This was really interesting. I loved reading it

I don't know if you and Donn went to counceling, but it sure seems that Donn is filling you love tank this season. I love to see that. I would hate to see you quit the show because of the others and the way they act toward you. It's bad enough that the others left. I still think you and Tamara are tight.

Vickie,

I LOVED your date with your husband, can't remember when I laughed so much and appreciated the high points of a long term relationship, lol! Thanks for sharing!

vicki, i just love u u are great at first i didn't like u but watching the show you are real and a working women. see u renewing your vows , shows that u are trying t save your marriage. don is a good man, if he was single and i was i would hit on him. anyhow hold on t him he's a good man. love ya

Vicki,

i just love you and your work ethic. You work hard for everything you have and you really appreciate the life you have. I admire you for teaching your kids the value of money, planning and having goals, something a lot of kids these days are lacking. Keep up the new attitude and constantly growing, you ROCK!

I didn't like you Vicky from day one but that has changed over time as I watched you, if I may say "grow up" on tv.
What you did for Donn was amazing and may I add that he is the HOTTEST of all the men and the most down to earth guy of them all.
Back to you now Vicky you are so funny at times and love watching you now more then ever. I hope you and Donn have many many happy years together. You two are awesome!!

I have never posted anything on a blog, but after seeing today's rerun, I had to go online and say something. Vicki, of all the housewives, I admire you the most. People on the show bash you because you work hard and you're very independent. However, like you said, you're house isnt in foreclosure and you're secure with yourself in that you dont need to be leashed to your husband like a puppy. I have noticed that the husbands on the show seem possesive and controlling, so it's good to see someone like Don giving his wife trust and space to breath and set her own goals. It was refreshing to see you both go from contemplating divorce to working on the relationship, devoting time to eachother and renewing your vows. So beautiful! Vicki, I applaud you and your family. Screw what all the other prissy housewives and their 19th century husbands say, you're doing great.

Viki:
I have been watching your shoe since season 1.Though I dislike most of the plastic surgery shown,for me being needless,and sometimes excessive,I commend you as a woman.
Your woo-woo is too funny.You enjoy life,work hard,maintain your family in a productive way.
One need not be handcuffed by their spouse to enjoy a weekend with friends.Kudos to Don and yourself for truly portraying a strong marriage,which has had it;s ups and downs~haven't we all!
I am a Registered Nurse,and I take delight that your daughter has chosen that field,wherever it may lead her.
Keep you head held high above the rest of the ladies~they have much to learn from a woman of substance who still likes to have fun and knows her limits.
You are a true lady!

You talk the talk about what a good marriage is, now if you can learn to walk the walk, there will be hope.

Vicki
I wish I had girlfriends around me like you. It is so refreashing to see a woman with so much power in her sole. I watch OC because of you. Thank god for you.

I have to say that I didn't care for Vicki the past few seasons, but I am loving her this season. I think that out of all the housewives and husbands/significant others, Don and her have the best chance of surviving and making it in this crazy world. I love the fact that they renewed their vows and their family is pretty tight. Her kids seem to be the best adjusted kids of the show and that says alot for the mother. And kudos to Don for accepting her two kids as his own. We all wish we could be so successful as she is in her business and personal life. I love the fact that she tells it like it is when she does not care for someone or their behavior. Everyone should be more like that and not fake to your face and then stab you in the back the minute you're not around. And we all know we do it, don't we??!!! Thanks to Bravo for showing more of the positive Vicki this year and not the normal way they have showed her in the previous seasons. Congrats to Vicki and Don and their successful life. WooHoo!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Vicki,
I watch your show like a religion, and even though you are said to be a little off the rocker, you seam to be the only one that is successful on your own. You trust Donn and Donn trusts you. Your children are successful and that is because you have made them that way.
I love that you can have your own money and you are proud of that, I don't think the other housewives can say that.
Even though to me you girls are living in a fanacy world, I would really like to see you girls come to a small town like Idaho Falls, Idaho to see how the girls here all have families, a full time job, and still take care of everything with maids.

I just want to say that Vicki you are my hero. I don't know too much about the new house wife, but I have always admire you despite what negative comments are made about you. This season I respect you more and your take charge attitude over your life, love, happiness and business. I encourage you to continue on your path of success in every corner of your life. As for the other housewives, you can not bring your friends up to your level and until they get to your level then you have to distance yourself from that negatitivity. Best wishes in all your endeavors. I look forward to the next season. God Bless
Ms. Angela Coleman

It is our right to run our relationship however the heck we want.I feel respected, trusted, and bonded to my partner after a refreshing weekend with my girlfriends. I also love the reception I get when I return home. It is also super important my girls and I keep our bond. It is all healthy BALANCE. Watching you and Donn brought a tear to my eye and reminded me how lucky I am to have a man that encourages me to keep a piece of my individuality even though I am involved in a partnership. This individuality enables both of us to bring useful life tools to the table. My theory is that YOU CAN NEVER EXPERIENCE MISSING SOMEONE IF THEY ARE NEVER GONE!

