You go girl tell it like it's it blessing to you and your family.

I respect the values you hold in your marriage, and I have even more respect for you seeing you carry them through on this show. I agree Tamra's comments were a bit snarky but I also think it is unfair how your husband has judged her from it and that you didn't back her up at the time when you were her friend. Now, after this episode, I completely agree with you not wanting to be Tamra's friend.

Alexis- Tamara is a bitter, angry person who is obviously very jealous of you and your happiness. What you and Jim have works for you. Be proud of that. You don't owe anyone an explination of how or why your marriage works.

And I think it's also terrible that the girls get defensive when you mention that you are Christian or you bring up your beliefs. Good for you for speaking out on a national stage. I am a hot mom too. Why do some people think we have to not care about our looks in order to worship our Savior? Thanks for setting a good example. Keep it up!

Tamra had NO right to make those comments about your marriage! She stooped to a whole new level of low with that. You don't need people like that in your life. Good riddance to her!

You appear to be somewhat obsessed w/ Vickie. You were only okay with not meeting Tamra's beau after she told you Vickie hadn't met him yet. Get over it!

I like that Alexis is a Christian but it is bothering me that she says, "it says in the Bible" things and I cannot find it anywhere. For example: she said that it says in the Bible for the man of the household to do..... And the womans job is to do this....... Being a Christian is hard. But misquoting scripture is not wise. I would love for her to quote a lot of what she is and that is a Proverbs 31 woman. I think that if she read that she would see herself in that scripture.

you are doing a great job you say whats on your mind and you stand for something your marriage and your kids. You are HOTT!! women see that and like Tamara said when you enter you have confidence its just an aiir about you keep it up great attitude and addition to the show.

Alexis, You know what? If you are happy, that's what matters. The truth is , that as viewers we really don't know your familly life . You do look happy.

I think he's controlling too . Telling u the volume u can speak , REALLY !!! But if it works for u and ur happy with the way it is more power to ya !! Just would not for me !

Dear Alexis, I too thought during last season that your husband was quite controlling but then I remembered back to when my husband and I were newly weds as you two are and had a small child. Many of our so called friends and family, I found out later, made the observation that "It would never last". Guess what? Every single one of them is now divorced at least once and my hubs and I will be celebrating our 45th Anniversary this summer. So since Miss Tamra is now onto her SECOND divorce I don't think that I would give much credence to her observances. Being a Christian though you are supposed to forgive her. I am not but I just find it makes life easier. Ha

NO Tamara is not all that you said about her,she has Lived with a man that is just like Jim, and unless you have lived with someone like that you have no room to talk about the person, I know what she has lived with. you probly never been in that life. So unless so have lived like that then don,t type things you do not know about. If you say thing you don,t know about then you must be all the things you said Tamara was. And Tamara was just trying to let Alexis know from exprins about what Jim is doing to Alexis. It is said that Alexis wont see it because she dose not want to see or here it. And Alexis and Jim not about there Kids. When you are a real mom and dad you put your kids first and marriage second and God should come first. but kids should come before her man but becase Jim got her head messd up in all the crap he tells that she wont leson to anyone at all and that is not a good mom. If she wants to be a good mom then she need to stay home with out nannys and raise here kids with husben and when you are realy mom you don,t live your kids and hang around the 3 times a day and run the street to speend money and if they trust each other there would be not problem with ether one of then living to go out of town. And If Jim was not like that then he would never have a problem with her going out town with out here.. But don,t say that Jim is man when he is a boy in man body, that is way Jim say the things he dose. And that is probly way he was doivce from his first wife and Alexis is second wife and by the way if Alexis would start facing the truth then she would never say her and Jim would never get a doivcer they don,t belive in it then if that was the truth then they would have never got a divorce from the first Margge..

I think that you are beautiful person and have a great and caring heart. You have your priorities correct for someone who follows God and tries to have a Christian household. As a Christian myself I believe that what you are doing is right based on the Bible and those who don't follow Christ don't understand where you are coming from in your priorities. I think your children are so adorable and you and your husband need to do what is best for your family and not listen to someone who is cynical and bitter with life (Tamara ). She needs to learn to deal with her issues and not criticizes what you are doing in your family. Love to you and your family for not shying away from your beliefs!! God Bless!!

