Alexis,

Great damage control! Your comment about Gay Marriage was off and out of line. You called in to Andy's show and I applaud you for admitting the mistake but you have to be careful, we cannot judge people and relationships because we could judge your relationship with Jim......

Alexis, it's great that you don't judge people. As a Christian, it is never right to judge. However, marriage is biblically defined as a union between a man and a woman. Sometimes you need to stand up for what you believe as a Christian, even if it is not politically correct.

Gosh. You should be strong. I can't imagine why you cannot be happy without your husband. He is always with you if you care about him. Be strong! That's it.

Why did you back off of your comment? If that is what you believe as a Christian then stand behind what you say..don't try to one-up yourself and cover yourself and stand for what you DONt believe in..if people can say they are for Gay marriage then why can't people say they are AGAINSt it?? THis is a free country right? So it is what it is...going by the word of God that you believe in then you have a background for what you believe..don't have to explain it away--Forget what people will think..gay people shouldn't think they are to be treated any differently than any of person if you don't agree with them..agree to disagree and keep it moving! Its seems every week you come on here saying what you didn't mean to say..stop lying you meant what you said and what you say while taping..at least be strong enough to stand behind your own convictions...

Really?! I personally have many gay friends and I would never try to offend any of them but I am a christian and as a christian I believe marriage is a union between a man and a woman. I also know that it's not my place to judge, God is the ONLY judge but we also have beliefs and we should stand up for our beliefs. You spoke your beliefs and now your changing your tune because it goes against the "popular" opinion.

Alexis..yes this is America and all. But you shouldn't feel the need to conform. Somehow society says there are not absoultes & you get kicked in the teeth over and over for having some. You are right, the final judgement comes from God. So stop being sorry for having opinons. Why has our world become a place of saying everything is cool and ok??? Be you girl and stop changing for others who have no defined ideas. Be YOU and be okay with it!

As christains we should eat the bread of Christ, which is to believe and practice the word of God. The bible tells us that homosexuality is a sin. It is a shame when we deny our Saviour to so-call fit in with a worldly view. For to love the world is to hate God.

you are sorely and sadly misguided. i hope someday you find your peace in this world cause girl, you are one lost little lamb. god bless.

All i have to say is "wow". I am hetrosexual, but believe that their should be equality for all (legally) and that God loves all his children regardless of their sexual orientation. As far as now being remiss about your previous comments... I belive you said how you actually feel and believe, otherwise you wouldn't have said them. People just don't make comments like that unless that's how they believe. It's like someone saying they don'y like chocolate, when they really do... that NEVER happens. Apologizing for something later doesn't mean that you didn't mean it. I can understand if you have learned something new in the mean time and your feelings have changed, but not having ever felt that way... just not buying it. I believe that we shouldn't focusing on what others do that may be bad or immoral (in our own eyes) we should focus on how to improve ourselves. Only one can really be the judge, so let God be the judge of others and concentrate on how you can better yourself.

Alexis,

As a Christian myself, I have to say I am upset with your message on the show on how to live as a Christian! I think you need some guidance on interpreting the bible.

Kendi

Alexis,

I think you're beautiful... but full of contradictions. You are on the brink of losing your good friend "Peggy." It's not a competition with her. But it's a competition with you. Friendships shouldn't be that way. Why do you feel, like you need to shut her down all the time. She's a really sweet person, who's very genuine. Why are you so obsessed with being judgemental? Your a Christian woman for goodness sake! Wake up. Going to church does not make you pure... your heart is supposed to be pure. But you're not. You are Generic! Why do you feel that you can't be yourself? Life is to be enjoyed... be yourself! Enjoy life... quit trying to be the perfect Barbie Doll. NO ones perfect and our mistakes help us to grow in life.

Rena

I can tell your heart is good and even the people with the biggest heart can make a mistake or say something they regret. Its called living in the flesh and all people do it. Forgive yourself just like Jesus does and dont let anyone upset you. It takes a big person to say im sorry and you are that big person. xoxo

thank you for clearing that up....I was having a hard time watching you say those things. I am a devout Christian, but I still believe that everyone should be treated equally because God treats everyone equally regardless of circumstance, race, sexuality, and gender. But thank you so much for reaching out and apologizing. I love you even more now! BTW your cowboy outfit was HOT!

Alexis, I appreciate your apology and I believe it is sincere. I wasn't your biggest fan at first, but you are starting to make me laugh and I believe you have a good heart.

Beautifully said Alexis. Its nice to know that there are Christians who forgo sitting in judgment in favor of asking - and then actually doing -what Jesus would do You go girl!

