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No matter how anyone arrived in Orange County. All the women are on the show for entertainment with juicy drama to boot! It was sad how Tamra was mean about Gretchen wanting a pink bike or anything the same. Even if it was a copy-cat move it should have been left for the viewers to decide. Tamra, if you are looking hard enough for something you can either find it or imagine it. I saw Gretchen trying so hard to be nice and fit in but with Tamra on her snooty pedistal she wouldn't give a young pretty girl a chance to fit in without trying to knock her down.

Tamra,
You are my favorite housewife and I think you were not mean, just honest. People hate cause they are jealous of you. be strong, we need you on season 5!

Tamra you are not in High School anymore but you are still one of the mean girls. Show some class like Laurie. I guess you can't take the gutter out of the gutter. We need Laurie back.

I think the things Gretchen said about Jay were contradicting. She told Tamra he was a crazy, stalker, ex-boyfriend when he was calling Tamra's phone. Then she invites him to her house and Bass Lake. She even introduced him to the other house wives as her friend. Obviosly she lied to Tamra because he exsposed her. Gretchen really had me fooled during the season. I'm glad I know the truth now. THANK'S TAMRA!!

Wow! I am surprised that you came out and told on Gretchen. I am glad that you did. Who in the heck is Jay? Everybody seemed to know him except the viewers. Now we know the truth behind the scene with her. I don't beleive you are jealous of Gretchen. Where is that coming from? Who knows! I think you speak sometimes before you think. That is all I think about you in a negative way. Sometimes, I think why did she say that. Especially, "naked wasted" I think you wanted Gretchen to act like a fool and you got what you wanted. No one made her get drunk she did that on her own. I hope to see you next season!

Darlene

Just wanted to say that regardless of what other people say, you're still my absolute favorite. I love it when you call people out or just blurt out the truth without caring how harsh it may be, it's hilarious. These hater comments are so annoying, everyone who has something bad to say should get over it already, and stop complaining. It's in the past now, they can't change it, they need to just deal with it. And they need to realize that as you've said before, it's a show with 5 women, it's going to get pretty nasty and dramatic. People are so dumb.

Hope to see you next season! Cheers to skinny b*tches!

"I of all people have nothing against the gay community and support gay rights 100%. It was not the word I was searching for and not a word I use or condone."

If you don't use the word then why did we all hear you use it? Try making sense.

Tamra,

Thank you, thank you for outing Gretchen. If it walks like a golddigger, talks like a golddigger it is a golddigger. Don't be so hard on yourself. I wish you had said that stuff before the reunion.

Lynne does come off as an airhead.

I hope you, Vicki, Jeana, and Tammy Knickerbocker come back next season.

Greedy Gretchen and Loopy Lynne had their 15 minutes.

Tamara, I'm a big fan of yours. I don't think you have anything to apologize for. You spoke your mind, voiced your opinion and did your thing. More power to you, girlfriend. I too was suspicious of Gretchen and I didn't have any really dislike of her. However, it was obvious that she was not telling the whole truth about things. Anyway, that's her problem. I knew it was a lot of baloney when she tried to wriggle out of the conversation during the reunion show. You and Vicki are my favorites----Jeanna is a wreck. She needs to get some professional help to deal with her weakness for abusive men. She makes me sick with the two-faced, goody-two shoes lying she constantly does on the show. She has no self-respect or self-esteem and why she is one of the housewives is beyond me. You go girl! And by the way, i am a black american who adores you!

Tamra
After watching the season, I thought many things and amongst them jealousy. I thought, here she is trying to compete with a 30 year old. After the reunion where all the cards were laid on the table, I believe that Gretchen is money hungry and one of those high maintenance women that give us a bad name. There are so many things that happen behind the scenes and now I respect you for calling her out on her game. She might portray to be this nice sincere woman but really, you should be watching your man because she's an Angelina Jolie. A home wrecker in the making who wants her 5 minutes of fame. Gretchen-Get out of Orange County housewives show. This is a show for women who are married and have a family. Go to LA and look for a superficial man who has money. That's what you want anyway. hahaha

Hi Tamra,

I think you're very blunt and honest, and that is part of your appeal. I appreciate honesty and think you were totally correct in outing Gretchen's shadow boyfriend at the reunion. I wonder why the show's producers didn't do it for you...why are you taking the blame when you and your husband took Jay's desperate phone calls? I say the producers were asleep on the job and are making you a scapegoat. And besides...Gretchen isn't even a housewife....so why the title "Real Housewives?" She's just eye candy.

You have kept on keeping on with four kids and this intrusive show. I admire you for that. Go girl. It's obvious you have smarts and that Gretchen told her real boyfriend to lay low while she filmed the show and waited for poor Jeff to pass away. She got what she wanted in the end...the bling, the publicity, the Harley..."I'm ready for my closeup, Mr. DeMille" is how Gretchen should've ended the reunion show. It's so sad for his kids that she chose to use Jeff's death as a means for pushing herself into the public eye.

who really cares its not our place to be judging people
addressed to all the people below me.

i don't see why gretchen's life is of your concern to the degree that it was (is)? if you didn't like her, or felt she was a liar, why invite her to your house for a party? why not steer clear of her? i found you to behave very strange this season, you WERE my favorite, but not anymore. i am really let down by you as a woman!

