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You are so awesome and I now get why you acted the way you did. I completely agree with how you "outed" Gretchen. You put lot of questions about your actions into perspective. And you go for calling that witch Gretchen out on always being a victim.

You go girl! She couldnt even keep her story straight. Everyones hating you on you, but now Greedy Gretchens lies are coming out.

Up until this season I enjoyed you on the show. However blame it on the editing or whatever, it was surprising to see the immaturity and disrespect that was displayed on your behalf. You claim to be a devoted wife, mom and friend, but yet your actions displayed otherwise. The circle of life and karma can be challenging, I hope it doesn't hit you too hard. But then again your selfishness may have you think on a whole different level. I feel you may need to rethink your priorities of life, maybe start with yourself.....

Tamra,
You nailed it when you said you could not understand why someone would want to be on reality TV during the time their loved one needs them the most. This is so much more than a weekend at the lake.
At first I thought you were being to harsh with Gretchen but you knew alot more than us. If Gretchen did not want her personal life exposed for what it really is she should never have been on reality tv. I feel sorry for Jeff's family to be caught in the middle of all this. It was not fair to him to live his last months like this.
If Gretchen comes back next season - we will all be expecting you to hold your own. You were awesome this season.

Oh ya i forgot, i think you should print up some cute Team Tamra t-shirts and sell them online, i would buy one for sure!!! Email if you decide to take my advice, i'll be your first customer.

We all know the women are mean and vindictive. You showed that to everyone. I have a question for ya. If that were your best friend doing that, would you have exposed her on national t.v.? Or did you just do that because your jealous of her? Why didn't you do that when Jeff was around so he could defend his self? Do you not have respect for the deceased? Why do you care so much about her life? Do you make friends that easily with stalkers?

Oh Tamra i like to say you made the show worth watching. this was with your. Willingness to put ur self down and come across as a jelous person so that you and your ignorance and your trashing Gretchen who is defitnally the hottest house wife from oc. Sorry lady your time past when you turned into a Vicky mini me. Thank you for the degrating entertaiment.

Tamra...........just remember what goes around comes around. I do hope it comes back and bites you in the ass for being so hateful!

Tamra-Thank you for telling us the truth about Grethen. I wondered why you acted the way you did...and why she did. If she truly loved him, she would have been at his side and skipped the show. She would have married him in the hospital. When you confronted her on the reunion, her looks and comment "that didn't have anything to do with my story line" said it all. No wonder why he asked for his "ex" to stay at the hospital that day she had lunch with Jeana...it was a sham! Shame on Bravo for not looking into this too! Tamra, come back next season and give 'em all h**l again!

go girl for telling the truth about gretchen. We watch this show and hope it is real and not scripted. Nice to know someone has the nerve to keep it real.

Girl you keep it real. Please do not change. Love you and be encourage! You make the show with you wonderful personality and beautiful family.

Gretchen you are my favorite housewife love ya girl!
And the whole season i questioned Gretchen like why would someone that young and beautiful want to be with someone whos is the same age as their own father! I mean its totally messed up. I think you are so much fun and goodluck with whatever you do girlfriend. You and Vicki are the best! DONT CHANGE! Your gorgeous girl!

LOVE YOU TAMARA! BE WHO YOU ARE YOU ARE MY FAVORITE HOUSEWIFE, I DO NOT LIKE GRETCHEN !!!!!!!!!!!!SHE IS A FAKE SHE IS NOT REAL, THANK YOU FOR CALLING HER OUT!!!!!!!!

Tamra,
Regardless to all of the things that happened with Gretchen, you should have conducted yourself better. You should never ever stoop to someone else's level. I think the entire world knew that Gretchen was leading a double life and that's her business. It was not your place to call her out. However, I think you did it because you were jealous of her. You really showed a different side of yourself this season...one that I didn't like and one that was not cute at all. You're old enough to know better but I believe you let Vicki influence you and the whole time you called Gretchen out on the reunion, your buddy Vicki sat there and allowed you to make an azz out of yourself!!!

Tamara,
you rock! you are real on all episode. I watch you guys every sunday, keep on being you and you got my support. i knew something's up with Gretchen from the get go..... can't wait for the 5 season, my popcorn is ready hehehe

Tamara
I really do like you as one of my favorite house wives but I think you need to back off of Gretchen she really seems sweet and even though she plays dumb somtimes, you really need to give her credit for taking care of jeff when he was alive and going through those cancer treatments. Don't pretend to be her friend when you turn around and talk behind her back that very two face.

Well it was good to finally hear what you really had to say on Gretchen...it was obvious something was just not "right" the whole time. I just wished you would have brought it out during the season.

