Cast Blog: #RHOC

Stick to the Facts!

Simon talks about the "girls only" trip, his marriage, and his conflict with Vicki.


Let's stick to the facts! I have no problem with my wife going on a "girls trip." Didn't she go to Vegas last year, and San Diego with the girls the year before? According to Tamra, on both trips there was one housewife whose behavior as a married woman was inappropriate. So no! I don't approve of my wife going on a girls trip with that housewives anymore. Then add the fact that Vicki is the only housewife trying to disrupt and interfere with my marriage.

Let me get off the trip for a moment to address again the theme this season. "Simon the controlling evil husband." I have been presented over and over as being controlling. Yes, it’s true! I admit it again. I am controlling! Controlling the damage and protecting my family. If you have seen my wife in the last few seasons, you know that if I was controlling I must suck at it. Or on the other hand if I am controlling, can you just imagine what she would be like if I wasn't?

Back to Florida - I have to say I was not looking forward to this trip. Unfortunately, this was the only vacation my wife and I were going to be able to take this year, so spending it with Vicki was not on the top of my vacation list. We would have preferred to vacation with our kids or just the two of us. One thing nice about our relationship is we do enjoy each other's company.

During the trip you see Vicki get upset every time she isn't in control, or when it came to the guys. The funny thing is this was never a girls only trip. To tell the truth, Jim, Donn and I were invited by the staff (not Vicki) once our wives expressed that we don't take vacations apart. Vicki labeled it "girls trip" when she didn't want Donn to go. We have all seen Vicki tell him, "you're not invited" in the past. Unfortunately she doesn't realize how much it hurts his feelings. I actually had no plans to be on film in Florida and went at Tamra's request to give her support.


The men ended up being on their own 90% of the time. I think that was pretty unselfish of us to spend our vacation away from our spouses, 3000 miles away from home. You'd think Vicki would have shown a little more appreciation and courtesy. And she should have joined us at the bar and yacht cruise. Like Lynne, we would have made her welcome and we would have all had fun.

Vicki’s conversation at the nail salon with my wife was very tiresome for me to watch. I really don't care if Vicki is an "independent woman." Guess what? So is my wife. And I wouldn't want it any other way. Tamra has never done anything in her life she didn't want to do. Anyone that knows her or watches the show can attest to that. What is even more laughable is Vicki questioning my wife's loyalty. And the audacity of Vicki to ask Tamra to choose between me and her. It’s unfortunate that my wife feels the need to accommodate Vicki, no matter what she does or says. As of late, she has become an anchor in our marriage. Since Vicki is no longer trying to destroy her own marriage, she seems to have shifted her destructive attention to ours. However it is a little disconcerting when Tamra says she does not want to be in the middle of the conflict between Vicki and me. Sorry my love, you are involved up to your eyeballs as my wife and best friend. Vicki is fighting me to gain control of you and your life, something she does with every part of her life. She seems to think the world revolves around her and we all must obey. So yes, you are in the middle.

It’s ironic that a few years ago, I was in the reverse situation with my best friend of 23 years. My friend and Tamra were both part of a huge disagreement. I confronted him and found out he had lied to her and me. Immediately I cut all ties until he apologized to her. He refused and our friendship ended after 23 years. He was my friend, and I was in the middle and acted accordingly. It still saddens me that I lost my best friend. But that is where my loyalty is and should be. Family is family, friends come and go. I have no regrets, and will always stand by my wife. I pride myself in being loyal and old-fashioned. I believe in marriage and all it stands for. In the 14 years Tamra and I have been together, I have never broken my word to her once. I have stood by her side - wrong or right. That's what marriage and marriage vows mean to me.


Two last items I would like to address. One is a comment this week about me also being the sixth housewife. Seriously! Being on a reality show is not my priority in life. My wife and children's happiness and well being is. And I have a full time job, two companies, and children that keep me busy.

I'd also like to comment on the many group discussions in Florida about Vicki. I personally hate gossiping about someone, especially when they're not there to defend themselves. You should have noticed my disinterested behavior in the limo and at the bar. I tried to change the subject on both occasions, and failed. The last thing I wanted to do during the limited time with my wife was discuss Vicki.

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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