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GO TEAM TAMRA AND GRETCHEN! I'm so excited that you girls have called a truce! I can't wait to see the new season and the next and the next.... Tamra taking the high road always makes you a winner! And a winner is what you are! I'm so proud of you I could scream!!!!!!!

Tamra,

I think you are a classy lady and I think just like EVERYONE in life you have gone through a lot, BUT the way they show you on the show you don't always say some of the nice things about people. You are very attractive so NEVER question how you look compared to anyone on the show. ALWAYS know you are attractive and be the classy lady you are....I can relate to what you are saying about the ups and downs of marriage....I was ONLY married for 2 years and my husband walked out on me when I was really sick and in the hospital and needed him the most. So I can relate to how you feel about marriage and finaces...It's VERY hard and lonely....You are lucky you have what you do.....Cherish it and your kids and your husband....Good Luck to you sexy!!!!! Much Love and God Bless!!!

Tamara, one word- KARMA

Tamara I know times are tough my husband is a stockbroker for Morgan stanley and is doing well but he wacthing everything we spend and is a control freak like Simon so I understand what your going through! Famliy first and we are upside down on our house! If you and Simon can handle this you can handle anything! Devonne Sandiego

For having all those kids and being older than Gretchen, I think you are 100% the hottest housewife!!!

Tamra,
You are amazing. Perfect body and face after having FOUR kids!!! Just amazing!!! Love you and Vicky!!

Tamra
Reading your blog makes me want to start liking you again. You seem more understanding and compassionate. When we see you with your kids and husband, you seem totally balanced and loving. That Tamra is much more attractive.

You are so pretty! I'm glad at least you seen Gretchen for what she really is.

You are so pretty! I'm glad at least you seen Gretchen for what she really is.

Tam,
You are great and all I call you is my BEBE girl! It seems like everything you wear I have and bought from BEBE. You are beautiful, a great mom and wife. I admire you and I wish you and your family the best and you will make it through this horrible time in our economy!

take a step back and look @ the situation between u & Gretchen. whether these things are true or not, the right decision or not, dont let them turn you into a bitter angry person. the more negativity and anger you hold onto the less control you have over your own happiness. you dont have to be friends, but be adults and classy ladies and let things go. also remember when you look for faults in people you open yourself & your family up for judgment. no one is perfect & you can't control every1 in ur family. if they were ever to make a series of bad choices would you forgive them & let that part of their life pass?

SO TRUE!!! Tamra MAKES the show. Without her we would just be watching Lynne with her cuffs, Vicky with her boring trips and Gretchen with ..... um....whohever having a garage sale. Can you say BORING!!!! Without Tamra it would be like (in the words of Bethanny) watching paint dry! Tamra you are the glue that holds this show together. Bravo knows that and that is why they hipe up the fight. We know the score. We love you Tamra and your little babies are adorable. Good Luck with all.

WORD, "viewer in NC"! Drama = fun for us watching.

Any of these bloggers who say anything neg. about you need to get a life. They know they love the drama or they wouldn't be watching in the first place! Keep it up, T!!

Hi Tamra,
First I would like to say, please just put everything aside and behind between you and Gretchen. I think Gretchen is REAL, she's not lying. She's just a very spontaneous person. I believe you both can be good friends because you both are fun.

And I have gone through what you and Gretchen has gone through. Like when you said, you dont want to hang around with Gretchen because she has a bad reputation. Yes, I do have a friend that has a bad reputation, but I still hang around with her sometimes, and we're still friends. It's not my business to step and judge her life. I just worry about myself. And help her through that. You know what I mean? And im only 18 years old, I hope you get to talk to Gretchen for you both to set things aside. :)

What I like about you is the fact that you were not scared to show the world your financial story and made a smart decision to scale down when you needed to.

I think you are very beautiful. Your pictures from your photo diary are soooooo adorable. I love the pics from when you two were younger. I think you are even more beautiful now.

go TAMRA! u tell her girl ! u have so many ppl supporting you

Hey Viv, seems Tamra has more comments than old Gretchy. Me thinks not so many like her too much any more so you have about a few that will post. Not so much about the comments. Maybe the people who watch have better things to do than sit and post on a reality show. I myself am one of them. Fortunately I have a lunch period. Go Tamra. You do what you gotta do girl. Everything comes out in theend.You are so funny. We love you in San Diego!!!!