Girl, you are a mess. But I have to agree with other blogs that says that what Gretchen does with HER life is none of your business and not yours to post to the world. Jeff was not dumb and he is the one that kept her. I agree that you are very pretty, but your mouth makes you ugly in the worst way. This is a frigging TV show and what we see is what we get. We do not need to know anyone's business outside of filming no matter how nasty it is. You wonder why it wasn't on the show in the first place, duh? I'm just saying.

i truly feel that the deteriation of this show has been in the production, i felt like i was watching people in a restaurant all season. I was such an original fan of the show when it first came on. It showed real people of means with the same daily problems and how they got through them.
my biggest disappoint was gena, when that woman was losing her home and gena remarked about her commission. The irish have a saying Gena, don't spit in the wind. You are already
emotionally bankrupt, you could be financially also. I really lost all respect for you with that comment. So if there is another season i can go stand in front of a restaurant and listen to people screaming and acting silly
i certainly will pass.

I am not going to get on this blog and scream that you are my favorite, because you are not, I am not going to say that you keep it real, becuase you dont. The last time that I checked all of the women on the show are grown, if you had a real issue with Gretchen a real woman would have handled off the air or would have brought it up before then. Keeping it real does not mean keeping it in until you get in the front of the camera. As to your comment in the reunion show that it is about morality, I wanted to know at what point in your life have you become the morality meter for anyone but yourself. I am not a fan I am just a person who feels that people in glass houses should not throw stones. Now all of your "fans" can respond.

Tamara,
Just want to say that you make the show worth watching.

You did nothing wrong. Gretchen needs to get her life together...and her lies. Ignore these people who say you have no morals. I didn't know it was a crime to have a good time every once in a while. I can't wait for next season!!!

I'm on team Tamra :<) the whole show makes a lot more sense after hearing what was really going on.

I love watching all these Housewives shows. The one thing I have learned their money hasn't bought any of them is couth! Perhaps, there are more well mannered bums freezing on LA Streets...This is America.

Tamara,
Girl I love you! You don't need to apologize to ANYONE. I just listened to the 911 tape w/Gretchen and her boytoy, Jay. I NEVER TRUSTED HER! She was tramsparent and you called her out of all her lies. Love you and don't let the negative comments stop you from being you! HATERS!

You're claiming Gretchen was cheating on Jeff with Jay,what I would like to know is how Jay got your phone number and kept calling you but you are married and have children.... Interesting!!!!

Grow up! you acted like a child when Gretchen got a motorcycle and you didn't get the one you wanted. And you do look alot older than her, face it you look just as old as your best friend Vickie.

Tamra, Thank you, thank you, thank you for exposing the real Gretchen. I was right there with you the entire season with doubts about her character and sure enough, the truth comes out!! I just read about her with that 911 call and she is such a liar! I'm so glad you called her out. I love brutal honesty. Again, thank you !

girl i love you. i love the way you lay it out there.you tell it like it is.there are times you go a little crazy but i think you are a good person deep down.gretchen is fake and as i watch the show i believe you told the true about jay.just watch out .now that her sugar daddy is gone and no disrepect to him .she migt go after your husband.

As long as you are yourself and not fake, you have nothing to worry about. Who say an adult with children cannot have a good time?

i finally got around to seeing the reunion. GO TAMARA!!! Gretchen needed to be called out, good for you! I agree what she did dating that other guy while she was with Jeff is totally SICK! she is one messed up girl! good for you for bringing attention to it! by far my favorite season, your amazing, keep it up!

Tamra I have accepted you as one of my favorite housewives since the first time I saw you. You are so hilarious, real and relatable. I live in Maine so everything I see in the OC seems so un realistic to me, like something I will never get to experience. I loved the episode when you went to see your dad, I was so happy for you, and I think it showed everyone a different side of Tamra, that we had never seen before. I find you and Lauri to be most intriging of all the Housewives. Jeana and Vicki are great too, but not my faves. But I have to say when it comes to you and Gretchen... I'm team Tamra all the way. Gretchen is so fake, she was obviously using Jeff - I mean seriosuly, if Jeff was just an ordinary guy with an ordinary bank account she wouldn't have had anything to do with him. I love that you tell her how it is!! Keep it coming Tamra, you rock!!

I LOVE TAMRA!

hottest housewife ever, and the people that are talkin shit and callin you jealous - YOU GUYS ARE OBVIOUSLY JEALOUS!

