Alexis Bellino

Alexis addresses Tamra's pepper spray joke.

on Apr 10, 20110

This episode is one of the most drama free episodes yet!

I must clear up a misconception about last week's blog. Sometimes when I write my blog, what I am trying to convey is misinterpreted because you cannot hear my voice when I'm saying it. When I was discussing Vicki and her divorce, I truly was not insulting her, or judging her. I have to say one thing about Vicki this year, I honestly feel like Vicki has made a change. As we know, she sent me an email at the beginning of the season asking to put the past behind us. I agreed and so we started to move forward. I have been cautiously hopeful that it was sincere, and I do believe it was. So in last week's blog, my heart is going out to her and her family through this divorce. Anything I said regarding her divorce, or feeling like she wished she could take things she said back is sincerely from my heart. The purpose of a blog is to express my view on a scene, so last week I simply meant that in knowing Vicki the little bit that I do know her, I know her heart is big and she would never intentionally say things that would hurt Donn.

So this week, we see Vicki and her family on a boat ride. It's always funny to see how in control Vicki is of the family, and it's obvious she loves and adores her family more than anything.

Next Tamra is in the limo with Eddie, and she is reading the text from me regarding her mace joke, saying it was inappropriate. I'm entitled to my opinion about whether a joke is appropriate or not, and in this case it absolutely is not. First of all, don't drag Vicki into your joke, and second, if you want Gretchen to change her behavior, then change your own! No need for me to be redundant when I clearly stated how I felt in last week's blog. But for Tamra to claim that I am "changing a lot because I am hanging out more with Gretchen," um, no, that is not what is causing this change in me. The change is coming from the fact that I am seeing Tamra's true colors, and I do not allow people to treat me the way she is. lt's called self respect. I cannot believe that I stayed in the middle of her and Gretchen for over a year, defending Tamra, considering Tamra a friend, and then I get treated like this.

Thank goodness for Gretchen planning her parent's vow renewal so we can move to something positive and light-hearted! I thought this looked like a fairy tale! Gretchen and Slade put so much work into this trip and it showed. I just wish Jim and I had been invited! The talk between Slade and Gretchen's dad was great. And Victor Paul going too to style Brenda was so awesome. Brenda truly got pampered, and looked beautiful! My favorite part was when the minister says, "When life has it's moments of tensions, you can just lean back and say I know what love is." What a beautiful saying! And so true. I want to be old, wrinkled, bald, toothless, sitting in a rocker with Jim saying, "Well, darlin, we sure had a good life, and thank you for loving me through everything." Hehe.

As for Gretchen being confused about whether or not she wants to marry Slade, I am so thankful she is taking her time. She is getting pressure from every corner, and I love that she is considering him Mr. Right Right Now, instead of conforming to what everyone else wants and rushing to marry him.

36 comments
Encouragement
Encouragement

Alexis, I think your a beautiful woman that has alot going for herself. Do not sell yourself short when it comes to Jim. I think you are more than capable of having the best things in life without having to please anyone. From what I can see, Jim keeps you in a state of thinking that you cannot enjoy your lifestyle without him. I think you offer him soooo much more than what he is giving you. Stand tall!!! You can make it on your own!!!!!!

Ruthi
Ruthi

Hey.. Your email link doesnt work.. I wanted a dress.. guess ill just wait.

Kate S.
Kate S.

Alexis,

I think you really try to be a great mother and wife. You try and not have conflicts with most of your cast members. But I have to say that your treatment of Peggy is not nice at all.

I thought your disparaging remarks of her breasts after her surgery were appalling, especially since you'd come to her house, bring food and friendship all the while, slamming her behind her back. That is not very Christian.

It is her choice of what doctor she wants to use and what SIZE. Great for you that yours are bigger.

Also I notice that EVERY TIME Peggy says anything, you have to counter with what YOU do. It's not a competition. I thing perhaps because you were friends BEFORE she came on the show, you resent her being on YOUR show. Just a thought.

JJB
JJB

The pepper spray comment by Tamra was a passive-aggressive thing. I can see that Gretchen and Tamra hurt one another with their comments. As my teenager says, "someone needs to forgive first, then they both can move on." I guess time will tell who is the bigger person. From your party, it looked like Gretchen is the one with the forgiving disposition. She moved one. Cutting Tamra some slack may be required by all the OC housewives, as her life looks like a mess.

