Alexis Bellino

Alexis talks about her vacation and explains why Jim didn't buy her the ring.

on Mar 20, 20110

Jim and I take a few hours away from the kids and go to downtown La Jolla to walk around. We come across this amazing jewelry store, CJ Charles, and yes, Jim buys two watches. Before you come to any conclusions, there is something you must know about my husband. Ever since we had children, this man buys absolutely nothing for himself! I have to beg him to shop for new shirts, because I'm so tired of seeing his same ones! That's the first thing. Second, Jim surprises me with new jewelry all of the time, so the fact that I didn't get anything doesn't upset me. If I would have told him I loved something there, he would have gotten it for me. I was excited this was a day he was actually spending money on himself instead of me and the kids. The third and most important thing to know is that the heart shaped diamond ring I was trying on was over one million dollars! Who in the world can pay that much for a ring? Certainly not us, and if we could, I'm not sure I'd want to be carrying around that much money on my finger! I was totally joking when I said, "Ugh, I think it's stuck on my finger." Of course that was the most beautiful ring I have ever seen, but contrary to what anyone may think, I am not a gold digger, and I was so thrilled my husband had a shopping spree for himself for once. And regardless of what you saw, I was not disappointed to have walked out of the store with nothing. Two weeks later Jim surprised me with a beautiful watch. I didn't ask for it. He just does that. Even if he didn't do that for me, trust me, I'm a big girl and can take care of myself.

The next day we take the children to the zoo. How much fun was this? I mean, there is nothing better than seeing your kids smile every two minutes, watching their jaws drop at each new animal, and hearing them laugh when they see a monkey poo, etc. This was just so much fun. We did a family video of the kids feeding a giraffe, and unfortunately you do not get to see that, but that was the highlight of the day. They were so tickled to be that close to the giraffe, and have the giraffe take food out of their hands. I have to say it was a little gross, and we definitely disinfected as soon as we got back to the condo, but it was something I will never forget. (It was my first time too!)

I won't spend much time on this, but I want to say one thing. I love my husband. I get my husband's sense of humor, and I think my husband is funny. It's unfortunate that you all do not get to see my true husband, because he is a funny, happy, loving guy. He loves his kids, and laughs with them more than myself. He adores and loves me and treats me like his queen (not materialistically, but emotionally). I laugh when I watch a scene and it looks like Jim is being sarcastic or rude to me because unfortunately you don't see the end of the scene where we are laughing or I am sarcastic back to him.

Now we get to the bathtub scene with the soft core porn, if you will, with Tamra and Eddie. First of all, did you see Eddie gulp an entire glass of red wine before doing this scene? If that doesn't tell you something, then let me tell you instead -- he was nervous as heck and probably didn't want to do that! I understand taking a shot or something, but downing a full glass of wine? It just seems to me like the stakes are high for each franchise to keep one-upping the last franchise. We have seen pole dancing, table flipping...and now sex in the bath tub. Now I realize I'm no better talking about my sex life two scenes before this, so all I want to say is this -- I'm not judging anyone, I am just truly flabbergasted every time I turn on the TV and see Tamra, and I'm worried for what her children are one day going to see their mother doing, and how their mother has handled friendships, her anger, and now her love life right after divorcing their dad. She claims earlier in that same segment that her children had not met Eddie yet. Well guess what? They have seen Eddie now and probably on a level they really didn't want to know him. This is not acting, none of us are actresses, we are simply real moms doing a reality show.

