Cast Blog: #RHOC

The Grass is Never Greener

Alexis talks about her trip to the nail salon, plastic surgery, and how she makes her relationship with Jim work, and more

 

Oh boy, my trip Happy Nails was not so HAPPY! LOL! Actually, my twins and I had a blast - it just didn't last long! I was a little too ambitious! We ended up finishing the manicure/pedicure at home! The funny thing is that my girls LOVE mommy to paint their nails at home ... it was going to the nail salon that threw everything off. There were too many people, too many nail polishes to put in their mouths, etc. (Not to mention it was close to nap time!) I have decided to attempt ONE girl at a time for a Happy Nails trip next month!

Gretchen and I had a great time at Charlie Palmers for lunch. I always have a good time with her! We never run out of things to talk about, and we always laugh a lot. When she commented that "she'd never let a man tell her what to do," I have to agree. I think if Jim ever tried to tell me what to do I would pour rotten milk in his cereal! My husband and I are misunderstood frequently, so it doesn't surprise me anymore. I cannot honestly remember a time where I felt Jim ever TOLD me what to do. There is a huge difference between expressing your concerns, your likes, your opinions ... and bossing someone around. Like I stated in my last blog, my honey and I have an amazing understanding in our marriage. I don't need to say ANYTHING half the time; he just knows what will make me happy by looking in my eyes, and vice versa. I think that is the difference between a marriage that is 'controlling' and a marriage where both partners TRY to please one another because they love each other. Gretchen also made a comment about us "not seeming godly" when she first met us. I would like to clear that up. Calling my husband "godly" was a poor choice of words. When I look back on that scene, I feel it came across as self righteous, which was not my heart (and he cringed when he watched that! So did I!) What I was trying to say is we are simply Christians trying to live a life that is pleasing to God. As you have seen and will continue to see we fall short, but at least we try. That's not an excuse, just an explanation.

 

Donn says it perfectly when he tells Vicki, "Our marriage works for us." That is exactly how I feel about my marriage. I love that he and Vicki are happy with their arrangement. Could Jim or I be happy with that arrangement? No way. Never. They would not be happy with our relationship. But I do believe that Biblical principals are a great foundation for a successful relationship. God is first, spouse is second, children are third. This works for us. I wouldn't trade what I have for ANYTHING. I do not ever feel or think, 'Gosh, I wish my marriage was more like hers.' I am so thankful and truly blessed that I have Jimmy. Communication is the key. I think you simply appreciate what you have, or WORK to make what you have more like what you want. "The grass is never greener."

Plastic surgery is such a touchy subject. I guess mostly because it's all of us vain women doing things to 'unbroken' parts on our bodies! The most important thing is to make sure you are doing it for YOU! Do not listen to peer pressure, or to a spouse wanting you to make the change, or to a friend making a joke about you. If it is not 100% your choice, and your desire, then DON'T DO IT. Plastic surgery is permanent! On the contrary, don't allow people to persuade you NOT to do it either. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel better about yourself, and loving yourself more. Who doesn't want to wake up every morning completely happy with their body, nose, hair etc? Visit cosmeticare.com for more details on how I can help with your decisions!