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Today is Easter! Christ has risen! What an amazing day! My kids wake up to cotton balls all over the house "proving" that Peter Cottontail did actually come drop off the Easter baskets! (It's fun to see their expressions, but it sure is a lot of work to clean up!) Then we go to our family brunch and egg hunt and then church! This Easter Pastor Jentezen flew in live lions for the church set, so the kids are pretty excited!
Slade's birthday surprise for Gretchen was such an amazingly thoughtful, fun, and spontaneous gift! I loved it! Jim almost had a painting of me done last year for our anniversary, so I totally related to it and thought Slade hit a home run. Gretchen was a great sport with the painter pants, and I love the painting they made together! The fact that Slade had a portrait of Gretchen made was priceless. It doesn't matter how much the gift is worth, it matters more the thought and meaning...and it was apparent Slade put a lot of time and thought into this special day! This scene is living proof that if you step outside your box (i.e. Gretchen was timid at first but dove right in), it can become one of the best experiences of your life.
When I was driving to Vicki's house, I cannot lie, I was nervous! I didn't know what to expect, and I didn't know why I would agree to go to her home, rather than meet at a neutral location. However, something in me told me to just go. So when she opened the door with a smile and soft hello, I remembered why I liked her. Vicki has this way about her to make you feel OK and comfortable when you are in her presence. The thing I do not understand is that I thought our conversation went so well. When I was driving home that night, I thought she was truly happy for me and that she seemed happy for Alexis Couture. However, when I watched this episode, it shocked me to hear the things come out in the interview. She was acting kind and supportive to my face, and then BAM! She throws a dig at me behind my back. Vicki states, "What's with the dresses? How can she do that? Last I heard she was a fitness instructor...so which is it?" Now why in the heck didn't she tell me that to my face -- at her house? Why didn't she just be real with me? That's all I want from these girls. I'm not being judgmental, I'm simply asking a question. And for the record, yes, I did just start a dress line. I graduated from college with a marketing degree, changed my mind about my career, and ended up managing a health club for a few years, and now I'm designing dresses. Yes, it's called the American dream, it's called thinking outside the box, and I may even change my mind tomorrow and decide to become a chocolatier. Who is to stop me? People don't have to be labeled a certain way. Last I heard Vicki was making robes and some eyelash product. Isn't that the same as what I'm doing? Insurance sales to robes to eyelashes? Hmm. We can all chase our dreams, and I did just that.
Then Vicki continues to say, "Alexis thinks she's in the big girl world. She's got a lot to learn." Yes, I do have a lot to learn. Bring it on! I love the challenge, I am not afraid, and I learn from my mistakes. I love everything about life. Plus, when Vicki was my age do you think she was sitting back thinking, "Oh, I'm only 34 years old. I have way too much to learn to start this insurance company. I am too young to do anything." No, she was 34 years old and ambitious. If someone has a talent, why sit back and wait? Seize the opportunity, and if you fall along the way, you pick yourself up and start again. At least that is how I live my life. A few moments later I say, "Yes, but I'm married to a man who's had a lot of life lessons." Jim is fifteen years older than me, and I am so blessed to have a best friend who is also my husband and who has already made a lot of the mistakes! He gives me sound advice -- sometimes I listen, sometimes I don't, but the point I was trying to make to Vicki is that just because I am young, doesn't mean I'm not wise enough to ask my other half for advice when I need it.
I felt sad when you cut off the sleeves to that dress that your designer worked so hard on...even though the dress looked hideous with the sleeves on, you could have done it in a more tactful way.
Way to own the 'homemade' definition of COUTURE!!! Now no one can blast you for the comment because you beat everyone to the punch. So smart! I love that. I do feel bad for you whenever I see that you have totally been backstabbed by these women who act friendly to your face and then make the awful mean girl comments during interviews. It's a common problem for pretty girls like me and you and a shame that adult women don't outgrow the immaturity that comes with insecurity.