Vickie, you and Don are awesome. He trusts you and you trust him, thats obvious. Tamra and Simon and the new HW and her sugar daddy are in the most unhealthist marriages I've seen. They are clueless on how foolish they sound. Lynn and Gretchen and their SO's are great too. Love your wedding, tell Don we cried with him. Love you guys

Hi!
In my opinion, you and Jeanna were the only normal ones of the bunch. My husband would NEVER behave the way those other husbands do. A marriage in a partnership, not slavery!!!

Thanks :) Bev

Vicki,
I would like to say that, watching the episode of yall renewing vowels made me realize that I wish I had that kind of love in my life. I'm in a horrible relationship and I envy what I saw between Don and yourself. Yall are so blessed to have that connection and happiness.I wish my boyfriend loved me like that but he doesn't.

Vicki, you are beautiful! You are a wise women, one who knows and can appreciate what she has, besides being a very hard worker.
Renewing your vows with your husband, Don, was one of the most heartfelt and sincere episodes I have ever watched, it made me cry with happiness for you. Please don't ever change, we love you for the woman you are.

Vicki & Don, way to go you two are great & it shows in every way keep doing what you both do best, trust in each other I've always said that you two have a good thing going. You are real people & your love shows in your marriage,children,work,friends & fun,Vicki, you try to help the other housewives have fun,but the insecurity in their husband's make it hard on you,it seems Lynn's husband is the only one that can let her go someplace without him. Your Great Joyce

Vickie I just want 2 say how much I admire u. I was was almost in tears tonight watching the show when u and Don renewed your vows. I totally agree with u about the girls weekend out. I would have gotten pissed off 2, when the guys came along. I am just like u I like my metime with my friends. Keep doing what u doing cause u are my favorite!

Hi Vicky,

I thought that this episode of you and Don was one of my favorite episodes. It totally showed a different/softer side of you. I was touched by how appreciative and in love Don seemed the entire time you were on your trip. He just looked at you with loving eyes the entire time. I wish you both the best.

This new episode of you and your husband re-building your marriage on the islands is so inspirational! How far you two have come battling the media, new fame, and daily issues every marriage deals with. Way to show everyone that you two are MEANT for each other and people need to focus on their own marriage and nobody elses! Keep up the positivity!

I find a great deal of inspiration from your marriage journey and in particular, this change of course you've both taken. My husband and I were in a similar situation where we hit walls that seemed impenetrable. Once faced with that unbearable reality, it came down to making simple choices. We chose to reach out for one another and forgive the past, move forward and embrace the today. It was so easy, I wonder why we didn't take these steps before. I wish you and Donn the best, because that is what you have chosen!

Vicki, I agree with several of the other postings. You just really seem confortable in your own skin and really at peace with yourself and other. I can really tell a change with your interaction with the Donn, your kids and the housewives. Good for you. I am trying to accomplish the same with my life and friends. Way to go!

My husband and I have been married for 21 years. I'm 45 and he is 46 and we do not spend hardly anytime apart. When we were married for 15 years or so, I did take a couple trips with my girlfriends, but, just like Donn he did not mind and I am sure if Donn ever showed any disapproval of you going without him, you would not go. But he is cool with it and you have a strong marriage just by the way he treats you and the way you are around him, I think you are a great couple. We are comfortable with our marriages and I think you and Donn are great together. There's trust there and love. And you communicate very calm and civil with each other. Not all this bickering junk and drama with each other, is necessary.

Vicki,
I’m proud of your success; however, I'd like to share a little insight. Independence and success do not need to equate to emasculating your husband. (And your husband will NEVER tell you that’s how you make him feel.) I’m speaking from experience as I was the ‘power player’ in my marriage (continual six-figure income), but I gained this insight the hard way after my marriage was OVER. Fortunately, I’m only 39 and have many good years ahead of me to apply this insight. Trust me…if you don’t soon, you will one day wake up a very lonely woman with only your money to count on and Donn with be happily married to a woman that not only allows, but even appreciates him being the alpha male. I’m not suggesting you need to be subservient, just not aggressive, which is completely different than assertive. Assertiveness is positive, aggression is negative.

There is so much more power in being a female than trying to be a shemale. I’m in an EXTREMELY male dominated field and have gained so much insight to the male psyche from being so. I find I am SO much happier and much more successful allowing the men in my life to be MEN- Ironically; I’m even more empowered in my relationships. Remember… power is often met with resentment and results in rebellion, where influence is often met with reception and results in agreement.

