Cast Blog: #RHOC

Dealing with Divorce

Tamra thanks friends and fans for their support during a difficult time.


Thank you to everyone for all your support and kind words. I have not blogged in the past few weeks for obvious reasons. I have a lot to deal with in my life right now and would like to keep it as private as possible. I know Simon is upset and you can tell by his blogs. I decided at the beginning of the year that I would not use this platform to be disrespectful to any of my cast mates ... including my husband! Right now my concern is for our children and their happiness.

Gretchen choice NOT to remove her blog spoke loudly to me. How could I take someone seriously when they wrote six pages of nasty words about me? Most of what she wrote is lies and even if it was the truth, that is not how you move on and put the past behind you. I have continued to keep my mouth shut most of the season about Gretchen, she continues to talk badly about me in every episode and every blog she writes. I refuse to stoop to her level and do the same. I really hope one day we can REALLY move on.

My decision to not attend Gretchen's party was simple. Why would anyone in their right mind want to go to a private residence of someone that is talking/writing so many bad things about you? When I was first invited I did agree, thinking she was removing the blog and we were moving on, but that never happened. I have to say that the party looked like a lot of fun and Gretchen's house looked lovely. I do wish things were different and I could have attended, maybe next time around things will be different.

I was surprised to see Alexis get so mad at that girl, I have never seen that side of her. Really all that says to me is that she really does love and adore Jim so much that it bothers her to see another woman get so close to her man. Instead of judging Alexis I think we should be happy for her that she is in such a great relationship. Good for you guys!


Last year I didn't spend much time with Lynne so I was never close to her. This year is a whole different story. I always say "to know Lynne is to love Lynne." She is so funny, so sweet and never has a bad thing to say about anyone. It is really hard to think badly about someone who would do anything for a friend.

When news broke of my divorce Lynne was the first one at my front door with flowers, card, chocolate and wine. She had tears in her eyes and was so concerned for us. I will never forget it. Thank you, Lynne.

My life is changing in a big way and we are all adjusting day by day. I do not know what the future holds for us at this time, but I have a feeling we will all be OK. Again, thank you to everyone that has been reaching out to me.

Shannon Settles the Score

If Andy's asking "What's the score, Shannon Beador?" Shannon thinks she's definitely won.

This is Blog #20, my last Blog for the season! The past year was been a wild ride for both me and for my family. I have come to many realizations about myself, made lifelong friends, experienced some tough moments, and embarked on a path to a more peaceful self. So to use Andy’s phrase, “What's the score, Shannon Beador?” I would say without a doubt that I have definitely won.

I am happy that the viewers got a little glimpse into my sometimes unconventional ways! For me, it's all about good energy. I love that Vicki’s business has clearly benefited from trying feng shui with Elaine Wright. If you can't get hurt, there is no reason to try anything holistic. If you actually benefit, why wouldn't anyone want to go the natural way? If my children tend to feel better after seeing Dr. Moon and not have to take antibiotics, then I am a happy mom. It's all about creating a healthy balance!

I am an open book and am often criticized for it, but I am who I am. I don't know many couples married for 13 years that have a perfect relationship. Everyone has ups and downs, and although it may be difficult and require effort, it is possible to move through it and make things better. I have said it many times in the season that divorce is not an option. I will always fight for my marriage and my family. It truly touches my heart that so many fans have been and continue to root for David and I. I am so appreciative and grateful for all of your positive comments! Thank you!

Do Tamra and Heather truly want to move forward and potentially develop a friendship with me? Only time will tell. But for now, I have amazing friends surrounding me, including Vicki Gunvalson and Lizzie Rovsek. And most importantly, I have been blessed with the most incredible family anyone could ask for. That is where all of my energy is focused.

I will never forget this entire year, both the good and the bad, because each moment took me on the journey to where I am today. And today, I am in a phenomenal and happy place. Thank you for taking this journey with me!

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