I can see the designer point and I sure could see Alexis point too. It's her name and like she said, Her baby! I think the editing done sometimes goes overboard to just show when someone looks a tad harsh. We wouldn't watch if they were always all sweet would we? I love ya Alexis.!!
Alexis...I think you are a sweetheart, and try to be very nice. But just because you say "I'm not being judgmental" after a comment does not make it non-judgmental.
I think it was terrible when you cut the sleeves off the dress. Your dress designer looked like she was ready to break out in tears. I agree with RHOC view that there had to have been a more tactful way to get your point across.
Hi Alexis, In regards to you and Tamara's sit down. Lol. I understand how gracious you have been with the girls. Youve had cooking class's, salon treatments. Your parties from what Ive seen anyhow, haven't been about buying clothing. I'd rather shop in Melrose. I's rather go to a Tupperware party. Ive seen the ladies before at these clothes parties. One of the girls previewed the clothes first and put her choices on the side while the others ate hourderves . You paid money for your party and noone had to buy anything. That's classy. Tamera, thinks she's a lot funnier than she is. I found no humor in her mace joke. With that said, I feel you should have let it roll off and not let it get you down. Life is to short to sweat the small stuff.
I like you, Alexis....but I didn't like the way you handled that dress. Yes, you were right, but you went about it a little harshly.
Stay strong Alexis, stick by your moral standards. You rise above the fray and this is a wise choice, you know who you are unlike our flighty little bird Tamra. She owed you a far more genuine apology than she gave. There is a glimpse of her true colors in every episode, and they do mount up.
You are all class, lady! But please know, no matter what you say or do, they will always, always talk behind your back. I like that you calmly point out the obvious. What I like even better is that you get angry and authoritative when needed. They are god given emotions after all. You use them appropriately.
A kiss is just a kiss; I kiss my friends all the time both men and women; I don't cheat, never have. You and many others are reading too much into this. I really do smell trouble with your life. I'm sorry; it's obvious to me, perhaps others watching. Can't hide behind the Bible all the time. The truth will come out sooner or later.
Just so you know, kissing someone when you are drunk and in a friendly way is not cheating, especially when you are in a very unhappy marriage. I think all of you, except Peggy, are too hard on Tamra. You have no idea what it is like to be in an unhappy marriage and not know how to get out of it. You say you are not being judgemental, but forming an an opinion about someone IS judging. Jesus said, Judge not, lest ye be judged. If you are such a good Christian, perhaps you should act more like one.
I think you need to be more supportive and prayful to your castmates rather than judgemental. I know that you have a right to state your opinion but you need be more cautious on what you say about people.(THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK). Stop holding grudges againist people who says negative things about you. If you stated that you are a Christian, then be more patient and understanding of your castmates.
Peace, Georgia Peach
Alexis, Funny how you want "these girls" to be real with you, but you have no problem being nice to Peggy's face then talking about her in your interviews....
Who cares if you're judgemental, everyone on the show and all the viewers and posters here are also judgmental, so for anyone to accuse you of being judgmental, they are hypocrites and idiots! What are these shows and blogs for but for entertainment and for all to judge??? Who can honestly say that when watching reality shows no one judges the behaviors of the people on the shows??? Get real!!! We all do it, it's human nature!
When you cut off the sleeves of the dress, and your accompnying comments, were the least Christian things I have seen in a while. You are rude.
Why, why, why? Alexis, you're on a reality show and you ALL do the same snarky comments behind each others back.
Ooh Alexis, why did you cut off the sleeves on that dress? That poor woman. I agree that it looked much better. However, I think you should have handled that differently. You said that you don't sew. That dress was very labor intensive. I hope you apologized to that woman.