Tamra~

Please Tamra, don't listen to the folks saying mean things about you! The reason you are liked is that you are real, and say what you think. Who hasn't said something inappropriate at one time or another....we just don't have camera around. All these mean and intolerant people screaming that you should be kind and tolerant is ridiculous!Keep your chin up, your spirits high, and realize that everyone makes mistakes....anyone who believed Gretchen is denying the truth. She commanded attention, blamed her bad behavior on everyone else, and was just a floozy! At least you accepted responsibility for your actions. You are a great mother, friend and have nothing to be ashamed of! You said what everyone with a brain and a conscious was thinking!!!

Wow! I can't believe there are people like you out there! Yeah, you speak your mind and are probably 100% right about Gretchen, but that is not for YOU to judge! You aren't perfect by any means, and are not as GREAT as you think you are in your own mind. None of you are! (Except maybe Lynne. She is really pretty cool). You are people like everyone else and just because you have money and married rich husbands, doesn't make you special, it just makes you pretty damn lucky. Instead of spending all that money on yourselvs, why don't you use it to help people less fortunate than you? You would gain sooooo much more respect and probably feel better about yourself. You ALL need to stop being so money orientated and catty, and just be real.

First of all, you are human first. You are my favorite housewife on the show ever since you came apart of the family.

You are so real and if you don't like someone, you show it. I don't think you were jealous of Gretchen in the way that everyone else think you were. Any woman on this blog would stand next to Gretchen and get a little insecureor a little jealouse, so forgot what they say.

I just really think you didn't like her, I didn't know why until the reunion show. Which was really the best show in the world thanks to you. I was so entertain, it was better than the whole season of episodes.

Just keep your head up and keep being you. You are a wonderful person and I love you on the show. Keep up the good work.

Well KUDOS for you Tamra!!! You are by far 2 things alot of woman would like to be, Beautiful and REAL! Next Week will Rock!!!

In case everyone forgot... Gretchen had a man calling Tamra's house when she is supposed to be engaged to Jeff.

First I would like to say I think you and Gretchen are both pretty hot and there is enough to go around there doesn't have to be just one you know. I just think Gretchen's life and what she does or did with Jeff is none of your business and it wasn't your place to put it out there like you did. If you had a problem with what was going on with Gretchen you should have just stayed away from her instead of pretending to be her friend and being fake about the situation. Who the hell cares what any of you do behind closed doors we watch the show to see your characters as the show portrays them and I could careless who is doing what off camera. I'm sure you have some skeletons in you closet sweetheart and you better be careful because what comes around goes around. As sure as you were hell-bent on exposing Gretchen someone out there is hell-bent on exposing you!!!! Remember always treat people with kindness no matter what you perceive them to be or not be it is not our place to judge or be judged by others.

Where can we view the episode when you/the OC wives were on the Bonnie Hunt show? In the Phila. area, the show started late due to some kind of game that ran over, etc., and when the show came on, they had already run the segment with the OC wives. I went to her website, but, it is not posted. I e-mailed a while ago, but that video was never posted with the other clips she has on her site. Does anyone know where this video cam be seen? Thanks..

tamra you are the hottes house wife bye far

TAMRA! YOU ARE FREAKEN HILARIOUS! AND UMMM... ANYBODY WITH A BRAIN COULD REALIZE THAT SITUATION WITH GRETCHEN AND JEFF WAS OBVIOUSLY EMBELLISHED... AND OF COURSE THERE IS SO MUCH MORE THE CAMERAS DON'T SHOW, I COULD ONLY IMAGINE HOW BAD SHE LOOKS WITHOUT ALL THAT DONE UP GLITZ AND GLAM, HELL IF I HAD A SUGAR DADDY LIKE THAT, ID LOOK THAT GOOD TOO! ANYWAY, DON'T LET PEOPLE TALK BAD ABOUT YOU FOR CALLING IT LIKE YOU SEE IT! IM SURE GRETCHEN CARED FOR HIS WELL BEING BECAUSE SHE IS A PERSON, BUT IM SURE IT WAS A LOT EASIER WITH ALL THAT "BLING" IN HER OWN WORDS....THANKS FOR REPRESENTING US SO CAL GIRLS RIGHT!

Personally, I believe Tamara on the issue of Gretchen/Jay. During the reunion show, the look on Gretchens face when she was asked about Jay, especially when asked "was he at Bass Lake", she really appeared to be lying. She was very inconsistent in how she described her relationship w/him, at first she made him sound like just an aquaintence, then suddenly he was an old, dear friend and exboyfriend. She is a very smooth talking and likeable gal at face value, but on the reunion show, she was really backpeddling.