Vicki, I watched this weeks episode with compassion for you. I am alot like you, a business woman; and I am very social, like to have fun, outgoing and outspoken. I think it was poor judgment for the other ladies to bring spouses to something "girl" that originated from you. and then some of men's comments about you not showing up was so twisted of "where is the gratitude? very weird. I understand your conflict and not wanting to be with them. Just wanted to say too I noticed that you were teary eyed and I heard you say you and your hubby had a tough year...I so identify with you... I am about your age and so has my husband and I had a hard year. speaking only for me, I actually have been menopausal which stress makes worse, saw my dr. and now I am on progesterone and its helping me calm down and sleep better .... hope you feel better soon! whenever chips go up, things come down. keep it light and don't take too much care, God bless you,
Cindy

I really like Vickie, she is a strong independent lady, but she does go away alot without
her husband, so why does she need a girls week-end out. Didn't she just go to Italy without her husband. I agree everyone needs time away, but she carries it a bit to far and
you can't work on your marriage if your gone all the time.

Vicki,

I completely agree with you on the whole "girl's trip" thing. I think it's ridiculous that these women can't travel without their husbands for three days. Yea they might be "so in love" but I come from a house where my father traveled all the time and didn't take my mother with him. It's about trust...clearly you and your husband trust each other more than these other women and their husbands.

Everyone needs to lighten up...a girl's trip should stay that way!

I think you and Donn are great!!! you have a health relationship. Everyone goes through ups and downs, but if they to of you are happy at the end of the day thats wonderful!! I have to side with you on the girls trip. They came out because of you, and you should have atleast been asked about having the husbands there, and if the men were going to be there than they would NOT have gone to ANYTHING that was planned. You were right in sticking your grounds...its hard sometimes but its a good thing you did. Lynn even said that she could see where you were coming from because it got werid! Good for you!!! and you and Donn are right...because neither one of you are controlling the other they see it is strange...which is totally wrong!

Vicki,

I am so happy to see you and Don working it out. Just watching Don on this weeks episode, let me know that he is truly a good catch. Handsome, funny, motivated and just awesome. You two were so adorable at dinner. I'm sure the others wish they had half of the relationship you two share. I know I do. As far as Simon thinking you are a bad influence. He got it twisted.

Vicki,
I agree with you to a point that it is healthy to spend some time away from responsibilities, I take a girls trip every year with my best friends and those trips have given me some of my fondest memories, however, my concern is not with your inability to accept and adapt to minor situations that may not be going your way, but it's with the fact that you would seemingly pit a husband and a wife against one another. A wife's loyalty should be to her husband first and foremost. Tamara took a vow before God to stand by her husband, You and Tamera build a bond over beer pong. Now I'm no old school woman I'm very independant but as I said before, my husband is my family and no friend or foe is going to make me feel bad for valuing what my husband believes is important. There must be a reason why these families have developed these rules, and whos to say it's a way to control or that it's basis is in mistrust. What works for you may not work for them and I don't think it's fair that you should have a tantrum like a toddler to make your "friend" feel as though standing by her husband is "disloyal" to your friendship.

Vicky - In all honesty, I have to say that in previous seasons, there has not been too many issues with which I agreed with you. You do come across as a bit controlling - or is it strong - or is it opinionated or is it BRUTALLY honest? I don't know, but I agree with 100% about the women's weekend. That was the purpose,and if Tamra, Gretchen, and Lisa felt that the need get away with their husbands/boyfriend, then they should have done so separate and a part from your planned weekend.Not to make excuses, but Gretchen, although seeming to be nice enough, is not the brightest bulb in the pack; she doesn't seem to think on any level of depth, so whatever she does, she does based on her immediate need (or want). I am on the fence with Lisa; I think I like her, but there have been a few episodes already in which Jim talks to her in a tone I find offensive and controlling.Simon wants to blame Tamra's behavior on you - how silly is that?? She is an adult, is she not? He is a very selfish, insecure individual; that is evident in the issues regarding Tamra's son. Continue to rise above it; Donn is a good guy! I respect him so much and am so happy that the two of you are working on your relationship. Jim and Simon have strange personalities, I think.

Vicki!

You go girl!!! You have always been my favorite since day one. You are such an inspiration and everytime that I watch you I feel energized and I thank you for showing us that you can have healthy relationship with your spouse, children and all that combined with a successful career. Most importantly, thank you for showing us the your are the primary person responsible of you hapiness, not somebody else and that you should remain true to yourself. All these people on the show who are saying negative things about you are only intimidated by you and for that reason, they think that by putting you down, it will make them feel a little better about themselves. The only reason I watch this show is to see what you are up to. God bless you Vicki and keep your head up!!!

i watched the florida episode and wondered, if they travel all the time together who would take of the small children if something tragic happens and they should both lose their lives? and another question, do they travel with their children all the time? if not, does that mean they don't enjoy their company? just a thought.