Just a note, completely aside from everything, In reading my blogs, I realize that sometimes it sounds like I am making excuses for who I am and what I do. I want to be very clear that I make no apologies or excuses for the way I live my life as a wife, mother, or Christian woman. I simply explain my feelings about what has happened the best way I know how. There are times I am going to make mistakes, but the key to my growth is admitting my mistakes and forgiving myself. If you cannot forgive yourself, you will harbor bitterness and never be able to forgive others. I am simply on this journey as is everyone else, and I'm learning as I go.

xoxo,

Alexis

261 comments
A.K. Philly,PA
A.K. Philly,PA

Alexis, Love the show, and all the ladies! One question I've always wondered: Your ring is so beautiful of what I can see, and I always wonder about it- what cut is that and the size, not that I can afford it but its fun to imagine!

thirdborn
thirdborn

Your husband treated the people who work at that hotel like crap.

birdmom544
birdmom544

I wish you would get your own show. I would be interested in seeing how you started out pre jim and how you whole life is now -- especially ifyou are building a brand. How exciting! Between the excercise stuff, the diet, the beauty and hair stuff, you definitely need a book. Better get those extra nannies back.

I am , so are everyone else I know, tired of listening to the rest of the ladies whine and whine. Enough! Time to jump ship and move ahead.

nygirl123
nygirl123

Husbands are controlling...period ! Boyfriends are always great. If a woman doesn't want to be controlled she should not get married.

I actually applaud you for accepting that this is what you wanted & are perfectly happy to deal with it. If you change, you WILL be next in line behind Tamra & Vikki. It's all about choices. I could not deal with it myself...god bless you for your patience.

Maria T
Maria T

Hi Alexis,

I just wanted to tell you that I really enjoy you on the show! It is nice to see someone who is a proud Christian on reality tv.

Are you by chance of Greek desent? You look a great deal like a very famous Greek actress of classic Greek cinema named Aliki Vougiouklaki. It's quite uncanny!

God Bless, Maria

memyselfandI
memyselfandI

Just love you... Do people tell you that you look exactly like Faith Hill? Beautiful you both are.

krisssssy
krisssssy

i like you. you're a good mom. just one problem.. Jim is NOT a good husband. he's very controlling and you guys need to look in the bible and it says that you guys are partners!!! no roles!!! if he can't handle his own children or help you take care of the home then you guys need to talk about never having children again. The way Jim is acting is NOT how you are supposed to treat your wife. So please defend yourself!!! Make him be the man of the home and actually do something. but you're a good person!!! just talk to Jim...

idahoviewer
idahoviewer

I agree with you 100%. And the repetitive remarks about being a Christian. It's the same thing. Why does she have to keep saying they are good Christians? Is there something else going on that we don't know about?

idahoviewer
idahoviewer

Alexis, I'm just wondering if you and Jim moved since last season. As far as I can remember your house looks different this season.

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Chigrl6
Chigrl6

Me too! I love the white dress you wore in San Diego and the little pink outfit! Are these part of your line?

Michelle B
Michelle B

I do feel like you make alot of excuses and defend the things Jim does. It is your life live it like you want but would you put up with that treatment if Jim was not as wealthy? Don't get me wrong you are a beautiful women and you are fun to watch and seem like a great mother

Sausalito Viewer
Sausalito Viewer

Alexis, Based on what we see after editing, I think you're right on the mark in your comments about Eddie and Tamra.

Best wishes.

momc
momc

First of all never take advice from someone who is twice divorced! Second, we have been married 30 years. At first we both worked, but by the time we had our third child, I decided to stay home because my paycheck just went straight to the babysitter. My husband's job was and is to be the main breadwinner. My job has always been to take care of the home and children. My husband did help with the chores as he is a "neat freak". My only rule for him was, you can be as neurotic as you want to be, just don't take the rest of us with you! We were not fortunate enough to have anyone babysit for us, so we never went out on dates very often. But we were blessed with children who aspired to always do their best. As the mom I made sure they always had the best education possibilities (in public school) and mad sure they excelled in school. I also kept them out of trouble by playing sports or taking dance classes, etc. Needless to say, all four of my daughters have college degrees, two are married with children of their own. All are successful adults who contribute to society and they are now setting excellent examples for their children. One does not have to live the life of someone else to be happy. When we got married we learned what worked for us and we take marriage in stride because it takes work to stay married. It is easy to walk away, but there is a lot to say for those who choose to work through the difficulties. So, don't listen to anyone else. Listen to your heart and live the life you and your husband want to live.

