Alexis Bellino

Alexis devotes her blog to clarifying her comments about gay marriage.

on May 15, 20110

Wow, this episode was a doozy for me. Of everything that happened during what I like to call the "Alexis uses bad judgement episode," there is only one thing that I must clear up -- the comments I made about Fernanda's marriage. Please hear me out for the next two paragraphs before you stop reading, because what I said on the episode was not what was in my heart.

I am truly embarrassed and devastated about my comments. It was not my intention to come across judgmental and self-righteous in my comments regarding Fernanda's marriage. I don't want to be thought of as a self-righteous religious person who tells people how to live their lives. First of all, I would never judge or protest gay marriage. Secondly, who am I to say what would happen to them at heaven's gates? The beautiful thing about living in America is that people have the freedom to do what they want. In my opinion, we should all have equal rights and receive equal benefits as Americans, and we should all be allowed to practice those rights. I did not mean to judge anyone, and Sunday's show is not reflective of how I truly feel. I am so sorry if I have offended anyone. I have many, many gay friends (both men and women), and they are dear to me, so I want to apologize to them as well as the entire community for my comments and how I came off.

I felt it necessary that 100% of this week's blog was devoted to apologizing to anyone I offended with my comments. For more on my thoughts, check out my website.

Much love and happiness to everyone.

Alexis

69 comments
Bionicman
Bionicman

God Bless you Alexis Bellino :)

bananaj
bananaj

Alexis, I love you on the show and I must admit I admire you for being so outspoken about your Christianity. Being a Christian often means going against what the world tells us is right and I cannot imagine how difficult this must be for you since much of your life is aired on national TV. None of us are perfect, if we were we wouldn’t need God’s grace, but I feel you try to hold yourself accountable and acknowledge your mistakes and I love that about you. Anyway, just wanted to encourage you and tell you to stick to your beliefs. Ultimately, God’s opinion is the only one that matters.

Walker85
Walker85

Okay, I never comment on these blogs. In fact, this is my first time. Here it goes. Alexis, as a Christian myself (born again, bible-believing, follower of Jesus Christ), I know it can be hard to stay strong to your beliefs when people are getting angry and calling you names (I am sure this happened). But as a Christian we will be persecuted for our beliefs. The gospel is offensive to many people (those unsaved) and so when you say you do not believe in gay marriage, heathens get upset. Do NOT change or apologize for your faith in the Word of God and what the Bible tells us. The Bible is INFALLIBLE, and INERRANT. It states in the Bible that God moved men to write his Word. It is written through men by God. Those who say they do not believe 100% in the Bible are denying a huge doctrine of the Christian faith. It's like denying the Trinity. You cannot deny that the Bible was divinely written by God and be a true repentant, follower of Jesus Christ. It's contradictory to the belief. I am sure many will say I am horrible but I do not care because I know that is one of the basics of being a Christian. If you question the authority of the Bible, then you question everything that is written in it. If you question the Bible and say it's written by man, yet man is sinful.... then how can you follow such a thing? It's just ridiculous. So, for those who deny the Bible was written by God, then I pray you will please relook at your conversion and make sure it was genuine. Also, like some others have said, God does not hate gays, but he hates their sin. Their sin is homosexuality. To endorse homosexuality is to endorse their sin. Gossiping and homosexuality are both sins. Neither is worse than the other. BOTH are sinful and both must be turned from. Of course as a true converted Christian you will still sin. But, your feelings about sin are 180% different. As a heathen, you indulge in sinful behavior, but as a Christian, when you sin, you are upset at your fallen state, but also at rebelling against God who has given his only son (also God) to die for your sins. People look at the hypocrisy of Christianity today, but I think many people don't realize there has been a mass amount of false converts. It's called Sandemanism ie. say this prayer, ask Jesus into your heart and TADA! You are saved. Unfortunately that is not how it works. You do pray, you ask to be saved, and are repentant for your sinful, wickedness. Only when you realize your total depravity will a person realize how badly they need to be saved by God through Jesus Christ. I hope many will read this, and understand these things, and look into my beliefs and realize they need our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ in their lives.

