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Tamra I loved you this season, I wasn't too sure about you last season. Although I don't agree with some of your actions and comments, you stayed true to yourself. Unlike the other people. I always don't get why there's always an extra person, who isn't even a "housewife" exisiting on the show. Screw what those other people say, you're not jealous of that prick. Just because you're pretty, your actions can downgrade you. So good job for putting Gretchen in her place.

Tamra...you are soooo transparently jealous of Gretchen that it is disgusting! She has is hotter, classier, sexier, and more intelligent than you...and your jealousy is written all over your face and every thing that somes out of your mouth and every action you take. You are obviously insecure. You are THE most pathetic housewife of all of Orange County.

You know watching the reunion show, really emphasized to me that if you are a representative of the housewives of Orange County. Then the OC is one place I do not wish to live.
You represent everything mean-spirited in so called "beautiful women" What disturbs me is you and many of the other women on the show emphasize the outward appearance and rarely emphasize the inward beauty of womankind. There is never a moment when you and the other housewives admire the knowledge and intuition of woman, of their strengths and abilities. Instead I see everyone on the show and mostly you finding ways to bring people down. The audacity of you and Vicki to parade morals and ethics and yet you treat people like dirt, find ways to belittle them and promote yourself. I fear for all the women that watch and admire you. I too have been a single mom just like you were and never did i need to depend on a man to uplift me or support me and I raised four daughters who have grown to be wonderful contributing members of society, unlike the son you raised who expects life to be handed out on a silver platter. You call yourself the hottest housewife but you are instead a vicious women who cannot love anyone because yu don't even love yourself.

You are sooooo mean, rude and full of your self. Don't judge other people, your not perfect.

If it weren't for you Tamra this show would boring. You are my favorite and the hottest housewife!

Tamra, you are by my favorite. I love how real you are and when you feel you do wrong you own up to it and act like an adult. I loved the reunion special and I am sorry for all the hurtful messages from angry viewers. Your awesome and thanks for keeping it real.

So anyone that has anything in common with you is jealous? God forbid someone other than you has good taste. You would be a lot more likable and respected if you would stop worrying so much about other people. Focus on your own life - who cares if someone wants the same things. You do not have a copyright on having 4 kids and wanting a pink motorcycle.

Whether Gretchen has other things going on or not you are not the judge and jury. You need to step back from the situation and stop being obsessed with other peoples lives. This show would be so much better without you. I used to like you, now I'm just tired of your vindictive and poisonous attitude.

You ought to be ashamed. What an example for your daughter

Tamra

Your little blog speech does not and never will justify your behaviour. You are not an educated women and that is so very clear to listen to you speak.

Unfortunately your looks disappear once you listen to the way you speak and how you treat people. You are not classy at all. It hurts to watch you.

Tamra you have not even one ounce of class! You are the poster child for the saying "money can not buy you class"!!!! Give it up and grow up!!! You look cheap and you are not the most beautiful housewife! Your opinion really doesn't matter! The thing that makes me laugh is that even if Gretchen is dating that guy you told the world just so you could turn the tables onto her. You did and said horrible things and people wont forget! Its none of your business!!! You are a low class, trash talking wanna be! How does it feel to think that you are mostly hated? And shame, shame on you for how you treated Lynn! It is sad that you can't watch and learn!

How in the world did the Jay person get your private cell number when he is stranded?? somewhere.
So he can call you for the first time????
Why was he still texting and calling you? Seems you were lapping up whatever he was feeding you.

Let Gretchen live with herself.

Throw away the spoon Tamara--the more you stir the pot the more you become an old witch.

Tamra you need to remember to be yourself and not try to be like someone else (Vicki). The ugliness you showed to Gretchen was not becoming of a lady.

I live in the Midwest where we don't have gorgeous weather, everyone living in high style and time to party and lunch, but I'll tell you something we do have. That's manners! To treat the others the way you and Vicki do, is degrading to everyone. I wouldn't treat a stranger the way you people treat your friends. If this Jay wasn't looking to cause trouble, he wouldn't have called you. And even so, sometimes people need to pad their feelings. Knowing that Jeff's time was limited, I wouldn't blame Gretchen if she did find some compassion from someone else. She certainly wasn't getting it from her so-called friends.

And when it came to sharing her surprise, you two were so petty, I wanted to reach into my tv and slap both of you. Friends are happy when something good happens to their friends. They don't belittle them and complain about someone wanting all the attention. If Gretchen hadn't wanted to include you two, you would have attributed it to her hiding something. If you don't like her, stay away from her and keep your mouths shut. Her business is her business. Nobody called you names for mauling your husband in front of everybody at the river and that was really attention seeking.

