Cast Blog: #RHOC

Grow Up!

Vicki talks about her daughter's health, her blowout with Alexis, and her friendship with Tamra.

Thank you to everyone that has contacted me about Briana's health. I thought it was important to give you an update. Last week Briana went back to the doctor to have her 6 month checkup on her thyroid nodules. After the doctor conducted an ultrasound on the nodules, he noticed that they had grown and ordered another biopsy. Today, she had over eight needle biopsies done on her neck and we will now have to wait about seven days to find out the results. Assuming she will have a benign result, we then have to entertain the option of having her thyroid and all the nodules removed. She's been very brave through this entire ordeal and I'm so proud of her. She's the "wind beneath my wings" and I love her so much and I am praying that she can be healed and can put this behind her.

It makes some of this drama on this week's episode even more difficult for me to watch, especially seeing my daughter's health compromised. I'm not proud of the way Alexis, Tamra, and I have been fighting. Frequent arguments are not a part of my "normal reality." As we have all said before, TV reality seems to bring out "camera balls" and I just don't understand why. How can anyone think that a bunch of grown women fighting is fun to watch? I sure don't.

As I mentioned in last week's blog, I invited Briana with me to San Francisco for several reasons. She had just told me about her thyroid nodules and I really didn't want to leave her home alone. I knew she needed my support and strength and I felt she would be a "buffer" for any drama that would come my way. Who would have known that Alexis would pull her "stint" at the lunch table while we were having a nice time! I definitely think Alexis was trying to get "camera time" and was trying to turn Tamra and Lynne against me. I thought leaving the table was the right thing to do, because I thought if I stayed there I might say something to Alexis that I would later regret. It's obvious she doesn't respect me, and I surely don't respect her. For her to instigate drama with my daughter present for NO reason was disgusting, disrespectful and embarrassing.


Briana and I are very close and if anyone ever did that to her, I would react the same way she did to defend me. When she told Alexis, "I'm 22 years old and my friends don't even do this," it was a way to tell Alexis, "GROW UP!"

I've been asked to talk about my friendship with Tamra and if I'm skeptical about where her loyalties lay. I really don't know how to answer that, because although I will admit Tamra said some VERY hurtful things, I still like Tamra and wish her the best. She told me after the fact that she was torn between Simon and me and that she was sorry, but I still don't think she had to be as mean as she was. We had a "pinky swear" we would have each other's back this season so it was very hurtful when I saw her talking about me that way. I would never speak about her the way she did about me. I guess that's the difference between us.

It was fun hearing Gretchen ask her parents what their secrets were to a successful marriage. Personally, I think there are a lot of things that make a successful marriage - NOT just one or two tips. If anyone reading this blog is married, you know that the marriage has its ups and downs. I don't believe in staying in a dysfunctional marriage. Donn and I have been very fortunate to be able to work out our problems and realize that we are good people who want the same thing in life. We want to be respected, we want to have the same interests, we agree to disagree and we are "family" and we love each other. When I was getting divorced from my first husband I went through many months of counseling to be sure it was the right thing to do for my children and myself. I remember the counselor sitting across from me and telling me that I cannot change anyone but myself. I have the power to change if I want to, but I cannot change anyone else. That was powerful to me, because I was always trying to change Mike. I was hoping he was going to be a better father and a better husband. I tried to get him to stop drinking, to stop smoking, and to come home after work instead of going to the bar When I realized I couldn't change him, I knew it was time to get divorced, because I couldn't live with who he was. I wasn't happy. When the counselor said, "I believe if you have the 3 A's in your marriage - Addiction, Adultery and Abuse - it's OK to get divorced." When I realized I had all three, it was the green light to file for divorce. I talk quite extensively about this in my book More than a Housewife. I talk about the strength it took for me to ask my first husband for a divorce, my struggles being a single mom, and my search to find a career that would allow me to support myself and my children. Since I didn't get any child support, I knew I could only depend on myself and NO ONE else. It was powerful and the best thing I ever did to improve my life. If you're interested in purchasing my book, please put in the promotion code "FACEBOOK" and you will receive $5.00 off. I guarantee it will be one of the best books you read all year. (


It's been nice to get back to a sense of normalcy with my family and Coto Insurance by not filming. During the months of filming it's very stressful trying to keep yourself together, your family time together and your business all intact. I am so proud that Coto Insurance is growing by leaps and bounds. I now have Michael and two of his college graduate friends working at the office (Rees and Brandon), Heidi, Sue, Danielle, David and our new addition Doug Lorenzen. (Do I hear a Woo hoo?!) We have now grown to over 850 licensed life agents across the country and Coto Insurance is becoming a household name. If you or your family member or anyone else you know does not have life insurance, please visit my website for a free quote. The term life insurance rates have actually decreased over the past few years and we would be happy to provide you with a free quote. If you are one of the 85 million people who does not have life insurance, I highly recommend you obtain it. Unfortunately, there is a 100% chance you will pass away - you just don't know when. What would your family do if something unforeseen were to happen to you? ( In addition to working in life insurance, I have spent the last five years becoming a retirement specialist. If you are in the retirement red zone (currently retired or five years from retirement) or if you have a 401K and are no longer contributing, please contact me. I am a Master Elite IRA specialist, a member of MDRT Top of the Table, and passionate about my clients peace of mind in retirement. If you are looking for a "safe money" account where your principle is guaranteed, please visit Coto Financial Planning and submit your information there and I will get back to you.

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Thank you for all of your prayers and well wishes for my daughter Briana. I am confident she will receive a benign test result because of the power of prayer! Have a great week.

Woo hoo!

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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