I would love to disect all of the people who are on here writing the cruelest comments about you. As if they are in some way, perfect. I'm sure people could go on and on about them and what horrible people they are if snip-its of their lives were edited and put on a reality show. You people are in no way better than what you are so outraged about.
Tamra, I think you're funny and have a fantastic family. I can't wait to see you and the other ladies on the show next season! It is definitley the best out of all of the "Real Housewives" series!

Wow, all of these negative people are so pathetic! Why go on a web site and post terrible things about people?
I think Tamra hit it right on the nose the entire time with Gretchen. She is everything Tamra claims. Why would she say Jay is a stalker and then go on to say that he went on vacation with her and her family WHILE her "fiance" was in the hospital, and then say he is a good friend all is the span of 3 minutes??? Ya, pretty obvious!

Tamra, your the reason that so many women find it hard to trust other women. Plain and simple, you're a backstabber.
Pathetic!

I think you carry yourself beautifully and with so much class. I love that you're yourself and you change for no one! keep your head up and your confidence high like you always do. Remember, Confidence it the best accessory!

Wow, it seems that everyone loves to hate Tamra. I like her moxy, and, yes, we all want her back because who wants to be an outcast among gossip about the RHOC? Thank you, BRAVO, for bringing all the "housewives" to our livingroom.

Yep, that is right what other the other posts claim about you being mean and jealous. You really need to GROW UP!!
You act like a child. You can't keep blaming "editing" for all your stupid comments. You give them the stuff to film. You really can't put class into someone who truly doesn't have it to begin with. You can't the trailer park out of a girl no matter what. You are just an old insecure women and guess what, you will always be.

I agree with everyone thats says your just jealous, I mean I know you must've seen yourself on TV and though ,Oh man I look bad, and decided to clean it all up with the excuses you gave. I know it must be hard getting old and not looking as pretty as you once where and I think you took it all out on the youngest prettiest housewife. I don't think Gretchen was an angel but I think it just wasn't any of your business how her and Jeff handled their lives. She might have lied to everyone but I pretty sure Jeff new exactly what the deal was and the truth is she stood by his side when it mattered. You Tamara became obsessed with making her look bad and made yourself look bad in the process. I would respect you and Vickie much more if you just flat out said , yea we are mean, instead of , oh my they portrayed us wrong.

Tamra,
If the show portrays you as being mean, then only give them material that shows you as being the nice girl. Some how they got enough footage of you to do it. Don't stoop to that level. Keep your mouth shut about stuff that shouldn't matter to you anyways. It's not like you were best friends with Gretchen and Jeff.
Focus on yourself and your family and give them only the good side of Tamra. Then what what will the show do?
It can only help you...

I dont hate you I hate the way you acted, it was sad and pathetic. I feel sorry for you, you have to really be unhappy with yourself to continualy beat someone down to make yourself look better. Is that how your mother raised you?? Better yet is that how you want to raise your children?? Grow up and stop putting effort into everyone elses life and start paying attention to your own.Maybe firing your nanny so you can be a mom would be something for you to consider.
That edicate class hasnt done much for you! Go get some professional help!!

Tamara,

I cannot believe that you were "searching" for another word on the last show and that you have never used "that word before." You have a lot to learn and apparently what I have suspected about you all along is true. You have no class, you are uneducated and quite frankly are lacking people skills on top of everything else. Grow up and start behaving like an adult instead of a child. Honestly, even at the reunion show you behaved like a child. I am at the point now, that when you are speaking I am muting the TV because I am not interested in what you have to say, as it is unimportant and uninteresting, not to mention ignorant. Just please, stop talking! As far as your comment about Thank God It Is Over! PLEASE BY ALL MEANS DON'T COME BACK!

I seem to remember Jeff in one of the beginning episodes making a comment about Gretchen which was something on the order of she makes me happy now. With 5 exes apparently he other women have made him happy "now" before. I think the truth about Jeff was that he enjoyed having a beautiful woman on his arm. He enjoyed looking like a sugar daddy. He did not want to appear to be sick and weak. This was true @ the racetrack. He pranced around with her. She is beautiful and he must have been larger than life when he was well. You could see the look on the faces of people they greeted there they were suprised at his appearance and seemed very concerned and wishing him the best.

I think Tamara was so out there trying to get Gretchen drunk on purpose. Gretchen played along--like when she played along with Vicki in Las Vegas, maybe? Maybe Gretchen is really shining the housewives and the viewers on. She knows how competitive both Vicki & Tamara are so I am sure she knew it would "stir the pot" to claim the martini & Harley. Does anyone really think she was real in any of the crying scenes?

I have to agree with anyone who felt that the Harley thing at the final party was totally self serving. But then the advertisement Tamara gave the jewelry store where Simon designed her bracelet was just as self serving.

