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You people are so dumb you think just cause you leave a nasty message that your gonna ruin her life please i love tamara and vicki and alot of things she sad about gretchen is true stop hatin and find sumethin productive to do.

Dear Tamra,

When you were dragging Gretchen through the mud to attempt
to justify your own bad behavior, did it occur to you that
Jeff left behind grieving children? Probably not, because
of course they are not your children and therefore of no
consequence. People let you know that they thought your
behavior was dreadful at the "naked wasted" party, so you
had to defend yourself by throwing up any dirt you could
come up with about Gretchen, Jeff and any possible third
party. It did not appear to worry you that you might be
causing enormous hurt to those already suffering. Unfortunately, your own children might be suffering
from some of the backlash now coming at you. Please tell me, what awful thing did Gretchen ever do to you or your
family for you to behave as you have? She cannot help
being equally as beautiful as you, but ten years younger.
She might be somewhat of a self grandizing person, but then all of you are, or you would not volunteer to be on
the show. I have enjoyed this show from the beginning,
and thought it was harmless fun. Now people are being seriously hurt. You are not the monitor of other people's
morals. Please, do no more harm.

you need to take responsibility for your own action. You make negitive comments about anyone you are not with. how can anyone trust you? your lake of manners and maturity made you look foolish. being kind costs you nothing

The other housewives seem to have a lot of problems except Lynn. They are jealous of Gretchen's beauty, youth, fun-loving personality and the fact she if single and free without the baggage of the others. Jeana and Vicki seems unhappy and Tamara just hates herself.

Does anyone know who we'd write to to ask that Tamra not be invited back on the show?

You are a troubled woman...your past is eating you. You have no manners and crash people with ease. In my eyes you just crushed yourslef. Anybody who is wilingly hurt others to portray them in a bad shade...realy preveal their oen ugliness

For whatever reason, my initial comment did not come up. Maybe I was too harsh on Tamra!! Obviously, we all know what Tamra's problem was with Gretchen - jealousy. Tamra and Vicki was so green with envy of Gretchen's beauty and her ability to command attention - Good for you Gretchen!! I do, however, feel that if Tamra had problems with Gretchen, she should have been more of a "real" woman and not act like a spoiled child who couldn't have her way and talk with her - woman to woman! No, instead, Tamra wanted to blast Gretchen at every chance she got - plus, Tamra wasn't a good friend to ANYONE on that show - she wanted it all for herself. Shame on you Tamra! Also, Gretchen didn't call you out of your name at the Reunion, why did you have to be so tactless and shameless! Oh I forget - that is just how you are!! Grow up Tamra - the world stopped evolving around you last season.

Tamra I think it was wise for you to clear the air with gretchen but it's still non of your business how gretchen live her life. You are fun to watch on the show

Tamra, I totally believe your story on Jay since I know from other people who are behind the scenes that Gretchen was using Jeff for his money. In fact, she had to turn in her two mercedes' after he passed away!!!! She will never admit that, however I have known the inside scoop for a LONG time and I was just waiting for it all to unfold! And for Gretchen, its Karma, what goes around, comes around.

Hello people!! You really havent been watching this show if you think that just because Gretchen isnt married she couldn't be on it??? What about Lori??? How come she was on it before she was married?? If I remember correctly there were 2 women in the history of this show that werent married and that wasnt a problem!! wow you people make me sick!

I now get why there was so much conflict. Honestly I do not understand why gretchen was even on this show in the first place. Women like you, jeana, and vicki all have families, business, husbands, etc. You have your lives in check is basically what Im saying. The other two DO NOT! You and vicki are still my fav always will be. Love ya tamra! -Ariel

Tamra,
Did I understand correctly the reason Getchen said she had a genuine relationship with Jeff, was to get on the show? If so, will she not be back next season? considering she was not, and is not an OC housewife. I say take her off, she is not that intriging anyway.
But you may want to ask yourself, was there also in the mixed feeling you felt about her dishonesty, a little hint of jealousy that she could possibly take some lime light from yourself and Vicky?? We all need to be honest with ourselves, in order to better ourselves, and future choices we make!!

To viewer 3:42pm: HYPOCRISY...KNOCK IT OFF AND THINK BEFORE YOU SPUE! How can you criticize Tamara for doing something inappropriate in front of her kids when you are watching a smutty reality show with your young daughte? Your words to tamara:
("You grossed me and my young daughter out") UHHHHG! PEOPLE ARE SO DUMB!!! Thank goodness you had the sense to write this statement..."I guess I am guilty of poor judgment" ya think!?

Tamra,
Stop leaving positive comments on your own blog, and negative comments on Gretchens. It's obvious and silly.

I don't care what anyone else says, your my favorite!!!! Don't change a thing stay just like you are. This is my favorite show, I want them to show more of you and your family!!!!!

oh how sad everyone really thought gretchen was sweet and innocent!! no i knew she was a snake and thank u tamra for revealing the truth!! now hopefully all these dumb girls stop leaving nasty comments on ur page and get a job!!

G.Brubaker, Tamra why aren't you just the pillar of good ethics and morals! You grossed me and my young daughter out when you were drunk in front of your small children dancing on that water fountain with it going up your crotch. Real nice move when you grabbed your husbands genitals on the boat.Thanks for the great example you have set for young girls.Boy you have a lot of crust judging anyone.You acted just plain skanky.Get a grip and act your age, and stop having your perverted son post blogs that defend your fowl behavior!ewe you are soooo icky!Sad you honestly used to be my favorite.I guess I am guilty of poor judgment.

