life of me I cant understand how a wife and mother has so much free time on her hands that she can spend it so conserned about Gretchen's life. If she has an issue with the truth, you have that same issue with class. Why you chose to do what you did in front of your friends and how ever many millions of people watching the show says far more about you than it ever could about Gretchen. Who exactly made you the ethic police, if and i do mean IF what you said is in any way true, SO WHAT? does this somehow change the way your life will be lived? Time after time, you are into everyones business. Is Slade Gay, did Gretchen Cheat? were Jeff and Gretchen really a couple? Is Jenna flawed because of the way she looks at other people and the crap she takes off of her family? How many times will you Pinkie swear to be Vicki's bff? why is it that trying to make other people seem less, somehow makes you feel like more? This is so high school its unbelievable. Please get a life, clean up your own family and learn to keep your mouth shut. you have so much growing up to do and for your familay's sake I hope you finally begin to do just that.

You were just stating the obvious, about Gretchen, a lil blunt, but someone had top call her out, and you knew about her lil fling on the side.. so i think you just said the truth

Your MEAN, which makes you UGLY...let me think..yep my mind hasn't change you are more than a MEAN GIRL your NASTY SCUM!

Mean girls always take the easy route and said like you did...My bad I was ignorant about how I approached Gretchen...her being a guest at your dinner party and you wanting to get her "naked drunk". What a way to treat your invited guest! Then to attack her on national TV about nothing that concerns you! Have some dignity for yourself. Don't whine about the editing and then do it in front of every one AGAIN!

You and Vikki together are raunchy and have no scuples! I think you both are retarded and insane!

Do you think if you had asked that guy not to to call you again (you were fishing for dirt on Gretchen you couldn't help yourself), and blocked him then you would feel the need to burst at the seams. But you made it your business (B&^CH)! WTF! He wanted to be a celeb and you let him. You idiot, why else would he call you?

I love that Jeana told you how mean you were being. YOU SUCK Dumb @SS!

Hello mean girl. You have no grace and normally I would over look it. But you were even mean to Gretch (who is the most thoughtful of the housewives. You my dear were hurtful and mean for the whole season. I loved you in the first season. Now you suck.

Hello mean girl. You have no grace and normally I would over look it. But you were even mean to Gretch (who is the most thoughtful of the housewives. You my dear were hurtful and mean for the whole season. I loved you in the first season. Now you suck.

No matter how you try to explain your vicious ways, you are still a very nasty woman. What you need to do is learn to think before you speak and no matter what, Gretchen's youthful and sweetness persona will always prevail over who you are. You say you weren't jealous? What business is it of yours what Gretchen does with her life or not? Do you put food on her table or pay her rent? Ummm, no you don't. I hope they don't bring you next season, you and Vicki take the cake for being stupid idiotic women who give the rest of us OC wives a very poor representation and bad reputation. I'm glad you believe that you are all that, I guess at the end of the day someone has to right? You are pathetic.

Not nice Tamra, you are a mother and a wife, not a judge and a jury. You would think the problems you have had in your own family would make you more compassionate & less likely to judge. It does not even matter what the "truth" is about Gretchen, your behavior was embarrassing and some humility & restraint of tongue & pen would go a long way! Glad you realize your mistakes & look forward to seeing a kinder person going forward. Enjoy your beautiful family.

tamera,

Omg i cant belive how much of a liar you are! You are sooo jealous of Gretchen! Just be honest for once and admit it! I felt sooo srry for Gretchen this season cuz u were being a real witch! You even tried to get her drunk that just shows how low you are! I think you should grow up and get a life!

Tamra,

I hope you a reveling in you outing Gretchen on the finale. Everything is starting to blow up in her face and people are starting to realize what REALLY happened. I'm glad you spoke the truth!