WONDERFUL BLOGGING TAMRA!!! You stayed SO Positive I LOVE IT!!!

Ps.. I tell Dave ALL the time... "When i married MR. RIGHT, I didnt realize his 1st name was ALWAYS!!! LMAO You know Dave & I have been going threw the SAME Struggles & It's been so hard on him & I & I RESPECT you for letting All your Fans know how REAL YOu REALLY ARE!!!!
Hugs & Blessings to you!!!
Krazy Jess

Tamra, I think you are one of the only honest ones on the show. I love when you "address" issues rather than pretending things don't exist (such as internet photos of a certain Housewife!) Your financial troubles are temporary, and when the market recovers for all of us, you and Simon will always have a better relationship than most people. Keep it real! Love ya!

I think you and gretchen would have a great time together because you both like to have fun, so i think you two need to put the past behind you... as far as her relationship with jeff i believe that was between her and jeff even though i honestly believe they loved eachother it showed when they were alone together.

You should see the struggles everyone is going through, Please.... yours is not that bad, Just when you think you got it BAD look around my friend.When you move out of your beautiful home your still going to move into another beautiful home..You don't know what hard times are yet until your on the streets...
You get out what you put in ...it is true so listen to my advise here..
You should help out this year a a homeless shelter and really see that alot of good people have it bad..You need to focus on doing work for GOD and forget about Gretchen... it is so old with you two.You and her act like school girls..PLEASEEE!! Move on my friend to doing GOOD things..

All I can say is, Tamara, I'm glad I'm not on TV so that e very aspect of my life can be scrutinized by the public!

All I can say is, Tamara, I'm glad I'm not on TV so that e very aspect of my life can be scrutinized by the public!

Oh!!! And dont let it get you down that you dont have asmany comments as some other HWs. I work like 12 hrs a day and so do many of my other friends who like watching you. We just dont usually have time to post here but we make time to watch!

Gotta admit I don't always agree with you or even understand you but I ALWAYS am entertained when I watch you hehe Keep it up, Tamra.

I think some stress between your husb. and yourself has to do with the campaign you took up against Gretchen. You might be right about her but it doesn't matter. Adults have to live their own lives whether you approve or not. Trying to out her only made you look more crazy than the situation she was involved in. I think how you behaved only embarrassed your husband the more. I think he really just wanted you to be able to handle yourself more respectfully.

Tamra,

I've never really watched your show much until the end of last season, but I think I would understand the basis of your friendship with Lynne.

As you know, everyone goes through difficult times--and it's now your turn. But that's how we develop our REAL strength--in our family, in our friends, and in our faith in God.

You're a smart lady--you're starting to assess things before you speak. And Gretchen's fakeness is clear to many. So don't apologize for being so astute. It's just a matter of time before Lynne wisens up to Gretchen's ways. And it's a matter of time before you wisen up to Vicki.

Afterall, you can't "act" if you don't really know how to react. (Seriously. How long did you think Gretchen would actually mourn for Jeff?! And do you think Vicki would loan YOU money if you and yours truly needed it?!)

Gretchen's just going on the offensive to gain a few points (with others), but that's only in the short-term. You have some serious responsibilities--a family to take care of for the long haul (i.e., actual human beings), so don't apologize for that. EVERYONE has their ups & downs.

Just beware of any "fair weather friends". Enough said.