I pity your children for seeing how you act. They're going to grow up with the same attitude.

Tamara, You should be ashamed of yourself. Your supposed to be an adult, NOT a childish teenager. The way you treated Gretchen and Lynne, shame on you. It's obvious that you are VERY jealous and you have to try and start drama when you are not the center of attention. You can't stand it when someone else looks younger then you or if they are prettier then you. To be honest, you are NOT an attractive woman and your attitude makes it worse. You pimped out your son to try and ruin a young lady's life. What kind of a woman does that?! It is VERY obvious why your son has the issues he has, if he would have had a mother who actually parented him, things may have been different. If you lived in MY state, trust me, the women here would chew you up and spit you out all in a days work. The women here have more class in their pinkies then you have in your entire body. Plus, they would enjoy seeing you make an ass out of yourself at YOUR age trying to make people notice you. LOL you are the butt of MANY peoples jokes. With that said, I hope you do NOT come back next season, you should go off with Vicki and not only take some parenting lessons, but try some self esteem classes as well....who knows.....

"In hindsight, I should have handled a lot of things and myself differently this season. Oh well, you learn by your mistakes. I'm not perfect and never claimed to be" --Best thing you've said thus far, Tamra!!!!!! While you are good at pointing out others faults, at least you have the decency to take some responsibility for your own.

Why are you such a wicked old witch Tamra!? Seriously, it is not that hard to be nice to another human being!
You can't claim that the show edited you to look mean...if you arn't a bitter, jealous, mean hag, then the editors wouldn't have anything to work with. The fact is that they had plenty to work with.
If you don't want to be seen as a witch on tv, then don't act like one when filming is going on! DUH!

The fact is that you starting to look old and you are so jealous of Gretchen and Lynne that you have to tear them down to feel better about yourself...and that is just sad.

Tamara - you have to be the most self-centered person on the show. Why are you so worried about whether Gretchen is dating someone or not? Even if she did have an affair, is it effecting you? I would say no, so don't make a big issue and make it all about you. I would say by your actions on the show, you are more jealous of Gretchen than anything. And definitely, you are not the hottest housewife - Gretchen has you beat on that one as well....

Tamara, Your nasty and I can see why you and Vicky
are best friends. You don't have a nice thing to say about anyone.

By the way, if Gretchen did need to confide in a friend about her life and situation, IT WOULD NOT BE ONE OF THE OC HOUSEWIVES!!!

All of you were, gunning for her and always felt as though there were motives behind her behavior.

Gretchen never treated you guys the way you treated her. She was always classy and friendly. She always attempted to reach out to you guys but you always gave her your ass to kiss.

Gretchen still appears to be a better person!

Tamra is too old to act the way she does. She is jealous of Gretchen because she is much younger and so pretty. Tamra is too old to talk out of school the way she does and she deserves a friend like Vickie. So what if Gretchen was with Jeff. So sad. The best housewives is New York. More class, less plastic.

Of all of the housewives (New York, Atlanta, OC), from every season, you are BY FAR my least favorite (Vicki runs a close second). You are so mean spirited, so jealous, so transparent, and (quite frankly) way more supercilious than you are bright (you can look supercilious up in the dictionary under 's,' followed by 'u,' then 'p,' etc., all the way though 'ercilious' until you find the actual word and its meaning). If I were your husband (yikes, poor him), and I'm not the first person to say this, I would be so very embarrassed by you. You talk about class and sincerity, and about family (you addressed everyone at your dinner party as being family to you...that was the dinner party at which you explicitly tried to make Gretchen look bad), and yet here you have been, on tape every week, quite obviously the opposite of what you aspire to be. Poor you. Shame on you, AND shame on Icky Vicki. from Beth

Really Tamara???? I know the season is over - I'm just looking at the reruns. You poor thing absolutely have no class and you are very very insecure. You got stuck over a damn motorcycle. Please stop killing me softly. You really showed how much you lack class,character and confidence. First of all, get over it, Gretchen is a pretty girl and yes, she looks younger than you because she is! Ok now what. There's always someone prettier, richer and smarter. Please always remember that. The cutest of you all with the most natural beauty is Jo. And yes, her ex-boo Slade or current (whatever) is cute, young looking and hip. Ok, next????????? Take some time to do some soul searching and stop looking so insecure. Therapy would do you some good for next season if you return. Jeesssshhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!! Take Vicki with you. And lastly, can you guys go to Fashion Week (the Mercedes Benz Fashion week is over, but the one in September would do you all some good). Trust,the clothing you guys wear is soooooooooo over and 4 seasons ago. Jo does dress cute and up to date.

