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The Part that's Scary

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

The Part that's Scary

Jo De La Rosa reveals why she broke off her engagement to Slade.


Since the first episode aired, I have to say it's been great to feel the support from the viewers and from my friends and family. Everyone has been so supportive of my decisions, but of course I get a little bit worried. I care what people think, to a degree, but it's all televised, and so some people think I'm so dumb for breaking off my engagement, and some people think, "Oh, why is she going back to him now?" Even though I stand by my choices, I'm not going to lie, I like to please people. One thing that I think people don't understand about me is that before I met Slade, I was living on my own. You know, I had roommates, but I had three jobs. I lived paying for everything on my own, my car, my apartment, for college. My parents weren't helping me. I was a survivor, and I was proud that I made it on my own. It was hard, there were months when there wasn't toilet paper in my house or food in my cabinets. But that was the reality of it, and it was a time that sucked, but I really got to look at the bright side and say, you know what? I'm doing this for myself.


When I met Slade, he kind of opened up this whole new world of possibility. He kinda showed me a different life and a different lifestyle. And that can whet your appetite. You know, you become more and more curious. And so, I kind of got into the rhythm of going over and being with him all the time and having everything taken care of. Before you knew it, I wasn't working any more. And he was paying for everything. I think getting engaged to him, I lost myself living in his care. I lost who I was, I lost my drive, and my motivation, because everything came so easy. And about a year and a half into it, I realized I was drinking a lot. It's nothing that he did. It's the decisions that I made. I just realized that I was really unhappy. And I definitely wasn't ready to be married or to raise kids. I realized that I kept myself from fully maturing and fully growing up.


The scary part in deciding to break off an engagement is that you're not sure what your future holds. Being a really ambitious and driven person, I like to pre-plan everything, and not knowing what the future holds is really scary.


So, in this episode, there's a psychic at this party. And I had no idea Slade was sitting behind me. You would think I would, because he's so close behind me, but I had no idea he was back there. Which really sucked. And I was talking to a psychic, that can be a conversation that you get wrapped up in. I think I really wanted answers at the time. I was really vulnerable and I wanted the truth. I really wanted someone to help guide me, because I didn't want to make the wrong decision on my own. So, when she started telling me all that stuff, she was the first one ever to say all that to me. And I was scared. I was scared about making the wrong decision and lose the one thing that was stable and the thing that I love more than anything in my life.


There's a lot more story to come, and I don't want to give too much away, but I'll just say this: When you're in that position, more than anything, the scariest part is worrying about failure. What happens if I make that big leap on my own and think that I can do it on my own and then I fail? It's always hard to say.

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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