I would hope that the "reality" of what I am seeing is not fabricated either by the participants, editor or a producer. But, I am not stupid enough to think that what I am seeing is real--between the product placement, and freebee getaways, lunches, dinners, etc., sometimes it is more like an infomercial. But still I watch and have my comments. I really think if the real truth is told it would fetch more attention and higher ratings to the
show(s). Think about it Bravo--all the stuff the Housewives try to hide--I would watch.

"What a relief this season is over, to me it was the season from hell"

You can't possibly think you'll be over your jealousy issues next year can you? As though the hellishness of this year was not self inflicted? You are Vicki are well matched in your ability to self-delude.

You might have money, but you are morally piss-poor. It's rather funny that you think you are so much better than everyone, however, it's obvious not to many people agree with you. There is nothing sexy about an insecure woman with no self confidence. I'm embarrassed for you. What does your family think about the way you act? I hope you put as much time and effort into your little ones as you do in running your mouth. You tried to bring on the tears throughout different episodes, but I never actually saw the tears. So my last question to you is should I feel sorry for you or hand you an oscar?

Tamra, You are awesome! I don't think your a "mean girl". I don't like that you are being thrown into the mean pool with Vicki ( a total tool). Vicki is a "mean girl". She is just a mess. That is plain to see...so don't let other people influence you. Clearly, you are beautiful, have a great life and have an awesome family.
I love watching the show...and LOVE watching you!

Denise Tamra, I think what you said about Gretchen is true and at least you have the right idea of what a wife should be. I think you lack class and all the money in the world cant buy that, its just something youre born with and you were not.

I have to say as a mother-to a 31 weeker preemie baby-that I would NEVER say 90% of the things that come out of your mouth. You have young children and you party and talk like a whore. Which leads me to say that you ARE jealous of Gretchen because you AREN'T the hottest housewife, never have been, never will be. You really are just a washed up teenage mom who happen to stumble apon a rich man while you were,what?,stripping? Please get over yourself and TRUELY focus on your family and stop throwing stones at glass houses

I agree with you, thank God this season is over. It was pretty pathetic wathing you and Vicki act the way y'all did. How humiliating for your family to know that all of America got to see how their mothers behave, and you the self-proclaimed morality police! what a laugh that was to hear you talk about morality!! Also Gretchen is a single woman, engaged does not = married, she is still single, or was at that time, so she has every right to sleep with whomever she chooses. I would also stop blaming the "editing" for everything, because it was obvious to everyone I know that watches the show,that your only real problem with Gretchen was old-fashion jealousy.

Ok, so I read most of these posts and thought for the most part they were idiotic.
Tamra is right. Lori had issues to deal with and put her family first. Gretchen who claimed to love Jeff should have done the same and not be on the show in the first place. When my father was sick my mother visited him in the hospital before she went to work, during her lunch break and immediately after work. She did grocery shopping on Saturdays and visited him then too and after church on Sundays. Gretchen had absolutely no excuse to be frolicking when her "loved one" was on his death bed. By the way did anyone see how she showed off her gigantic ring as if that was all that matter?

I really do not believe that Tamra nor Vikki envied Gretchen, rather the other way around. The pink Harley Davidson and Vikki's blue cheese martini, does any one remember those things? The whole letter read at the farewell party was such a ploy it wreaked of Gretchen and her dad. And I am also happy she did not get her paws into Jeff's money. She really takes on the persona of other people and there is nothing genuine about her.

Jeanna tries to find the best in everyone and tried with Gretchen, but nothing is there. Gretchen tried to hold Tamra responsible for the drinking, but who held Gretchen responsible for rubbing her crotch on Vikki's husband. Also just to show how much she wanted Tamra's life, she kept flirting with Simon and referencing his name while talking to Ryan.

Now remember when they all went to lunch and were talking about sex and Gretchen said that if you really wanted to you can find ways to do it? Was that a reference to Jay? Why would Tamra lie about a strange man calling her home and Jeanna who does not have anything against Gretchen speak about Jay's clothes on Gretchen's FLOOR? If she did not appear guilty before, well she sure looked guilty then. Also if this man was stalking her, why would he be at Bass Lake with her family, go to dinners with Jeanna and Gretchen and Lynn and Gretchen? Think people this cannot be a fabrication. Oh and what mess does she usually get into that Jeff helps to get her out of? When pathological liars speak pay close attention because their stories never add up.

Leave Tamra and Vikki alone and call Gretchen out on her bullshit. No one should put an ailing loved one through all that crap. Take a page from Lori's book.

Don't really like Vikki that much, but with both her and Tamra on this one.