Tamara is so mean always talking badly about Gretchen. Tamar is envious of Gretchen because Gretchen is hotter.

Tamra - we love you! Don't change a thing. You are awesome.

You are one nasty MEAN person. Please. She gave her response now leave her alone. Who are you or anyone else to judge or convict. Let it be!!!

All I can say about this season is YUCK! You and Vickie are complete idiots! Who do you guys think you are fooling?! I use to enjoy your quick wit but this season it's so obvious that you and Vickie are so insanely threaten by Gretchen and Lynn. It's so sad that you both would stoop to this level and then flat out lie and say on the reuinon show that you were never mean to them. What a joke you both are. I really don't think you both will ever get the fact that you are washed up and no longer enjoyable to watch. Stick to the real estate and insurance biz...reality tv is no longer your niche!

I really think that the "Housewives" of Orange County is one of the most ridiculous specimans of the disguting disturbing behavior of the human race. Their excesses show their real ingnorance about what real life is about. People are losing there houses and their jobs and are living in tent cities in Sacremento, Nashville and other major cities. In all the time that these women were on their show I never once saw any of them lend a hand by donating time or money to causes that could make a difference in a child's life. Their pettiness and absurdities boggles my mind. And to think that Bravo feels that this is "good" tv is the worst part. Oh well I guess the human race is going to hell in a handbasket.

Um okay. The he said she said game is ludicrous but even more so when it's played by some aging 40 somethings. "Klassy"

OK, I don't remember the anti gay comment, but I sure remember the racist comment about your son having a suit jacket "like every white boy should have"....you can claim anything you want about Gretchen, Lynn, whoever having no class, but they beat you out by a mile!

Tamra, I will give you the benefit of the doubt that you are nicer and a better person than your behavior led us to believe; however, no one is going to buy that you are as innocent as you seem to want us to think. I like your apologies for your bad behavior. They ring sincere. None of us are without an ugly side. From the beginning you did appear to be exceedingly spiteful and jealous toward Gretchen. You do have some very petty and unattractive aspects to your character and personality, but who doesn't? I think your husband, Simon, brings out the worst in you. He seems to condone your bad behavior and he never seems to encourage you to act up to the best part of yourself. Your son is repulsive. I think he needs to be taught values and character. Unfortunately, his behavior and attitude reflect the attitude and behavior of you and Simon. I hope you are sincere in your apologies and get a clue. I cringed for you at your "manners" class. Your complete ignorance illustrated that you are one step up from the ghetto. But, I give you props for trying. Hopefully you will return to the show with a more mature and classy attitude. good luck

all this is is you trying to make yourself the victim because you know you did wrong and you cant admit it or at least you try, but you need a little more work on it. and this about jay i find it hard to believe and you putting gretchen on the spot in the reunion show wasnt very classy what so ever, all you were trying to do was get her nervous so she wouldnt know wat to say. if you had a problem with "jay" in the begining then you should of told gretchen to do something about it but NO you didnt you wanted to act like you where in high school and try to use it against her, thats all it was. If all this is a lie then wow you should be a freaking acter and stop talking so much stuff about other people becuase that isnt were wonem like if you think about it and not something you want your children to see this in the feature would you?!..and if i was you i wouldnt expect gretchen to even forgive you but if she does then it shows who the bigger person is because no matter how much you say your sorry you know that your going to still keep talking bad about her.

Too late! Your true colors are very obvious! I find it very discerning how "Jay" called you!

Just go away! Oh yeah and take Vicki with you!

Wow, ladies and gents, drama is your middle name and drama is the reason we tune in to the RHOC. Reading comments full of "self-expression" reminds me that Tamra is a strong woman and like many of us expect, delivers her self-expression within this "reality" show that obviously entices viewers. Apparently, people love to hate and Tamra gets full attention every week. I too cringe at times by Tamra's lack of correct speech and perhaps the f-word was shocking, but it was her choice of expression. At the Reunion, Andy called upon Tamra knowing, I'm certain, what she would reveal about Gretchen. To her credit and on the spot, Gretchen maintained composure but her nervousness appeared by her pressing and repressing her lips. Tamra brought out facts which viewers could judge, that added further speculation about the truth. I also had a hard time figuring out Gretchen until the "ring" segment; too much verbal drooling in the same breath about Jeff's recent state of illness to his children. Gretchen's actions were bizarre and not convincing of her professed feelings for Jeff. Did her "job" for BRAVO get in the way of her true "self-expression"? It's a shame that a portion of Jeff's life was at the expense of Gretchen. My question is: why bring on Gretchen to the RHOC when she is not?