FIRST OFF LET ME SAY I LOVE YOU AND THE ENTIRE CAST. IF YOU DONT LIKE GRETCHEN WHY DO YOU KEEP GIVING HER THE ENGERY TO FEED OFF OF. I AM NOT CHOOSING SIDES BUT IT WOULD SEEM THAT YOU TWO ARE ALWAYS AT WITH NO RESOULUTION. I DON'T THINK IT MAKES EITHER ONE OF YOU THE WINNER. IF SHE IS NO LONGER INVOLVED WITH JAY HE SHOULDN'T BE HARRASSING YOU ANY LONGER. SO WHAT SHE DOES WITH HER LIFE IS HER OWN. SHE IS YOUNG AND IMMATURE ON SOME LEVELS BUT SHE HAD TO HAVE SOMETHING GOING FOR HER IF SHE LANDED JEFF AND HIS FAMILY'S APPROVAL. YOU WERE FRIENDS AT FIRST SHE WAS PUT INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON FIGURE IT OUT AND MOVE ON. YOU ARE MY FAVORITE HOUSEWIFE OF ORANGE COUNTY, I KNOW YOU ARE GOING THROUGH SOME TOUGH TIMES BUT YOU ARE BLESSED WITH YOU HUSBAND AND CHILDREN. DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME ON SMALL PETTY THINGS AND PEOPLE LIFE IS TO SHORT. YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL INTELLIGENT HARDWORKING WOMAN WHO I WOULD SEE AS A ROLE MODEL FOR A LOT OF YOUNG LADIES STARTING TO MAKE THEIR MARK IN THE WORLD. YOUR STORY IS ONE THAT LOTS OF YOUNG LADIES CAN RELATE TO. SO CONTINUE TO HOLD YOUR HEAD UP AND REMEMBER TO BLESSED TO BE STRESSED.

Tamra,How do your struggles compare with what people around the world are going through? Maybe comparative O.C.residents, but not the world. Reading the blogs, I think, maybe someone will have a jolt of REALITY and honestly see how they are portrayed on the show. Never happens. Case in point, you are getting into the real estate business at the same time Jeanna has taken 2/3 cut in her real estate income. Is something wrong with this picture? I will tune in again this week,but it appears the O.C.Housewives have had their run,and the viewers are tired.

Hey Tamra! I just wanted to tell you how truly amazing & brave it is to share your financial struggles with america! I am only 22 so I don't know much but I know it is tough, & I cried when you started crying in that last clip. I love you, & I love watching you...you're the best & I think it is great to show everyone that even the people with lots of money have struggles as well! I hope everything is better :)
love you :)

Glad to see you are finally growing up. It was nice to read a more postive blog and you kept it focused on you and not on Gretchen. Keep it that way and you will be more respected.

Keep your head up Tamra :) A lot of us are going through hard times.

Just stick to being more positive in all your dealings, Tamara and it will pay off I promise!:))

NOTE TO EVERYONE POSTING! Her name is Tamra, not Tamara or Tamera. TAM-RA. Tamra. It drives me nuts when people spell my name wrong. Tamra, does it bother you??

Just wanted to say I looove the pic of you above... it reminds me of Victoria beckham in a good way.

Tamara to be honest I was going to ask what is your problem. After reading your BIO I had a change of heart. Don't get sucked in to someone else DRAMA. Right now you have a full plate as it is. This economy has hit a lot of people. It is really hard. Gretchen is who she is and let her be. Let her live her life, and you live yours. Maybe don't get to close to her yet and just step back and do your own thing. Honestly the 2nd show with the fight at Lynn's party was wrong. And you know that. Hell I say things in the heat of the moment and then regret it. We all do it. Just try. Try to be understanding. What Gretchen went through I don't even know how I would act. Everyone deals with pain in their own way. Be GOOD

Tamra, I'm on your side. You are a real woman who really values what matters in this world, family, real friends, morals, values, and respect. You go GIRL!!! See you around OC! :)

Tamra you are my favorite Housewife!!!  You are real, and that means not always perfect.  Good for you for being true and not fake on TV.

Wow! Nice blog. I'm glad that this season shows a different side to your marriage and financial situation. It makes you seem more real and we can relate to you.
The spat with Gretchen: get over it. Move on. I don't blame you because you were dragged into it but stop....be the bigger person.

Tamra,
I really enjoyed reading your blog this week. It cleared up a lot of what I "perceived" and was somewhat wrong. I am also married (22 years) and realize a marriage has quite a few up and downs. Heck we could fight 3 years ago and people still focusing on that and we have moved on as well as had spats since. Glad that Simon and you are both employed and you all are keeping things focused. May God Bless!