Wow, I used to watch this show and think, "I would love to live like them". The women were classy and funny, they dressed beautifully, and dealt with real life problems. Vicki was always annoying, but it made for good TV. Then Tamra came to the show, with her catty comments, trashy clothes, her lessons in class and manners, which if you have to take classes, that's sad. Her meanness towards people amazes me! To be that heartless and vicious to a person who is losing someone they care about. People deal with grief in many different ways, and it's not for others to judge which is the "correct" way to grieve.
I feel sad for you Tamra, that with all your blessings in life, you choose to be vicious and unkind to those around you. Karma is a bitch, and it always comes back around.
Maybe you should try living life by the Golden Rule, or maybe you don't know it. Just in case, it's do unto others as you'd have done to yourself...Think about it, I don't think you have, and I hope you are teaching your children better than you behave!

Tamra,
I only have one question for you: WHY does this man "Jay" have your number when you're a "happily" married woman with a wonderful family and children? It's inappropriate and I'm having a hard time buying your story. When you're backed into a wall, you tend to throw any and every one under the bus. No class, no class at all. You make me sick. I hope you're not on the show next season because sadly, I will have to retire from watching.

Tamra, It is so obvious that both you and Vicki are so jealous of Grethen. I don't know why, just because she is nicer, prettier and younger? You two act like two bitter old ladies. I hope that neither one of you is participating next season.

After receiving the first call from this guy Jay, why would you continue to speak to him? Why would your husband talk to him for over one hour on the telephone all about Gretchen? It seems so childish to me or quite possibly that you loved the scoop of what was going on more than acting like most adults would and tell the guy "none of our business, don't call anymore".

Whether or not you approve of some of the other housewives, why would you behave one way in front of them and then talk and laugh about them once you were with someone else. There really is no trick camera work there and it was horrible to watch. Unfortunately, you made yourself look bad. I hope you can work on your character and become a better person that you were this season...at the very least for your children.

Tamara. Hang in there girl. You are my favorite for telling it like it is.
I can't stand Grethen - the episode when she opened her ring made me sick. Who goes skipping around the house admiring her "rock" when her husband is dying of cancer?I've been happily married for twenty one years, and she does not act like anyone who's in love. She's thirty years old, with one divorce under her belt already, and now a dead fiance. What, exactly, is there to be jealous of? She's sad and pathetic.
And by the way, thirty and completely responsible for her own drinking excesses!!

er, i guess tamra is checking the spelling for bravo, e.g., "Tamra is releaved the season is over."

Tamra,
You are absoultely ridiculous! You should not judge what other peoples reasons are for what they do! It doesn't matter if Gretchen and Jeff were in love or he was paying her it is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! Keep telling yourself it wasn't because of jealousy! Instead of spending so much time worrying about other people why don't you try spending more time with your kids!

Tamara: I used to like you, but now I could see your true
colors, just couldn't believe it. And the phone
call @ mid night from an extrenger, that I can't believe
it, what are you doing answering the phone calls of an
exptrenger, I didn't know that you used to do this.
Lynn is a nice person and Grethne is free to do what ever
she wants, But, you and Vicky really used to be my favorite but now, forget it, I hope you are not in the
next show, because, I won't watch it.

Tamra,
Class is something you can't buy.Those classes you took didn't seem to take.Maybe you should just try to put yourself in someone elses shoes,before you just open your big mouth.Who cares what Gretchen and Jeff had or didn't have that was between them.I only hope you can learn from your mistakes and stop being so fake.

Tamra,

You are mine and my 15 year old daughter's favorite housewife. You are beautiful, truthful, and energized. Our opinion is you have NOTHING to be ashamed of for anything that was said or done in this last season. We (including my husband)couldn't stand Gretchen from the beginning and saw through her right away. I don't find her cute, funny or anything other than a fake gold digger but I think that's because I can see through her...beauty is only skin deep you know. All the feelings, thoughts and comments you shared with us regarding her did not come across as you being jealous at all. Although you don't now the viewers who are judging you remember one thing...consider the source because only well rounded, life experienced, mature and truthful people will see things the way you did and in the end that's all that matters. You're right...you have nothing to be jealous of where Gretchen is concerned. You are classier, much more beautiful (and yes...the hottest housewife), obviously very comfortable in your own skin and you have a beautiful family. Stop kicking yourself for season 4. You are an inspiration...you're real and I appreciate that! I can't wait for the next season. I'm trying to get into the NY Housewives but it's just not the same...I miss you guys!

Tamara you are my favorite housewife i love you dont listen to these jelous wannabe's judging you on here they say your jelous...because they are!

Ohhhh, Tamra ... I am sooo torn! I really like you, and think that you're a breath of fresh air on that show - most of the time. That reunion show, and so many episodes this season, left me really wanting to like you still, but struggling to do so. I understand that there are always extenuating circumstances that we, the viewers, don't see, but it was just difficult at times to stay on the pro-Tamra side. In the end, I managed to, but please bring back the good, real, but fun Tamra back, okay?

BTW, how did Jay (Gretchen's stalker) get ahold of your number to text/call you, anyway? Maybe I missed something during the season, but I'm baffled by that.