We must admit our like of a good fight so to speak, otherwise the show would not have lasted this long or continue into Season 5. And, yes, you'll watch Season 5 because, being an outcase from gossip at break time at the office or at gatherings with family and friends just might lead you back. Thank you, BRAVO, for bringing all the Real Housewives into our livingrooms!

Do yourself a favor and go read the comments on people.com regarding the reunion show. Funny how 99% of people are on Gretchen's side in this whole debacle. Do you really think all those people are wrong about you? Get a grip, Tamra, your behavior is disgusting.

Tamara- It is so clear to me, and as I can read to everyone else that you are completely jealous and obsessed with Gretchen! I think it's so funny that you tried so hard to ruin Gretchen's reputation and it backfired, because you ruined you own. You don't have one true friendship on the show and I can bet you don't with any of your other friends either. You spoke badly about everyone on the show behind their backs. When a person is evil to everyone not just one or two people it says a whole lot about their own character and morals, not the people they are evil too. You have no business talking about other peoples relationships, marriages, or character. If you want to talk about a relationship of convenience, that was the impression I got from your marriage with Simon. I never saw any sparks or love there. Simon was always trying to improve you to put you more at his level. People that feel like they have to be so outspoken and critical of others usually just to it to keep focus off of themselves. DON'T COME BACK ON THE SHOW!

Tamra if it wasnt for LOW class you wouldnt have any class at all. All the money in the world couldnt buy you class..... you certainly never fail to show your true self except the fake part of being happy.

Tamra- I used to enjoy the show then you came along. You potray yourself as petty woman who seems more interested in looking like a good person then being a good person. You talk about every other woman on the show behind their backs you are not in high school any more grow up. After you sent your son to take advantage of Gretchen it was obvious then you are threaten by Gretchen. I just caught the reunion episode and I will miss watching Lori, Vicki and Jeana. And remember people in glass houses should not throw stones!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wish you would just go away! You are an ugly, ugly person.

tamra...how dare you,you are so low class i dont know where to begin..you are very jealous of gretchen it showed in all the shows..you cant by class so just dream about it..i can only laugh at you because i am so happy i am not you.

Tamra, Why would you or your husband get involved with a guy that calls your home and requests such an idea? If you would have blocked his number a lot of trouble would not have followed. Normal people do not call others to have them call someone else or threaten them. Both you and Simon fell into a con artists' game.

Rock on Tamara! You call them as you see them! I am waiting for season 5...People its TV!

Gee, too bad your little attempt at outing Gretchen didn't work! Her posts are still MOSTLY positive with the few negative one's obviously being written by you or Vicki. You have serious issues, get some professional help.

Tamara!!!!ok, you seemed nice when I first started to watch the show then at the end your not my fav!! Your actions speak louder than words!!you have done some nasty things. You sure do not have much smarts and class if you di du woulnd have act the way you do.. I havent even seen the episode the finale one so ill be back to share my toughts!!!!!!

Bravo Tamra and keep her on BRAVO.

I love Real Housewives, don't know what that says about me, but it's the truth...but oh how ugly this season got. I too am a mother, though in a much simplier world, but how could a mother, treat another human being so badly. Tamara you say you wanted to "out" Gretchen because of a "moral code"...seriously??? Do you know what morals are? I cannot believe the behavior of you and Vicki, it only reaffirms my original steriotype of west coast, rich housewives: self centered, money hungry, and arrogant...thanks but no thanks.

Tamra: dont listen to any of this crap. You and Vicky call a spade a spade and that is that. It had nothing to do with Jealousy. This was not about jealousy. Besides, come on you have nothing to be jealous about lets get real. Please dont listen and come back next year, it wouldnt be the same without you and Vicky.

All I can say is MIDDLE SCHOOL ALL OVER AGAIN!! Not even High School. I thought so much different of Tamra this season. Getting Gretchen drunk of purpose so she would look stupid is just wrong. Why do you even put so much time and effort into that? Oh I know because you're JEALOUS!!

Tamra and Vicki can never admit when they're wrong and always point the finger at everyone else. You were wrong A LOT, and instead of just saying sorry period. You and Vicki are famous for "well I can admit when I was wrong, and I didn't mean for it to come out that way, but they did this and they did that." It's like NO You are wrong END OF STORY.

GROW THE HELL UP!!
Gretchen is true beauty INSIDE AND OUT

Tamara- I am a mother of two young children and I think Mothers have good intuition. Gretchen seemed to good to be true! I am so glad you spoke the truth on the reunion show. I do believe in karma and everything comes full circle in life. Don't be so hard on yourself, you are only human and didn't like or agree with what you saw in her. I hope to see you on the show the next season.