Tamra, I feel for you. Don't worry we see the way things are while watching the show. Before you and gretchen got into it, last season I had a bad feeling about her. I felt really sorry for her boyfriend who was dying at the time. Your my favorite housewife and hope that if you do move it doesn't mean we won't see next season. Your right money isn't the end all. Family is.

Tamara, you are a beautiful lady. I just do not understand what the big deal is with you and Gretchen. She is responsible for her live and actions just as you are yours. You can not change a person.Rise above it! You have more important things to worry about and you two are not in the same place in your lives. Let her live and make her own path in life. It was so sad seeing you two going at it like that at Lynn's party. I hope you guys have a good season.

You are and always have been my favorite housewife. I feel bad that you are on this show and get picked on so much. I feel like the editing makes it appear that the only thing you do is sit home and think about what Gretchen is doing. I don't believe that is the truth and that Bravo simply does it to boost ratings. I can only imagine all the hate mail you have received and I am sorry you have had to undergo that stress. You are beautiful and have so much going for you. Best of luck to you and your family during these tough times.

love you girls!

Tamara, I am glad to hear that you and Simon are in a better place. Can I ask why he (Simon) always tells you season after season to keep it classy? I enjoyed your post until you make the Slade comment. Let it go.

Tamra,

I think you will be happier if you just let your issue with Gretchen go. Why do you care so much? If you say you got pulled into her situation, ignore it! Who cares it is HER life not yours!

Tamra, You are sooo sweet! I think you are correct about Gretchen. She needs to find some morals! I would have you for a friend over her anyday!!!

I think that you apologizing and rectifying yourself for what was aired on last weeks show, was very commendable. I would hope that you wouldn't be as nasty and degrading as they make you out to be. One thing I would like to say though, if you've only met Slade 4 times in your life, how would you know a lick about how much time he spends with his children? You wouldn't, right?! I think you should consider being mute if you're chosen to continue with this show.

Tamra I just love you and I admire that you are yourself on the show! Your real through the good and the bad which shows alot of courage. I'm not the type of person to ever leave a person on TV feedback or fanmail but I just want to say that you are what keeps me and many others tuning in everynight! Your awesome and I love that you put your family first, more people need to be like you!

Wow!! Your new found attitude is refreshing!! Glad you learned and changed for the better if only we could all do that...Good luck in all your endeavors!

So glad you came to your senses and now working on your life instead of Gretchen's. Life pays of when you focus on your own life. Good luck to you and the new you.

Tamra you and Vicky are my favorites and Im so glad the show is back on for another season. I missed you girls! OC HW are the BEST! I live in RSM so occasionally I'll see the housewives or their family members around town which is very exciting! Best of luck to you and your family the reccession has really affected everyone so hang in there.

Tamara- You are Great... I totally relate to you, and you can chose your friends (and becareful doing it). I think you are who you associate with truly. That was what I thought your point was and you have children and want to be classy and respected you can't do that being seen around town with someone like that. I feel very strongly that everything we have can be taken away in second so the people with opinions about your financial sitution may be broke tommorow life is full of surprises.. God has a plan for you and your family (that is only my belief). You love Gretchen and pray for her but you don't have to trust her or respect her actions and intentions..

I really started loving the show when you were cast, you give the show so much humor and a lively vibe that it always needs, i am a mother of 2 and hope that i can be as funny and fun to be around as you in my future years to come, your personality is contagious and you should continue to spread! i think slade will eat his words of wisdom to gretchen about you when this small flame burns out for them, ready for next week:)

Tamra,
You got upset about putting your house on the market and I thought you overreacted. I recently lost my mother and we had to put our house on the market cause we couldnt afford to keep it and I am not rich and I dont live in a prominate area and it upset me terribly and I think you over exagerate, I am sure your better off in this economy alot more than some people and you act like your becomming the poor class and I think its disrespectful to people who actually are not wealthy and do struggle even with a job. I wish my mother's house was worth a million, heck I'd settle for half a million.

YOU ARE MY FAV... YOU ARE BEEING A REAL HOUSEWIVE BECAUSE YOU ARE SHOWING WHAT PPL ARE GOING TREW RIGHT NOWAND NOT BEING FAKE ABOUT IT...