I absolutely LOVED the way you handled the designer and the dress. If this is your business and she isnt your partner, then you have every right to do whatever you want about the clothing and design. The dress was weird with the sleeves and I loved how you cut them right off. What I couldnt get over was how she would not let it go and kept on and on about it! You do sometimes have to deal with strong personalities just the way you did and anyone who has owned a business would see that right away. You handled it perfectly. You arent too young for anything and this is the perfect time in life to persue your dreams.....you go girl! I just hope you reach the point of not believing that Vicki is trying to be friends because she isnt able to from jealousy towards you, and I wish you could also get over trying to talk to her about your business and pursuading her that you are intelligent....you dont need to do that.....you are great and you have it all and that is what bugs her. Let her go! God Bless!
Good for you! You are mostly soft spoken,so for you to stand up for want you want for your dress line was great! I think I would have done the same thing. It's your line and the designer was not getting that. The dress looked much better with out those witchy arms!
HAPPY EASTER. I admire your faith and positive outlook on life. I wish your goodness would rub off on some of your fellow cast mates. They have become a drag.
I think it was such ashame that you cut the sleeves off to the dress,it was so pretty and I would've bought it the way it was designed! Your poor designer, she looked like she was about to cry and I probably would've if that was me and I spent so much time putting the dress together..not my favorite moment of yours!
You have some great core values. You can't please everyone - you are not being judgemental - you are just giving your take of the situation and your opinion. As for the dress - your line, your design. It was not want you wanted & she wasn't going to listen, so you took matters into your own hands. Good for you. Love you & Gretchen!
The dress line has your name on it. Those sleeves were awful on that dress!To people who said you should be more tactful, I don't agree. Your designer wasn't trying to hear your point so you had to snip snip. Besides, you can't be what people call tactful in all situations. I think other women project how they think a woman should act or be. If that scene were between two guys the sensitivity level from the audience would likely be different.
Love you, but that was pretty crude to do that to the dress designer. Yes you were right about the design, but that is no way to treat people. You really do need to apologize to that lady and show respect for her workmanship.
What you did to your designer was disrespectful. She is a creative person and to make a dress like that is a lot of work of painstaking detail. You could have simply said that you felt that the dress with the sleeves like that was not what you wanted and unless she changed it then you would not include it in your collection. That would have been the mature and proper way to get your message across that the final decision is yours. To say "Now you know who the boss is" and "Next time you'll listen to me" and then take a scissor to her creation was rude and just plain mean. Being the boss does not give you license to walk all over people's feelings and be a bully.
ALEXIS, YES...THE SLEEVE CUTTING SCENE APPEARED RATHER SEVERE ACTION TO TAKE. ONE THING I HAVE SAID BEFORE TO THIS GROUP IN PARTICULAR. NOBODY ACCEPTS WHAT ANYONE ELSE CLAIMS AS THE TRUTH. IT'S A SHAME, BUT IT'S BECOME A GROUP OF MISTRUSTFUL, CLASSLESS WOMEN WHO BICKER AND ARGUE OVER THE MOST RIDICULOUS THINGS. AND, JUST BY THE BY, VICKI WON'T BE HAPPY FOR YOU...THAT' JUST HER PERSONALITY. SHE HAS SUCCESS AND SHE VIEWS HERSELF AS THE ONLY ONE WHO WORKS HARD ENOUGH FOR THAT TITLE. DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO FIND HAPPINESS AND I DO HOPE THE BUSINESS TAKES OFF FOR YOU. BUT STAY AWAY FROM THE KISSING STUFF (WITH TAMRA) AND ALL THAT DRAMA! IT'S JUST SO NOT WORTH GETTING INVOLVED IN. WHO CARES?????
alexis,do not even go after vickie ,responding on the show after filming is not talking behind anyones back,yes vickie is older that you pointed out,so take the advice.has for tamra and gena was i noticed about gena she from boths sides if her mouth,and talk about marriages gena let her husband treat her and her children like garbage so she (gena)should mind her business! fernanda is just trying to get in the fold of this show,kissing is not cheating!
Cutting off the sleeves, following the efforts that you know that your designer made, was a disrespectful move.. Regardless of it being 'your baby', it was her creativity and labor. The dress could have simply been left as a sample.. Your designer was obviously hurt, and I hope that you have made a proper apology. As well, learned a valuable lesson. Knowing that that you do not have formal training in sewing, I think it would be a great life lesson for you to take some time to work side by side with her, in the construction of one of the dresses. Perhaps, some actual time laboring with her, will give you a greater appreciation of what goes into making your 'dream' come to fruition.