Oh and to the person who says it is "never right to judge as a Christian"...not true. We can judge fellow Christians by their fruit. In fact, we are supposed. By their fruits will we know if they are a Christian. It's called being discerning. A quote from Charles Spurgeon; "Discernment is not a matter of simply telling the difference between right and wrong; rather, it is telling the difference between right and almost right." We MUST be the watchers on the wall, "2 Timothy 4:3-4, Paul instructs Timothy that “the time will come when men will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.”

John 7:24 We are called to judge with righteous judgment. Matt. 7:15-20 "Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them."

God Bless

Integrity
Integrity

You are right on point! Great comment.

Integrity
Integrity

So so true...love your comment!

DisturbedViewer
DisturbedViewer

Alexis, I also feel you should stand up for your beliefs, and not abandon them in order to be PC. If you believe in God's Word, there is no question. We humans are not perfect, and God is a merciful judge. (I think there is something in the Bible about "lukewarm" Christians)

Carolyn L
Carolyn L

HI Alexis, I'm glad that your enjoying yourself and I'm seeing the new side of Alexis, but you need to apologize to Peggy about the "lip" comment the reaction on Peggy's face was not good.

BAMA  GIRL
BAMA GIRL

Alexis, pretty is as pretty does. Open mouth insert foot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AngieinNYC
AngieinNYC

Dear Viewer in Ohio, The bible is a collection of letters written to specific groups of people during specific periods of time about specific things. It makes me so mad when people who have Zero understanding of the bible speak about it. Everything that is "said" in the bible is not meant for ALL to follow at ALL times. Please, at least be educated thoroughly on both positions before you choose one. Signed, Educated Christian in NYC

RHWife Fan
RHWife Fan

Alexis - It was good to see you cut loose in Texas and enjoy yourself without your husband. What a complete about face from the crying fit that you had at Peggy's dinner party because your husband was not with you, even though he was only a few miles away.

geminigirl
geminigirl

Alexis~ Stay true to your heart... you dont believe in gay marriage. That is ok. I don't think your comments were bad, it is your opinion. You are not saying you are going to protest or judge you are just saying you don't believe in it.

NJ2155
NJ2155

I thought what you said was great, it's not your belief and you aren't hte one judging.

GirlfromLeblon
GirlfromLeblon

Hi Alexis, Something major is going on in your life. You are changing! I am a big believer in MODERATION. A time to laugh, a time to cry, a time to be silly with your girlfriends, a time to be home with the family. I like you, am a born- again Christian. No religion please, just an awesome and honest relationship with my Father through Jesus. I am so glad to know that your husband seems to understand how important it is to celebrate and encourage women. We need our time too! It's so healthy to go out with friends, laugh, cry and build solid friendships with our girlfriends!

God loves each one of us. We were made by His image and each one is unique and special before His eyes. The truth is that God loves the gays, EACH one of them individually and we, just as Christ should love them too, however God hates their sin. READ ROMANS 1:24-27. Because I believe the Bible is the Word of God and is the final authority in my live I set my standards in His Word. There is a big difference between loving the gay PERSON but not accepting the SIN. We can totally be friends but I don't need to know details about their sexual lives. Only the GRACE of God can change the hearts and minds. We are here to love them as a person, not their sin.

GirlfromLeblon
GirlfromLeblon

Thank you! Do not conform to this world but be transformed by the renewal of your mind. Alexis is not feeding her spirit with the Word of God. We love the gays but hate the sin.

GirlfromLeblon
GirlfromLeblon

I totally agree. Don't apologize for your beliefs!

ViewerinOhio
ViewerinOhio

Alexis. There IS no Heaven or Hell. Please don't take the Bible literally. Think critically and seek the broader lessons it can provide. (The Bible also says not to eat Shrimp. Do you?)

CatherineLW1178
CatherineLW1178

Beautifully said, Alexis. My heart also went out to you when you spoke about your eating disorder. Not everyone understands how crippling and debilitating eating disorders can be, so I want to be sure you know that there are many of us--even those who were only witnesses--who understand. I am so glad you managed to heal (as much as one can).

