Cast Blog: #RHOC

A Very Emotional Night

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

A Very Emotional Night

Alexis explains why she was so upset at Peggy's dinner.

Tornadoes in the south have devastated many lives. I am from Missouri and have lived through my share of tornadoes, and they are scary! My heart and prayers go out to all southern states and their families. Now is a time we all need to help rebuild.

On a positive note, the royal wedding! Oh wow! I recorded it, so I was glued to the TV tonight. Kate is so beautiful, natural, warm, and has an effortless elegance. She will make an amazing princess in the footsteps of Princess Diana. Wow, wow, wow.

Now, on to the catty, non-princess like behavior of Orange County. This was an interesting episode to say the least! I mean geez, it is a mix between high school chaos, an emotional basket case (me!), backstabbing friends, spousal fights, floating fish, good food, and good wine. We should be so proud... Not!

Gretchen meeting Victor Paul and discussing her views on marrying Slade made me realize that I agree with her. I feel like Gretchen has a right to feel the way she does. Gretchen has been divorced before, so I'm sure that plays part in her emotions and always will. Also, she has worked very hard to be where she is and to keep a roof over her head, so I can understand the financial concern she has. She loves Slade, and that is obvious, so she should take her time and be 100% ready before getting married.

Next we see Tamra pick up Vicki for Peggy's dinner party. They sure didn't wait long to start making jabs at others. The first dig is making the statement that, "We finally have a friend who's husband actually works and has a job." Then they make fun of the fact that Slade helps with Gretchen's handbags and makeup. And? Did I miss something? My husband and I help each other, isn't that what people in love do for each other? I help Jim with our rental properties and bills, and Jim helps me with my ecommerce, my appearances, Alexis Couture, etc. I think it's awesome that Slade is so involved with Gretchen's businesses, and that Jim helps with mine. Who better than your spouse/significant other to help you? You can trust them the most, you know they have your best interest in mind, and you know they aren't going to screw you! Gretchen needs Slade's help right now, bottom line.

Moving into the limo ride now they make accusations that they don't know what Jim does for a living, yet he changes homes and cars all the time."Yes, it's called leasing a car, and it's called moving. Vicki can just ask her boyfriend, Brooks, what Jim does for a living because Brooks just had lunch with Jim and they discussed careers. How can Vicki not know what my husband does when her friend was going to rent one of our rental properties? Let me put my husband's career into layman's terms for Vicki and Tamra, since they are so interested to know about Jim's career, not that they deserve any explanation. My husband and I own many rental properties, large and small, that give us monthly income. We also own In Vogue, in Laguna Beach. Also, my husband sold his company which was the largest internet retailer of pool tables in the world. Vicki seems to think that unless you work fifteen hours a day, you cannot possibly work. Jim, however, works smart and not hard. Sure there are days he works fifteen hours, but those are seldom. We have a staff, and our marriage comes before working fifteen hour days. If either Vicki or Tamra would pick up the phone and call me, I could very easily answer any questions they may have. Instead, they choose to gossip and make accusations.

At Peggy's home, when Gretchen is the first to arrive, Peggy is disappointed that Slade didn't come. Here starts the pity party. People do have lives, and a dinner party is not the royal wedding, it's friends getting together to enjoy dinner. In my opinion, she should enjoy who did come instead of guilt tripping them about those who didn't.

When I arrive to the party, I notice how amazingly beautiful the table was set up! Peggy and Micah did such a great job, it was breathtaking. It's kind of a cute joke that Peggy's husband's nickname is Micah Stewart, because he's always had a gift for decorating.

Before I discuss my behavior that evening, it is important I make something very clear. Jim did not come to Peggy's dinner party, because he did not want to be with those women. I have to be honest, by the end of the evening I could understand why he didn't want to be with those women. Besides the fact that Jim has that right. He can choose what he wants to do. This is not the Househusbands of Orange County, it's the Housewives of Orange County.