Alexis, I am so glad you are being so authentic this season. You have been a tricky housewife to read but it seems you are more comfortable being youself in front of the camera's this year. I am sure it is scary to put yourself and your beliefs out there to be judged so it is nice to see the spotlight has not changed you-in fact you have grown. I think it is wonderful that you and your husband are committed to a more traditional marriage which is not always the "norm" in the OC. Having said that,I hope Jim is watching past clips where he comes across as speaking down to you. Perhaps that is his communication style and he only wants to help you but it does sound belittling. Luckily you get the opportunity to watch yourselves on tape and correct things that may have otherwise gone unnoticed. As for Tamra, she does have a habit of pushing people away before they do it to her first. Perhaps that is her defense mechanism. You have every right to be angry, disappointed and hurt by her comments. I would be. I still feel deep down she has a good heart and that is probably why you are so shocked right now- You saw that good in her and did not expect her rude comments. You are probably rethinking everything and wondering if everyone else was right after all. After you have cooled off and she has apologized, I hope the two of you can sit down off camera and talk it out heart to heart. If anyone can get through to her, it would be you. You are very strong and loving and you are a straight shooter who tells it like it is and that is what she needs. If you are too hurt right now I understand, but please pray for guidance before you make any decisions about your friendship with Tamra. You have a beautiful family and you are truly blessed.

You are so right, you set a great example of what a good marriage should be, and Tamara just seems to be letting her own shortfalls affect her opinions. Just because her marriage failed does not give her the right to judge yours, and it seems like she hates to see others have good relationships.

Hi Alexis, I love that you are a christian. A good Mom and wife. I wanted to mention when at the park with your friend. I know exactly what Milania said. She said I'm making a rainbow. You said," what a limo?" That was so cute. she sounded as clear as a bell on the tube.I have surround sound maybe that's why.

I had a friend who was doing what Tamra was doing to you in this episode about your marriage. It's none of their business and I found that that person was just resentful that my relationship lasted. You just have to be friendly, but you do not have to tolerate it. A true friend doesn't try to bring you - or anything in your life - down. I hope things work out between you two. :)

Your husband is controlling and that IS not how the "roles" of marriage are supposed to work..

Alexis - Being the spiritual person that you claim to be, I would think you would have been more understanding of Tamra's comments and their origin rather than choosing to slam her in your blog. The fact that you and Jim lent support to Simon and not Tamra during the difficult times in their marriage shows that YOU were not being a friend to Tamra. Yet, you question her friendship in your blog. If that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, than I don't know what is.

I think they are all jealous of you and your husband still being together and being in love. It's not your fault they all go to big headed after this show and didn't treat their husbands right. Don't get caught up in the bull crap and keep having God a big part of you and your family. They are just some lonely women and they would love for you to be as miserable as they are sleeping in their cold beds. Stay with that loving man and don't give into the crabs in a bucket!

Some people (Tamra!) are so quick to judge you and Jim. It was interesting the way Bravo chose to make a reel of all the times you "look like" you're being second to Jim, yet they made no reel of the moments Jim makes you his priority over all else. Tamra's judgement is hazy at best; she's sharp-tongued because she has nothing else to be. She's not dumb, just hateful, and she thinks that ramping up the drama will work in her favor. You did the right thing at every turn to allow her to show her true colors without stooping to her level. Her spitefulness when she's on camera talking about you when she's alone reveals a lot; she clearly wants to stir the pot and make you look bad, but it's not going to work because anyone with any sense can see your faith and strength and class outweigh any of her traits. She does need your prayers and I think it's amazing you would even do that for her. It shows yet again the caliber person you really are. Bless you for bringing something substantial to reality TV.

You're a good person, Alexis. And you're probably better off not putting your son into the business. p.s. where can I find the top that you were wearing on your playdate with Peggy in the park? It's gorgeous!

Hi Alexis,

No one should be making comments to a friend/cast, about their marriage. Your marriage works for you, but maybe for others, it does not. Tamra is bitter because her marriage did not worked with Simon. And by the way, Simon was driving her insane. She compares your husband to Simon, because she says your husband is a controlling person. You and hour husband have agreements on how your marriage should work. Remember this, envious and jealousy is tremendous bad energy to people who are in a good place. Be careful.