lee2011
lee2011

am so happy you are back for season 2! You always look so beautiful, can you tell me what kind of lip color you wear? I really liked the color you wore on Watch What Happens Live last week

sunny in OC
sunny in OC

Your husband does comes off as a little more controlling then the average male. You may be happy with this, but if not, please talk with him off camera. You also don't need to defend it, if you do think it is ok. On the contrary, you should embrace and own it. By own it, say "yes, he is controlling, but that is what we have chosen. It is how our roles are defined". I think if you own the reality, people would not be so critical. It's the saying one thing, but seeing another that draws attention. Best of luck.

Icantthinkofahandle
Icantthinkofahandle

Alexis, You apologize too much. You are completely perfect and entertaining just by being you. People pick fights with you just because they want to be you. You being you makes people freak out and roll in negativity like a wake of dust as you walk away. Get it? You are doing nothing odd. Not everyone gets all weirded out by you, just the ones who you shouldn't hang with anyway. Just hang in there. I imagine it is rough being under the camera all the time where people scope your every move.

viewer in PA
viewer in PA

OVER RULES: YOU SAID IT ALL SO PERFECTLY!!!!!!!

mg--
mg--

save your marriage and family get out of the show...lol and am a stay at home mom for the past 6yrs and a christian-- whats up with the drinking ? i like to have a drink but i stopped, i want no tempetions..

Julie Heatwole
Julie Heatwole

Yes, I too loved the black maxi dress Alexis wore on vacation. Please tell me where she bought it as I'd love to get it to wear on a vacation to Jamaica in May.

Thank you.

lregan
lregan

We will see what happens to you and your relationship with your husband, but before you make any changes I would like to say two things, marriage is hard, divorce is harder. Forget these woman if things work for you then stick with it, if not change it but that should be a personal talk between you and your husband we don't need for that to be on TV. You have all any woman could ask for except maybe a better education.

Briona3
Briona3

You have changed my mind about you. I am NOT a christian at all. In fact, my husband and I are atheists, so I just assumed that I would not like your addition to the show at all. I think the editing takes things you and your husband do out of context. NO one would believe that he would just drive past you without waving to the kids. You are just doing what moms do, taking care of the house while dad distracts the kids. Sometimes, thats the only alone time we get, haha. I think you are a very unique lady, and while I don't agree with everything you say and do....who in the world would agree with everything ANYONE says or does?? Right? thanks for sharing your life with all of us.

Bethany321
Bethany321

Tamara was out of line to comment on your marriage. The dynamic between a husband and a wife is complicated. Every couple has a different one. If you love your husband, who is anyone to tell you that you won't be happy in 15 years? I for one, hope that is not the case. There are way too many divorces nowadays. BTW, you are by far your husbands best accessory. You are stunning, a true vision:)

Dee Ann
Dee Ann

Who cares that your husband didn't buy you the ring. I'm upset that you "the trophy wife" (is that in the bible?) I must have missed that verse, sorry got off the subject--does not interact with his children. He'll probably come around when they're teenagers and he can have a real conversation with them.

You are gorgeous--I would look a helluva alot better if I had botox, implants and other plastic surgery. Your husband wants you at home and you're the happy puppy that gets thrown the treat (jewels or shopping spree). You'll get tired of it one day or when you catch him eying another woman and it will happen. I'm with Tamara on that one!

Trading Places!
Trading Places!

I like you Alexis, but I totally disagreed when your husband wouldn't allow his son to ride with him to San Diego; there was absolutely NO EXCUSE for it. He could have EASILY removed a few pieces of luggage into your car in order for James to ride with him. It was only a 2 hour drive and you were driving your car right next to him! It was simple as James and the luggage trading places in each of the cars!