I think Bravo should do a show of housewives of University BigWigs. Now that we see how the wealthy are no different than the rest of us, I'd like to see if the "intellectuals" are any different.

sparkly
sparkly

DONT get your nose done! Your face and body is perfectionally beautiful ..I'm serious!! leave that bonny face alone

Tamra and you are my favourites...

Just Sayin
Just Sayin

I just wanted to say that I think you are sooooo gorgeous! You and Gretchen both. I love the way you present yourself and I wish you nothing but the best:)

Kyviewer
Kyviewer

Hi Alexis. You are truly a beautiful person, but some of your comments leave me wondering?? You seemed to question why Peggy was talking to Vickie, wondering if she was "brown nosing?" Your whole issue with Vickie was an over reaction. You need to quit judging everyone. It comes off as very unchristian.

TeamNYC
TeamNYC

Was there more we didnt see re: San Diego?

krisst
krisst

Hey Alexis! I love your style and you seem like a genuine person unlike some of the other housewives! What is the brand of the tube top you wore over to Peggy's when you took her the lasagna? It was gorgeous!

T Lawson
T Lawson

Hi Alexis -

When you and your family went to San Diego in a recent episode for vacation, you wore a long black halter dress with sandals. I love this dress and was wondering if you could share where you bought it? Thanks and love the show!

Antonia3Rell
Antonia3Rell

I love the fact that you are a Christian woman on such a worldly show. I totally understand your relationship with your husband and children. I do hope that in your friendship with Gretchen, that you rub off on her and not the other way around.

4boyzoo
4boyzoo

Alexis, if you read your feed back? I want to tell you that I think you are really a wonderful wife and Mother! I personally think that when I see the others make nasty remarks about your walk with God like " I don't think that was the Christian thing to do!" Well I have a News flash for them. Being a Good Christian doesn't mean you don't make mistakes or that you're perfect. It means you are always trying to better yourself with the Lord's help. So those women have no clue how stupid they sound! If we were perfect and beyond all wrong we would be "God". So along with you I'll pray for their hard hearts! Another thing I admire about you is how you take such Pride and Love in being the best Mother and Wife that you can. That doesn't mean you're controlled. That means it is important to you. So why does everyone want to put that down? Others find more in their jobs,dreams, ect. This is your dream and life. So I think you are truly wonderful for following it. I've never wanted to be a Dr. or Lawyer growing up. I wanted to be a good Mother and Wife to a God like Man who treated me like a Queen and me treat him like a King! And my goals and dreams are every bit as important as the woman who became the Lawyer. So keep holding your head up with pride! there are many of us out here just like you! God bless you and your family. And thanks for being a true Christian and showing the world that we aren't perfect , Just walking with God.

Allison R
Allison R

I thought it was great that Tamra brought mace to the party. It is very clear that she and Grethchen both know exactly what to do to get more interesting air time so cheers to them both. This is a television show - it is not 100% reality and it never will be. These women need to put themselves in situations that will make people want to watch - good or bad, it's the truth!

mackerl
mackerl

Alexis what's up with you?

mackerl
mackerl

Alexis i really like you

annie3
annie3

Alexis,

You are beautiful and a class act ! Don't ever change !

NickiRHO
NickiRHO

I think it is interesting that you find Tamra's comments about you so "hurtful" yet don't even address the comments you made about Peggy's plastic surgery with your saying that she definitely needed to see your doctor. I am sure she was equally as hurt by your comments made as you have been from Tamra.

Gail sc
Gail sc

I totally agree with that, your the only reason I watch the show.

 brittany smith
brittany smith

i think you are really an awsome person . i love how u put your option out there so people can hear it . i love you on housewives . wish u luck on ur dress line you have coming out . also i like ur style . i would like to asked u a question how do u stay so fit when u are so busy with everything going on how u do not have time to go to the gym just asking thats all not trying to be rude sorry if i am. im just trying to get fit and stay in shape . cant wait to hear from you thanks for your time.

SF Viewer
SF Viewer

Alexis, I basically have liked you since you first came on the show, there is something entertaining about you. However, there also seems like a definite sadness.... you really don't come across as happy so much as someone who is desperately trying to seem happy. I hope this is not the case, but if I am right, I hope you are able to find true happiness soon. You deserve it.

KatyP. CA
KatyP. CA

I AGREE! The pepper spray was a joke!!! I feel that the drama that Alexis has continued is a little much..get over it!

STL Viewer
STL Viewer

Alexis -- you're the only reason I watch this season!