I am sure that much of what is televised is what they want the viewers to see. Obviously, heated topics are more juicy that say going food shopping. However, I feel that a good portion of what comes out is factual and, when one sees how they behave, they realize it and are not very happy. I'm not perfect either but I do try to put my best self forward and that means not being judgmental on others and theirs lives. I try to build others up, not tear them down. I would recommend, in the future, think twice before you say something because, in the end, it will come back to haunt you. It's a good thing to see someone wearing a nice dress and make a nice comment. If you don't like the dress, don't say anything. I think you'll like yourself more and won't feel bad in the end. That way, they can't find fault with you if you're nice (although I've heard people say about me that I can't always be that nice).

Tamara,
This past season I didn't understand why you were so different, so mean? Now, I do! I even made an old post condemning your behavior towards Gretchen at your party. WELL, after reading some news, etc. I realize where you were coming from! Gretchen had us all fooled! I know that you knew A LOT about Gretchen but chose the higher ground to not say anything during the show. Gretchen is a piece of work (read some posts and blogs about her) and is now dating Slade! How convenient and business savvy! They'll probably have their own Bravo show! I'm really disappointed that Bravo producers chose this woman to be on the show! It must have been difficult to do the show knowing what you knew! I wish more people knew the real story about her! Team Tamara!

Please guys....this issue is over & dead! Gretchen did or did not cheat on Jeff and it's still no one's business but theirs. Period. Tamra tried to pull an "aha...gotcha!" on national t.v. and it backfired on her. The sane viewers out there realized that Tamra was deperate to humiliate Gretchen and take some of the heat off herself. Instead, she is even more hated and Gretchen is even more adored. It really doesn't matter whether the story was true or not. If it IS true, it was between Gretchen & Jeff and Tamra was out of line in announcing it to the audience. If it ISN'T true, then I give a hell of alot of credit to Gretchen for not ripping Tamra apart on the spot. Either way, it's none of our business, so please let it GO.

Tamara,

You are so conceited, and NOT deservedly so!! You are NOT all that, and the only reason you don't like Gretchen is because SHE is the hottest housewife, and NOT YOU!!!

The ugliest part about you is inside!! And your ugly inside makes you ugly on the outside!! You are two faced, back stabbing and mean!! Show some humilty once in awhile, and admit it that you are NOT all that!!!

To read Jeff's ex-wife's letter - go to "Reality Tea" and type in the search box "Gretchen Rossi" and click on Jeff Beitzel's Daughter Defends Gretchen.......

Hey there,

My comment is just a general comment about the women on the show but thought it best to post it on Tamra's Blog as I feel (from the footage shown)Tamra was the most unkind.
I do not know any of the women on the show personally of course so I am not trying to make any personal attacks. I like watching the show it is entertaining I just wish women did not have to treat each other the way you do.
Unfortunately women are their own worst enemy, the actions and discussions on the show are like they are back in high school. Isn't it bad enough that girls go through this who's in the cool group and who isn't mentality at school let alone when you are a grown women.
I was in the "cool" group at school and to be honest couldn't wait to leave school. I just wish women would stop treating each other so badly it's ridiculous.
That type of behaviour is certainly not something I would want my children seeing on TV. We need to teach our children how to treat people better and how we would want to be treated. Nothing is perfect I know but trying is at least something.
The way the women talk about each other behind their backs and behave is a little sad to watch to be honest.

TAMARA YOU EFFIN ROCK!!! I HELLA LOVE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. FORGET THE HATERS AND KEEP BEING HOT!!! YOU STILL R THE MOST GLAM BESIDES LAURIE, N I LOVE YA BUNCHES. GRETCHEN IS A FAKE AZZ GOLD DIGGN HOE. IM SO SORRY FOR WAT SHE WENT THRU, BUT REAL RECONGNIZES REAL. AND YOU SAW RIGHT THRU HER N WERE NOT AFRAID TO VOICE UR OPINION..SO PLEASE STAY ON THE SHOW, KEEP TELLING IT LIKE IT IS N STAY FAB!!!!! WE LOVE U N HOUSTON!!!!!!