I forced myself to watch the "blood bath" on the reunion show not only once, but twice, because I couldn't quite believe how Tamra just kept going at Gretchen. Gretchen obviously was still mourning her loss, but Tamra had to try to make herself look superior. You made yourself look foolish and ugly. I would like to see you apologize to Gretchen. No matter what is going on in her life you had no right to make it public. I'm sure there is plenty you would never want the camera to see. Vicki isn't much better!

Tamra- I'd like to take back all the bad things I thought about you this season. Thanks for outing Gretch, I feel like you were really being true to the viewers by doing so. You're a spicy one and I love ya! ~V

Tamara - I love you. I love watching you on this show because you are the only one that isn't fake!! You will say how you feel no matter what, and you always stay true to yourself. You can see right through a lot of the women in this show (Gretchen) but you are who you are 100% of the time. Gretchen is obviously guilty of something shady. When you confronted her about Jay, she completely deflected and changed the subject to you getting her drunk at your party. That had nothing to do with Jay!! That's a clear sign of guilt. You are definitely my favorite housewife, you are so real and refreshing. You have humble roots and you don't try to be someone you are not. Keep doing what you're doing girl. You are a beautiful woman with a beautiful family and I completely respect you!

All I can say is after watching this show, I am so glad I don't live anywhere near Orange County. I was appalled by your behavior throughout the season. All the money in the world can't buy you class. Having money doesn't mean that people are jealous of you - you think everyone is jealous of you? I'd much rather be the smart, loving, classy, working mother and wife that I am than live like you if it meant I had to act like you and have my ego swell 3 sizes uneccesarily. You were clearly jealous of Gretchen and Lynne. Even if Gretchen doesn't come back, you still aren't hottest housewife. Lynne is hotter than you also. Inside and out.

Tamra - you were my favorite housewife but now, I am not so sure. It is obvious that you were jealous of Gretchen from the beginning because she became the hottest "housewife" - where you used to be last season - she's young, sexy and vibrant. You should be happy where you are in your life - a great husband, adorable kids and a nice home. Gretchen did have some things up her sleeve and you ousted her, but it made for great T.V. I hope you are back next season but remember yourself - America is watching....p.s. I don't think you handled the situation with your son and Gretchen well. It seemed that you wanted to get Gretchen drunk, which she was, and you almost knew that she would flirt with your son. He FLIRTED a lot with her and you should of pulled your son aside and had a talk with him. He should know better.....and so should you and Gretchen.

Do NOT COME BACK TAMRA!! please don't

Tamra,

Thank You so much for outing Gretchen. All along I knew something smelled. The guilty look on her face when you confronted her said it all. You are the hottest housewife and I wish you luck and happiness in your life. Hope your coming back for season 5.

You women are an embarrassment! Especially you, Tamara. I would be so ashamed if you were my mom, sister, friend, whatever. Just remember, what comes around goes around. Perhaps you need a reminder of the golden rule: Treat others the way you want to be treated!

You say that you're not jealous of Gretchen but you're not fooling us, Tamra. Even if she WERE paid to take care of Jeff, you could see the special bond between them...even if were more of a friendship. She's beautiful inside and out. You WERE the prettiest housewife on the outside but what you've got on the inside just makes you downright ugly and desperate. You and Vicki are a great fit!

Really Tamara?? I cannot believe you on the reunion show or even this season. I was a big fan of yours until this season. You saw Gretchen as a threat to being "the hottest housewife of the OC" and you were talking so much smack. You would be nice to her face, crying and saying you knew she loved Jeff blah blah and then go around talking about how she is a gold digger. You really have some insecurities if you have to do that. Whatever happens in her life and HER Life not yours. Stop trying to rename your crown as the hottest housewife, get over it. You are very opinionated and judgmental is makes me sick. Mind your own business when it comes to someone else life and just focus on your own. Stop trying to get people "naked wasted" so you can try to make an ass outta them because in the end you were the one who came off as an ass. Get over yourself.

I can't say the revelations regarding Gretchen and her ongoing relationship with Jay were a surprise to me. For whatever reason, from the moment she appeared on the show I felt like Gretchen wasn't being 100% honest about her relationship with Jeff. She just looked like the typical gold-digger from day one. People with a loved one who is dying should take breaks. But to go on numerous trips, parties, shopping trips, lunches, etc. when your fiance looks like a walking skeleton and is weeks from death... that is not normal. If Jeff was aware of her relationship with Jay or not, I don't know. He was either totally betrayed or he knew exactly what he was paying for and it didn't include Gretchen's loyalty.