Alexis..when I first started watching this show, I thought it was refreshing to see someone talk openly about Christ. However, as I've seen the episodes play out, I can see your Christianity is being tested. One of the most harmful things you can do to give non-believers ammo is to be sucked into all this drama on this show. You have a platform and an opportunity to show Christ's love for people. I know we are not perfect; however, if you truly look at yourself on the show and be honest w/ what you see, you may want to take a step back and re-evaluate your words/actions. This is coming from a thoughtful heart, Christian to Christian.
It is so great to see a devout Christian woman on reality tv! I love seeing how devoted you are to your husband and your children. However, I am soooo disappointed how you handled the sleeves with your designer. I agree with you that the dress looked better without the sleeves, but to cut it out like that after your designer told you not to- was wrong. You could have looked at her and said, "I don't like the sleeves, please take it off, I will not endorse this if those sleeves are still on." That's all. Be firm without resorting to taking the sleeves off like that and it would have given your designer some time to get used to the idea of a dress without sleeves.
I'm still a big fan of yours!
Alexis, I'm a big fan for the most part, but the cutting of the sleeves almost brought tears to my eyes. All of that hard work, I cannot believe you did that. It was so tacky and rude, ugh. If I had been that designer I probably would have torn the scissors out of your hands or slapped you, all of that sequin/beaded detailing. OMG. I do love that you admit your mistakes though, unlike the other women.
The dress did look better without sleeves but to cut it right in front of the designer, just rude. She is the designer not you, there were soooo many ways to get your point across besides using scissors. Maybe you should pray about it!
Alexis - you are are a beautiful young woman! You know who you are and what you want. I wish I looked as good as you do and had the confidence. You carry yourself well. Life is one long journey about learning - and yo get that. There will always be people who will put you down and try to define you by your mistakes. Just remember your qualities overshadow your weaknesses.
I love how you talk about the ladies talking behind your back and being so nice in person. But they are not the only one's that do that. You are also guilty of that. I thought it was very rude for you to cut off the sleeves of that dress that she had worked so hard on. I will give you the fact that it did look better without the sleeves but there was a different way you could have handled the situation. Who cares if Tamra kissed another girl? From my understanding, weren't the divorce papers served before Tamra's birthday anyway?
Alexis,who were you angry at when you cut those sleeves off? You couldn't just sit and discuss it and roll the sleves up or take the dress off and fold the sleeves back to show her-isn't that what business professionals do? When you cut them off and then said something like-It's my dress,I showed her huh!-seems to me that you were trying to project something else-like 'if I can't be the boss at home or with my friends at least I can be the boss here'
Alexis, I loved the white shirt you were wearing on last week's episode (4/17) when Tamra came to your house. It was short sleeved with a design on the back. Can you please tell me where to get the shirt? I love the clothes your wear....Alexis Couture should do fantastic!
I don't understand how if you designed the dress, why did the seamstress have the draping arms on it? I felt so bad for her when you cut them off. The look on her face was horror, but the dress was hideous with the arms. It just doesn't make sense... is she the designer and seamstress and you are lending your name to the dress line or is she just sewing what she likes and then you choose what you want in your dress line?
I was really relieved to see you and Vicki try to put things behind you. I can see why you would be hurt that she said some things about your new dress line, but don't let it get to you. Working in the "Big Girl World" means having to deal with difficult personalities all the time and to expect people to comment on your work experience and performance. This is something Vicky has been through and is a part of her huge sucess in the insurance world. Listen to what she has to say and don't shut her off because she is questioning you. If she's thinking about your weaknesses in this business then other people are too. If you want your business to thrive then you have to be to promote your business and be ready with answers to the difficult questions people might ask.