Tamra,

Whatever negative comments you get just ignore them and focus on the positive. You owned up to everything you said and sometimes even apologized when you really weren't in the wrong. I get you 100% and hope the haters will open their eyes and see what a fake Gretchen is. I really wanted to like everyone and kept an open mind because we all know that what we see isn't ever the whole story, only carefully edited bits & pieces but, you were right. My dad died of cancer and I was his caretaker in the end. It took many people to bully me into taking an hour to myself but it looks like Gretchen took days on end away. I know how draining it is to care for someone you love who is dying but really?? Vacation?? We're not talking about a few hours away. She was always going off somewhere. And come on, they were only together for a year!!! In the scheme of things that's only a minute in time to sacrafice for thousands of dollars in return. It may have made Jeff happy for the last days of his life but his children should be furious. There's definitely more to this story and just because you're not buying it shouldn't make you the bad person. Kudos to you for your honesty and loyalty to your family. You have a lot more class than many of these women. Enough that I feel compelled to write which is not anything that I would normally do. Putting your life out there is a very humbling experience; I do hope it will bring you peace and happiness for years to come. You, your kids, and Simon make a beautiful family so I truely hope you are one of lifes very rare success storys.

Thanks, and good luck to you!

with all of your money do u donate any to charities? do something better with your time and get involved with a cause other than hurting people.....do something for the less fortunate....u may feel better about yourself...have a nice unhappy life

tamara- i could not beleive it when i watched this season of the show. you are agrown woman who is obviously clutching at her fifteen minutes of fame for all that she is worth. well let me tell youthe show already has a resident "mean girl" and that's Vicki, and now Gretchen is the "hot housewife". Last season Lori held that spot and you had after she left for about five minutes until Gretchen walked on set. that's okay, it doesn't make you any less beautiful, it just is what it is. Lori left because the show was too much with all her young children and you should probably do the same. Gretchen has already been raised and doesn't need you or simon to try and do it again. why not trade the tequilla shots in for apple juice and be a real housewife and tend to your family?

Yes, "thank God it's over", because you will not be in the next season "you are out/off" the show forever. You would never get out of high school, got personal issues (self-esteem).It is none of your business who Gretchen sleeps with, do me a favor mind your own personal business, you upper middle class ghetto.

Tamra,

Despite associating with mean selfish Vicki, I liked you! You are a real person, who tells it like it is, you have normal kids (if there is such a thing at their age) and a wonderful husband who supports your decisions. Get over Gretchen, she is young and has made some mistakes but she will learn from life lessons. It seems you have life lessons of your own and maybe you could draw from that and reach out to Gretchen. She is confused and we all know she loves the lime light. She lied about some things and she will have to deal "that person" for the rest of her life. So next season, put Vicki in her place, get Jenna layed be nicer to the new brunette girl. She isn't smart but she has a good heart.

There is really a big difference in housewives in NYC and housewives in OC. I hope it is just casting mistake like they did with TAMRA! Women in NYC are very real, they tell it like it is. If they don't like some people they either tell it on their face or they ignore them. While in OC there so much b*itching, backstabbing, and doing manipulative evil ways. I would like to see a fresh characters in RHOC in the next season. I had enough of Tamra, there is nothing more interesting to see at her end. All curtains down for her. CALLING BRAVO!

I see a lot of people thanking Tamra for clearing the air about gretchen on the reunion but does anyone think its a little immature? Once again she acted like a child by tattle-telling on Gretchen. Nobody will ever know what really happened other than Gretchen herself. Im not defending her by any means bc i said in a comment on Gretchens blog I added this Jay guy as a friend on myspace bc like everyone else i was curious. I found so many pictures of them together and some with her hugging on him while wearing her engagement ring. Still though none of us really know the whole truth and I dont think it was necessarily right of tamra to speak about it. God is always watching us and someday you will answer to him. People get what they deserve and if she trully was unfaithful she will answer for the one day or another and will get what she deserves. I just think Tamra thought she could be forgiven by everyone who was hating on her by dishing out dirt on Gretchens personal life. I have felt through the whole season that Tamra says mean things about others to make herself look better.

Hey Tamra,

You are my FAVORITE OC Housewife. You and your family are gorgeous. On the reunion show you mentioned that you would be blogging on the NYC wives. Nene was supposed to blog on the OC and only posted once (and it sucked) so please don't disappoint -- start blogging on those kitty cats!!!

Tamara,

I also liked you last year I think you were very out going and out spoken, and I like that about you. But this season things changed and you were in business that was not yours to be in. Whatever Grethen is doing in her life was none of your business. If someone called me and told me that kind of information about someone that I knew I would believe Grethen over some guy who says he is her boyfriend. I think you might need to examine yourself and be a better freind, because no matter what my freinds do I will be there to help them.

Tamra,

Bottom line of you blog is that you will always find reasons to defend your nasty attitude who finds happiness by putting others down and treat a troubled person like she treats Gretchen!

Tamara what the heck happened to you this season? stop talking behind everyone's back and for goodness sake quit conspiring with Vicki-it only makes you look bad. remember ugly on the inside brings ugly on the outside.

Tamra,

I think you belong to that one show "Bad Girls Club" instead of RHOC! You are way too trashy to be in Orange County. It makes me feel sick every time I see you. YUck!

First of all its none of your business what Gretchen does. she's not married. She took care of Jeff but she is young and i'm sure he wanted her to go on with her life and not be a nun. Get YOUR OWN LIFE.

