Cast Blog: #RHOC

Quality Not Quantity

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

Quality Not Quantity

Tamra Barney shares her holiday plans.

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It was very nice of Donn and Vicki to invite us to their house in Havasu. We had three days of fun! Boating, skiing, jet skiing, playing WII, and floating in the lake. The kids had so much fun and want to go back soon. I got up on a single ski after 15 years of NOT skiing (I ended up with a bruise on my face though). I would have to say it was not as easy as it was when I was younger.

I was a little bit disappointed in this episode, there were so many fun entertaining things that went on and all they show is the drama between the girls. I guess family fun is not entertaining to them.

I tried very hard to stay out of Jeana and Vicki's argument, but it was impossible because they were both complaining to me about the other one. I wanted nothing more than for ALL of us to sit down at the same table and have fun. To hear Jeana say that I WAS the shit stirrer made me laugh. Vicki invited both our families to Havasu and for Jeana to bring Frankie was just in bad taste. I personally have no problem with Frankie, but Vicki does and it was her house and her invitation. It was hurtful to Vicki and you could see it in her face. Sitting at the table listening to Jeana talk about Vicki was something I just didn't want to hear, so I took my kids out to play in the lake. It was so hot that it was hard to sit in one place for too long.

Ryan's new tattoo is just stupid to me. I don't even know what to say about it. At the time it looked to me as if Simon was supporting Ryan, but that simply was not the case. He was explaining that I should NOT get too emotional and said I shouldn't make a big deal out of it. He believes Ryan does these things to get a reaction out of me, and if I keep giving it to him, he will keep doing it. At this point I am over his tattoos - he is a big boy and if he wants to cover his body, then I say go for it. Simon made a great point about Ryan, "he is not doing drugs, he is not robbing stores and he has a good job." So I guess he's not doing too badly.

The boat ride that day was crazy - I was not expecting to get on a party boat with my kids. It started off mellow then towards the end became a little too wild. We chose NOT to take the kids back on the boat and took a cab ride back to Vicki's house. This would be a great time for me to make excuses for our actions, but I am just not going to go there. It was all great fun and we all acted a little stupid at times. Watching the show tonight I felt bad - no one saw Vic get hit in the head with the football besides Donn. There we were dancing and having a good time and Vic was crying. Vic was a trooper and got right up, but she was hurting the whole day and had to go bed soon after. I told Vicki that when it comes to friendship, it's quality not quantity. I would rather have 7 really good friends then a ton of friends I can't trust. I do believe that Vicki shares the same belief and Vicki and Donn will be lifelong friends of ours.

I think you saw Simon in a totally different light this episode. As you know, that was rare footage of Simon. Simon is usually quiet and reserved, but not after drinking beer in 120 degree heat. It was nice to see him relax a little - he usually is the one making sure everyone is OK and has everything they need. He did not make that rude comment when I told him I wanted a boat. What he actually said was, "ya, if you buy it." Once again the editors have minds of their own. I swear there will be NO MORE crotch grabbing this season! My brother just text me saying, "OMG will you please just stop it." I got it, it's not cute so NO need to send me nasty comments. In 2009 I will be all grown up!

We just got home from Big Bear where we had a pre-Christmas celebration. My family came up for the day and we had a great time in the snow. It is the first time in 17 years that we were all together. Instead of exchanging gifts this year we played a game. Everyone brought a wrapped DVD and we played a game called "Mean Santa" (where you pick a number, pick a DVD or you can steal from another person). It really is a lot of fun!

For the holidays this year, I'm focusing less on gift giving and more on bringing the family together. With the economy in such bad shape and so many people in trouble, it really makes you appreciate how important family and friends are and how precious it is to spend time with them. I am grateful I was able to spend time with my family this year. I feel complete.

Big Bear was so pretty covered 4 feet in snow - there hasn't been that much snow since 1991. Simon took the kids skiing one day and they had a blast. I was bummed that I could not go -I have two ruptured discs in my back and just started feeling better after an epidural. I was not about to take a risk. It was fun watching from the lodge. Sidney is a natural, but Spencer would rather snowboard. There was something truly magical about being in the snow during the holidays.

Tomorrow is Christmas Eve and like every Christmas Eve Simon and I (and 100 other Harley riders) go on a Santa Run. Simon dresses up as Santa and I dress as Mrs. Claus and we drop off Christmas gifts to various organizations like Choc Hospital and the Orange Wood Home for Kids. Have you ever seen 100 Santas riding on Harleys? It is the most amazing sight. The joy it brings to people and the smile it puts on the kids' faces is priceless. We would like to wish everyone a happy and safe holiday season.

xoxo The Barney Family

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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