I was so happy you said something,for Gretchen to go and party and vacation and the day he got home for the first time in months???? But I am glad you put some facts out there. I hope you are on the next season. I hope Gretchen is not. Everyone can ride their high horses all they want everyone gets mad everyone says things in anger just no one wants to own up to it especially not in front of cameras. I think we all have issues but I do think Gretchen did pick things just to bother everyone , she has a very sneaky devious side that hides well, she's playing the game.But you have a beautiful life spend more time enjoying it, I hate getting older while the world is getting younger but it is just the deal.You have done quite well enjoy..............have fun.

LEAVE TAMRA ALONE! Gretchen is a liar!

WHO CARES WHO GRETCHEN'S DOING!???!!
There are NO rules on how long one must grieve after a loss!! Cmon people! she can wait a day or she can wait a year- whichever she so shall choose! It's soooooo not up to Tamara!!! jealousy must suck!

Tamara,

Did you know most caregivers become sick and even die before those they are caring for do? Gretchen was absoltuely right to take time for herself that way she can come back and be energized to care for Jeff. I justed wanted to point that out. You know most celebraties have family and friends that try and get rich of them well this Jay guy is no different if this is true. I agree with the other viewer you should have kept that so called secret to yourself.

I think i watch this show because of you. It's hard sometimes to be an outspoken person. Trust me I know lol You don't hold anything back and people need to understand the truth hurts. I think you're a very "Real" person. If everyone in the world never spoke there mind and never expressed the truth to each other the whole world would be FAKE! Don't ever change! Can't wait to watch you next year!

I was so happy that you outed Gretchen it was fishy from the beginning I dont care how much money Jeff had...The one thing that I was curious about was how did Jay get your cell phone number she obviously spent a lot of time with him if he got your cell phone number...Thanks again for a great season you always keepy me guessing

Your the BOMB like TIC TIC GIrlfriend!!
Love Ya!
Krazy Louisiana Girl

Tamra,

I am SO glad you outed Gretchen on the reunion show. Not that the smart people of America didn't already know. You could tell by Gretchen's body language that she was lying (stuttering, kept licking her lips, etc). It isnt right for her to protray herself as some innocent young woman who just lost the love of her life. All these people want to give Tamra a hard time and for WHAT? She isnt the one being some shady lil slut.

Tamra quit apologizing for everything you do...if you said it then you meant it and please dont ever try to talk things out with Gretchen...before long she will be trying to steal Simon

I say to you Tamara, GOOD FOR YOU! I doubt very seriously that you are the least bit jealous of Gretchen. There is nothing there to be jealous of. For those of you who have posted that it was none of Tamara's business what Gretchen did, then Gretchen shouldn't have had her lover or whomever he is calling Tamara and dragging her into it. I am wondering why Gretchen was even on the show at all. It's the Real HOUSEWIVES of OC and she is not now nor has she ever been a housewife. I hope that they get rid of her next season. Hold your head up high Tamara and I hope to see you back on next season. Ignore all of the ignorant comments from people who are too judgemental because they have nothing better to do with their time. At least you didn't try to pretend that you are something that you aren't and deceive us who watch the show. I have watched every season and you & Vicky are my favorites! :o)

P.S. I think whomever the "Viewer" is that wrote that Tamara is "the laughing 'stalk' of the show" and then wrote that she needed a dictionary is too funny. I think they need a dictionary! It's 'laughing stock'. You act as if you are so well educated and you cracked on Tamara for her actions, but anyone with any class & education wouldn't have wasted their time even watching a show where, in your words, all she did was act "stupid, ignorant, & jealous". Perhaps you can't help it. Maybe you have nothing to do while you are studying for your GED.

In Tamra's defense, this is just a reminder to all the viewers out there that we are seeing a portion of these women's lives and the editing that takes place on these reality shows may distort anyone's perception of the these women You do not know what goes on behind the scenes and the "reality" is that you really don't know these women as they know each other. I am sure there have been moments in your lives that you wouldn't want anyone to be judging you by as a person. Think about how perfect you are all of the time and then decide if you should be judging anyone, actually bashing someone verbally. THANKS FOR A GREAT SEASON HOUSEWIVES OF O.C. AND HEALTH AND HAPPINESS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILIES

Tamara, I don't agree with what a lot of people are saying about you on here. I think that maybe you could be a little hard at times to (gretchen) But at the same time (GRETCHEN) got what she deserved on the reunion episode. Gretchen never!!!! loved that man she loved his money I think Gretchen is a lier, fake, and a cheater. All they ever showed was her going out and goind on vacations without ..... her fiance...... I am so so so glad you through her under the bus she deserved every bit of what happened to her on the reunion episode. You can see through her actions that she was lieing about having a boyfriend on the side. what a B****!!!!! I can't wait to see what the next season brings. Keep being real we love ya.

You looked so pretty at the reunion, Tamra and I'm really glad you outted Gretchen. We could all see the guilt and nervousness on her face.