What does surprise me is the reaction of some fans of the show. Everyone keeps saying, "Why is it Tamra's business?" or "Why is it anyone's business?" I'll tell them why! Gretchen made it everyone's business when she went on a "reality t.v. show". Note the word "reality". She tried to portray herself as this loving, devoted fiance. Obviously that isn't who she is.

Why all the secrecy surrounding her relationship with Jay if it was just a "family friend"? God knows cameras were at Bass Lake. I'll never be able to get the disturbing image out of my head of a grown woman flirting inappropriately with her Father and him seeming to reciprocate. If my dad was bopping a swim noodle up and down between my legs, I'd slap him and then have him committed. Who acts that way with a parent? Ick! So why was Bravo helping her hide her real life?

I feel for you Tamra. You were the only one to stand up against this betrayal and you are being crucified for it. Stay strong! This too shall pass.

gretchens a liar shes with slade now!

tamra:

GROW UP.

tamara you are my FAVORITE!! you tell everyone how it is wether they like it or not. Everyone deserves a little truth in there lives. Gretchen was looking for fame and ended up looking stupid. THANKYOU for outing her and showing everyone her true colors. everyone else who says you ladies are petty should change the damn channel and get on with their lives.
we love you.

Thank you soo much for calling out Gretchen. Jay certainly doesn't sound like a "friend." All the people trying to bring you down on here just wish they could speak their mind like you do. There needs to be more strong women like you in the world!

First of all I want to say that I do think different of Gretchen now. But one thing is, so do I about you. You are mean and jealous no matter how hard you try and hide it. The only reason you brought that up is you knew all of America is saying what a jealous hateful b---- you are and you thought this would make people think different. Well, I got news for you. It made you look worse. Still the high school stuff. You should be better than that. You have so much going for you. What do you care or anyone else for that matter if she is dating anyone. It is really none of yours or our business. She did not involve you, he did. You need to grow up before the next season. I used to like you so much. Now I can barely tolerate watching you. I could go on and on, but hopefully you will grow as a person and get out of high school before next season. Come on, I mean really. Were you ashamed? You should be is all I can say!

"I want to apologize to anyone I offended." Did you also apologize for blaming your drunkenness on your Indian ancestry and for telling your son to wear a shirt and tie like every white boy? It appears you didn't limit your bigotry to just the 'homos.'

Because of your horrible demeanor and evil ways I will no longer watch the Real Housewives of OC. Thanks for taking a fun show and making it terrible Tamra. You should be ashamed of yourself. You are like "school in the summer.... NO CLASS!!!"

Tamra--I thought I was hard on you; perhaps you were not all that bad. Then I saw the reunion show.

Now, I think you should just keep telling yourself that whatever you say is true (You will never change).

Thank you for giving everyone a very clear idea of where you come from. It's not a pretty place.

You really need to distance yourself from Vicki and put a padlock on your mouth. What goes around comes around. You need to put yourself in someone else's place and stop being cruel. You are not the most attractive housewife when you act like that. You become very ugly and I don't truly believe that is your nature, rather the company you are keeping. Not a good role model to your children. Are you teaching your girls to treat others that way?!

Team Gretchen, I couldn't have said it any better! Ditto.

Tamra,
I've read over the blogs & I disagree w/ a lot of them. I don't think you were being a "B" or mean. I think you were calling that liar out for what she was. I can totally understand why you were so upset at the reunion. You knew something the rest of us didn't & after it was revealed, it made sense why you were so angry. She DID bring you into her troubles & lies, I mean how did that guy get your number less it was via Gretchen? I noticed when the host was asking her questions about the Jay person she would move her head down along w/ her eyes shifting to the left and down away from the questioner; which is an indication of dishonesty. When Vicki asked her if she was sleeping w/ him she laughed nervously as she said no. I truly believe she is 100% lying. I wouldn't even listen to the negative blogs concerning you & Gretchen. Like I said I completely understand where you're coming from. I'm sure at that point you were like "Enough is enough". I know you took it a little far at the party, but alcohol never brings out the best in people...you were NOT the only one misbehaving that evening. But, people seem to forget that when blaming you... I want you back next season!! KellyM Mitchell, SD

I appreciate how honest you are and how you own it!! At least you are not Vicki and deny you say anything hurtful!

Tamra, good for you for calling Gretchen out at the reunion show. If he's a stalker, why are his clothes on her bedroom floor???!!! She is 100% disingenuous and I thank you for letting us know. So much of Gretchen's behavior didn't add up....her fiance is dying but she's in Bass Lake...or Vegas...or at a burlesque party....

Now we have all seen her true colors and she just isn't that pretty any more.