At the risk of appearing to have an agenda (which I don't), I do encourage you to look hard at the Biblical text regarding homosexuality. As a fellow Christian, I also was torn between loving and supporting my gay friends and honoring my God--UNTIL I looked hard at the Word. I read Leviticus in it's entirety, I looked at the Koine Greek and more meaningful translations of Paul's words, and noted that Jesus never once spoke against homosexuality, and I freed myself of that conundrum. I don't believe God condemns love, and I can't find anything in the Bible clear enough to convince me otherwise.

God bless you! You have a beautiful spirit.

superzoe
superzoe

You stated on Andy's show that there is Common Law after 7 years in California...Common Law is not recognized in California.

Viewer3442
Viewer3442

The old saying ,"your digging your self deeper in the hole" .. Your explaining just kinda makes it worse. I think you should stick to what you believe and stop trying to be politically correct. It makes you look so wishy washy...

Roni...
Roni...

Your awesome, dont be someone your not!! you only deserve the best

Avid Fan
Avid Fan

You offered some excellent suggestions

Viewer0000
Viewer0000

Alexis, I believe your apology, really no need to beat it to death, you said what you said and you've realized that's not how you feel. Glad to hear it.

I wish you addressed all the fun you guys had in Texas! It was a blast watching you ladies let loose and have fun without those two buzzkillers Vicki and Tamra. It's also sad to see Peggy getting so desperate to be friends with those two women that she's willing to destroy the friendship you two had in the process. I guess that's how Vicki and Tamra are, so there's no reason to think that Peggy would be any different since she wants to join their circle so badly. I am sure she will learn soon enough that all that glitters is not gold and she will learn giving up a friendship for those two is going to bite her badly in the end.

You were a lot of fun to watch this episode, I hope that's a sign of things to come. xo

Margarita R
Margarita R

Hello Alexis, This week episode was too much fun to watch, I loved the way you hanged out with the girls, you had so much fun! That is the girl we want to see often!

You are a great mother and wife, and I love the way you support your husband despite his weaknesses ( grumpy sometimes? ), nowadays we all want everything perfect, and if it is not, just go directly to the court and apply for divorce!

I understand sometimes we say something that we don´t really think, and I am sure this is one of those times... as we can see, beyond being a good christian, you are a great honest woman.

vintageViewer
vintageViewer

It wasn't a bad comment, it is the way you feel and there should be no need to apologize if those are your beliefs.

Tamra Fan
Tamra Fan

I think Peggy is so sweet... Too bad you let her go, she seems like a lot of fun and a good person to be friends with.

Viewer Amy
Viewer Amy

Alexis, I don't understand... If the Bible say that homosexual behavior is wrong, how do you feel it's ok? God's word is God's word. Yes, you can be friends with people who are gay, but don't go back on God's word. You are very lucky to have this platform, use it wisely. Stick with your beliefs! :)

RHWfromWisconsin
RHWfromWisconsin

As Christians we are called to hate the sin but love the sinner. That doesn't mean we work with the sinner to get their sin made legal or have "equal rights". In God's eye the homosexuality life style is a sin, period. Alexis please do not abandon you faith to be politically correct.

Chicago Girl
Chicago Girl

I am a very spiritual person, believe in God, but not in organized religion such as yours. Its a very rigid belief and man made. God created all of us, he knew what he was doing, so I don't think he will turn any gays/lesbians away at the gates of heaven. Your apology was nice, and necessary. God is the only judge Alexis, follow your heart and be open minded.

LaurenRHfan
LaurenRHfan

To the people who love to comment on Alexis' blog: HOW MANY GAY PEOPLE DOES GOD HAVE TO CREATE IN ORDER FOR PEOPLE WHO PROFESS CHRISTIANITY TO ACCEPT THEM? Please, everyone. Study the Bible a little more carefully. You will see, in those chapters that Christians love to quote, that homosexuality nor heterosexuality is referenced nor denounced. Sodom and Gomorrah, for example, was about rape, (male on female) and general debauchery.

I am a Christian, but Christians who interpret the Bible literally, at face-value, forgetting that it was written by MAN (the same men who said it's okay for fathers to sell their daughters into slavery) without deeper study really bother me, especially when they use that interpretation to oppress an entire group of people. Jesus was a hippie who would have allowed Peter and Paul to marry. Sorry.