God Bless you, your children and husband,

Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia San Juan, Puerto Rico

You have the thinnest skin when it comes to the other women on this show. Why are you on a reality show, if you're going to get worked up every time one of them expresses an opinion? Tamra got carried away in her interview, but she had the courage and concern to tell you how she felt. Frankly, your husband is pretty rude and controlling - even he admitted he needed to change during last year's reunion show. Tamra wasn't wishing a divorce for you or calling you a gold-digger, she was saying that you can't sustain a relationship over the long term if one of you has to submit your will and personality and the other is in control of the resources. She's older, she's been there, and she's right.

I don't see that Tamra was saying that she didn't want to be friends. I think it's more like you two being friends will not work. She was right in that Jim is just as controlling as Simon (it's just that you don't/wont see that). We all see how controlling he is. But then again, if that works for you and Jim then do your thing. I found it interesting that Tamra didn't see how controlling Simon was and then when she did she got a tatoo instead of trying to get counseling.

But lets be honest. A husband being so controlling over his wife (what she wears, what she says, her mannerisms, who she speaks with, etc) is not going to go over very well with a majority of people. Especially hear in the U.S. where men and women are equal and the women are not beneath the men.

I also agree with Tamra that I find it extremely hard to believe that Jim would be o.k. with you venturing into some online business which takes away from your "wifely" duties. Just saying.

Don't worrry Alexis. I saw through all the editing downfalls and comments that were made. You are a great mother, good wife and good person. Looking forward to seeing you on Adam Cohen's show a week from Sunday. Please mention Hannibal Mo for your fans here.

ALEXIS, IF YOU WANT TO BE IN A MARRIAGE THAT SEEMS 90% JIM AND 10% ALEXIS, GO FOR IT!! WHAT EVER WORKS FOR YOU IS YOUR BUSINESS. AS FOR ALL THIS DIVORCE TALK, YOU OF ALL PEOPLE (YOURSELF BEING A DIVORCEE) SHOULD UNDERSTAND WHAT TAMRA IS GOING THROUGH! JUST AS YOU SEEM TO HAVE SUPPORTED SIMON, YOU SHOULD ALSO SUPPORT TAMRA THROUGH THIS TRYING TIME IN HER LIFE. PEOPLE DON'T THINK CLEARLY WHEN THERE IS ALOT OF DRAMA ON THE HOMEFRONT, SO PLEASE BE A LITTLE MORE KIND AND FORGIVING OF COMMENTS THAT PEOPLE MAKE. I'M SURE YOUR DIVORCE FROM YOUR FIRST HUSBAND WASN'T ALL SUNSHINE AND ROSES!!!

You're right, Alexis. There's no need for you to defend your marriage. Every marriage is different. As a dear friend said to me one day, "every family is dysfunctional -- it's how you function in that dysfunction that decides whether or not it will work." He was right. You've got your priorities right, so stick with them and enjoy your life.

I like you Alexis You do you I like Tamara also but at this point she is mad that she let her good man go some other woman will be happy why she sit back an wish that she still had she looked happy til Mrs Vicki came along talking dont never let another woman tell you how nor what to do with your man they just wish they had the same my husband thke very good care of me an my kids an people always say what we should do I look at like you cant tell me nothing do you have a man you do you love your man tell all them HATERS to fall back

Alexis, thanks for letting us inside of your beautiful home! Love the staircase and master bedroom! Also, it's great that you bring spirituality to the OC!

Alexis, Your husband is absolutely controlling. It doesn't take much to see that. The difference is that you put on a smile and deal with it while Tamra wanted more independence. This blog makes me think that Gretchens comments about Tamra have gotten to you, she never wanted you to be friends with her. People can say things without ending a friendship. Were they nice? No. Is she entitled to her opinion? Yes.

I don't understand why you are so mad...Does the truth hurt? Tamra wasn't being MEAN about it, she was just making an observation. YOU ALL do it , so stop complaining.

