Cast Blog: #RHOC

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Motherhood, Energy Drinks, Playboy

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

Motherhood, Energy Drinks, Playboy

Tammy Knickerbocker reacts to her daughter's Playboy mansion visit.

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I've been asked what advice I would give other mothers out there who are helping their children through a grieving process. Tough subject, I must say. My first motto in life is to try and look at the positive and good in everything, second: deal with it, and then third — hopefully live with it the best way that works for YOU, without always taking into account what you are "supposed" to do or what society expects you to do

I try to help my daughters through their grieving process by reminding them of all the good that their father taught them, all that he gave them, but more than anything I want them to know that their father loved them. I grew up without a father and it was extremely difficult, but I also knew my mother loved me no matter what happened and she was always there for me.

I want my girls to know that I am there for them and it is okay to take the time to mourn, and that they need to do so in order to heal. So the advice I would impart to other parents is too spend as much time with your children as possible. They may not want to talk about the situation much in the beginning, but they will express their feelings more as they are able to handle them. Don't push. Also, it is a really good time to bond with your children because during this time they need to know you love them and that you are there for them because mainly I think they are afraid of the unknown.

With their Dad gone, their future has become more uncertain — they don't know how they will survive and what to do next. Combined with an aching heart it all just becomes overwhelming. Reassuring them as much as possible would be my best advice. In regards to the OC Energy Company and drink, it really does not affect me in any way other than I am happy Lindsey has a job that she enjoys. It has provided her with many opportunities to meet interesting people, visit beautiful places, and learn about charities.

The company and the girls on this program have worked very hard. It is not all fun and games, it is hard work, but they try to have fun with it. Lindsey is an adult and the decisions she makes are hers and I support her 100%. She is a smart young adult finding her way in life. In her case, it just happens to be occurring in front of millions of people.

The girls do visit the Playboy mansion in this last episode. I have been to the mansion and it is not a big deal, (they probably wish it was, but it's not). You hear all this stuff about naked people running around and random people having sex. That is not true, or at least it wasn't when I was there. I would rather Lindsey just stay home every night and cook with Ryley and I, but that is not realistic and I accept that as a parent.

I did worry about her when she went to the mansion because you never know what will happen there (or anywhere for that matter). But I just have to let her be an adult and hope she has the tools needed to make the right decisions in a bad situation. The mansion is a beautiful place and they hold some of the major charity events there because the property is so massive and very unique. But like anything, you can also find something bad in anything if you look for it...