Barbare
Barbare

Dear Alexis:

I do not think you're a bad person but when you made those comments last night, I was shocked. My first though was: what does the Bible say about divorce? I was so glad to read your blog.

Jilly James
Jilly James

thanks for clarifying your comments. What you wrote here falls in line with what I thought you were trying to say on the show. I also appreciate you opening up about your eating disorder. I know firsthand how hard it is to share that with people, and how hard it is to function in a group setting at places like the BBQ restaurant. Thanks for being strong enough to share that with everyone, it meant a lot and it made me feel better to know you too have been through it.

MHS
MHS

Which Louise Vuitton bag did you take to Texas?

sandy lou
sandy lou

I think you are a beautiful person inside and out. You are my favorite housewife and I believe your apology is sincere. I do think that Peggy is jealous of you, so watch your back!

SATXwifenmother
SATXwifenmother

You are going through some things right now. I think of you as a babe in Christ. Once you have a decade or so behind and go through some trials of your own, you will be the believer that Jesus means you to be.

We as Christians/Believers have to embrace the LGBT community just as I feel Christ would. I trust that you will get there. Love you

pat m.
pat m.

You finally let yourself go and had fun ! Good for you. I too have a habit of speaking before I think.

MaryF
MaryF

It might have not been the right time or place, but I'm glad you spoke up regarding gay marriage. As Christians so often we have to 'sit on the bench' with our beliefs. I believe marriage is between a man and a woman. We can't come out and say that without being attacked ourselves. Tolerance has to go both ways.

Viewer33
Viewer33

Is it just me or is Alexis clarifying or explaining or defending something every week in her blogs?

jcl
jcl

Alexis rocks!!

ViewerDeb
ViewerDeb

Good girl!!! You have risen as a person, in my opinion.

Gayle J
Gayle J

Wow Alexis I was proud of you for standing up for Gods truth. Now you have backed down because you've received some heat. I to am a christian and know what it's like to stand alone. Do not apologize for Gods word. All will have to be accountable in the end.

Marie L.
Marie L.

Alexis, I am having a hard time believing you. I'm sorry but your comments would not have came out that way if you did not mean them. I don't see how one person could say they don't recognize same sex marriage and that god is the one who will be the judge of them, without truly meaning the statement. I find it to be very wrong of you to say it, mean it, and then take it back because of backlash. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. You showed us yours. I think you should just own up to it.

alisa arbaugh
alisa arbaugh

My post have never been shown but I have to take a minute to question Alexa about her dependency on Jim. Last episode at the Peggy's dinner party, she spends the whole time crying in the bathroom about how she doesn't know what to do, act, or say without Jim there as they are always together and this episode she outright says she is most unhappy about being kept in a bubble and has longed to be out with her girlfriends on her own and how great it is to have a break from being wife and mother. I do believe you can do both but in her case I think she is beginning to get a little full of herself and wants to be a more popular housewife = especially with Peggy getting so much positive attention.

Bridget  Kay Whitmer
Bridget Kay Whitmer

You are not the first person to say things that they regret later and I am sure you are not the last one either. I think that it is very humbling that you understand that it was mistake and that you are apologizing. Some people would not even do that. I appreciate you for understanding your mistake and not trying to cover it up. I am also a Christian and I believe in God and the bible and I also have gay friends as well.

OVHouse Wife
OVHouse Wife

Don't let all the PC nonsense get U down!! As Christians we know what it is we are taught. As humans U r correct it is not our place to judge. Don't beat urself up on this one. It was great to see U have fun in this episode. You are a beautiful person inside and out! I am sure that is why Vicki, Tamra, and now Peggy are so jealous of you. They are jealous because you are younger, have had three kids, have a beautiful home, and whatever ur doing your marriage is working for the two of you. Tamra and her bath tub scene has made this season so trashy!! HD TV is also bad for Tamra - severe sun damage!!! I like that U & Gretchen are friends. The two of U laugh so easially, and it seems like Y sincerely have fun!

Keep ur head up again U r beautiful inside & out DO NOT let those hags bring U down! If U would care to share ur make-up tips on ur blog I would appreciate it! U have beautiful skin! LOL HD is good to U!!!