To all of the viewers who think Gretchen left poor Jeff/his kids/his ex. wives with dignity? Yikes!!! She exposed this poor family to the worst media circus around!! That man was kind, let her humiliate him and she put it all out there while she spent his money... She is nothing more than a high priced prostitute/fake Barbie/Anna Nicole wannabe. I hope his family sues her for the media circus she put them through and all of the money she took from him. That $65,000 should pay for her lawyer.. That gym he bought her should keep her in clothes for the trial, that motorcycle should pay for her "services"...That house he bought her should keep her going while she looks for her next "job"...

Tamra

I might believe you on some things if you did not spend most of this blog talking about how you are not jealous and that if we knew the whole story. The best way thru this is drop it and move on and if Gretchen is a bad person it will come out sooner or later other wise you look like the bad person. When you and Viki are together the coniving evil ways DO SHOW. About the first part of the blog, it seems you are always saying something that makes someone upset or cry, one or two times I can understand but always COME ON. The only difference between you and Viki is that you do apologize, Viki stands her ground no matter what even if she knows she is the one that is wrong. So I do like that quality about you, Viki just come across as a cold hearted OLD woman.

You are poison to the people around you.

you are disgusting. you intentionally got gretchen drunk and then set her up to be raped. thank god she actually had enough control to say no. what kind of women does that to another? i am fiercely protective when i see a woman who is past her limit even when she is not a friend of mine. had she and your son had sex after she told him "no" in the bathroom it would have been RAPE. your attempt at justifying the situation by calling her a "big girl" is repulsive and is exactly why rape in this country is so under reported and the victims often stigmatized. stop fixating on gretchen's character and focus on yours; or lack thereof. i pray your daughter never has a "friend" like you and ends up getting drunk with them in what should be a safe environment i.e. a friend's home.

Tamra - Last year I really liked you. You showed an authentic and sometimes compassionate side.
This year, you were like a mini-me version of Vicky. Cruel, heartless, envious and frankly, no matter how much you deny it, you were so green with envy over Gretchen's looks.
You and Vicky went beyond mean! Is this how you raise your children? You need to be ashamed of yourself!
I had cancer, and was hospitalized for long periods of time. What you cannot understand until you've lived it, is you cannot sit at someone's bedside for hours and days on end. I had to ask my family to leave on many occasions. For as much as I love them and they were deeply concerned, they needed to keep the day-to-day as normal as possible, and I needed the quiet time to rest and recuperate. They would only end up watching me sleep anyway. It's harder on the family than it is on the patient, because they feel useless. I too insisted that my family keep all plans that were made prior to my illness - it only helps to keep a sense of normalcy for everyone.
Who cares if Gretchen's ex kept trying to stir the pot?
That's what exes do - they find someone who's gullible enough to latch on to their stories - such as yourself and Simon - and once they've got you hooked, they can distort their version of the truth and you're so convinced that you no longer are willing to listen to reason or logic.
You and Vicky acted like the 16 year old queen bee clique.
Take yourself down a notch, teach your children to be respectful of all people, not just the fake blonde, fake boobed, botox injected, rich OC - there's an entire world outside of Orange County! Donate your time and money to charities! Be a real person!

It's amazing how so many emails have the exact same phrases. I think you must be sending them to yourself and aren't bright enough to change them. Loser.

Tamra and Lauri should go on the next Bret Michaels Rock Of Love show...they have about as much class as the skanks he likes. This woman is so full of herself. No one wants to be like you as you once said so get over it. One day you will be old and then who will be the "hottest housewife in OC" Get real

Tamara, you are an idiot! How dare you air someone else’s dirty laundry on the reunion show? I think this is going to back fire on you more than what the show didn't air. You are not perfect, real, and definitely not the hottest housewife in Orange Co. Get off your high horse or this character of yours will continue to make you real ugly.

Tamra, can you tell me what Gretchen has ever done to you, personally? It seems to me all Gretchen ever did was try to be nice and get along. Maybe Gretchen's life got hectic and dramatic at times......but that's why the show is called a modern-day soap opera---it made for good TV. Whatever Gretchen has, or hasn't, done in her own personal life, I honestly don't see how it affects you or your family....Gretchen never did anything to you, or any of the other ladies, except try to be nice and get to know you all.

Tamra, who are you to question another person's love for someone else? Do any of us really know what's in another's heart? If Gretchen says she loves Jeff, then that's good enough for me, and it's not for anybody else to question, or judge.

As a matter of fact, your use of the word "Homo" reflects your biases and judgmental nature. You would question the love of a couple in a same-sex relationship; just like you question the love Gretchen had for Jeff.

Tamra, love comes in many different forms, whether it's two people in a same-sex relationship, or Gretchen and Jeff's circumstances. You have no business judging someone's love for another, or claiming to know what's in another's heart.

Sincerely,
Maxine Weiss

Tamra:
If it walks like a duck, talks like a duck..it usually is a duck. Your jealousy of Gretchen's youthful beauty is obvious by your need to constantly peck at her and bring her down. Regardless of how many "holes" are in her story or your statement that you don't like liars, why would a grown woman who claims to be so content in her own skin and personal life feel so compelled to constantly harass another woman over issues that in no way, shape, or form have anything to do with her personally? **Newsflash--Gretchen's life has nothing to do with you at all! What do you care? Dislike her and move on, gracefully and respectfully! That's called "CLASS".** It was obvious that the moment Gretchen walked into your life you were sizing her up as your competition and that you were going to destroy her if she didn't fall in line behind you. You have a need to be the hottest girl in the room and you will do anything, no matter how devious and unscrupulous and hurtful, to eliminate any threat to that title (P.S. one bit of advice..nothing will shine a light more on your physical flaws than acting like that, hint-hint).