Where is the consideration for Jeff's family? This man lost his life. Tlthough I hate a liar as well, there are children involved, ex-wives etc..people who he really loved and loved him in return. The duplicity that is called Gretchen could be true but then how do we know to trust this Jay person either. Whatever the two of them have is their demons to bear. I just wish that in all the mudslinging someone, especially you Tamra, would have thought twice about your reveal on the reunion show. I understood it on one hand but it made you look really nasty and vengeful on the other. I don't think that is actually who you are just based on your honesty about your dad and how that has affected your life, marriage etc.

I'm sure by now you are tired of reading how horrible and idiotic you are...but here is just one more comment you will read. I want to say that in each and every episode you sound like a child that needs all the attention on themselves. To watch you and Vicky together, its like watching a High School reality TV show. This might as well have been "Laguna Beach: the real OC". The two of you hardly act your age on the show and I'm sure your children are ashamed of you behavior. I know your probably saying to yourself "if you don't like it turn the channel" and sadly I will if there is a season to come, because I don't know if I can handle another season of you trying so hard to be the "hottest housewife" when in reality you are a forty-something wife who should spend more time with your kids then whoring out yourself on TV.

Tamra is not only green with envy, she's also black with hatred. She won't keep me from watching the show next season, I'll just turn down the sound and look away during her segments. Lynne and Gretchen are the only real housewives who actually seem like people I would like to know.

I think your jealous of how everyone is better than you. You cant compare by any means possible. Your just another mid-west girl who got on the band wagon. I think the part of the show about your father was all fake. But if its true you deserve it that he left you. You can never have that back. I also know that your son is Gay cause he goes to West Hollywood I have seen him there more than a few times. He tries to act like he is not by going after your friends that you bring home. Trust and Believe.

I have watched you girls since the first season, and have never missed an episode! When this season began I thought that you and Vicki were being "mean girls" however when the real facts came out at the reunion show, and my mom (whom I got hooked to the show) pointed out that Gretchen was on vacay for Jeff's last days made me realize that maybe perhaps if this would have been brought up in the season viewers would think differently! I still love the show and Tamra I'm glad you spoke up! Can't wait for next season! WooHoo!!!!

Although I may not agree with everything that you had said or done, at least you were honest and true to yourself. There was something about Gretchen's character that seemed odd- like she was hiding something or living a lie. I am proud of you for sticking to your guns and saying what was on your mind- about everyone on the show. If this show is supposed to be a reality show, shouldn't it capture your true opinions about everyone? You were real and honest and I don't think anyone has a right to judge you for it. Some of the other women played to the cameras and wanted themselves to shine through in some kind of unrealistic 'look at how great we are' way.
As far as some of these people here who are bad mouthing you and the show (especially the one who let her young child watch- GREAT parenting on her part!) if they don't like it, don't watch. I love the show - I can't wait for the next season. I hope the best for you and your family!

Hi Tamra, love your show and just want to let you know that you are one of my favorites. Hope to see you back on the show next season.

Thanks for confirming what I knew all season. Gretchen is a duplicitous, attention-grubbing actress- wannabee. At no point did I believe that she was in love with Jeff. Love would not allow a woman to make her focus a parade for attention while the man she supposedly loved lay dying. I also found it quite interesting that she chose to divulge Jeff’s death in her last blog in order to diffuse her deplorable behavior at your dinner party where she made her lack of respect and genuine love for Jeff so clear. But, I guess it worked because most of the comments were poor Gretchen, sorry for your loss. One for Gretchen; perfect time to drop that bit of information. Though it’s quite odd she didn’t do it at the reunion, since he didn’t die until after filming was over.
Sure, there were certainly things that you said this season that made me cringe, but all in all, I think you are just a person who says whatever they think, no holds barred. My advice is not to forget when the cameras are on because once it’s out there, you can’t take it back. You’re still my fave.

oh and I use the term "Naked Wasted" all the time now. It's mine and my girls way of saying were letting loose tonight and anything could happen!! Love it!!

So first off, LOVE YOU!! You remind me of my mom and her friends. I am 25 and out of college but still love to have fun, and I love a mom who can let loose and be crazy and wild with their kids!! Second, I love that you say exactly what everyone else is thinking. Thanks for making the show so entertaining!!!

I feel really sorry for you. You seem to be so full of yourself that you don't realize how you treat other people. I wish that I was sitting on the couch during the reunion episode so that I could tell you what you need to hear. You are so jealous of Gretchen that it is really sad.