That 2 hour drive could have been a WONDERFUL opportunity for he and James to have a little father and son time because children grow up so fast. Since your husband can only tolerate the little ones for only 2 - 4 hours at a time (AMAZING), the 2 hours could have been a piece of cake for him; it's not like he had to take him to New York City by himself for a year!

maureen leibovitz
maureen leibovitz

I don't understand anything about you. I think Tamra is right.

viewer in PA
viewer in PA

To reply to ohno: It doesn't seem as if Jim bosses her around all the time---HE DOES BOSS HER AROUND ALL THE TIME! She's got it all figured out though. First comes God, then husband, then children. Yeesh....what an odd justification for taking his nonsense. Alexis will spend ALL her time explaining away the actions of her husband. It's so transparent. The man is miserable. Won't let his son ride in a car with him b/c he's too selfish with his time. And, after all, he can only spend about 2-4 hrs with them before he reaches his limit. She prays......

Kurcin
Kurcin

Alexis,

You are what most women want to be. Don't let these petty bloggers and other housewives influence you in any way. They WISH they could have what you have and look like you. Value your marrige, your husband loves you!

Sue from Jersey
Sue from Jersey

i like jim. he provides for you and your family well.your a nice person .there is nothing wrong with having a nanny .keeping everyone less stressed out is the way to go.some women think its a good thing to play super woman .but for others help is more attention to what your busy family needs.

VALLY BUTTERFLY
VALLY BUTTERFLY

Alexis, I love that you are a true housewife and Mommy with VALUES. Men like to be doted on by their wives. You're doing a fantastic job of making Jim happy. I think he's very attentive to your needs as well. Theirs no shame in taking care of your husband and family it's a very admiral job. Jim's lucky as well. You keep yourself up make yourself beautiful, not bad for a woman whos had 3 children, for which two are twins. Jim may seem a little uptight at times but I'm sure it's do to his own responsibilities that brings on a lot of stress at times. Good luck to you and your's.

Connie37
Connie37

On her facebook page she said the black dress will be available in a couple weeks...I believe it is from her line...Might want to jump over there and check it out to see if it is the same one she describes:)

Connie37
Connie37

Alexis, You are my favorite housewife...You have great style and class, and your family is so sweet!!

Child Boo!!
Child Boo!!

I think your husband writes these blogs for you. He probably thinks you are an embarrassment to him and has to explain everything you said or did to try and make him look like a better person. He was trying to get away from you and the kids. We never see him with the kids and you always have to tell us what a good guy he is. If he was a great guy it would show, but it never does. And you would not have to repeatedly say I like how our house runs, we each have our roles and it works. No hunni, he makes the money and your nanny does everything else.....period!!

Rach2007
Rach2007

I LOVED the outfit on Watch What Happens this past week. Where did you get it from? Are all of the items from the new line? Someone point me in the right direction! Thanks.

Bren0805
Bren0805

Alexis,

I really like you on the show, I think you are a beautiful, classy lady. I like that you let your beliefs be known, most people are afraid to say they are christians. However, I do agree with many of the other comments. You appear frustrated and upset in several of the scenes from your vacation. If you are truly happy in your marriage, then stop making excuses for your husband. You seem to be embarassed by his behavior towards you and the children. I would be if my husband didn't want my son to ride with him or kept asking me to wait on him. I wait on my husband when I want to spoil him, but there is a difference, he doesn't expect it. He is always appreciative and treats me like a princess. We have much less money than you but we are so happy and in love after 3 children and 20 years of marriage. I wish you luck and love in your marriage and in life.

SD housewife
SD housewife

If it walks like a duck, talks like a duck then it's a duck. Stop trying to convince us that your not irritated by your husband when you're always rolling your eyes and huffing at the things he makes you do. I had a friend like you once who was always trying to convince us that her life was happy. I knew her very well and she was the farthest thing from happy. I finally got tired of her fakeness. You remind me of her.