Personally, I do not believe for ONE MINUTE that you cared a snap about any of the issues that Gretchen brought to the show, good or bad..but you did a very good job of muddying the waters, by pretending to be a "right fighter". People often use the concept of fighting for honesty and justice as excuses to be rude, subversive, slanderous, and generally damaging to another person. Being a "right fighter" is the perfect vehicle for masquerading the common passive-aggressive behaviors that you exhibit. Another example of this is your "I didn't mean it how I said it" excuses that you blog about. Tamra, c'mon..you are 40+ years old..say what you mean and mean what you say or don't say anything at all. You'll get a pass or two on that one, but constant backpedalling lacks integrity. In the end, I feel very strongly that the only thing that you cared about on the show, the only issue, was TAMRA, and how Tamra looked or felt.

If you were honest with yourself, you would see that you are really just a mean-spirited person, a fading tin goddess. I think that you are scared that you will not be loved once the last vestiges of youthful beauty fade, as they always do, and desperation is setting in. You look for scapegoats. Can't you see a greater beauty of a life in balance..generally referred to as aging with class? I'm so sorry that you did not think to enjoy and nurture your outer beauty, in balance with nurturing your intellect, personality and soul. You really need to take a look at yourself and make some changes. In the end, none of this drama has anything to do with Gretchen, good, bad, or indifferent; it is all about Tamra.

Look at some of the "holes" in your story before you started pointing out everyone elses. Remember there is a thing called Karma in life..and I hope that when the day comes that you or possibly your loved ones are put under some type of intense scrutiny that people will be kinder to you than you were to others.

Worry about your own morals for a change and don't worry about somebody else's. Jealousy doesn't make you any more attractive.

This show proves that you can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ( female pig ) ear .

Tamara and Vicky vs Gordon Ramsey........hmmmmm
Gordon Ramsey wins my vote 300%.
I will NEVER Watch the Housewives of Orange County again
thanks to you two.
Too bad you both think you are such saints.

Tamra...Wow! You are absolutely immature. It is so sad to see you acting like a teenager this season when you are a grown woman. It wasn't very hard to see that you were soooo jealous of gretchen, and you had to go as low as to talk trash about her to make you feel good about yourself. Really i think you are the troubled one. Also I hope you get help with being so insecure, and the way you acted at the reunion show was very un-classy to say the least. Mabye you should look in the mirror, and realize what kind of person you are and try to make a change!

You are my favorite housewife! and Gretchen is well undercover, the outside is all pretty and sweet but she's got a dark side and she deserved everything you said to her on the reunion show...I was shocked that he was in ICU and she was out partying theres a problem there you dont party when your loved one is on their death bed its not right! well im definately a fan and Im hoping there will be another season

Get real, you know you were jealous of Gretchen. You're in your 40s and she's still a young beautiful girl. And the way you purposely went after her to get her "naked wasted" (your words) was horrible. You are not very nice and I hope you don't come back next season! GO GRETCHEN!

Hold on to your SECRETS girrrlsss....Tamara will tell all! Should we hand her an Oscar for being the most jealous Housewife!

I feel sorry for you. You only look like you have a great life from the outside. You are so jealous, so small and such a Vicki brown-noser. Stand on your own two feet and be a role model for your kids. I cannot believe the things you did and said on the last episode. I might not even watch next time because of your pettiness.

You are a nasty piece of work, Tamra. A real moral compass, indeed! You have some nerve "outting" Gretchen. Have you NO respect for Jeff and his family? Nice of you to wait to "out" the whole thing after Jeff could no longer refute your lies. There's a special place in hell for people like you.

Who cares about you Tamra, it's all a crock.

Tamara,

I sincerely hope you have learned lessons from this past season. I would hate to see next season that you had not. Your lessons as you so call them seem to be at the expense of others. Others being Gretchen and Lynne. Gretchen's relationship with Jeff is just that, "Their Relationship." Lynne came into this with an open heart and is truly a kind woman and you and Vickie just insisted on picking on her for no reason at all. She may have a little air in between her ears from time to time but I can assure you from what I saw with you this season you have enough air between your ears to keep an hot air ballon traveling for miles and miles. Stop looking down on others and putting others down to make yourself feel better because I can assure you that it does not make yourself look better. Be kind and practice more on your ettiquette with others because your ettiquette lessons for a dinner party obviously went up with that hot air ballon you keep moving from one mile to the next. Text: personal conduct or behavior as evaluated by an accepted standard of appropriateness for a social or professional setting

Just curious - have your invitations to social events in your community dried up?? Wouldn't think too many of the people in your community would want to be associated with you after your vicious behavior. I'd be suspicious you would talk about me behind my back, spread rumors, try to get me drunk and caught in an embarrassing situation --- does any of this sound familiar? Don't offer us your apologies/excuses.....own up to your nasty behavior!! That is what grownups do.

