Cast Blog: #RHOC

Making A Difference

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

Making A Difference

What has Gretchen been up to since OC's explosive reunion show? Bravo's most controversial Housewife talks.

 

Hey Bravo Fans!

Wow - has it been forever since I talked with you guys or what? I am so sorry for my very long absence in blogging. I have had so much going on in my life and it has been one heck of a rollercoaster! I am almost embarrassed to say it, but I never got to see the Real Housewives of Orange County reunion show! I was out of town when it aired and I forgot to TiVo the show! I know I'm a dork, but honestly I still haven't seen the dang thing. From all my fans that write to me everyone says it is probably better off I don’t see it! So I have never watched it. I keep thinking I'll see a rerun, but due to all the very exciting things happening in my life I just haven’t had the time for TV. I do remember that day of filming very clearly though and I think it was just horrible the way it all went down. It’s all good though because I do believe the core essence of a person will always come out in the end!

I do remember that day of filming very clearly though and I think it was just horrible the way it all went down.

So I wanted to write to let you all know what has been going on with me! Although it has been one of the toughest times in my life, I have been able to really create some amazing things out of all the pain and heartache that has come with losing Jeff. No one will ever be able to truly understand or I will never be able to explain in right detail the last six months of my life. The pain, the tears, the hopelessness, the regret, the sorrow, the sleepless nights, the dreams, being angry at God, or the sad void in my soul. I have come to realize that no one can or will truly understand, and it is up to me to decide how I will handle it and how I will move on. No matter what anyone says, I have to do what is best for me. Jeff taught me that lesson, so I am taking his advice. I truly believe he continues to look over me from heaven and takes care of me by bringing great people into my life and teaching me about the poisonous ones. I have a little shrine of him in my house, with his ashes and all our pictures together. I get to walk by him every day and say hi and talk to him. Sounds corny I know, but it helps me get through the day sometimes.

One of the wonderful things that has come from such a horrible loss has been the ability to bring awareness to this disease that affects close to 900,000 individuals today! Did you know that every 10 minutes someone dies of this disease? What a shame that so many people have to lose their loved ones to this horrible cancer. The good news is that The Leukemia and Lymphoma Society is doing something about it! With all the recent research there has been so much advancement in cures and drugs that even within the nine grueling months Jeff struggled with this cancer, new developments were happening. This was due to the everyday people like you making a difference by donating to this great charity! WE can all do something to help, even if it is small!

Raising awareness and money for a great cause helped bring me back to life after losing someone so close to me.

It was a great honor to be nominated as one of the candidates for Man/Woman of the year campaign for LLS! I decided to take that nomination in honor of Jeff because it made me feel like I was able to still do something despite losing him. Lots of times after losing someone and especially during the time they are sick, you feel so hopeless and depressed. The campaign gave me a new mission -  to make Jeff’s life count! Raising awareness and money for a great cause helped bring me back to life after losing someone so close to me.

I have started my 10-week fundraising campaign for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. We had our kickoff gala March 27th where I was announced as part of the Man/Woman of the Year campaign. It was a very special night and my dear family and some close friends were there to support me in my efforts to raise money, and awareness in honor of Jeff.

My campaigning started the weekend of April 4th. I was asked to participate in the Orange County Boat Show, autographing pictures, selling little sailor teddy bears for the kids, and selling wristbands that said “relentless” with all proceeds going back to the Jeff Beitzel fund and LLS. A portion of all ticket sales went back to LLS and the Jeff Beitzel Fund as well! It was a really fun event and I got to meet a lot of great and wonderfully giving individuals.

The next opportunity I had to try and raise money for my cause was during the Bravo A-List Awards that aired on April 15th! I attended the awards and was also nominated for an award! “Reality’s Guiltiest Pleasure”. It was a very fun honor and I want to thank all my fans for voting for me! If you watched the show, you know the award went to my girl from Atlanta, Nene, who more than deserved it! She and I hit it off and I enjoyed spending so much time with her and ALL the Atlanta ladies that weekend! Wow - they are fun and vivacious woman with class and character like you wouldn't believe. I would spend time with them in Atlanta all day long. We have kept in touch by phone since the awards and I feel like I have a whole other group of friends now.

NeNe and I hit it off and I enjoyed spending so much time with her and ALL the Atlanta ladies that weekend!