God doesnt care where you live. Yes america lets you do any and everything that doesnt make it right. Did you know that 'America doesnt exist in the end times". Guess all that doing you doing whatever makes you happy not given a bleep bleep what God wants catches up. Pick your road and try to stay on if. Just hope it leads to heaven. Just remember only one does.

You need Jesus!

Thank you for clearing that up! Not a huge fan, but im glad you made an effort to clear things up!

Alexis, it is nice to read your "mia culpa" blog in its entirety. Please remember that actions always speak much louder than words. With your new found enlightenment I would like to suggest that you join the NOH8 campaign, support the repeal of prop8 and do a lot of volunteer work with the gay community. Not protesting gay marriage is not the same as supporting it. In your blog you said you support equal rights for all. Show us. Walk the walk, don't just talk the talk. I would like for you to then take what you learn back to the Saddleback Church you and Jim attend and start to change hearts there, one heart at a time. With an average weekly attendance of 20,000, that should keep you busy for quite some time. With an annual budget that boggles the mind, your church has the ability to do great works and/or inflict great harm. The last person lynched in the United States was a GAY person. I guess that sums up my feelings and I think I have done my best to give you some very charitable suggestions.

Don't let all the PC nonsense get U down!! As Christians we know what it is we are taught. As humans U r correct it is not our place to judge. Don't beat urself up on this one. It was great to see U have fun in this episode. You are a beautiful person inside and out! I am sure that is why Vicki, Tamra, and now Peggy are so jealous of you. They are jealous because you are younger, have had three kids, have a beautiful home, and whatever ur doing your marriage is working for the two of you. Tamra and her bath tub scene has made this season so trashy!! HD TV is also bad for Tamra - severe sun damage!!! I like that U & Gretchen are friends. The two of U laugh so easially, and it seems like Y sincerely have fun!

Keep ur head up again U r beautiful inside & out DO NOT let those hags bring U down! If U would care to share ur make-up tips on ur blog I would appreciate it! U have beautiful skin! LOL HD is good to U!!!

You are not the first person to say things that they regret later and I am sure you are not the last one either. I think that it is very humbling that you understand that it was mistake and that you are apologizing. Some people would not even do that. I appreciate you for understanding your mistake and not trying to cover it up. I am also a Christian and I believe in God and the bible and I also have gay friends as well.

My post have never been shown but I have to take a minute to question Alexa about her dependency on Jim. Last episode at the Peggy's dinner party, she spends the whole time crying in the bathroom about how she doesn't know what to do, act, or say without Jim there as they are always together and this episode she outright says she is most unhappy about being kept in a bubble and has longed to be out with her girlfriends on her own and how great it is to have a break from being wife and mother. I do believe you can do both but in her case I think she is beginning to get a little full of herself and wants to be a more popular housewife = especially with Peggy getting so much positive attention.

Alexis, I am having a hard time believing you. I'm sorry but your comments would not have came out that way if you did not mean them. I don't see how one person could say they don't recognize same sex marriage and that god is the one who will be the judge of them, without truly meaning the statement. I find it to be very wrong of you to say it, mean it, and then take it back because of backlash. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. You showed us yours. I think you should just own up to it.

Wow Alexis I was proud of you for standing up for Gods truth. Now you have backed down because you've received some heat. I to am a christian and know what it's like to stand alone. Do not apologize for Gods word. All will have to be accountable in the end.

Good girl!!! You have risen as a person, in my opinion.

Alexis rocks!!

Is it just me or is Alexis clarifying or explaining or defending something every week in her blogs?

It might have not been the right time or place, but I'm glad you spoke up regarding gay marriage. As Christians so often we have to 'sit on the bench' with our beliefs. I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. We can't come out and say that without being attacked ourselves. Tolerance has to go both ways.

You finally let yourself go and had fun ! Good for you. I too have a habit of speaking before I think.

You are going through some things right now. I think of you as a babe in Christ. Once you have a decade or so behind and go through some trials of your own, you will be the believer that Jesus means you to be.

We as Christians/Believers have to embrace the LGBT community just as I feel Christ would. I trust that you will get there. Love you

I think you are a beautiful person inside and out. You are my favorite housewife and I believe your apology is sincere. I do think that Peggy is jealous of you, so watch your back!

Which Louise Vuitton bag did you take to Texas?

thanks for clarifying your comments. What you wrote here falls in line with what I thought you were trying to say on the show. I also appreciate you opening up about your eating disorder. I know firsthand how hard it is to share that with people, and how hard it is to function in a group setting at places like the BBQ restaurant. Thanks for being strong enough to share that with everyone, it meant a lot and it made me feel better to know you too have been through it.