WoWseRs!!
What a season!!!!
After viewing the reunion show I can see how you might feel portrayed as "the meanie" of the season...
I can also see how Gretchen's story had holes in it. But, the sad thing....
Any person with half a lick of sense could come to these conclusions without having the dirty laundry practically mapped out and handed to us. I suppose it wouldn't be a great reality show if you ladies didn't let it all hang out, but it's almost offensive to be treated in the reunion as if "the real you" was never seen or was portrayed incorrectly.
As a viewer, (or for me)I always figure that BRAVO has taken artistic license and that every second of all your lives will not be shown to us. I also figure that things happen behind the camera (as in real life) that I will never know or see.
I sometimes feel like the ones who feel wronged by fans or viewers - just can't handle the truth. Maybe some of us just don't like you because even though I didn't see all the film that was of you and your family - I DID see you always saying b*itcHy things to other people.
So did Gretchen...but your comments - like the one about Slade were hateful and tacky.
The Gretchen story is a dramatic mess - and as a reality show junky I sure wish some more questions would be laid to rest. Seems odd that BRAVO NEVER caught any of this drama...or these phone calls and late night party runs with Jay. Why would Jay have your phone number and none of the other housewives??
blah, blah, blah - figured there was a backstory or something else going on and you seemed kind of silly thinking you held the key to some big mystery. I guess you were hoping that this revelation would suddenly make you the pretty nice housewife of the OC again?? **laughs**
Whatever.
BTW-as a daughter of a elderly parent who I was cooped up with while he was recovering from a stroke and a brain aneurysm...I would sometimes feel overwhelmed and would jump at the chance to go anywhere to escape the hell that was my reality. This didn't mean I loved my Dad any more or less but it was life. I'm not saying what Gretchen did was right or wrong - but she is right that people can say they would be here or there the ENTIRE time of a loved ones illness or dying days, but some people need a break to recharge. I find it offensive of people who think this makes me a bad person - I think its being real with what I can and can't handle and it made me a much better care taker.
I can't believe I wrote all this crap - like someone will actually read it - like it really matters but it is what it is....
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p.s.
gretchen's character and/or motives aside for a sec...
you should be jealous...holy crap she's GORGEOUS!!
Thanks for an entertaining season though!!!

Please keep in mind that when a loved has cancer...their friends and family do not know when or if they are going to die. There was no way for Gretchen or any of his family to know for certain that these were Jeff's last months. There are always hopes and belief that their loved one will pull through and that is human nature. If we knew such things in advance we would all make better choices daily....but that isn't reality.

There is an ugliness in spirit that you have demonstrated over an over again throughout the season...no matter what Gretchen had going on in her "love" life she exhibited a kindness toward all you ladies that wasn't always recipricated.

The reunion show was one of the cruelest things I've seen on TV....thanks to you. You had no right to stick your nose in Gretchen's life....she is, after all, single. I don't care who or what she does with her life.....but I wouldn't have done what you did to her to my worst enemy....on national TV yet!!!! Don't bother to apologize for this or the gay slurs.....just learn to put your brain in gear before you open your mouth. And take a lot more classes in "etiquette"!!!

It is clear that you are trying to justify your bad, ugly behavior toward Gretchen all season by "outing" her during the reunion. Clearly, you are jealous and you think that this revelation will make her look worse. It doesn't matter what her relationship was with Jeff nor anyone else for that matter and it is frankly none of your business who she sleeps with. She was kind and sweet to all of you ladies which is at the core of a good and decent character. You on the other hand had a lot of ugly things to say about almost everyone on the show at one point or another which exposes your nasty character. I don't think you have any room to speak to anyone about such things as "character" because you displayed an unkind character throughout the show.

Bottom line... You never left high school and your maturity level shows. You are given a gift and you make fun of it! A person going through a difficult time gets a gift and you say she is trying to copy you. A guest comes to your house invited and you want to get her "naked drunk". I don't think all of the editing in the world can make you look as bad as you did all by yourself. GROW UP!! If someone else is being fake, let them sink in their own muck. It's not your's or anyone else's business to point a finger.

You are an insensitive, delusional BITCH who's incompetent and selfish behavior don't even begin to mask the 'great life' facade you try to portray! Thank God I can fast forward through any segment you are in or I'd have to stop watching this show all together!

"Thank God it's Over" for sure!! You and Vicki have ruined this show! Strong successful SECURE women are much more interesting to watch. Vicki is so needy it's pathetic, and you are so envious and insecure it's almost painful!! Gretchen is young, beautiful, so energetic, and fun to watch. You just can't deal with that. If you don't like liars why are you lying in your blog? You have pretended that Gretchen is a flirt and you are suddenly prim & proper. Did you forget last season? You loved being the center of attention, and you were an outrageous flirt while attempting to be a real estate agent. Please get over yourself!

The reunion episode truly showed you as the mean girl with a raging jealousy of Gretchen. Gretchen is not a pretty girl as you say in your blog; Gretchen is nothing short of gorgeous!

I can't imagine my husband taking a phone call from a man named "Jay" whom he never met; and speaking to him for over an hour about Gretchen. But my husband is NOT a gossip so it simply would NOT happen. Interesting "Jay" had your phone number; interesting he felt BOTH of you would be willing to listen to him gossip about Gretchen. Your phone number must be VERY easy to find.

What goes on in Gretchen's life should not even be your concern. From what I have seen of your behavior the past two seasons; caring for others is NOT your strong suit.

Own your behavior Tamra; you ARE mean and petty. You and Icky Vicki make a gruesome pair.

Who cries at 65 over thier parents divorcing? Then judges someone thats taking care of a cancer patient that passed away! Get a life! You apparently dont have one!