MD
MD

Alexis: I, nor should anyone, have an issue with Jim purchasing himself a watch. The issue that I find absolutely disgusting is the fact that you are NOT paying your mortgage and the 2 of you are acting completely irresponsible!! This is a perfect example of what is happening in this country with regards to the "ME" syndrome and your EGO!! Why not do the responsible thing and teach your children first and foremost are not OBJECTS, but responsibility!! The family could have stayed at home and make the best of the situation. Jim's purchase of your necklace last season was another example of the Ego that runs rampant; I think he mentioned 3-4 times the number of karats. Perhaps you should sell the jewelry, pay your mortgage, and at the same time put your Ego's behind... I find it completely paradoxical that you 2 call yourselves Christians, Christ was not concerned with material possessions!! Good Luck...

Donna Bissett
Donna Bissett

Alexis, You are THE best! My husband & I watched the latest episode and we both agree, Jim is a scream! He truly has a great sense of humor & so do you. Don't listen to others & keep having fun together! As far as Gretchen & Tamara go they have got to be the MOST obnoxious women I've ever seen. Tamara should just keep her mouth shut because she's white trash ignorant! Really! What educated person says that type of stuff ?? Gretchen needs to quit laughing because she sounds like honking geese. You really don't have to impress Peggy either, she's just not worth it. Be true to yourself and trust in God and everything will fall into place. :)

Dawn Fanberg
Dawn Fanberg

You're a good mom, a good friend and a great wife, keep up the good work!

amanda31
amanda31

Thank you for keeping God in this reality show! Thank you for showing that you can be a DIVA and a Christian! Love you, Alexis!!!

ViewerHeather
ViewerHeather

Alexis, You are my absolute favorite of all the OC housewives we have seen. You seem the most down to earth and real. I love that you are a Christian woman and are not afraid to publicize that. Even after reading your blog, I still see that you are a great woman and role model. I look forward to seeing you more in this season and wish you and your family well! :)

SGee
SGee

Alexis comes across as either delusional or fake and I'm getting tired of it. I stopped watching this season but to be fair...the other cities have really lost my interest since RHOBH.

AO
AO

Alexis:

Your insecurities come through! You are blatantly competitive with Peggy- your children are not at all up to speed with hers.. a true friend doesn't put that down- you should celebrate it and learn what she does!

You sadly come across only shallow and fake!

TAYLOR PAIGE
TAYLOR PAIGE

Can someone PLEASE tell me where Alexis got her black sundress with black and white braided straps that she wore on her road trip.... This season...(episode 3, I think ?)

joann123
joann123

Exactly! If this is what a "traditional" marriage is, then I am quite happy being in a "non-traditional" one.

momplus5
momplus5

If things were so perfect in your world, you wouldn't try to justify them all the time. I am a Christain, a wife, and a mother of five children under 10 years of age. But, marriage and parenting is teamwork. My husband can change a diaper, assist in potty training, take the kids to the park, cook, and more. I am the sahm but we depend on communication and teamwork to keep our family rolling. You and your husband seem to be very divided on the roles. I think you resent his not helping out more, his lack of trust in you (because he wants to keep you under wraps at all times). I am so tired of those over the top Christains who claim to be so one thing and in reality act totally different. I wonder how Christain your home is when the cameras aren't rolling.

nfacion
nfacion

Alexis..

I really like you yet you are always explaining your actions and defending your husbands actions. I do feel jim takes good care of you yet he does not treat you well. I was in a marriage like yours for 15 yrs and I spent alot of my marriage trying to talk people into to thinking my husband was really a good guy and that he respected me and treated me good. It is very clear though your husband may love you he doesnt respect you and talks to you like a child. I hope you wake up and dont spend 15yrs of your life always defending you husband. In every show thats all you do.So many people see it, they cant all be wrong...you deserve better! You are a kind, sweet beautiful women.

ohno
ohno

also, it seems like jim bosses you around a lot. you need to stand up to him and stick up for yourself.