Gretchen doesn't owe ANYONE-- least of all Tamara-- an explanation for her personal life. Tamara doesn't get a vote in Gretchen's decisions. Butt out.

Whatever happened between Gretchen and this Jay person-- if anything *did* happen-- happened off-camera. So let's talk about what happened on-camera: Tamara never had a kind word to say about anybody. Tamara behaved like a petty, jealous 13-year-old. Tamara looked for people's faults. Tamara mocked her friends. When did her mean little mouth wear a smile, unless she was laughing at someone? No etiquette lesson can remedy this.

I am almost Tamara's age, and I am endlessly thankful that my friends are not like these women. The OC "housewives" are the embodiment of the worst stereotype of women as catty, gossipy, competitive, back-stabbing, materialistic, shallow, tasteless, anti-intellectual, and fashion victims. Thank goodness most women are not like this.

Tamra I really do understand where you are coming from. I too understand about the lying thing. But I have learned from experience is that you cant make people tell you the truth, because they truly believe what they are saying is the truth and it will only make you look bad. I don't understand why Jay called you, and how could you believe what he was saying what was true??? You assumed that. I do think that deep down you really didn't like Gretchen from the beginning. You took it all wrong. Did you ever think that the reason she copied you was because she liked your taste and that she looked up to you. She gets the attention because of the way she acts. Shes 30 un married and no kids. All of you other housewives are mid 40's married and have kids. You have settled down and would probably feel stupid if you acted that way. Relax enjoy it that someone in your group is free spirited enough. If any of you housewives acted like that it would get you all in trouble, even it was purely innocent. Take care let it go It will all blow over.

I missed typed
I DO NOT hope Grethen and her obnoxious laugh return for season
5!!!!!

How soon you forget that you used to be the new girl.
You are such a pretty girl, with such an ugly attitude, and I haven't even watched the reunion show yet!
You and Vicki need to remember, people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. Vicki rubs up on men, yet she claims to be Christian. She is also married! You, as we have learned, are divorced and had a child as a teenager.
The best we can do for ourselves is learn from our mistakes and MOVE ON...as you have. Hopefully you won't have to fall off that pedestal you put yourself on to learn that.

I hope Gretchen and her obnoxious laugh are back for season 5! I'm glad you told viewers about Jay. You guys are to mean to lynn, I know she doesn't fit in but at least she's not another Gretchen! You are my, my boyfriends' and my moms favorite housewive.

Tamra,
i saw the reunion and i think it's about time someone put Gretchen in her place as you and Vicky did, people need to realize what kind of person she really is, a devious cold hearted bitch, who cares ONLY about herself ! I think her tears are as fake as her looks she just wants attention LIKE ALWAYS, she needs to get over herself and stop telling herself everyone is jealous of her and except the fact that she's just obsessed with herself. Sympothy only last so long when you've been as devious as her.

Gretchen's laugh can make a sane person crazy !!

Last season you fit in, this season you really don't at all and you look really wide, I thought that wasn't allowed? I think you and Vicki need to be traded in.

Tamra,

Sadly after watching the show and the reunion, my conclusion of you is the same. Sad. It is disgusting to see that BRAVO had chosen you and Vicky as the women representing Orange County. Jealousy, conniving, backstabbing, betrayal... is this what you are proud of? Is this the story you want to share to the world?

On Gretchen: What business is it of yours to feel it necessary to "come clean" on Gretchen on national television. Even if Gretchen and Jeff DID have that agreement, it is between them, not you, Jeff and Gretchen. To the rest of the nation, it screams Jealousy. As a woman, you support each other and if need be, you call each other out behind closed doors. It's out of respect. It is so sad to see Gretchen try over and over again to make peace with you women, only to be slammed with ill words and betrayal. It's grade-school behavior and it is simply pathetic. When are you and Vicky going to grow up and actually start acting like a woman we as viewers can be proud of? There are two sides to every story and for you to defend a man you don't even know (Jay) and not talk about it with Gretchen as an adult, is ridiculously immature and sad. You went to make Gretchen look bad on TV when really you just made yourself look like an absolute fool. Well, you did one thing right. Through all these episodes, you made Gretchen look like a saint next to you girls. Congrats to Gretchen for being the Hottest Housewife with an actual brain and heart!

And PS. What kind of a woman uses her son as bait? It is insanely wicked and gross!

Love,
Team Gretchen!!!