TAMRA!!!! green does not become you. Despite the excuses you make, it's more than obvious that you are desperately jealous of Gretchen. Regradless of her situation with Jeff, if there is dirty laundry to be aired, a classy woman would not air it on national TV for his surviving children to witness. Hurt her behind the scenes, if you must. In the end, only one of you looked like an fool, and it wasn't Gretchen.
Do us all a favor: either take some more etiquette lessons, or don't come back next season.
By the way, Gretchen is hotter...much hotter than you.

Tamra - I love the show but had such a horroble feeling watching the aftershow because of the way you behaved toward Gretchen. If you watch closely when you said to Gretchen "Oh God, Gretchen you're such a F****** victim" Vicki smurked and I saw truly just how deceitful you two are together. You would not have been portrayed badly if you would have left Gretchen alone from the beginning - so don't use that as an excuse. We all make mistakes. Unfortunately, you have behaved badly on national t.v. and who knows if you will ever live this one down. I still intend on watching the show and I actually do like you - I just didn't like seeing Gretchen ganged up on when it's really no one's business what she did or does now! It's because of people like you that rat out friends that make it hard for women to confide in eachother at all. And we need to able to confide in eachother! I'm not saying what Gretchen did was right - just mind your own business.

Tamra,

I am glad you kept it real this season; you always have. Why should you change. Gretchen has no one to blame but herself. People just want to take her side because Jeff was sick and has passed on. She brought you into her mess!! You did not ask for that. She is a fraud and has embaressed Jeff and his family! May God bless them. May Gretchen see what she has done wrong. Your family is true and beautiful. It is real. Unlike some families on the show (Gretchen and Lynn). And "yes" what is Lynn?? Lynn is blind to the world around her. She is like talking to a wall. I am glad that you and Vicki got so close this season. Just remember people tend to gravitate to the person who plays the "victim/poor me" role. Because most people are not like us and our in there own minds are "victims' and can only associate themselves with the "victim". Just remember that.

I guess it must be hard when your own husband makes you go to etiquette class because even HE thinks you are a classless moron. You have proved yourself insecure, jealous and lonely. You dont even worry about your own children - just what Gretchen is doing. You poor poor thing. You mother is a wack job and your father left for a reason.. Get a clue!

your play date / pool party for the kids... no one was watching the kids, just drinking and talking about who ever was not there. sad sad sad

To "A Male View"

I'm happy your girlfriend stayed in the hospital after your accident. How long did she wait there? Jeff was in
the hospital for months. I'm not sure it's the same thing.
To quote Jeanna "Everyone gets a day off." Bye.

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For those who have asked...Jay got Tamra's phone number off of Gretchens cell phone...Ya, he is a stalker...I mean a friend..I mean an exboyfriend...I mean boyfriend.

Im sorry what is he Gretchen?

I initially thought Tamara was just jealous, but after Gretchen got caught in her lies, Tamara's behavior makes more sense. Gretchen is beautiful with a very big personality. She really does seem like she would be a lot of fun to hang out with. However It would be difficult to be on a REALITY show with a PHONY like Gretchen. I do NOT blame Tamara for how she acted; I just think the editing did not help with her perception.

To: viewer at 6:38 p.m.

Since you know "people behind the scenes," you also know that Gretchen is busy speaking with her lawyers. Maybe a lawsuit will keep Tamra and her followers quiet.

I am a gay man and was not offended by Tamra’s comment suggesting that Slade looked like a homo. My gay friends and I always comment on guys we see everywhere and often we will say “he looks like a homo” without having anything to go by other than what he’s wearing or how he’s carrying himself. I was about to say the say thing Tamra said about how Slade looked but she beat me to the punch. I laughed because it was funny. We need to lighten up. It’s not like she said, “he looks like a faggot”. That would have been over the line.

To 'A Male View', you have too many expectations of 'your girl' and completely misunderstood the Gretchen - Jeff situ. She WAS at the hospital all the time and took a few breaks as she and Jeff agreed that she would.

Tamra i just couldn't believe how cruel of a woman you are,and to think you were one of my favorites last season but thanks you showed me to never trust first inpressions.you are very nasty and jealous.What ever Grethen does is her business and Jeff's shame on you.I hope your children are proud of you,and remember we reap what we sow.

i dont know whos worse now, you or gretchen!
i think you should both be removed from the show.

This season viewers watched as Tamra:

* Talked quite a bit about her and her husband’s sex life.

* Modeled sexy lingerie while shopping, then, at her and Simon’s tenth anniversary, wore an outfit for him, and the viewers of the show.

