Cast Blog: #RHOC

What's Hot

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

What's Hot

What's hotter than fuzzy handcuffs? Tamra Barney defines what really makes a Real Housewife sexy.

It was really nice going out to lunch with Gretchen and Ann. I told Ann how horrible I felt about being so catty with the other girls in the limo and thought it would be nice to go out to lunch and have a heart to heart. The comments in the limo were all in fun and there was NO truth in any of them, but now looking back it was at Gretchen expense, and that is just not cool. I felt the need to tell Gretchen what was said to basically get it off my chest. I am a very outspoken person and I rarely hold anything back, but hurting people for no reason is just simply not me. I can understand if Gretchen was mad at us — she had every right to be. The viewers will continue to see the ups and downs of our friendship in the upcoming episodes. I can assure you one thing, it has nothing to do with physical looks, as much as they try to make it out to be. There is one thing I learned a long time ago - there is always someone HOTTER then you! Damnit!

Let's talk about what's hot...I would like to say to viewers, please don't take my comment (I'M the hottest housewife) so seriously. If I truly believed that, I would have to be the stupidest person alive! The only things hot at my age are the hot flashes I get at night. To me, it's hot to be a Mom, a wife, a caregiver, a career woman, a positive person and so much more. Being hot really has nothing to do with physical beauty and it has everything to do with attitude. Putting on a pretty dress and having that extra spring in your step — now that is HOT!

Ryan, Ryan, Ryan...where do I start? I was so disappointed when Ryan told us he didn't want to continue with the CHP testing. I do believe it is something that he has always wanted to do. I think it is the perfect career choice because it is very structured and structure is something he needs. I hope in the near future he reconsiders and continues with his testing. In the meantime I hope he doesn't get pulled over, and if he does I hope the officer uses fuzzy handcuffs!

I have a hard time feeling guilty and taking the blame for Ryan's lack of motivation. Like most divorced parents, you feel so much guilt for choosing a path that is not ideal for your child. As a single Mom I worked almost 7 days a week and he spent a lot of time in daycare - I simply didn't feel like I was there for him enough. I now realize that Ryan is an adult and he needs to choose his own path and take responsibility for his own actions. Simon and I just want Ryan to be happy in whatever career he chooses. I am proud that he continues to hold down a job, I just wish he was working in a career he enjoys. It was exciting watching Simon and Ryan at the shooting range. I think as Ryan gets older he appreciates Simon so much more. I think he finally realizes that Simon just wants what is best for him and a little tough love won't hurt him.

I think Kara looks up to Simon - they have very similar personalities. Simon was more then happy to take Kara to the shooting range. I was suppose to go shooting with them, but backed out at the last minute. I am deathly afraid of guns and I just couldn't do it. I feel the world would be a better place without guns. I was freaked out when the kids said they wanted go and watch, but Simon assured me they would be behind the glass (as they were). Hey Jeana, what's up with the soul mate comment? I thought I was Simon's soul mate!

Our dinner at K'ya started out nice, with good food, cocktails and lots of girl talk. Suddenly that talk turned sour! I'm not sure why Jeana was defending Vicki's ex-husband - I don't even think she knows him. But there is one thing I do know — don't stick up for your friend's ex-husband! I tried to stay neutral, but I couldn't keep my mouth shut (oh, what a surprise). I have little compassion for a parent who has no communication with his or her child. I don't care if they move to the moon - you still stay in contact! As a parent, I would die before I turned my back on my children.

It takes some time for Vicki to warm up to people, but once she trusts you she is a great friend. To me it seems like maybe Vicki has been burned one to many times by her girlfriends and she is just cautious. I think Vicki and Gretchen will be great friends one day. Hold on to your La-Z-Boys - next week's episode looks like a drunk-fest! I'm scared!

Shannon Settles the Score

If Andy's asking "What's the score, Shannon Beador?" Shannon thinks she's definitely won.

This is Blog #20, my last Blog for the season! The past year was been a wild ride for both me and for my family. I have come to many realizations about myself, made lifelong friends, experienced some tough moments, and embarked on a path to a more peaceful self. So to use Andy’s phrase, “What's the score, Shannon Beador?” I would say without a doubt that I have definitely won.

I am happy that the viewers got a little glimpse into my sometimes unconventional ways! For me, it's all about good energy. I love that Vicki’s business has clearly benefited from trying feng shui with Elaine Wright. If you can't get hurt, there is no reason to try anything holistic. If you actually benefit, why wouldn't anyone want to go the natural way? If my children tend to feel better after seeing Dr. Moon and not have to take antibiotics, then I am a happy mom. It's all about creating a healthy balance!

I am an open book and am often criticized for it, but I am who I am. I don't know many couples married for 13 years that have a perfect relationship. Everyone has ups and downs, and although it may be difficult and require effort, it is possible to move through it and make things better. I have said it many times in the season that divorce is not an option. I will always fight for my marriage and my family. It truly touches my heart that so many fans have been and continue to root for David and I. I am so appreciative and grateful for all of your positive comments! Thank you!

Do Tamra and Heather truly want to move forward and potentially develop a friendship with me? Only time will tell. But for now, I have amazing friends surrounding me, including Vicki Gunvalson and Lizzie Rovsek. And most importantly, I have been blessed with the most incredible family anyone could ask for. That is where all of my energy is focused.

I will never forget this entire year, both the good and the bad, because each moment took me on the journey to where I am today. And today, I am in a phenomenal and happy place. Thank you for taking this journey with me!

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