Tamra,
You were the laughing stalk of the show! We watched just to see what kind of stupidity, ignorance and jealousy you would demonstrate for us each week. It was great television! You tried to make a high school clique with Icky Vicky but just ended up embarrassing yourself and your family on national tv, as well as, isolating yourself from the other housewives. Thanks for the entertainment, I look forward to seeing you out do yourself next season. Please don't do anything drastic, like get your GED, go back to school or travel to another country, your lack of knowledge is what drives the show.
BTW if any of these words were too large for you to read, pronounce or understand. There is this wonderful very large book called a Dictionary that can help you out.
All my love!

Stunning. You are still rationalizing your shameful behavior. I don't care what Gretchen did, you behaved terribly, like a jealous, irrational teenager. You have NO excuse. This post makes it very clear: you are fake. You say one thing, and then do another. You apologize, admit fault, and then in the same breath reveal your true feeling by justifying your behavior. You obviously don't feel you did anything wrong. So be it. But, if you continue down this road next season, you will destroy any post-show market pull. It doesn't matter how right you think you are, your actions will kill your career long-term. Who wants to buy anything pushed by a monster? Think about it. And what about Lynn? What justifies your hateful comments and mean spirited personal attacks towards her?

I objected to Tamra using the excuse of "a mild case of Tourette's" to explain her mean outbursts. Tamra does not have Tourette's, as anyone familiar with the disorder and its criteria will know. Rather, Tamra seems to be using any strategy she can--Tourette's, denial, damage control (supposedly admitting her mistakes and apologizing), accusing others--to explain her behavior this season. I have watched this show since its beginning, and I almost stopped watching for good after the dinner party episode. Even if there is a basis in truth in what Tamra says about Gretchen (which we can't know for sure one way or the other), she's still mean, insensitive, and out of control. I really hope she doesn't continue next year.

Perhaps if you hadn't behaved like the Housewife From Hell it wouldn't have seemed like such a bad season.

I bet Newport Beach Gal is really you or a friend of yours. Please own that you humiliated yourself and came out as jealous and bitter. You truly represented yourself in the reunion show. Quite frankly I hope you don;t come back next season. I think the show can do without your bitterness desire to hurt other people because they are hotter and prettier than you. YOU NEED HELP!!!!

Tamara, if you are on the show next season I won't be watching.

Again--- you are blaming the producers for your poor behavior. It was painful watching the reunion episode. You had a hateful look on your face and said hateful things. Own up to it.

Watching you this season, and in the reunion show made it extremely obvious what kind of a woman you are. First of all, you butcher the English language. Most educated and decent women know how to speak. "I could have went" and similar things you said, made my skin crawl. Who do you think you are? You always look to Vicki when you have something negative to say, and you roll your eyes and act like you are so much better than everyone else. By far, you are the ugliest, worst spirited, heartless woman I've ever seen in action. You think you're hot. But you really come across as un-educated, cheap, mean, nasty, hateful, unkind, low-class, and as someone I would never consider having in my life. You should be ashamed of your behavior! Bravo would do all of us a great favor if you were cut from the show. You make the show so demeaning! Bravo, please listen to all of us and get rid of this horrendous woman!

You say: "I'm not perfect, I never claimed to be . . ."

Yet? Let's review. "I would NEVER go on vacation while my husband was in the hospital" (Because you're so perfect, right? You'd never get tired, never get frustrated, never be so overwhelmed and scared for the man you love, that you'd need to take a break so that you could go back to him and be strong.)

I don't think you're just mean, I think you're ignorant. You don't take even a moment to think that you aren't PERFECT, so maybe you have no right to judge the actions of others.

You hate liars. Yet, you're all smiles to Gretchens face and horrid behind her back. What does that make you? A truther? No, that would make you a liar. If you want to talk about honesty, then BE honest. You aren't.

Get OVER your self. You hate it that the bloggers are saying you're jealous of Gretchen. But you sure are ready to sit as her judge and jury. Doesn't feel so good when YOU'RE the one being judged, does it?

And if you remove Gretchen and that drama (that you didn't have to be a part of ~ speaking of victims!) you were mean to the other ladies too. Mean to Lynn, mean to Jeana, and just mean in general.

You're a bully Tamra. Just a school yard bully.

I feel for Tamra. She has nothing to be jealous of, she is married, kids, in shape and seems happy. Gretchen is a very pretty girl, but that is it. Anyone who seeks that much attention has issues. If this guy "Jay" was a stalker, crazy, etc as she said to Tamra. Then why would her family accept him and why would she still go out with him??? From other blogs I have read, it said that Gretchen got divorced 1 month before she became engaged to Jeff. She saw an opportunity, and if Jeff wanted to pay her to take care of him and look pretty, that is fine. Don't lie and say you are in love with him when you said you were not even attracted to him. Best of luck to you Tamra, the other housewives wish they had your marriage.