Dear Alexis:

I do not think you're a bad person but when you made those comments last night, I was shocked. My first though was: what does the Bible say about divorce? I was so glad to read your blog.

To the people who love to comment on Alexis' blog: HOW MANY GAY PEOPLE DOES GOD HAVE TO CREATE IN ORDER FOR PEOPLE WHO PROFESS CHRISTIANITY TO ACCEPT THEM? Please, everyone. Study the Bible a little more carefully. You will see, in those chapters that Christians love to quote, that homosexuality nor heterosexuality is referenced nor denounced. Sodom and Gomorrah, for example, was about rape, (male on female) and general debauchery.

I am a Christian, but Christians who interpret the Bible literally, at face-value, forgetting that it was written by MAN (the same men who said it's okay for fathers to sell their daughters into slavery) without deeper study really bother me, especially when they use that interpretation to oppress an entire group of people. Jesus was a hippie who would have allowed Peter and Paul to marry. Sorry.

I am a very spiritual person, believe in God, but not in organized religion such as yours. Its a very rigid belief and man made. God created all of us, he knew what he was doing, so I don't think he will turn any gays/lesbians away at the gates of heaven. Your apology was nice, and necessary. God is the only judge Alexis, follow your heart and be open minded.

As Christians we are called to hate the sin but love the sinner. That doesn't mean we work with the sinner to get their sin made legal or have "equal rights". In God's eye the homosexuality life style is a sin, period. Alexis please do not abandon you faith to be politically correct.

Alexis, I don't understand... If the Bible say that homosexual behavior is wrong, how do you feel it's ok? God's word is God's word. Yes, you can be friends with people who are gay, but don't go back on God's word. You are very lucky to have this platform, use it wisely. Stick with your beliefs! :)

I think Peggy is so sweet... Too bad you let her go, she seems like a lot of fun and a good person to be friends with.

It wasn't a bad comment, it is the way you feel and there should be no need to apologize if those are your beliefs.

Hello Alexis, This week episode was too much fun to watch, I loved the way you hanged out with the girls, you had so much fun! That is the girl we want to see often!

You are a great mother and wife, and I love the way you support your husband despite his weaknesses ( grumpy sometimes? ), nowadays we all want everything perfect, and if it is not, just go directly to the court and apply for divorce!

I understand sometimes we say something that we don´t really think, and I am sure this is one of those times... as we can see, beyond being a good christian, you are a great honest woman.

Alexis, I believe your apology, really no need to beat it to death, you said what you said and you've realized that's not how you feel. Glad to hear it.

I wish you addressed all the fun you guys had in Texas! It was a blast watching you ladies let loose and have fun without those two buzzkillers Vicki and Tamra. It's also sad to see Peggy getting so desperate to be friends with those two women that she's willing to destroy the friendship you two had in the process. I guess that's how Vicki and Tamra are, so there's no reason to think that Peggy would be any different since she wants to join their circle so badly. I am sure she will learn soon enough that all that glitters is not gold and she will learn giving up a friendship for those two is going to bite her badly in the end.

You were a lot of fun to watch this episode, I hope that's a sign of things to come. xo

You offered some excellent suggestions

Your awesome, dont be someone your not!! you only deserve the best

The old saying ,"your digging your self deeper in the hole" .. Your explaining just kinda makes it worse. I think you should stick to what you believe and stop trying to be politically correct. It makes you look so wishy washy...

Ditto!!

Ditto!!

You stated on Andy's show that there is Common Law after 7 years in California...Common Law is not recognized in California.

Beautifully said, Alexis. My heart also went out to you when you spoke about your eating disorder. Not everyone understands how crippling and debilitating eating disorders can be, so I want to be sure you know that there are many of us--even those who were only witnesses--who understand. I am so glad you managed to heal (as much as one can).

At the risk of appearing to have an agenda (which I don't), I do encourage you to look hard at the Biblical text regarding homosexuality. As a fellow Christian, I also was torn between loving and supporting my gay friends and honoring my God--UNTIL I looked hard at the Word. I read Leviticus in it's entirety, I looked at the Koine Greek and more meaningful translations of Paul's words, and noted that Jesus never once spoke against homosexuality, and I freed myself of that conundrum. I don't believe God condemns love, and I can't find anything in the Bible clear enough to convince me otherwise.

God bless you! You have a beautiful spirit.

Alexis. There IS no Heaven or Hell. Please don't take the Bible literally. Think critically and seek the broader lessons it can provide. (The Bible also says not to eat Shrimp. Do you?)