During the show there was an opportunity to vote by text or online for your favorite fashion show outfit! I really enjoyed going to Fred Segal and hanging out with all the other ladies from the other towns to shop for the day! Some of the women played nice, some not so nice, and some even cheated on the price point, but oh well! I thought my outfit was fun and young and I had a good time showing it off on the catwalk! The great news is that I have the opportunity to raise money for my charity if you guys continue to vote for me on Bravotv.com. You can vote here: /bravo-a-list-awards/vote The winner will be able to donate $10,000 to the charity of their choice! Of course mine will be for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society/Jeff Beitzel Memorial Fund! So be sure to cast your vote to help my charity win (even if you don't like my outfit !)

On April 22nd I will be heading to Philadelphia for a Green with Fashion event that will also be benefiting LLS. A loyal fan contacted me at my website www.gretchenrossi.com and they asked me to participate in the event they were putting on. She will be donating all the funds raised from the fashion show to my cause! What a great fan that is huh? If you are fans of the show and live in Philly (or want to come in for the event) be sure to stop by this fun fashion show. Visit greenwithfashion for more info on the event. I will also be making a stop by their NBC 10 morning show to talk about my fundraising campaign. So check me out there on April 22nd at 10am.

The next event I will be attending is the Gumball 3000! I am so excited to be a part of this event! I will be racing in the rally to raise funds once again for my cause! "Rossi Racing for the Cure" is what I am calling my 3000-mile drive across the country! It starts May 1st in Santa Monica and ends up in Miami Florida on May 8th. If you would like even more information about this event and all the cities we will be visiting, please visit my site www.gretchenrossi.com. If you are interested in being a sponsor for this event, please e-mail me at my site as well. Many spectators come out for opening day (Santa Monica) and we stop in many different cities. I have spent a lot of time on the design for my car and all the different outfits I will be wearing throughout the rally. So come by whatever location is closest to you, say hi or make a donation to this great cause! I hope you can join me as I "race for the cure."

On May 13th I will be putting together a fun shopping and wine party at my friend’s boutique in Laguna called, “Eclectique” located in Laguna Beach at 1936 PCH. Everyone is invited to join us from 2pm to 7pm for some wine and cheese and shopping at a great boutique. 20% of all purchases will be donated back to The Leukemia and Lymphoma Society! It will be a great way to buy fun clothes and also help a very worthy cause. Tell all your girlfriends to come out and play with us!

After Gumball I am planning on heading out to the Indy 500 on May 24th for additional fundraising in honor of Jeff by spending time in one of his favorite places...Indianapolis. Check back at my website for the latest details on this event - you don't want to miss it.

I will be ending my campaign on June 5th with a big Gala for all the hard work all the candidates have done throughout the last ten weeks! I look forward to continuing in the fight against cancer way past June 5th!

Be sure to visit my LLS website for more information on all these events and to donate! www.lls.org/ociegrossi or go to my website www.gretchenrossi.com.

I have so many other excited adventures to share with all of you. I am working on my makeup line with my makeup artist as we speak! I have always had a passion for makeup! I am also working on bringing my fans my beauty secrets - from hair, to clothes, to exercise and facial products. I have had an overwhelming response from fans since doing only one season of The Real Housewives of Orange County, and I am listening to all your requests and questions! Therefore I am in the process of launching a whole new web site! The site will be very interactive and a place where you can come inside my world! I hope you enjoy it! I am very excited about it all.

I have been so busy with the campaign, my website, and new ventures that I haven’t even been able to tell you about all the new business ventures I have invested in. I have been able to partake in a lot of different business opportunities that have me very fired up as well, and I can’t wait to be able to share them all with you.

After I lost Jeff, it was a hard realization that I had to get back to making a life of my own. I spent almost a year in the hospital taking care of Jeff and therefore was not out making money like I was before. That is a very scary thing to face, now all alone with no income coming in. I was struggling every day to try and make sense of what I was going through. But I am coming out of it and I am working so hard to get back on my feet again. I have always been a self-sufficient woman and I know I will be again. It just takes a lot of dedication, time, energy and work to make it happen. I bought my own home and in these tough economic times the last thing I want to do is lose the asset I worked so hard for!

After I lost Jeff, it was a hard realization that I had to get back to making a life of my own.

I have gotten back into the world of real estate and I am slowly building my clientele back. I have invested in other entities of companies that I am hoping will be a good return on my investment. I hope my story is one of strength and courage. Despite all the rumors and crap that has hurdled over my head lately due to press and the way they spin things, I have a lot of untold story left to tell. A story of not letting anyone take you down despite how hard the days might seem at times. A story of repair and rebuilding everything from my financial situation, to my work, to my relationships. I had to move on, because that is what I know Jeff wanted me to do! So here I am, doing it little by little.