California lady
California lady

I think Vicki actually admitted that she loves her work and spends so much time at the office because there's nothing making her happy at home and her work makes her happy. I'm sorry but I've thought Vicki should have left Donn a while ago - he seems very uncaring. Every time she's been in a situation where she needed his assistance, he hasn't offered it - OR she had to ask him flat out "I could use some help here" and then he steps up to the plate. Who knows how their relationship ended up that way, but I see a woman with a big heart who isn't getting any affection from her husband and therefore has pulled away.

LeticiaC
LeticiaC

Hey Alexis, I feel that people ma have just misunderstood your blogs abou Vicki's divorce just like you said. Sometimes becaus take things people post online out of context. As for Tamra and the mass, I can totally understand why you would get upset. Thats was not classy at all for her to show that at the "end" of the party. I would have rather her not show it at all. I really dont feel that your husband is controlling at all. For people who feel that way tha is their opinion but they really dont know what control is. Even Tamra said that your husband was controling which I did not agree. Simon and your husband are two totally different people. I know a lot of this is like old news to you and this can be very stressing keeping up with all these comments and blogs but keep your head up GOD Bless.

Missouri
Missouri

Alexis,

You are such a treat to watch on the Orange County Housewives. I have really enjoyed wathcing you and getting to know who you are on the show. I think you are great, pretty, and amazing priorities. Good luck!

ShirleyT
ShirleyT

I think its so strange that people are quick to attack Alexis. All of the other ladies have made nasty comments behind one another's back and I haven't seen Alexis do that. The only thing people seem to blame her for is the way she runs her marriage - which is really no one's business if Alexis is happy. I get the feeling that unhappy people can't stand the way Alexis seems content with her life. And I get what Alexis is saying - Gretchen made a "joke" that offended Tamra and then Tamra decided to retort with a "joke" that offended Gretchen. As Alexis said on the episode, this sort of behavior is baffling considering the two ladies seem to want to have no issues with each other.

Viewer11
Viewer11

i do like that when talking to Grectchen about the mace you told her that she had bad timing also. they don't get along. that's fine. not everybody does. they just need to learn how to be civil and try not to be passive aggressive with the jokes. everyone around them should not have to worry about what one will do to the other. thanks for steppping up and telling them BOTH that.

SOwrong
SOwrong

The meaning behind Alexis saying "My husband decided to film less" is to say that there are less scenes of her interacting with her family. Not that he controls her! She does seem to have more scenes of herself one on one with the other ladies this season. Proving there is no "control" going on. Maybe Jim wants to film less because people like you (probably self proclaimed Christians) are unrelenting in your pursuit to make their family look bad. You people are like a dog with a bone. Let it go! Just like the cast, you are all dying to tear Alexis apart. She has done nothing wrong. Unlike other cast members, she is not malicious and vindictive. Alexis seems to be a perfectly reasonable person who loves her family! Anyone who seeks ways to degrade that is a miserable human being. If you want to judge someone based on their marriage then go bark up Vicki's tree!

DDNY
DDNY

My husband decided to film less??? Who cares about him! It does show just how controlled by him you are.... good luck with that !!

Lfrom BAMA
Lfrom BAMA

Im really not getting Peggy's attitude at all.She blogs in defensive mode to your commits,I dont see whats she referring to.You seem the same nice person you've always been.I do not see her point of view.I think she needs to rethink the herbs and see someone who can check her hormone levels.That could be the problem

DaLee
DaLee

Alexis- you are a true women of God! Bravo needs to do a show just with you!

Vee lu
Vee lu

Alexis, you are so serious. I would love to see you film doing something really fun, silly or outgoing. You seem pent up about just about everything. I hope your new dress line brings you some joy because you don't seem to be happy about much this season. I think it was very sweet of you to bring Peggy the food. That was a really nice gesture but then you got the dig in about her going to your doctor for the boob job. Hmmmmm..............

samarrra
samarrra

From what I understand, YOU were the one pressuring G. to marry Slade - everyone else is cautioning her.

Last, the pepper spray was a total, lighthearted joke. I do not agree with everything that comes out of Tamra's mouth, but I do this was just totally inoffensive. Ice breaker. Also, I don't feel you were neutral in Tam's break up with Simon, and who are you to judge who gets involved quickly? Think of your first marriage, dear. Does the word adultery ring a bell?

Sable_blonde
Sable_blonde

No Alexis, you got it wrong...Vicki LOVES her work more than anything. And at the end of the day, thats all she will have... her work to fill her love tank.