I don't know how Gretchen felt about Jeff, but I could see how he felt about her, and I have no doubt that she gave him the last happiness he had in this life. She can hold her head high. Tamra on the other hand scary evil. Trailer trash with money. Insecure about everything, and showing it off with her tireless efforts to belittle everyone else. I love this show because it makes it abundantly clear that having money does not make you a person to be envied. Its a great primer on how not to behave in life.

Tamara, your still my favorite housewife dont let what other people say effect you in any way.. I think you handled the situation with Gretchen and Ryan just fine, they are both adults and they can make their own decisions. Best of luck to you and your family. I truely hope to see you on season 5.... p.s you are so the hottest housewife!

Hi Tamra,

I am glad you are candid on TV. Actually, I think you have done very well in choosing a good husband and having wonderful children. So what your oldest son likes the wild side, he is 22 and will have an opportunity when he is actually searching for one.

TV is TV, drama; that's all.

I love all of your team players style, make up, jewelry and how all of OC Housewives take care of your physical appearances; you all have good taste.

I enjoy watching your show with Vicky and the crew....Yes, Gretchen is the most artificial, glad you pointed it out. Lynn is a nice person, she likes the bling too, that's good!

Keep Enjoying Life!!! :)

I have watched and enjoyed this show from the very beginning. I even enjoyed watching you in Season 3, but this season was a different story. You should be ashamed of yourself. There are no excuses for your child-like and classless behavior. You are the perfect example that having money does not buy you class or tact. You do not deserve to be on the show next season and I can honestly (and painfully say) that if the producers do bring you back, I will not be watching.

Tamra, you and Vicki ROCK!!! you are my favorite on the show. I hope you both come back for the next season.

Ok if it smells fishy..it is fishy. From the start Gretchen was NOT a Housewife! Second, if her family friend was at Bass Lake and Jeff was in the hospital. Something Fishy. I know because I used to be with and Older MAN and not for fun for SECURITY! I used to have all the perks in Vegas. While I was with him I met a man that was right for me and I left the older man. Your gut feeling is right on. I am glad that you held it til the reunion show. That was GREAT!! Gretchen's expression was classic!! Don't let anyone say that you were jealous, you were truthful.

Relly hoping to see you next season girl!!!

I am with you, Tamra. I agree with alot of what you said about Gretchen, especially about "moral character". Gretchen showed herself many times, when she went to Bass Lake when her fiance' was in the hospital. I, too, could not have gone and "had a good time". I would have stayed with him especially because he was getting worse and she was unsure if he were going to go home. She disrespected her fiance' so many times by her flirtatious behavior. Then the night of your fancy dinner party. She took the drinks and kept on drinking even when Jeanna was trying to take them away from her. She showed herself then too. I do not believe that you had any thing to do with her behavior that night. I did not see you forceably pouring the drinks down her throat! Her behavior disgusted me because she was carrying on by humping on a guest' husband and seducing a young son while her fiance was still in the hospital, hanging on to his life. She used him for her gain and fame, That was on her. You had nothing to do with that. It cracks me up that people are making a big deal about what you said, "to get her naked drunk." I believe I saw you, ACTUALLY, NOT, allow her to drive drunk and offered her a place to sleep it off 'til morning. Someone with a heart would not have done that. I really grew to like you towards the end of the show.

Condolences to Gretchen... on the passing of Jeff. It has been many months - whatever her grieving process is, power to her. She is clearly a gorgeous person inside & out. As are Lynn and Jeanna.

So glad Tamra and the other blonde bimbo "found" each other (BFF), because they so clearly love themselves exclusively, and apparently can only get enough of the attention they crave from one another. If Tamra is intent on exposing "sham" relationships, she might try that dysfunctional marriage of Vicki & Donn. Donn seems to be an awesome guy, he should run as fast as he can, find some happiness before life is over. Vickie - please get into therapy. Your denial about yourself is deafening, as in, when you try to act like the nice person you clearly are not. I normally don't want to hurt other people feelings either -- so I don't say hurtful and asinine things to them... and guess what? MY instant karma is NOT getting crapped on by my kids and husband, NOT falling down in front of my peers, NOT feeling like the crazy controller of everyone around me.

I have watched this show each season and found this one to be the pretty strange. Grown women just do not act like Vicki and Tamra do. They both need to grown up and remember they are ladies raising daughters. I hope Tamra is sufficiently embarrassed about her obnoxious and low-rent behavior, that she is OFF THE SHOW for next season. "Tramp Stamp" from last season says it all. There is not enough money in the world to buy Tamra any class, and for whatever dumb reason, Vickie seemed happy to sink to her low-class level of behavior.

Sorry this just wasn't entertaining, and it certainly wasn't "must-see." Bravo needs to rethink this show!

You go girl! Do not listen to what these other people are saying about you. I am so glad that you called Gretchen out. I always knew something was up. For all those people saying that you are jealous I think that is a bunch of bs. You and Simon have a REAL relationship. You and your family seem to have a wonderful life. What is there to be jealous of? Anyway great season! I really enjoyed you and Vicki together. You to girls crack me up! Cant wait until next season!

TEAM HOTTEST HOUSEWIFE TAMRA!!!!