* Made endless jokes about Gretchen being a “gold digger”, that Gretchen was “obsessed” with copying Tamra, (which made me laugh) and that Gretchen couldn’t be “trusted”. (Still laughing)

* Groped husband Simon’s crotch and gave him a lap dance in front of family and friends on a houseboat at Lake Havasu in broad daylight. (Miss Manners would not be amused)

* Took etiquette classes before she hosted a dinner party at her house. Forgot the lesson about host and hostess not plotting to get one of their guests, “naked wasted”.

* Escorted her mother to the hospital where her mother got a facelift.

* Told Gretchen that she, Tamra, would “never” leave the hospital if her husband was sick when Gretchen took a couple of days off and went to the lake with her parents. (Gretchen’s boyfriend was ill for 10 months before he died. Gretchen spent the majority of the time at his bedside)

* Yelled at Simon for “scratching” floors and banister when moving exercise equipment

* Got mad at Gretchen for buying all the pink hats at a “hat” party

* Refused to “hang out” with Lynne, Lynne’s husband, Frank, and Gretchen, and her brother at the Del Mar racetrack, then sat and talked “trash” about Gretchen with Vicki and her husband, Donn, and Simon.

* Had her son Ryan ply Gretchen with too much to drink at Tamra’s dinner party. Told Vicki of her plan, that Tamra was going to get Gretchen, “naked wasted”. Didn’t stop her son from hitting on Gretchen when it was apparent Gretchen was inebriated. Tamra claimed she was “drunk” when she told Vicki about her plan. Yet, to this viewer, the plan was implemented before Gretchen walked into the door. When Tamra told Vicki of the plan, it was well before Tamra had too much to drink.

* Talked quite a bit about her parent’s divorce, which occurred when Tamra was 22, and how it still affected her.

* Took a trip to Iowa in order to get her estranged father to tell her that he loved her. Amazingly, she didn’t ask her father if she was still the “hottest”.

If Jeff didn't want him or Gretchen to do the show then he wouldn't have been on it.

Hello from A MALE VIEW COMMENTATOR, is that you Simon? Please advise your wife to seek help, let not her evil ways pass on to your children and please stop condoning/defending her bad attitude!

I have had a hard time watching this season because you were so mean and spiteful.
I hear the other housewives say that Viki and yourself are really nice people we just see the bad. I just don't believe it can be true.
I can not bring myself to believe that there are two different people existing in each of you. I think what we see during the taping is what you are editing or no. I can not believe that the things you do on camera, like conspiring to get Gretchen drunk to see if you can get her to give in and sleep with your son, are just an exaggeration. I realize that there has to be drama to make the show a success, but why would you want people to see that nasty side of you.
I agree with so many of the comments, you have no class. You can take the girl out of the trailer park, but you can not take the trailer park out of the girl. That is so obvious where you are concerned. I feel the same about Viki. She wants to make everyone believe that she is all that, but the same is true for her that it is for you. NO CLASS.
I wish you would both grow up, stop acting like college kids who have to get drunk all the time, pay attention to your own husband and your own lives and let others lead theirs.
I do feel sorry for you. You have a lot to be thankful for and could do so much good but instead you choose to make others lives as miserable as you obviously feel.
I have just recently lost my father to cancer. In that time if we had not taken time away, even my mother, the whole family would have been in no shape to exist. Families and spouces need time away and you have no idea what you are talking about when you open your mouth.
I am sorry that you have to live what could be a wonderful life in such misery.

i watched this show with my girl and.....

regardless of how Tamra behaved, i for one thought at least she kept it real on her own terms and no one elses. people have different ideas of who they are, and if tamra wanted to act childish, then so be it.

the one thing i dont really get though is the fact that people side with gretchen regarding the whole jeff/cancer issue. as a guy, i sat in the hospital from injuries sustained in an accident, and if my girlfriend was out partying instead of being by my side, i would of been devastated. i dont think there's really no excuse for leaving a loved one in the hosptial by themselves whether it be a minor injury or they're laying in their death bed.

come on ladies. what would you choose? a night out in las vegas or to sit by your man's side as he is going through severe health issues? im glad my girl made it a no brainer decision and stuck by my side. if it was the other way around, there would nothing in this world that would tear me away from her side.

what if it was the other way around? what if gretchen was the one who ended up being in the hospital with cancer? i gurantee you that Jeff would receive all this backlash for not being by her side every hour of every day.

as a guy, i can handle bitchiness, but disloyalty? i wouldnt choose to be with a woman like Gretchen or Tamra, but if i had to, i would choose tamra over gretchen in that case any day.

oh ya....if gretchen really cared about Jeff's health, why not bow out of the show like laurie did to take care of "personal issues." what matters more? you're 15 minutes of fame or the health of a loved one?

you dont have to like Tamra, but damn, i cant see any reason why you would see Gretchen as a "lovely" person.