So with that said, let me explain a little more so you can understand. In the limo ride to Peggy's, Dylan (my makeup guy and friend) and I were dancing, singing, laughing. We were so excited to get there! We knew Gretchen was going with Jack, so we thought it would be a fun night. When I get to Peggy's, and someone asks me where Jim is, I suddenly realize I was not prepared to answer that question. For obvious reasons, I cannot say Jim didn't want to be around these women. So I quickly answered that he was working, which I knew was a lie, and instantly I felt my head spinning. What on Earth am I doing? Next, Peggy says to me, "He knew about this a month ago." I felt completely crushed. Here we are on camera, I'm not telling the truth, and my girlfriend is giving me the third degree! I did not know what to do at this point. So when you see me texting all night, I'm trying to figure out with Jim how I'm suppose to handle such a stinky situation, because I'm too emotional at this point to think clearly.

When we all sit down at the table, Gretchen leans over to see if I'm alright and I start tearing up, so I excuse myself to the ladies' room. When I think I have myself together I head back to the table, but when I see Gretchen again, I start crying again. I know everyone thinks I should just leave the party at this point, but I am not able to. So what am I suppose to do? I have no choice but to compose myself and make the best of the evening. When you hear me in the bathroom talking to Gretchen about how, "I can't do this anymore," I'm talking about lying. I'm talking about the fact that I want to tell those girls the truth, and I don't know what to do. When I say, "They don't know what's really going on, they don't know what stress I'm under," I'm again talking about handling the fact that Jim didn't want to be with those women. I'm trying to protect their feelings from the fact that Jim didn't want to be around them, and the fact that he wanted to take a break from the cameras that night. To make matters worse, I know the ladies are at the table laughing at me and talking about me. And where was my good friend, Peggy? My emotions got the best of me, and no matter how I tried to contain in, I couldn't get myself to regroup. Once I did come back to the table, I made the decision I would not let this ruin the rest of the evening. I decided to put on a happy face and move forward, although I felt completely betrayed by my "friends."

When I hear Peggy call Jim a jerk for not calling her and telling her himself, newsflash: Jim and I don't feel that's appropriate. I'm the girl, so I will be the one calling my girlfriend to tell her Jim isn't coming. Plus, why wouldn't she just be content that I came to the party, since I am her friend, not Jim.

I'm mortified at the behavior that went on at the dinner table. I don't understand it. Why would grown adults sit around and call people names, like "Munsters" and "Pee Wee Herman?" It's like the more someone cracked on someone else, the better they felt about themselves. Isn't that what kids do in high school? And why do people find pleasure in other people's hardship? It's all very sad to me. I don't think it's funny if other people cry. The fact that Donn and Micah are the two most involved in the name-calling completely shocked me. I've never seen grown men act like that.

Tamra makes tons of ignorant and rude comments, like:

"Last year she couldn't wipe her ass without Jim, now Alexis is here without him."

"She should be happy to be away from the ball and chain."

"Maybe they are having marital problems, or financial problems."

No, I will never be happy to be away from my husband. He is my best friend, and I enjoy his company. That's why we are married. And last year I did wipe my own tush, and still do. Jim and I have been married six years now, so our marriage has changed due to my career. It's not a bad thing, it's a good thing. We are inseparable because we enjoy spending time together, but now because I work too, we have re-evaluated our marriage and we are growing together with the changes. Does anyone else see that Tamra continues to wish failure and unhappiness on other people? I never saw this side of her last year.

At the end of the night, you see Gretchen, me, Dylan, and Jack laughing, dancing, having fun. That's because we all decided not to let the night end on a bad note, so why not make the most of the evening. Tamra comments that our behavior is rude. Was this a concert? I thought I saw everyone else up and dancing too. Peggy's friend had already sang two songs that we all sat around and listened to, and on the last song everyone was up and dancing. Then Tamra says my emotions are all over the place. Suddenly, when I'm smiling again, she cracks on me. If I would have stayed crying all night, she would have cracked on me. If I broke my foot walking to the bathroom, she'd crack on me. So needless to say, it doesn't bother me. Yes, I was upset at the beginning of the night, and actually I was still upset at the end of the night. However, I was there with three good friends, (Gretchen, Dylan, and Jack), and we were just trying to make the most of a very emotional night.

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xoxo,

Alexis

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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