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40's the New 30

Tamra Barney recounts her 40th birthday bash, including the backstory on her new bling.


Now that I'm 40, where do I start ... How about my party? Simon had full control of planning my birthday party and would not give me any details. I was a bit nervous. It was my 40th and I wanted it to be special ... and boy was it! Welcome aboard the Paradiso (a 85-foot charter yacht in Newport Beach). When I found out where my birthday was going to be held I was so excited. Who wouldn't want a party on a yacht? Simon did such an amazing job planning the party, from the food, flowers, guest list, and my favorite Sprinkles cupcakes. With all my friends and family there to help me celebrate I couldn't ask for a better celebration. Thank you, Simon!

I actually was not worried at all about turning 40. I think the editing made me look like It was the only worry I had in my life. No one wants to get old, but it is definitely better than the alternative! I try to live a healthy lifestyle, work out, and eat right, and the Botox helps. I know I'm not 20 anymore and I'm OK with that. I am happier than I have ever been in my life. I don't think life changes because you turn 40 — from what I hear it gets better. I am actually looking forward to life in my 40s. I think you worry less about the small things. Besides, 40 is the new 30. Well, it sounds good.


OMG — the watch is amazing. No one deserves a watch like that! I was NOT expecting such an extravagant gift from Simon. The party was more then I could have asked for. I was a little embarrassed. I personally do not like getting gifts, especially when people are watching me open them. Simon is a giver and loves holidays and birthdays. He always gives the best presents ever. As much as I love the watch, I already have a beautiful Rolex that I wear everyday. The new one is for "dressing up," so I do not wear it that much. I'm afraid someone will cut my arm off. But when I do wear it to those special places, I will always remember what a wonderful 40th birthday I had.

Last year was quite a learning experience for me. Like most stay-at-home mothers, I spent so much time doing things for other people that I felt like I was losing my identity in the process. So, I decided that I would continue to take care of my family, but I was determined to make myself a priority. I hired a part-time nanny, starting working, went to lunch with friends, joined boot camp, hit the tanning salon, went away with the girls to San Diego, and drank WAY too much. Although it was a lot of fun, truthfully It really isn't who I am. I will continue my real estate career; I will continue working out and keeping my self fit, and having lunch with the ladies. However, my first priority will always be my kids and husband. Trying to find that perfect balance in life is hard, but after 40 years I think I have it figured out now. I might be 40 but I will always be that quirky, silly, smart-ass girl I was in my 20s ... That's just me!

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Shannon Settles the Score

If Andy's asking "What's the score, Shannon Beador?" Shannon thinks she's definitely won.

This is Blog #20, my last Blog for the season! The past year was been a wild ride for both me and for my family. I have come to many realizations about myself, made lifelong friends, experienced some tough moments, and embarked on a path to a more peaceful self. So to use Andy’s phrase, “What's the score, Shannon Beador?” I would say without a doubt that I have definitely won.

I am happy that the viewers got a little glimpse into my sometimes unconventional ways! For me, it's all about good energy. I love that Vicki’s business has clearly benefited from trying feng shui with Elaine Wright. If you can't get hurt, there is no reason to try anything holistic. If you actually benefit, why wouldn't anyone want to go the natural way? If my children tend to feel better after seeing Dr. Moon and not have to take antibiotics, then I am a happy mom. It's all about creating a healthy balance!

I am an open book and am often criticized for it, but I am who I am. I don't know many couples married for 13 years that have a perfect relationship. Everyone has ups and downs, and although it may be difficult and require effort, it is possible to move through it and make things better. I have said it many times in the season that divorce is not an option. I will always fight for my marriage and my family. It truly touches my heart that so many fans have been and continue to root for David and I. I am so appreciative and grateful for all of your positive comments! Thank you!

Do Tamra and Heather truly want to move forward and potentially develop a friendship with me? Only time will tell. But for now, I have amazing friends surrounding me, including Vicki Gunvalson and Lizzie Rovsek. And most importantly, I have been blessed with the most incredible family anyone could ask for. That is where all of my energy is focused.

I will never forget this entire year, both the good and the bad, because each moment took me on the journey to where I am today. And today, I am in a phenomenal and happy place. Thank you for taking this journey with me!

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