I cannot say thank you enough to all my loyal fans out there. I have had it pretty tough lately, but I know that the true essence of my heart will be revealed despite what is being said! And just for the record, I am a gold digger! A girl that digs for gold in the souls of others! If that is a bad thing, then call me a gold digger all you want!

And just for the record, I am a gold digger! A girl that digs for gold in the souls of others!

Thanks again to all my fans for the continued support and love! Hope to see you guys somewhere along my campaign trail.

Xoxo

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

Shannon weighs in on Heather's need for instantaneous forgiveness, Tamra's pot stirring, and Vicki's relationship with Brooks.

I am a bit frustrated after viewing Part 1 of the reunion. Let's begin. . .

Heather apologized to me numerous times in this episode, which might give for hope for a future relationship with her. The problem I have is that the apologies came with a "but" or some sort of excuse attached to it. Heather said that she felt "picked on" by Vicki and Tamra to explain some of her behavior towards me. If she felt "isolated from everyone," why didn't she take the advice that she has repeated multiple times this season and "go to the source"? I never heard the theory of being "ridiculous, sensitive, and prickly" when I had a sit down meeting with Heather to clear the air.

Heather wrote in a blog that I had an "outburst" at Javier's that was "scary." As I tried to clarify what she meant, Heather said that "in her mind" things were "bigger than they were", so apparently that made everything acceptable when she apologized.

I believe that Heather had some sort of agenda with me in different parts of the season. On multiple occasions, she constantly repeated the same term to "describe" my character --"scary angry" and "yelling" at the forefront. And now, six months after Heather's repeated belief that I "yelled" at her at my Christmas party, she confirms that I did NOT yell and that it was a "misfortunate choice of words" (a "misfortunate choice of words" that was used over and over again. . .). It is bizarre to me that Heather believes she can deliver what I consider to be a qualified apology and expect instantaneous forgiveness. I just wanted a moment to process and understand it all. I wish it had been that easy for me when I apologized to her continuously throughout the season. Double standard.

Tamra was absolutely a "pot stirrer" this season. She went back and forth between Heather and I at many different points. It doesn't matter what excuse Tamra gives for going to Heather with information about David's email, I do not believe that she betrayed my trust because she was looking out for my best interest. It was never in my best interest for Heather to know anything about the short argument I had with my husband or the email that he sent me. I am tired of Tamra insinuating that I am a "liar", "crazy," and have a "drinking problem."  I don't use alcohol as an excuse for forgetting things this season -- but Tamra has on more than one occasion. Tamra insinuates that I am "crazy" because I had one outburst at Lizzie’s party, yet Tamra can scream over and over again. And what is truly troublesome to me is that she swears on her children that she never said Terry wanted to "take the Beadors down" when Vicki confirmed that she actually did say it.

One of my buttons this season has been Heather attempting to downgrade that she "kicked me out of her house" by saying that she "asked me to leave."  She herself said at Lizzie's party that she "kicked me out" of her house. Enough.

Terry's comments in the Reunion completely threw me for a loop. He heard minutes earlier that David and I resolved our "email" issue less than 24 hours after I received it, yet he chose to make the insensitive comment that it was "odd" that I would show up at his house when I should be at home discussing my marriage with my husband. David and I were in a good place and had resolved everything when I went to their house. I came to speak to Heather for one reason -- to confirm that Tamra had betrayed me because the "source" denied that she had.

But the biggest surprise to me in the entire episode was Terry's inability to take responsibility for his inappropriate statements and behavior at Vicki's party. He called my husband stupid, demeaned his profession, and coined him a "penis."  Terry attempted to explain it all away, but his excuses make no sense and it didn't work. In fact, he said that he doesn't really apologize for what happened because of "his incorrect mindset."  And to somehow give Eddie a pass for his comment about Heather "riding Terry" is beyond ridiculous. Once again, if the Dubrows had practiced what they preach and contacted David about his "spread the legs" comment, Terry would have instantly received an apology from my husband and not have "lost two months of sleep."

I was very happy that David was with me for a portion of the reunion. Neither of us could have ever anticipated the amount of drama or intimate details of our lives that were seen on the show. We both have no regrets and I am appreciative that we were able to support each other in this episode. All is good in the Beador family and that is what is most important to me!

I adore my amazing friend Vicki and know that she is quite capable of making her own decisions in her life. I have personally seen how happy she is when she is with Brooks. As long as I see this light in her eyes, I will always continue to support my friend and her relationship. I am so sad that her family is divided because I know how much it is hurting Vicki. I wish nothing but the best for her!

I’m looking forward to seeing the next installment of the reunion. It was such a long day-- I don’t even remember what we talked about! !

Have a great week!

XO

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