You ask why anyone would ever want to spend the last 3 months of their loved one's life doing a reality show? Well, Gretchen probably didn't think he was going to die so soon. My brother had cancer and he lasted all of 3 months from the time we found out. We really thought he was going to live a lot longer until the last couple of weeks. You and Vicky seem like those awful, jealous types from high school. You should be ashamed of yourselves. Live your own lives and leave people alone.

Tamra, I just want to say that I think that you outing Gretchen was the best part of the season!!! The look on her face was priceless. To everyone who is saying mean & nasty things about you are just jealous themselves. I, myself hate liars and hate being lied to. I totally see where you were coming from. You and Vicki are my favorites on the show. Can't wait to see you guys next season. Stay beautiful and funny!

Tamra
who cares if Gretchen was a paid caretaker of Jeff. If that made him feel better in his last days then why would you talk about a dying mans last wish?Everyone handles things differently. For you to try to make someone look so bad only makes you look like a fool. Who are you to tell the world about Gretchen and her life? It's not your place. WHy are you so mad about it anyway. Shouldn't you be more worried about your life? Seriously girls, high school ended for you over 20 years ago. Grow up. If you lived anywhere but the OC you would have gotten some sense beaten into you a long time ago. I can't beleive that all of your husbands stand for this stuff as well. Doesn't Simon realize what an idiot you are? Keep actin like you do, and you are going to have to watch out for girls "like Gretchen" ( as you put it) They'll steal your husband right out from underneath you.

Tamra, you go girl! Gretchen opened the door to public opinion when she decided to appear on a reality show. It has nothing to do with her looks. It has to do with her character. I knew immediately Gretchen was a phoney and gold digger. Who in their right mind would even consider doing the show when their loved one is dying? Nobody with a conscience! Further, I know from experience, you don't have the energy or mindset to go out on the town or travel for that matter when your loved one is so ill. Regarding gifts, talk about having absolutely no morales. I mean who in their right mind would even consider shopping or accepting these gifts? I think he did it for the show. However, I'd be affirmative in telling him the material items mean nothing and there is no reason to spend this kind of money at such a critical time in my loved ones life, regardless of wealth! Spending our last days together is top priority. Especially when you know once he is gone, you'll never be able to talk or touch him again on this earth. Gretchen showed her true colors. She has absolutely no class, values or morales. P.S. I truly believe the alcohol episode reflected Gretchens real self. You can run BUT you can't hide!!! I myself do NOT like people who lie ESPECIALLY to my face. Tamra, don't beat yourself up. The truth ALWAYS prevails. Anyone with an ounce of class, values or morales is right behind you! Tamra, I am proud of you! You did the right thing and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise!

Tamra, My suggestion to you is that next season you take a backseat take, dont get caught up in the drama, dont start any fights, and dont voice hurtful opinions without truth. I dont mean this advice to hurt you in anyway but im sure, you were probably pretty embarrsed while watching the show, and its just some advice so you dont feel this way again.

I feel you have class, a spunky sense of humor, (i mean, the show has to be entertaining!!), and your comments are hilarious!!!! Gretchen is the most annoying addition to the show and I truly felt that she made it the season from hell. Loved all the past ones, but this one left a bitter feeling. You were made out to look like the evil one all because you were honest and said what everyone was THINKING. I'm so glad the true story came out. People are insane to honestly believe you are mean spirited and have an ugly personality. If anything, people need to attack Vicki because she is the biggest hypocrite i have ever seen. You on the other hand say it and own up to it and are REAL! PS watched the video when you went to the beach with your kids, Sophia was so funny when she said sharks are not evil!!! hahahahah

I love your guys show! However,I do not like you. On the reunion show all you could say I am ashamed of this, and I can not believe I acted like that. You know what you were doing and you did it to be hurtful. Not only were you extremely mean to Gretchen but you also had something to say about everyone. if you would worry about your life as much as you did hers, then you would have a perfect life. Gretchen is a great girl and if she is seeing Jay so what. Her husband died and she is allowed to live her life. I am sure that is what Jeff wanted. You could see the love between them. Just like you could see your nasty stretch marks across your stomach! It was so obvious. I think that people like you just need to grow up, and get a life. I do not care what you say and how you say it. You were and still are jealous of Gretchen and it is so sad. I really hope that you do not return next year!

Well I saw the whole season and the reunion show....Tamra I see why people might be mad at you. This season you were portrayed as a meanie! But I am glad you outed Gretchen, it must have been hard to keep quiet on that whole thing until the reunion. She appeared as an opportunist to me- sorry but hello she does. For people who say its none of Tamra's bees wax to know about Gretchen's life , well hold the phone! You are all on tv , living your lives therefore your stories are an open book. Jeana was looking in Gretchen's bedroom and found "Jay's" clothing, so come on ? Tamra You are still my favorite housewife.

YOU ROCK... you and vicky are my favorite.. dont listen to those negative comments anybody has left you. You were awsome.. I hope that your doing great now!! Thank you for keeping it real!