It's strange because last season you and simon had a wonderful relationship and I don't know if it's the editing but so far the two of you don't even seem like the same couple...hope it works out because you came across as very loving and great parents last season.

Glad that you are changing ...kindness and goodness will do the trick.

First, it is nice to see how compromises and cutbacks involve things all of us have been doing for years. Like cleaning our own houses, and spending quality time as a family.

Many of us manage full-time careers, family and budgets that prepare us for rainy days, months and seasons.

I agree with Viewer1234. If u've only been around Slade 4 times and he doesn't know u to talk bad about u then pls realize that that means u don't know him and shouldn't talk bad him either. It works two ways sweetheart!!

I thought you looked petty and spiteful and jealous. You should really try to be nice, and stop bringing up old things. A woman with class would never behave the way you did. Gretchen is young and will make mistakes, JUST LIKE YOU DID. Try being a lady.

First of all, love the show and love you Tamara. But here's the thing... I think only the rich people are affected by this economy. I live comfortably in the upper middle class. I spend lots of time with my kids, work part time, still take great vacations, and have a great life. Seeing you cry over selling your house with all the art work, jewelry, and fake boobs doesn't really make me feel sorry for you. If raising kids and being a mom is the most important thing to you - then do that... without all of the make up, hair dye, and other things that cost money!

Tamra, you are the only reason I watch the show...you are the only woman that seems to have a backbone,real priorities,and you seem to be grounded. People judge you because 1)they are painfully jealous 2)they've such low self-esteem that the only way for them to feel good is to take jabs at you. I would love to see how many viewers Bravo would lose if you were no longer on the show. Gretchen can't handle you because she can't handle the truth about who she really is. Let's just be honest, you have what she wants:A gorgeous husband, A gorgeous family, a gorgeous home, a mother who isn't ashamed of you, and you never sold out like she did.The truth hurts.

Tamara, I wonder have you ever been around anyone who is dying? Jeff was dying, he knew it. If he wanted to have Gretchen around him at the end, and give her things, see her smile whatever his reason, that was up to him. He had several wives, from my understanding, so I believe he knew what he was doing. I wish you would just resovle to the fact that it was none of your business, it was between a dying man and her. I like you and this is making you look so petty. Just the fact you admit you looked up her pictures, which you have to look for them, shows you believe you have something to prove. What?
Do you believe you should take away a dying mans wishes, is it your duty or something?

I think its great that you aired your financial issues. It makes you ladies real. I look forward to seeing who will fight through their situation and come out on top. We all have issues in our homes no matter what income level we are at. Its how we handle the problem that counts.

By the way, I love your hair this year.

Lucy

Tamra, you are the only reason I watch the show...you are the only woman that seems to have a backbone,real priorities,and you seem to be grounded. People judge you because 1)they are painfully jealous 2)they've such low self-esteem that the only way for them to feel good is to take jabs at you. I would love to see how many viewers Bravo would lose if you were no longer on the show. Gretchen can't handle you because she can't handle the truth about who she really is. Let's just be honest, you have what she wants:A gorgeous husband, A gorgeous family, a gorgeous home, a mother who isn't ashamed of you, and you never sold out like she did.The truth hurts.

With respect to your post, "NO he doesn't ALWAYS think he's right. . .":
Tamra, Simon *did* ask, "When was the last time I was wrong? Not about everything, but about (us)." The correct answer is: right then. Like most of us, Simon wants to be perceived as intelligent, wise, and desirable. Such an in-your-face question is that of a pompous cynic, not someone people want to be around, no matter how smart, knowledgeable, and "right" he may be.

The way we live our lives during difficulty is what really shows what we are made of and you and your family are stellar! Yes your relationships will be tested but when you are through the worst of it you will say "we can face and get through anything as a family!" Keep up the fight Tamara, a house is the product of your work but it does not define success or failure and your family is your family anywhere you live! - Love you, keep smiling!

I am glad to read in your blog that u guys are past all the b.s I really like u and Gretchen you guys were my favorite don't let a phone be the end of your friendship and please don't let vikki get in your ear can't stand her she thinks she is so much than everybody and what she did to jeana was just awful watch your back cause u may be next but really rise above all the b.s and u be who u are and thats all .

