Cast Blog: #RHOC

Reality Check

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

Reality Check

Alexis recounts her mom's eye-lift, the finale BBQ, and lessons she's learned about herself this season.

 

Hi Friends,

OK, now we can breathe! The season is over! Thank goodness!! I didn't get a chance to blog last week because of my family passing around a cold, and because of all the press that has been occurring for the end of the season. Sorry I took a break, but I'm back!

Two weeks ago was the episode of my mom getting her eye-lift. I have to say, she looks AMAZING! She is so thrilled with the results, and so thankful for Dr. Niccole.

This episode was difficult for me to watch because of two reasons: #1) It appeared that I was the one who wanted my mother to do this surgery, which couldn't be further from the truth. My mother had been asking me about this surgery for over three years. And #2) I cannot believe the comment I made about Missouri. For goodness sakes, Missouri is my home state! I NEVER intended it to come across the way it did when I heard that statement, and honestly, I cringed when I watched it. I was so mad at myself that I truly thought of sending a hate blog to myself! LOL. There is no excuse for ever making a comment like that. My only point was that when I was growing up, everyone made fun of me because I fake-baked, dyed my hair and wore makeup. That is definitely not to say that all of Missouri women are plain. Three of my best girlfriends still live there and they are BEAUTIFUL, outside and inside.

I loved growing up in Missouri. I lived on a street with tons of friends. We climbed in tree houses, played ball, crossed the creek to go to the toy store ... I truly feel blessed to have grown up there. Missouri is a simpler way of life. That's not an insult, it's just the truth. The towns are a lot smaller, and further apart, and people do not seem to over-commit and busy themselves the way they do here in California. The fact is that Missouri is less populated, and less big cities mean more time to focus only on true friends and family.

 

 

Speaking of family, my mother and I are very close, she is one of my best friends. She is the one person that I know will keep me grounded, and she will ALWAYS find the positive in a negative. She smiles, laughs, and sings all day long. She is truly an inspiration to me, and I wish I could be more like her. She is very laid back, and just all-around happy. Although my mom and I are different in many ways, she has instilled in me to always try to find the best in everyone, to look at a glass as half full instead of half empty, and to appreciate a dollar and work hard for it. I am thankful for both of my parents. My father passed away October 2008, but he was much the same as my mom in the fact that he too was laid back and just a cool person. He was the sweetest man I have ever known to this date. I was raised in a family where we put each other first, we ate dinner together every night, we spent every holiday with our extended family. This is what life is truly about. Family. Nothing else really matters. Jim and I are raising our family the same way. I get more excited about having all of our family over to my house on Christmas than I do when Jim surprises me with a trip or jewelry. I just love that feeling of having everyone laying around watching sports, or listening to music, drinking egg nog, and playing games. There really isn't anything that compares to that moment. To me, THAT defines life. I may enjoy the finer things in life, but give me a choice and I would have it all disappear if it meant I could never have the meaning of family.

So now let's talk about the finale show. First of all, thank you to all of you who loved my dress. It's by a designer called Tal Sheyn. As for the comment about Jim and I looking like Dancing with the Stars...that was a compliment to me. It's my dream to be on that darn show! I want to dance sooooo badly! It's not something that comes easily to me, so the opportunity to actually learn how to do it thrills me! I think I have convinced my hubbie to take lessons with me over the summer. I HOPE! He can move, that man knows how to dance! Now I just need to learn!

I thought Gretchen and Slade looked so cute! I kept joking with them that he needed to propose to her at the final BBQ, so when I saw their outfits, I was completely sure it was going to happen. But like all of you, I was disappointed because that didn't happen! Oh well, maybe next summer!

 

Lynne's daughters apparently had too much to drink before arriving at the party. I somehow missed out on all of that drama, because I didn't even hear about it until Raquel and Alexa were already gone! I guess I was busy keeping men off my gorgeous new mom! Haha. Seriously though, I feel for Lynne and Frank. I know it's not easy raising teens, but if those two had been my daughters, I would have put them back in the limo and driven home, called a babysitter and had them locked in their rooms until I got home! I am not looking forward to those teenage years!

My favorite moment this season was the reunion show. At that point, I had finally watched all the episodes, seen people's true colors, and had ammunition ready to go. In a strange way, it was a very freeing feeling to know what everyone had said, and knowing I would have the opportunity to address everyone for their comments.

Looking back on this season, I have learned so much about myself. It's hard to watch yourself on TV because it's a huge reality check. The biggest lesson I have learned is that I have to truly be careful about what I say. Things can be so misconstrued. I talk fast, instead of slowly thinking about what to say. Many times, it didn't come out the way it was intended. So with that said, moving forward I will definitely choose my words more carefully. I also learned that it's OK to not be friends with everyone. I refuse to get caught up in the name calling and gossiping, so that is all I will say about that. Life is too short, and one thing my mom reminded me of is that "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all." I have to agree with her. Although I was mad at myself for numerous episodes this season, I am thankful to have been given the opportunity to watch myself. You think you are one way, but then you see yourself on TV and it is apparent how you really are. Now I can make the changes necessary to move more towards the type of person I want to be. I don't understand how someone can have an opportunity like this and still be the same person five years later. I am thankful for all of you, who take the time to write to me and point out the positive with the negative. I look at the constructive criticism and know that I have areas where I can improve. This has been an amazing year for me!

If you are visiting Southern California, come stay with Jim and I at our boutique hotel in Laguna Beach, In Vogue. Visit us at Invoguelagunabeach.com. For beauty tips or a beauty consult with me, please visit Cosmeticare.com!

xoxo, Alexis

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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