I would love to read Jeff's ex, Sharon's letter that was supposedly posted on "Reality Tea"; but I can't find it!
If anyone can locate it, please post! thanks!

You are honest and I appreciate your judge of character.

I think you are awsome I love everything you do and the way you do it. You are the only one thats says it like it is. Keep it up Girl. Umm Gretchen needs to step up or step off. Embarrasing she is a Texas girl..yuk I am from Tx I hate that. And ah she does not have a major in Phsyc. yeah!!!!!!!!! I wish you and your beautiful family the best and cant waith to see you on the television.
Thanks for the great show...
Janie

Tamara,

Life has a strange way of teaching each of us the lessons that come from being a mere mortal human, sooner or later - humility, compassion, grief, joy, sorrow, love, hate - the whole spectrum of good to bad.

The bad news is that the lessons that bring human beings more understanding, more gratitude, and deeper compassion - the ones that curb us of our more intolerant, arrogant and judgemental ways - they almost always involve some significant measure of suffering on our own part. It is clear from watching last season that you haven't yet experienced some of these lesson that life has in store for all of us. You have too many blessings - health, wealth, children, family, husband, etc. - to behave so badly to others who may not have the same.

Maybe when you and Gretchen do finally get the chance to "talk things out and get past all the BS", you'll be big enough to admit you should have discussed your issues with her in private rather than confront her in an on-air forum the way you did.

It was difficult for me to watch the way several of you ladies treated Gretchen, who had never done anything unkind to any of you - regardless of what any of you may think of her.

One of the many blessings that usually come with age is wisdom, and you will be a better person for it, if you demonstrate a little of it when/if you decide to eventually make amends with her. I'm older than both of you, and see some of each of you in myself at varying times in my life, so I hope these words will be helpful to you in the future - it's the only motivation that I have in sharing them with you here.

I'm holding out hope that you aren't really the mean girl I saw last season, but perhaps just a good woman who behaved meanly in a few particular situations, and that you will let a little more of your compassionate wisdom shine through when you get the opportunity. Peace to both of you.

as an avid "OC" viewer - I love all the ladies back from season three and admire each one for a variety of reasons-but I was so saddened to learn of Gretchen's secret life and I really do admire Tamara for exposing he truth -in light of the man passing even a lie detector-so thanks again ladies you are the very best of all "The Real Houseewives"!!!!!!

We all hope that Nene kicks Gretchen's butt in the A-List Awards... !!!!!!!!!!

I hope you aren't on next season you, and Vicki seem way too busy living up to all the double standards you two have!

Maybe Tamra can get a sigh of relief now.. Today, the results of that Jay guy's 2 polygraph tests were posted. He was telling the truth about his relationship with Gretchen, etc. Jeff's ex. wife told the truth about Gretchen and the lies her kids have had to endure. Maybe all of these bloggers with "GOD" (Gretchen Obsessive Disorder)..will follow Gretchen elsewhere (whatever new show/media attention that Gretchen/Slade, etc., do next to keep making money/getting their photos posted every chance they get to stay in the limelight..be it good, bad, or ugly)...and stop picking on Tamra, Vicki, Jeana, etc., for exposing Gretchen's fake persona and lies that she has perpetuated all season. If the girl is so distraught and heart broken over her fiancee's death, and she "truly loved him" as she states over and over, why has she been out in the public dating, being photographed, and living with other men immediately after his death...and probably before and during... his awful illness/and while filming the show? The girl's a nutcase..a Narcissist and believes her own web of lies. Please get her off of the OC Wives next season??