Hey Tamra! I just wanted to tell you how truly amazing & brave it is to share your financial struggles with america! I am only 22 so I don't know much but I know it is tough, & I cried when you started crying in that last clip. I love you, & I love watching you...you're the best & I think it is great to show everyone that even the people with lots of money have struggles as well! I hope everything is better :)
love you :)

You and Simon were extremely uncomfortable aroung Alexis and her husband. They are where you used to be in their connection. I am sure you and Simon will get back there. Money is the root cause of most divorces so I am sure your decision to short sale your house helped to alleviate that problem. You are flawed and wonderful. I do not feel like you are trying to be someone you are not. You seem to be the only one on this show who is showing their full deck of cards. You are real and the viewers can see that. Let Gretchen fall on her own sword. If she is not being truthful it will come out. Stop making yourself look bad by trying to bust her out.

You are great. I hope you dont think of yourself as a failure for selling your house. It is smart and sad to do so. As long as you dont continue to live beyound your means you will be just fine. My heart goes out to you for haveing to sell your home.

Good for you! you are my favorite housewife =D. Times are tough for everyone thanks for reminding us that were not alone out there.

I'm glad to read in your blog that you have chosen to focus on yourself. I loved you in the first season

ya enjoy your kids they are only little for a little while. life is tough for everyone right know and as Americans we all need to stick togeather and use our vouices .

Glad to hear your over the Gretchen thing because you were looking pretty bad. Let Gretchen worry about her life and you worry about yours.
Good luck to you and your family and I hope the decision to short sale is a good one for you. My husband and I are in the same boat as the rest of the country.

Tamra I love you!!! Keep doing what you're doing hun!

Tamra - It was difficult seeing your family have to sell your house after working so hard for it. I have seen so many go through it this year and you are right to be thankful for what you do have. I try to remember that as well.

Tamra,
I am extremely happy that your life is going well. I am also happy that you do appreciate what you have and are living your life in a respectable way. I do not mean to be rude when I say this, it is just that you and the other housewives are portrayed as materialistic and self absorbed. It is refreshing to see that you are "mortal" and have regular problems just like the rest of us.
Much love and happiness to you and your family.

Tamra, i felt really bad when you were so emotional about your house. I live in Texas actually south Texas, and people here really haven't experienced the recession, and i know my family hasn't. I saw a different side of you tonight and I actually respected you more than I have in past seasons. Your financial issues showed the reality of how bad the economy actually is. You look better than ever! Best of luck to you and your family.

Tamra,
First I want to start by saying I think you are truly gorgeous. To be 41 you do not look it. I think you are funny. Anyway, I would like to make a comment about what you and Vicki had said about Jeff paying Gretchen to take care of him. If he was then he and Gretchen knew what the arrangement was and he would have obviously been okay with it. Maybe that was his dying wish, and he didn't want his children and family knowing that and thinking bad of Gretchen. There are so many kinds of love. You don't love your children the way you do your husband. I know that you don't like Gretchen, but it was very clear that she did love Jeff. Furthermore, there are so many things that people do or have done in there life that may be wrong or not what society deems as "classy", Gretchen just happened to be one of the people who got caught. In my opinion Gretchen has had some really bad people around her in her life that are probably just looking to make a quick buck or get their 15 minutes of fame. I believe Gretchen hides her pain with laughter and drinking. It is clear she is going through some things, so wouldn't it say more about you and your character that you try and be one of the decent friends in her life that she needs rather than talk about her mistakes and call her a "hooker". Thanks,Brandi

Tamara, you are so right, I am glad to hear that you and your husband are doing well, your children and you two make a beautiful family. I hope you stay away from Gretchen because she is somewhat immature, and doesn't undestand what she did wrong. One thing I am sure about is pictures don't lie, people do.
I adore you ladies, and I am glad you ladies are back for another season, God bless you, and can't wait for next week!!

Exactly! If you don't know Slade then why were you talking bad about him?! Take your own advice.

AMEN TAMRA! YOU ARE AWESOME!!!!!!!