Mean Girls

Tamra Barney explains why she thinks she was the 'mean girl' this season!

Wow, I can't believe the season is over. On the other hand, it seemed like it was never going to end. This was a really hard season for me and for some of the others. I have learned so much and honestly feel really bad about some of the things I said. I have learned that I need to keep my thoughts to myself, especially if they are not nice ones and to be more understanding of other people's problems! I do read my blog comments and I thank everyone that writes in, even if it was mean. I take them all into consideration and I try to become a better person. I definitely felt that I was the mean girl this season and although I think most successful shows usually have at least one bitch, I am not sure I liked filling those shoes. I wish they would have showed more of my kids and family life. We filmed so much together – BBQ, pool parties, birthday parties, father's day, family day at the beach, Harley rides. I guess those moments were too boring to show. I think the show took a turn in a different direction this season. It was more about all the girls filming together and capturing drama then documenting our individual lives. Any time you put a bunch of ladies together who are not necessarily friends, there is going to be some drama.

I definitely felt that I was the mean girl this season and although I think most successful shows usually have at least one bitch, I am not sure I liked filling those shoes.


I was very happy that I got to film with my father. I know from a lot of the blog comments that people did not understand why I was so upset. It was not the divorce that hurt me and my brothers. For 25 years we had a very tight family, then in one day he stopped being there for us and he left my Mom for her friend and turned his back on his family. He never tried to explain his actions. We all know that divorce happens, and you deal with it the best you can. But abandonment, whether it is emotional or physical, is a very serious issue and hurts at any age. Having been divorced with a small child and having gone through my parents' divorce as an adult, I learned a lot. Make your kids first priority and just because you are divorcing your spouse doesn't mean you're divorcing your children. Communication is the key to happiness.

The end of the year party was held at the Cliff restaurant in Laguna Beach and was absolutely beautiful. It was so nice seeing Tammy and her girls and Kimberly from season one. We all miss Tammy so much and wish she was still a part of the show. I was shocked when Simon and the kids gave me that beautiful bracelet for my birthday. We never celebrated my birthday due to a back injury that kept me off my feet, which was fine with me! I'm starting to feel like if you ignore your birthdays, they will go away. So when Simon gave me the bracelet, I was not expecting it. It is so beautiful that I can't even put it into words. Nuggets and Carats Jewelry in Laguna Niguel is definitely one of my favorite stores, if you are ever looking for anything unique or you want to design your own, email Brian at

We are not able to respond to the blog comments, so I wanted to answer some questions that I get asked frequently.

For those of you that asked about my green ruffle shirt I wore in my interview, I bought it at Bebe.

The jeweled shirts and sweats I wore are made byAnkh Royalty. They are my new must-haves.

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I am so excited about watching The Real Housewives of NYC. I enjoy their show and can't wait to see what they have going on this season. I love how the girls are so brutally honest and I always wonder what the hell is going to come out of Bethenny's mouth next. Watch out ladies, Bravo has asked lil' ole me to blog about your show. Bring it on!

Shannon Settles the Score

If Andy's asking "What's the score, Shannon Beador?" Shannon thinks she's definitely won.

This is Blog #20, my last Blog for the season! The past year was been a wild ride for both me and for my family. I have come to many realizations about myself, made lifelong friends, experienced some tough moments, and embarked on a path to a more peaceful self. So to use Andy’s phrase, “What's the score, Shannon Beador?” I would say without a doubt that I have definitely won.

I am happy that the viewers got a little glimpse into my sometimes unconventional ways! For me, it's all about good energy. I love that Vicki’s business has clearly benefited from trying feng shui with Elaine Wright. If you can't get hurt, there is no reason to try anything holistic. If you actually benefit, why wouldn't anyone want to go the natural way? If my children tend to feel better after seeing Dr. Moon and not have to take antibiotics, then I am a happy mom. It's all about creating a healthy balance!

I am an open book and am often criticized for it, but I am who I am. I don't know many couples married for 13 years that have a perfect relationship. Everyone has ups and downs, and although it may be difficult and require effort, it is possible to move through it and make things better. I have said it many times in the season that divorce is not an option. I will always fight for my marriage and my family. It truly touches my heart that so many fans have been and continue to root for David and I. I am so appreciative and grateful for all of your positive comments! Thank you!

Do Tamra and Heather truly want to move forward and potentially develop a friendship with me? Only time will tell. But for now, I have amazing friends surrounding me, including Vicki Gunvalson and Lizzie Rovsek. And most importantly, I have been blessed with the most incredible family anyone could ask for. That is where all of my energy is focused.

I will never forget this entire year, both the good and the bad, because each moment took me on the journey to where I am today. And today, I am in a phenomenal and happy place. Thank you for taking this journey with me!

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