I have NEVER made a comment on any show EVER but as I watched this season unfold I couldn't believe some of the things I saw! Tamra, I don't even know where to begin. You showed your true colors big time. You and Vicki were beyond "mean girls". You were vicious, evil, judgmental women who showed NO CLASS whatsoever!! Who made it your job to judge Gretchen?? It is none of your business what her relationship with Jeff was!! You never even met the man. Obviously they were happy with whatever their arrangement was.. whether it was true love or a paid caretaker situation it is not for anyone else to judge. You can claim you are not jealous of Gretchen all you want but it is completely obvious that you are!! I find it hilarious that you and Vicki slam Gretchen for seeking attention when you go on national TV to "lingerie shop" and try on the most skimpy unflattering attire I've ever seen. I was embarrassed for you really. You and Vicki both need to do some soul searching to try and figure out why you need to attack other women so viciously to feel better about yourselves. It is what's wrong with women today. They are quick to judge and not support each other. What a shame. I feel sorry for you.

Tamra, are you happy with yourself? Do you have issues of self confidence? because if you are so proud of your kids, husband etc...instead of stating it you would act it. No matter how much of editing producer do for the show, they cannot edit your behavior. Please go to therapy, a good one.

Bottomline,..Tamara was jealous of Gretchen from day one!! She is a beautiful young lady full of life and personality, whatever the relationship Gretchen and Jeff had before he left this earth wasnt any of Tamara's damn business. Tamara judged everything Gretchen did and agreed and talked about and set her up for failure with Vickie, so both them should have been paying more attention to there own man,... or wre their man paying attention to Lil Ms Gretchen the reason they hated on her so bad,.. go figure!!!!

Tamara:

Money does not equal class.
The behavior you display is shameful; it is no wonder you have a louse of a son.
I suggest you grow past the attention seeking high school antics and focus on contributing something to society.

Tamra,

I have to say I was very disappointed in your actions this season. THEN at the end of the year reunion alot that you had been holding in all season, came out! Wow!! I give you alot of credit for haning on as long as you did. It also took alot of courage to bring everything to the table. Your right...no one is perfect, including Gretchen. I'm a firm believer in "'til you walk in my shoes" and I think you both have earned the right to be hurt and disappointed in one another. I also know you will be that lovely stand-up woman that we all know and let by gones be by gones.

I wish you the best and don't change one bit!!!!

First let me say that I love the show. With that being said, I couldn't believe how the reunion was unfolding. Previously, some of the other housewives were encouraging Gretchen to get Jeff to marry her or do something that would secure her future. These comments make the other wives look as though they themselves are the gold diggers. Tamra I think that you and Vicki should be ashamed of yourselves. You had the nerve to question Gretchen's relationship and then Vicki decided to add fuel to the fire and question if Gretchen was or is sleeping with her ex boyfriend..... I mean really Tamra what gives either of you the right to question Gretchen's relationship or who she may or may not be sleeping with? It isn't your place to do so, and to be honest, whatever the status of her relationship was with Jeff was none of your business, and I don't know what made you think that it was. How would you feel if someone questioned you about your relationship with your husband and then questioned you as to who you were sleeping with. You would lash out in the bitchy way that you do and tell them that it was none of their damn business. I wish that Gretchen would have told you the same exact thing. NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS!!!!! You had no right to do so. You came off as an complete jerk, who was too concerned about someone else's affairs. You and Vicki deserve one another. You're both overbearing, judgmental, rude, and just to put it kindly just plain ignorant and mean. I used to love you. You were like a breath of fresh air, but after seeing you and how you would constantly go after Gretchen, it made me feel as though you thought you were back in high school and had to defend what you felt was your domain. Grow up, you're way too old for such silliness. You're a beautiful woman with a beautiful family. Focus on your family and not so much on Gretchen and her love life. Your beauty is fleeting because of the sheer ugliness that you portrayed this season. Please come back to us next season as the beautiful, carefree and loving person that you appeared to be before Gretchen came to town.

Tamra,

I really liked you on your first season with HWOC, but this season, wow, I don't know what happened to you or Vicki. You women were vicious to Lynne & Gretchen. I'm sure you weren't nasty to them 100% of the time you were filmed, but you gals gave the editors lots of material to work with. I understand that we all have our faults, but c'mon man, live and let live! Why is it up to you and Vicki to get to the bottom of Gretchen's situation? If she was hurtful to Jeff, then she will have to live with that. From what I saw in her, she seemed to be a young girl with a good heart and maybe a little naive. Yes, she is beautiful, and I thought you all are beautiful in your own way, but was there not room for just one or two more beauties amongst you? I also agree with the person who said that Jeff probably wanted to live his last days around love, beauty and fun. He was a smart man and I'm sure he was in a relationship that they both understood. I'm sure he took care of his children and family and that's all that matters. Anyway, how can you judge Gretchen and then at the same time pull what you pulled on the night of your dinner party? All you could think of was making a fool of her and didn't stop to think that you could have really hurt her or even killed her. Have you ever heard of alcohol poisoning?!! I believe that you are jealous of her and not the other way around. But you are right, you do have a wonderful husband, great kids and a pretty house and life. You should consider yourself blessed and just be happy. Don't wish for people to envy you. It brings out the worst in people. I hope you & your pal Vicki take the time off camera to reflect and come back next season as the REAL housewives of OC and not the witches of OC. Take care and be happy.