Tamra,
You're a beautiful woman. Why cheapen yourself by cutting down the other girls? It just makes you look like an insecure idiot. Like Vicki. Her messed up personality is rubbing off on you, maybe you should keep your distance from her. If Gretchen is lying, she'll get what she deserves. Stay above it. Lynn is a lovely person. Why not just accept her and enjoy her for that?

I've just got to say that isn't this what makes this show? Whether it's contrived or not, I couldn't wait for the next show to air. If people are looking for lovey-dovey, morality-based programming, turn in to 7th Heaven. I can't wait for the OC housewives to return, and I'm totally thankful the NYC housewives are back.

You are my favorite housewife because you are REAL. Good for you for outing Gretchen. Did anyone else notice how her looks changed completely when you brought up Jay? Where was the smiling, laughable gal we've all come to know?

You are a jealous person. You really let your ugly side out on the show. I will not watch this show if they keep you on it. You and Vikki are the uglyist housewives, inside and out!

Tamra,

Only you know why you acted the way you did this last season. I am not going to judge
you for that.

We all make mistakes, but life goes on . However, you should always remember to
be careful for what you say because words can be hurtful.

My heart and sympathy go out to Jeff's children and to Gretchen. Only Gretchen and God will know the real truth to the relationship she had with Jeff. If Gretchen was
this dishonest person Tamra presented then the truth will come out

To all the negative comments about Tamra leaving the show aren't you watching
it for drama? How boring would it be if everyone was like a Stepford wife? I hope
Tamra and Gretchen both continue next season and maybe the truth will come out.

I

Hi Tamra,
Wow at all the hate on your blog! I totally understood why you called Gretchen out, although, I would agree with you that maybe you should have gone about it differently (like talk to her about it in private, call her a lying whore, get it over with, and address why you were so suspicious of her at the reunion but explain that you had since confronted her). Again, like you said, we all make mistakes and I too don't know how I would've handled that. About all the people saying you're jealous, I can't tell- you just seemed obsessed with her (her actions, not like a single white female obsession), but it all makes sense now- you didn't trust her intentions. I get it. Anyway, I hope you two can get past this as I think you two would make good friends (you're both silly and fun). If indeed you are jealous of her, talk to someone about that. You have a lot going for you and instead of seeing someone else as the enemy, you should see how (or if) they can enrich your life- and either be friends with them or just cordial/ casual acquaintances. Good luck to you and your beautiful family, and oh yeah, your kid Ryan is pretty slimy (sorry to say this, I'm sure it's hurtful, but he is). I wish he'd grow the hell up, so yeah, good luck to him too (but I don't consider him beautiful...)
Cheers!
-E

I don't think you're a bully Tamra. You're entitled to your own opinions, and im sure some things were going on "behind the scenes" but you stayed true to yourself and did absolutely nothing wrong. I wish you and your family the best.

Great job for exposing Gretchen for what she really is! I was in shock when she went on vacation while Jeff lay sick in the hospital....she is FAKE, FAKE, FAKE! You and Vicki are the best! Don't listen to the haters who say the two of you are jelous - you are both strong and confidant women who call it how you see it....it is what it is!

The Orange County Housewives, are all TRANSPLANTS!
They are not originally from Orange County!!
SO please do not judge Orange County, Natives, as heartless, cheesy, trampy, fake looking and DESPERATE FOR ATTENTION.

This show should have been called the WANNABEES!
Please! Please! Please! Cast the right group of CLASSY, ladies!

Hello people! Tamra did nothing wrong here. Gretchen had guilty written all over her face! It was so obvious that Tamra was telling the truth and that Gretchen was lying. Real Housewives of Orange County rocks and I cannot wait for the next season!

I love you Tamra and I love Vickie!!! Don't listen to what others say on this blog, we only see part of your life. I think you are so funny! Gretchen is a shady lady, I just watched the reunion show and she is such a bad liar. Looking at her face and how she answered questions really showed she is an untrustworthy person. Keep your head up! You are awesome

Tamra, I have actually loved you from the jump... You are a smart, beautiful women. I understand that girls/women have their issues with each other for whatever reason, and I also hate that people blame on it on jealousy. But I think some of the things said on the reunion was uncalled for towards Gretchen. I hate to say this but it made you look totally different from what expected. I think that all of you are beautiful talented women but act like high school girls. Hopefully by watching yourselves that will help see what you can change.

Tamra! Thank You! Thank You! Finally someone called Gretchen Out! I quit watching the air time and started recording the show so that I could fast forward through the parts with both Gretchen and Lynn in them! They are both pitiful! I could not believe that she was having a sex toy party while he was in ICU! OMG! And NO I didn't think you were pimping out Ryan LOL we all know how he flirts! Give me a break people! That poor Jeff looked like he was going to drop dead while shopping for that darn ring for Gretchen! She was setting something up, I was so disgusted, where did the show find her? And Lynn! OMG! Dense? She and her husband? Oh I found cig's in my daughters purse for the 2nd time and I'm sure they aren't her's???? LOL Wonder what they thought when they saw the tape where her children were bowling drunk? That gave the show a bad name for letting that even air! The police should have been knocking at their door. And I agree with the quest that wrote in on the reunion
show to you about Gretchen! Gretchen watched the show before and was envious of you and studied you and the other housewives (like Vicki's drink)it was the only way for her to learn CLASS! LOl For example --wanting the pink Harley, oh and the pink hats - I see obsessed.
Anyway Tamra- I know where you were coming from on the show with Gretchen, it just built & built a person can only take so much when they know the whole story! And for those of us that are a pretty good judge of a persons Character! She put it out there for all of us in every show, it was easy to read between the lines!
Take care and God Bless
Lori

Tamra,, i really think that u are a good person. At first i thought that u just didn't like Gretchen because you just didn't like her.. but on the reunion show u let her know and everyone in America. I truly wanted to think that Gretchen was not a gold digger, but u truly made everything so much clearly to everyone in the world.