Vicki

I think you are awesome and I am glad you are devoting some time to your relationship. You are absolutely correct that you don't need your spouse with you 24/7 and people who do obviously have trust issues. I think that both Tamra and Alexis would love some alone time but do what their husbands want because they depend on them financially.

ROCK ON!

Vicki- I've never posted a comment or followed blogs before but watching tonight's episode in Florida just made my heart go out for you and put my back up for you. You were completely in the right and you took the high road of just removing yourself from the situation versus trying to control the situation to suit you. The comments from the men were completely out of line. I could somewhat understand the men traveling with their wives if that is how their marriages work but they should have refrained from the planned activities.

One other thing that really stood out to me is that you looked so beautiful and young when you were opening up to Tamra. Your beauty is amazing. You must spend the least amount of time on yourself of all the housewives due to your career and family- but you look the most naturally beautiful.

Vicki I think you and Don have a great relationship it is healthy and rewarding. My husband and I have a relationship exactly like you and Don don't ever question it be Happy in it those who allow themselves to be controlled by their spouses have their own inner demons to deal with. Being friends with someone who is independant creates a problems for the controlling spouse because they begin to lose control. I applaude you and your success.
WOOO HOOO.

i completely agree with you Vicki!
i think it was disrespectful for the ladies to agree to a girls weekend and then take it upon themselves to bring the men in their lives! the least they could have done was told you ahead of time and not sprung it on you when they got there and expected you to to just roll with it. girls weekends are a good idea, guys weekends are a good idea. and if someone doesn't want to be there without their significant other then they should just decline the invitation totally. not just take it upon themselves to completely change was the point of the weekend was supposed to be.

it was so sad to see you upset this episode. and i'm sorry that they hurt your feelings. you had every right to be dissappointed.

and the whole episode i couldn't help but wonder what would happen if the tables were turned. what if Donn planned a guys weekend for Simon and the guys, and you showed up? do you think Simon would've been okay with that? i don't think so.

Congrats on the book Vicki, hopefully the first of many!
Happy Holiday to you see!

Vicki. I have been watching since season 1 as well. Out of all of the women on the show you are the only 1 who made her own life and the life of her childern. Hopefully your positive influnce well come around to Tamra. I do beleive the others are jealous because of yourself success and focus on your great kids. You did that. The others to me seem like puppies following there owners. Please keep with Tamra You can tell she has had anough of being a puppy.

You are a wonderful strong women.

Vikki- I swear you are the only sane person on this episode with the FL vaca! I love you and Don, and it's funny they kept saying you are insecure when you seem to be the only secure person there, with marriage and everything! Last season you were a little bit of a mean girl, but this season you are great! Keep being you, the others are obviously in bad relationships, VERY controlling and insecure......

vicki
hey i agree with you 100% those girls should not have took their husbands they knew before they came and if they didnt like it they should of stayed at home. i would been pissed off and cried too.

i want to comment on the episode that came out today December 17,2009 at 9PM. were yall go to the girls night out and the dumb husbands came........UHHHHHHHHH hint GIRLS NIGHT OUT keep your husbands home. I GOT YOUR BACK vicky because is true you planned a girls night out and they brought the guys.. i would be mad too at the other girls. AGAIN I GOT YOUR BACK GIRL.

Vicki - this season you have really portrayed yoruself in a better light. You appear to be the only housewife that makes sense!! I commend you on your career and trying to make your marriage work. I agree with why you were upset about the ladies weekend. The women were all rude and selfish, not to mention insecure for not knowing how to have a good time without their husbands. I would have gone with you without my husband. Keep up the good work.. you look great

I think you were right not to go with those girls that brought the husbands..They are very insecure if they cant have a girls night without the old men holding their hands!

I would be just as aggrivated with those women it was rude for them to invite their spouses/ lovers to an event you hosted. If they were true friends they would do what the host had planned and been considerate by understanding your feelings... in the end they knew what they were doing was wrong because they felt guilty but proceeded to do what they wanted in disregard to your feelings.

Vicki I am so glad you are on this show. You're a true inspiration and breath of fresh air. listening to the other women and their husbands talk about how they never go anywhere without each other made me sick. I bet it won't be long before we see them filing for divorce. Those relationships are so scary and sad. I think you and Donn should be very proud. By far you are the best couple on the show. Please don't let these other weak, ridiculous women bring you down. Trust me when I say that EVERYONE makes fun of them.

Vicki, I have to know......what is the lip color that you wear?????

Vicki! I was so frustrated just WATCHING the girls' trip episode! You have always been my favorite housewife, I really admire your independence and your ability to recognize your mistakes and maintain a well-rounded family while being so successful in your career.

Ur the bomb, Vicki!!!