Cast Blog: #RHOC

Debbie Downer

NYC Housewife Jill Zarin shares her thoughts on the OC vacay controversy.


First let me say that as a reality star myself, I find it hard to separate "real" from "TV real" sometimes. I can only blog on what I see on TV, so girls from OC ... don't kill me!

I can totally relate to what is going on in this episode. Let's review how it started. Vicki was in Florida for a business trip and invited the girls to come join her for a few days. Period. This was not a couples trip. Trust me, she would not invite the ladies and their men on a trip anywhere. Ever. For the girls to bring along their spouses without Vicki A. knowing or B. approving is just rude.

We all know how much the men dislike Vicki so why would they want to come on the trip with her anyway? Just to torture her? She should have called Don ASAP to come to her rescue but since he works full time, he probably couldn't do it on such short notice. This trip was during the week and not a weekend.

I like Vicki's hair in the salon by the way. Did you? Tamra needs to be a little more sensitive to Vicki and I see she is trying. I think Simon needs to stop blaming Vicki for Tamra's behavior. Tamra is a strong woman who is exerting her independence. He is a chauvinist and I can predict problems between them down the road because of his behavior. They need therapy. Vicki is not the cause and should not be a scapegoat.

I met Slade and he seems very nice. He does like being the extra housewife and accused Vicki of wanting the attention. Isn't that the pot calling the kettle black? Come on Slade ... you are filming on the show and even doing one-on-one interviews? Don't throw stones in glass houses. (I seem to be saying that a lot these days!)


I really respect Vicki for staying in and not going on the boat cruise. I love the expression "Debbie downer." I know how that feels and relate to this scene. Vicki is being honest and expressing her feelings honestly and not being a phony. I would NEVER go on a sunset cruise in Florida with four couples and me. Even with my best friends. Talk about being a Debbie downer! It was set up by Vicki for her girlfriends to enjoy the sunset and drink and have fun. But the men took control and turned it into a romantic sunset sail. How mean can they be? Side note ... Gretchen is so beautiful. I love her pink dress and hair up!

Lynne could care less. She is very secure in her relationship and has no issues with the group. If Vicki went it would be MEAN GIRLS(MEN) full force. They would take the opportunity to make her feel even worse. Group dynamics are complicated. We talk about in Secrets of a Jewish Mother (coming out April 2010). You would never do certain things alone that you would do if you were in a group.

Side note, our first boat was a Sea Ray so it brought back great memories. How rude was everyone to Lynne?! They accused Vicki of being a party pooper for not going and it was exactly the way she predicted. Everyone was kissing and fooling around making Lynne feel left out. Just ugly.

The coming attractions look juicy! I only comment on what I see on TV. I apologize in advance if I am not seeing what really went on in the scene. Don't hate the player, hate the game!


All the women look amazing this season, though I am seeing too much of some of them (too much skin). Sometimes it looks like a porno movie! If I had small children, I wouldn't let them watch. (Well, I would cover their eyes for a few seconds!) Put some clothes on! Have some respect! Does anyone agree with me on this?

I am in Florida with my family for the holidays and on a yacht in the Bahamas for New Years. I am seriously missing the first snowstorm in NYC and hope there is some left on the ground when I get home. I love the snow!

Have a Happy and Healthy Holiday and New Year! Love,

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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