Face it, you are young and inexpeienced with absolutely NO experience in the fashion design industry, so take it with a grain of salt when others mention this as well. Just remember that you are also motivated and confident in your ability to see this through and soon you will be giving the "Big Girl" talk to the next dewy eyed young lady that wants to start a business from scratch. Starting a business is ALOT of hard work and a huge investment of your time, but if you really want to do it I think you can see this through.
Good luck with the dress line!
Hi Alexis, I am a fan of yours but I think you're being pretty unfair in your blog. I think it's fairly obvious that the sole reason why you are insinuating that you believe Tamra cheated on Simon with Fernanda is because you are angry at her about the comments she made about you. I understand that her words hurt your feelings, but I think it's pretty ridiculous that you are implying that there was cheating involved. I can personally say that as a viewer it was evident to me that Fernanda simply wanted to cause a stir and get some attention from the cameras. It seemed to me that Fernanda had genuine feelings for Tamra, and since Tamra did not reciprocate them, Fernanda was upset and decided to bring up this kiss. If Tamra did kiss her, it was most likely done in a silly, joking way. Just Because you dislike Tamra does not mean that you should be so critical about everything she does. You aren't perfect and neither is anyone else in this world.
If that was your dress and your style, why did it have sleeves on it in the first place? I thought you designed your dresses, as that is all you do in affiliation with YOUR dress line that someone else makes for you. That confuses me.
Also, I think Fernanda was just trying to stir something up. She was drunk and it was probably a stupid kiss that didn't mean anything and happend 18 MONTHS AGO! Who cares anymore?! Why wasn't this an issue earlier?
Alexis way to go on speaking up for what you think is right. People think that because you are a Christian you are going to be this perfect angel. I see you trying to live your life with your family the best way you see fitted. That's more than anyone can ask for. The other housewives have chosen to live their lives the way they want and it is very evident in all the episodes that judgement of each other goes a long way on the show. I hope you stay strong and never give up your own beliefs because you are the only woman on the show that shows good character. Tamara seems so lost! Vicky rather work than enjoy her family. She might make her own money but her rules seem to apply to everyone else. So sad. Peggy...I'm still trying to figure her out. Gretchen has grown on me. She is a beautiful woman that women love to hate! Need I say more.
Isn't that dress you cut the sleeves off of the same dress you wear in the show's promo with the sleeves still on?
@Aleina, she isn't just her seamstress...that was her partner and dress designer. If they are in partnership don't you think she should respect her "partners" opinion and hard work?
Here again Alexis, it looks like you ARE judging regarding this so called "kiss", and that you've already made up your mind that Tamra is guilty. Something tells me Fernanda is either unhappy with Tamra for some reason and is trying to cause a little drama, or she has grossly misunderstood Tamra's intentions. I'm not saying a kiss didn't happen, but I really think there's something fishy here and that she's taken it wrong or has misunderstood. Tamra likes guys too much, and I'm not buying into this one; something just seems off with Fernanda's story. I know you're not the happiest with Tamra, but you have a more level head than the others to just believe this without hearing the rest of the story. I think there's been a big misunderstanding on Fernanda's part, and she believes far more happened than what did. I would think that would have been on tape!!! Someone roll tape! lol!
Thank you! I can't believe Andy Cohen didn't point that out! It's been driving me crazy b/c YES, I too think that is the same outfit.
Alexis, I agree with the other comments about how badly you treated your business partner when cutting off the sleeves of the dress that she painstakingly created. I sincerely hope you take all of these comments to heart and learn from that experience how not to treat people, either in business or in your personal life. Now for a comment about a different topic from your blog . . . your pastor flew in LIVE LIONS for Easter!!! Seriously??? OMG. How over the top your church must be. That is way too extreme and it borders on animal abuse. Since when are lions a part of the Easter story or celebration? Take your kids to the zoo if you want to see lions. The money that cost could have been donated to charity or used to help families truly in need. That would have been more appropriate for Easter, but for too many of these mega churches or mega pastors, their egos take over. (and yes, I am a Christian.)