The word is "classy", look it up because you have none. Your's and Vickie's jealousy of Gretchen is over the top. Grow up!

Tamra,

You are my favorite housewife! I watch the show religiously. As a 23 year old independent and driven event planning woman, it is nice to know that there are women out there who are role models that have/had achieved so much such as you have in your life.

It was definitely quite clear that there was something extra going on with the Gretchen situation. I am very good at reading peoples's eyes. It was quite obvious, especially on the reunion, that you caught her completely off guard and that she had lied and deceived the viewers.

You possess the qualities of a true woman, intelligence, beauty, success and most importantly, a sense of humor. Everyone says things sometimes that they wish they could take back. Don't let that get you down!

Someday, I wish to aspire to be like you. I am newly out of college and building a life of my own. I dream of the days of being an Orange County Housewife with a husband, like Simon, who genuinely wants to be with me and we enjoy each other and most importantly, have fun with each other!

Thanks again for being a great role model and I look forward to next season.

Tamara- You are still my favorite! I think as long as you be who you are and say what you want to say...you are staying true to yourself! Rock on Girl!!!

hey tamra,

i agree with you about "gretchen" having a loved one in the hosptial you woulnd be out on vacation you wouldnt leave his side except to run home for a quick shower and/or nap. not trashing yourself around for a weekend plus..i dont think your jealous of her, but no offense you have to realize your not the prettiest person in the world

First of all Tamara you use to be my favorite house wife, but the way you behaved this season OMG! I think a lot of your problem/issue you had with Gretchen was; your own insecurity you have within yourself. Because your dad left your mom for her best friend you felt abandoned from the man you trusted the most and your afraid your husband is going to do the same thing to you, so there for you feel Gretchen as a threat...Now I'm not saying Gretchen is perfect but what went on between her and Jeff is between them and only those two will ever really now what was really "real". I think the episode when you hosted that party..there is no excuse for the way you behaved you really did set her up..because you wanted to see how she would behave under a lot of pressure..come on the woman has been under a lot of stress and just wanted to have some fun and be around "friends" she thought she could trust...but boy was she ever wrong. I still love watching the show. But I'm still amazed that you acted that way...I always thought you were such a nice person.

My question is why does it matter to you who Gretchen dates or sleeps with? You are too emotionally invested in her business. Vehemently arguing about her statement of not dating anyone being legit. If you are at a different place then it should not matter. Whatever we all may think it is left to Gretchen and her conscience.

We are all slamming Gretchen as a golddigger. She took care of him. He himself confirmed that. She is way younger and needs to enjoy her life.

If she was not young and beautiful he would never want anything to do with her. How is that relationship different from Trump and current wife? You guys forget that he has been married 5 times and Gretch would have been no.6 That guy is no victim nor is he the innocent party. They both got something out of the relationship. If Gretch got financial security while he got a trophy girlfriend who are we to criticize? Jeff did not go into that relationship with his eyes closed. He knew what he was getting into so please let us all stop slamming Gretch as the evil party. If she wasn't beautiful there will be no Jeff.

And Tam just concentrate on your family. It should not matter to you what Gretch is up to. YOu worry about yourself and let her worry about herself. Stop being catty you are better than that.

Tamra,
You are a very sad and ugly individual. Your mean spiritness is discusting. Who are you to say anything about Gretchen and how she lives her life? There are so many things to say to you but I wouldn't want to waste my time. Why would you put your very fragile son's life in a situation to take advantage of a drunk woman? What if something happened and she accused him of rape and now you have yet another thing to add to your son's sad life. What does Lauri think of you now that's she's seen the true you? You should learn a thing or two from her on how to deal with lifes troubles. You are a heartless woman who has no empathy for others. I have won the fight against a 2 year battle with cancer and during that time I made my husband and kids go places. How selfish would I be to make them sit around and watch their loved one suffer? I wanted my husband to go on golf trips and I wanted my son to stay active in sports and my daughter in her ballet and gymnastics. You have NO IDEA how hard it is to take care of someone who has cancer. I would've felt horrible if I had made my family lose out on 2 years of their life just to sit around and feel sorry for me. I hope that after watching yourself and how ugly you portrayed yourself this year that you will take a deap look into your soul and change. You are a very MEAN person. Those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

Tamara,

WOW!! What a great ending to the season, you sure did open a can of woop ass!! I feel that you are misunderstood, I don't feel you are rude I feel you are just blunt and honest and their is nothing wrong with that. I think you called Gretchen out on a few things and from the look on her face, she was a bit nervous. I wasn't sure if she was thinking OMG I got caught or OMG what is she going to say. But then yet, you were called out on things as well, and so was Vicki. I think you are awesome, you have a great family who loves you, I think you have been through alot in your life as well, but you handle the situation well.

I like all the housewives, you all give the show a variety to make the viewers keep watching. I think if their wasn't any drama the show wouldn't be as successful. I think you all bring something unique to the show and if people didn't think so, there wouldn't be " The Real Orange County Housewives".

Best to you and your fabulous family, be you and stay true!!

Funny how you apologize for the "gay" comment, but didn't apologize for the "white boy" comment. You have no class. I think that you and Gretchen's "friend" were in cohoots. How did he get your number? Something is fishy. I will sadly not watch this show again. I don't like racists or homophobes.

Tamra - give up! You are trailer trash and it shows big time. You were soooo angry on the reunion show. "Moral character!" I'm laughing out loud.