I, like most others, really liked Tamra a lot! She (last season) was my favorite housewife and I liked her humor, her vivacity, and respected how she has kept it together with three small kids and being 40ish. After seeing how she reacted with the others towards Gretchen, she has become my least favorite. I honestly hope to God that she doesn't return. Gretchen is younger, more beautiful, and was not mean and evil like Tamra. On the reunion show Tamra brought up "some guy" and tried to use him as an excuse to make her look bad in front of everyone.

Thank you so much for telling us all the truth about Gretchen. I knew her behavior was strange and her whole story was unbelievable. Now we all know for sure that she is a fake.

It's 2009 everyone, this is a reality show, Who cares if Gretchen's relationship with Jeff was not what was portrayed. She is a beautiful single girl,hopefully she made Jeff's last days happy. Tamra on the other hand has to be the biggest back stabbing friend in the world. Unfortunately when she became a teenage mother, her emotional maturity stopped at age 18!! She reminds me of every mean girl in every high school across the country, but she's 40!!! I think Tamra is the golddigger, and her kids should be embarrassed by her low IQ and low class ways!! Hopefully Vicky will reflect on her behavior as well, Lynne seems nice but needs help in raising kids. Jeana is always nice, you go girl!!

OMG! My favorite episode was when you came to Cedar Rapids, Iowa! I live in Cedar Rapids. Next time you come here you should let ppl know! you have a fan club here. Every wednesday we talk about the show at work! We work at Starbucks so feel free to stop on by!

Hey Tamra, I just wanted to tell you that there would NO show if you & Vicky were not on it. Some of the viewers, Myself included, watched this season and were fixated on both of your behaviour. Its just a television show and like I said, nobody could replace you & vicky. I would not want to watch a lovey dovey hugs & kisses show because thats not reality either.

I don't think you were terrible, Tamra. You knew Gretchen was a phony & didn't want to participate in living her lie! I don't know anyone who could sit back & go along with a lie like that.
Don't let all this backlash get to you. I understand how you felt.

Tamara,

I see your confusion about the whole Grethchen thing. But I do believe, like you said there might have been a better way to handle the situation. I do not like Gretchen and I do believe it was all a front. But what happen is you made yourself look bad. Her true colors came through. She is just out for what she can get.
Keep the faith. Things will even out.

tamra, i loved you on the show you wern't fake, i think all us women have a "mean" side to us and gretchen was a fake and needed to be called out don't lisiten to any of these people who say this mean stuff to you, you were goining on your gut feeling that she was up to no good, like she said "i love the bling" and that's all she cared about, why else would a 30 year old date a 55 year old man .i hope gretchen isn't on the show next season with another older man she's taking for a ride. SO TO ALL YOU TAMRA HATERS GET OVER IT!!!!

Tamra- I think you are AWESOME- direct, intelligent, funny and you call it like you see it. I agree 100% with you about Gretchen and everything you have said. And pul-leaze- you can't 'get' someone to behave a certain way- all you did was set the stage to let Gretchen reveal herself as the exact kind of person she is during the dinner party!!!

As a deaf & gay viewer, I would never go on a vacation while my partner (20 years) was in the hospital - EVER! I would not drag my partner in a jewelry store while he's tired & sick - not even motorcycle shopping. No burlesque parties either. Not even shopping sprees. Maybe lunches with close family & friends for their comfort & support. I would not even hang around my ex-boyfriend & invite him over to our beach house down in Galveston for some "margaritas!" If I did that, the gay community would have labeled me as a "GRETCHEN!" Guaranteed!!!

F all you haters on TAMRA. She owns it and you all dont. Gretchen is a fake and scandalous women. Look how old that guy was. People get your head out of you ass and realize the facts about gretchen. She has special bonds with everyone. And you people get this hottest housewif bs out of your minds. Like atleast think of a legit Anyways TAMRA you rock you speak the truth. These haters got nothing on you. Keep it real and stay strong.!!!!

I have been a fan for a few years and just recently watched the first season on DVD. The producers have really changed they way the show is taped and viewed. The first season was about the wives and their families. They only had a few scenes where the wives even met each other. Now it is more like MTVs The Real World. Under normal circumstances you would not be going places with women you do not like. But unfortunatly the show put you all in that type of situation to "watch what happens". I do enjoy watching and for the viewers who think THEY have never been mean to another person... GET REAL. Tamra, I wish you the best. And to the producers, get back to basics, The wives don't ALWAYS need to do everything as a group. I loved seeing just Tamra and Vicki with their husbands in Napa. After that episode, it went to trash TV. Sorry to all of the housewives. At least you have one fan that understands how television and ratings work.