I knew you were right, about Gretchen, from the beginning,,I totally got that you weren't jealous about her and you just hated her lying and playacting the whole time,,good for you for your honesty,,by the way it makes me wonder why in the world anybody would think you had any reason to be jealous of a phony like Gretchen,,and in the looks department there is no comparision,,

READ the article that Jeff's ex. wife, Sharon, wrote today on the "Reality Tea" site. It is a very interesting and heartfelt letter for all fans to read. Sharon explains the truth and defends her children's honor and expresses how awful Gretchen acted and how this all has affected her kids. She also expresses her gratitude to Tamra for finally letting the truth come out. She says she feels that Tamara was very strong to bring the truth out, despite all of the backlash Tamra had to take afterward. Hopefully, people will stop being so "star struck" over Gretchen and back off of Tamra. I have always felt sorry for Jeff's poor kids. They have to live with the media circus in their lives, now, thanks to Gretchen and Jeff.

I'm on your side Tamra. I would have looked as bad as you did, or worse.
I really hate it when people lie to me and so I can understand you were hurt and angry that Gretchen lied. The worst thing about me is I hold a grudge against anyone who lies.

You and your family are not Gretchen's type. I think she is a gold-digger and has no shame. I can't believe that her family is not ashamed of her and her up-bringing.
I know my family would practically disown me if I acted as shamelessly as she does.

Be true to your real friends and family and never mind women like her.
Be true to yourself and never stoop to her level.

p.s. don't ever let your guard down around people like Gretchen. She will act like your friend then step all over you. We already know she is a good pretender.

Aloha

I was the BIGGEST fan of you!! I thought you brought fresh life onto the show!! But this season I'm not so sure that you carried yourself well. I'm sure that you hate liars, but how you came across was mean. Unfortunately when you get involved with reality tv, they will edit, but ANYTHING you say will come back to haunt you.

Watching the reunion show, and Tamra your grammer is a joke. You said, If I saw what you saw." What a low class person you are.

There is a time and a place for comments and physical reactions- you need to be aware of yourself. You can judge all you want- you will be accountable one for your actions one day.

You don't have to be sorry for what you said or didn't say because you are the "Hotest houswife." You make the show Tamra... Keep it real just like you always do...

Tamra was the only one who had the nerve to tell the truth about Gretchen's fake story and fake acting throughout the season. Many of the viewers knew/sensed/read these things, but, there were so many stupid viewers who bought Gretchen's fake acting and sob story that they never posted anything negative or questions people had about her. Gretchen never belonged on this show. Many of us feel that she ruined the season by taking over the real purpose/premise of the "housewives", mothers/women with careers and family. We had to watch her flirt. flaunt, and make it look OK to exploit a very old. ill, rich man. That's a poor example/role model for young women. I am sure that Tamra, Vicki, Lynne would not want their daughters acting the way that she did.. The young viewers just don't get it. They think all of the cast were "jealous" of Gretchen? More like "disgusted" that she took advantage of everyone for her own fame/attention, and glory. Had she been on a show for younger people, she'd just be another girl like the ones on those other shows, like "Millionaire Match", "Girls Next Door", "Kardashian Girls", whatever. They make it look "glamorous" for a young women to "sell herself" to TV, rich men with their fake Barbie looks and all it really is seems to be is just like "high priced prostitution".

you can blame things on editing but the truth is you are a shallow vindictive person. You cannot blame editing for the fact that you purposefully set out with a wish or plan to "get Gretchen drunk," and then you couldn't even admit the truth!! Whatever Gretchen is you are the one that made an ass of yourself! Have decided never to watch again I value my time too much to waste watching this kind of insanity.

If you were a nice person, then all the editing in the world couldn't "make" you look like the terrible person we saw ALL season on T.V. No one on this show is perfect, everybody had flaws, but you had a lot more than the rest. You would think that someone with your looks would at least have a good personality, but you don't have that either...

has anyone read the Oc Register today? Tamara was totally right, Gretchen was dating that creepy guy!!

You are so awesome and I now get why you acted the way you did. I completely agree with how you "outed" Gretchen. You put lot of questions about your actions into perspective. And you go for calling that witch Gretchen out on always being a victim.

You go girl! She couldnt even keep her story straight. Everyones hating you on you, but now Greedy Gretchens lies are coming out.