Hey Tamara, say it like it is! Gretchen is a gold digger and won't stop until finds her pot of gold. By the way, what difference does it make who's HOT? If you can wake up in the morning with a fabulous man by your side and great kids in tow...then consider yourself the luckiest gal around. Looks fade honey!

I just don't get what it matters what Gretchen's situation was with Jeff ~ whether she was his lover or caretaker ~ it doesn't matter. You could see they had a special bond, and she got along well with his children. You can Vicki both put Gretchen down for things then you go and do the same thing. At the party when Gretchen got her motorcycle, Vicki didn't think it was classy to be showing off her motorcycle and wouldn't even go see it, but had no problem showing off her new watch (making sure to let everyone know she bought it not her husband) ~ and you were the same way about your gift from Simon. And at the party at your house when you were gonna get Gretchen "naked wasted", you did not seem at all drunk ~ you were constantly making eye contact with Vicki and smirking. You were not acting like someone who herself was drunk. I really didn't mind you last season, but this past season, we really saw another side of you, and it wasn't pretty. Even when you tried to redeem yourself at the reunion show, you made it worse ~ you didn't help yourself at all. I have watched this show since the beginning, and woman have come and gone, but it just isn't the same anymore. In the first couple seasons the woman seemed like they were truly good friends,their get togethers were fun and they seemed to enjoy each other. Now your get togethers seem forced and you guys really don't seem that friendly. I hope next season brings some changes.

Hi Tamra - YOU are my Favorite Housewife - I love that you tell it like it is; the truth will set us all free! :)

You were the only housewife who didn't constantly say I have children and am so busy. thank god! You were a riot this year. I think you are honest, have a good marriage and look forward to next year.

why should Tamara be jealous, she is in her 40's and looks fabulous! Lets see what Gretchen looks like when she gets to Tamara's age. I thought threw the whole season that she was a gold digger. I even felt sorry for her fiance' when he made his dissapproval expressions. Thank you Tamara for speaking up and asking the same questions that most of us with morals were asking. I would be by my husbands side every second of his remaining days. After he was gone I would be mourning for a long time and wouldn't have to think about how long he had been gone. Shame on you Gretchen. As far as the drinking scene. Your a grown adult who bows down to peer pressure. If you were asked to jump off a bridge would you do it?

Oh and nobody wants to watch a show were girls sit there and talk about how pretty and nice each other are. Does anyone remember when kim and sheree did that BORING. So all you bitches who keep writing that the show is an embarrassment and the girls need to be nicer can suck it. If you don't like the show change the channel, but don't ruin the show for the rest of us. I think we need so more cat fights, perhaps Nene should move to orange county

Tamra,
I used to think you were a genuine person but now I just feel sorry for you. I was appalled by the statement you made when you said, "hang on to your daddies girls, here comes Gretchen." Do you always open your mouth and let crap pour out? My father was 23 years older than my mother and they had a wonderful marriage, unfortunately, my father also got cancer and died and left my mother a widow at 46. You think your parents getting a divorce was traumatizing, you should thank your lucky stars that they are still alive and well!!! My father had a great motto: Turn on your brain before you turn on your mouth. Hopefully you will remember this. Good luck to you!

i hate how producers dont show the full effect even though they are obiously there more that we as the viewers are and its their JOB, yes, J-O-B to portray what really went on. its more than obvious that gretchen is lower than low, and to make tamra out to be the bad girl was even more lowww. its not editing that tells me that, its straight up bodylanguage/facts/strongwomenthatmakesherownmoney

Tamra,

It's time for you to leave the show. Please take Vicki with you...

Casting producers,
I'm demanding two replacement housewives!

Tamra, a person who gets angry about being called a gold digger is only angry because they know it's true. Gretchen knows she is one but keeps denying it because she just doesn't want to prove that your right. You are probably the first person in her life that hasn't coddled her. You always spit the truth in any situation and whether people are jealous of that or admire you for what you do, keep doing your thing.

Tamra, this message comes to you from the real housewives devoted group in kansas city, mo. I speak for the entire group (36) We loath you.Nobody even thought to mention your comments about the group next to you at Delmar ,the group Gretchen was talking with, the ones you refer to as "so low class".You are the troubled girl not Gretchen.We could tell from the minute the show started (the women tell all") you were up to something. You need to get over yourself, nobody see you or Vicki in the same light as the two of you seem to think your in. Your true colors shine through every week, you are a cold person with a cold heart.Do you really think we care about who
Gretchen is or isn't with.jeff was married 5 times before and he knew what he was doing and what he wanted,facing his own mortality he was man enough to allow Gretchen to still continue to live life when his was ending.You Tamara are an idiot! After this season we all lost respect for you and your mean sidekick Vicki.Life is tooo short to waste it put others down.Please leave and move on.

YOU SAID WHAT WE WERE ALLL THINKING!! AT LEAST YOU ADMITTED WRONG DOING,SHE WOULD HARDLY DO THAT!! IF YOU CANT SEE THROUGH GRECHEN GET YOU FREAKIN EYES CHECKED!! TAMRA:
KEEP SPEAKIN YOUR MIND YOUR RIGHT ON THE MONEY!! I WISH SHE WASNT ON THE SHOW,SHE WILL CAUSE DRAMA AND VIEWERS LIKE IT BUT SHE MAKES ME ILL!

All i have to say is when you, Tamra, first entered the show you were my instant favorite. But after I saw how you acted towards everyone, especially Gretchen, i was so apolled. You had the nerve to call people "low class" on the show, when you have NO class what so ever. And you say you dont have any jelousy towards Grechen when it is SO ovious on your face you do. You may look like the "hotest" housewife (sometimes) but your personality and cold heart make you the absolute uglyest. You and Vikki need to leave the show ASAP. Good luck to you. Oh and by the way this is coming from a 19 year old, and I've never seen such a two faced person.

I taped the reunion show and then deleted it without watching when I saw thru promos how vile, mean, ugly & petty you & Vicki were on the show. Simply couldn't stomach watching yet another episode of the two of you appearing to think your horrendous behavior is acceptable on any level or for any reason. You have effectively ruined the show for me. You are utterly obnoxious and a terrible role model for your daughter(s). I cannot imagine anyone in your family being proud of your behavior.

Tamra,

You need to take some more classes. No money in the world could turn you into the high class wife that your high class husband deserves.

You are a freak of nature. You're not even in Gretchen's league stop thinking that you are. As if

You were the meanest housewife not the hottest. Both Gretchen and Lynne were hotter. They had the class. By the way crotch grabbing on national television just made you look like trailer park trash.

Seriously Tamara, do you expect us to believe you had all this anger in you for Gretchen because you felt she was lieing about her relationship. First of all, why are you and your husband even talking to Jay? Gretchen's issues with him are none of your business!!For your husband to call Jay and talk for an hour to some guy you don't even know..that's pathetic...Mind your own business!!!
If Gretchen prefers to date or talk to two guys at the same time...who are you or anyone else to judge...Since you have all this spare time to gossip and talk to people you don't even know to find out gossip about someone you considered a friend...you and and your husband should spend that time with your younger children so they do not end up losers like your son... I won't waste my time explaining his issues.
All I have to say is "money does not buy you class"...you still have the "white trash" in you...If Gretchen is smart (and yes not like you she has a college degree) she will never give you or Vicky for that manner...the time of day!! Stop making escuses and get over the jealousy Tamara you look and sound quite pathetic...

Tamra, I know a lot of people are giving you grief about your behavior but I just wanted to say that I agree with you that Gretchen can't be trusted. You were in the right to call her out about Bass Lake. I would NEVER have been on vacation partying if my husband was in the ICU. I’ve taken care of my husband for 5 years now and he has leukemia and heart disease and he’s been hospitalized many times and has had surgeries. I’ve always been by his side and would never leave if he was in the intensive care unit. I believe she wasn’t by his side as much as she makes out. She was on the show a lot and she partied a lot and was with her friends all the time while her man was in the hospital alone. Another scene on the show that makes me sick is with Gretchen in the jewelry store with Jeff and how she is pointing to everything saying, “This is so pretty, I want this. Won’t this look so pretty on me?” She kept saying she wanted this and that. It was so sickening the way she acted. She’s so phony!

Gretchen is beautiful, but let’s face it, she KNOWS it. You can tell she knows it by the way she acts and some of the things she says on her blog. This isn’t a beauty contest and I honestly feel you both are beautiful, stunning women. This isn’t about jealousy or a contest. People make it out to be that solely which is sad, but I feel you were honest in saying you don’t trust her because she says one thing and acts another way. Another tid-bit I should throw in is that I’ve seen Gretchen even give you jealous looks so it goes both ways on the jealousy scale.

I think it's pretty funny how Gretchen always claims to be the victim out of this. She has people snowed by this. She did a good job convincing some of the fans, but not me!

Now I don’t condone getting Gretchen drunk at the party, but you were only trying to make Gretchen’s TRUE SELF come out and you did. It was pretty pathetic too. How dare she blame the whole incident on you? She’s a big girl like you stated on the reunion show. She didn’t have to act like she did. It was appalling the things she did that night and her groaning and moaning while eating dinner. Plus flirting with all the men that night and draping herself all over Ryan. She was engaged for goodness sakes!

So I just wanted to say Tamra that I’m on your side. I felt I needed to put my two cents in on this issue. I don’t think you are a horrible person like these people make you out to be. I love you on the show. I can’t wait till the next season. As Vicki says Wooohoooo!

Tamra you are the meanest person i've ever seen get over yourself and don't ever come back on this show nobody likes you or wants you on this show. Grow Up!

For starters... there is more to the story than the viewers know and there is more to the story then YOU know. You speak as if you are better than the viewers because "you know" the story?? Please... read your own words.

And by the way, saying that you are "in a different place in your life" is another way of saying that you have no other excuse than jealously for acting the way you do.

You really are insluting the intelligence of the viewers with your demeanor and actions. I wish you change in yourself in your life, and I hope that you are able to really take a look at who you are without your rose-colored glasses, Vicki Junior!