Your marriage works for you and that's fine. If you don't mind a husband who is protective or as some people see it, controlling, then who are we to judge. If that doesn't work for Tamra then so be it. She was completely out of line to say what she did about the odds of your marriage making it. Look at Vicki -- she was with the complete opposite of Jim and her marriage still went south. Ignore the haters and keep God in the center of your marriage - if you do that, then it will last a lifetime! Maybe Tamra should take you up on your invitation to attend church with you like Simon did! By looking at the previews, her behavior is immoral and her mouth still vulgar - she can use a little church in her life!

Yes, your nice and all, but the real fruit of being and saying your a Christian, is off and on the camera. You whisper a lot to a lot of people and its caught on camera. My gosh at least try to bridle the tongue.

Are your girls fraternal twins? So cute. I thought Gretchen was completely out of line talking to her assistant about the "princess" comment when she was just trying to calm the waters and get everyone to get along. To me that was just wrong. I felt bad for that poor girl!

Try to bridle the tongue Alexis, really we have to show all sides to the viewers. Iits not nice what you say in whispers. Its called being a viper. Be nice and practice what you preach. At least I would want to.

I think in the past Jim has come across as a bit controlling BUT he also comes across as being head over heels in love with you and seems willing to do ANYTHING to make YOU happy. You both seem like you are getting what you both want out of your marriage and it really is no one else's business what defines your marriage. I think Jim is a King and you are his Queen and I think it's great. Tamra is definitely hurt right now and still licking her wounds. I think she is attacking Jim because she wants to see similarities in Jim and Simon. I personally never disliked Simon. I truly believe the camera caught him in a very negative light but I always saw that he just wanted his wife to tone it down and be kind to people and responsible. I think SHE is the one that changed- for the worse. She has been fake to everyone on the show and I think she is very unhappy right now and has been for awhile. I think she has a good heart she just has an even bigger foot that she likes to put in her mouth...be the Christian woman that you are and let it go but be wise to where she is at in her life right now.

Alexis,

I think you need to stay from both Tamra and her ex, Simon. Last year, Simon did tell Tamra not to trust you and your husband. You need to stop being so judgement towards her. I think you and Jim are being very unfair to pick Simon's side. While on God's green earth, would you call her while Simon's new girlfriend is sitting in your house and ask her when is their 12th anniversary. That's stupid. Simon was sitting right there. That just added drama you are creating. Remember you have some flaws in you that needs to be handled. I really like you as an individiual, but you need to stay out of people personal business.

Peace, Georgia Peach

Walk the Talk!

Your husband is not controlling & your children are advanced for their age compared to others...LMAO. Love is blind & that's a good thing. Glad your happy and that your life works for you.

COMPLETELY AGREE! It kills me - KILLS me - when Christians misuse the Bible. It just continues the terrible stereotypes Christians get these days. Think for yourself - if you believe the man should be the head of the household, say so! Don't pin it on the Bible and scare other people away from the faith.

Alexis, You are an incredible woman! It must be hard to remain friends with the other housewives when you watch the comments played back on the show. But it's TV and we all want to see dome drama.

Having had you on my TV show "What's Up Orange County" several times I have come to know the real Alexis! Friendly and not controlled by Jim at all.

Can't wait to see you next week on Watch What Happens.

I know I've been hard on you in the past, but this episode concerns me. Legitimizing your husband keeping you "in line" is very disturbing, and I think that if you tasted a little more independence, you would see this is no way to live. Young girls watch this show, look at your lifestyle and say "I want that" and follow this destructive pattern of subservience that needs to be broken. I'm not hoping for the demise of your marriage, nor am I predicting it. THE NERVE! However, I hope you consider looking at the roles of a wife and husband differently and understand the importance of equality and mutual respect. Jim himself said (in the reunion show) that it is up to him to bridge the gap between his old world upbringing and the modern world, so give him a chance to prove what he wants to prove. I'm sure he would surprise you. More importantly, I think that you would surprise you.

I gotta say that I think you are blessd to have Jim as a husband! First I know we do not see everything and second, you are a christian and have different values, rules, comandments then some folks. Live your life and throw the trashy friends out. Tamera while she can be funny is not a friend to anyone at all but herself.

Alexis,

I love your passion, love and loyalty. You don't need to explain yourself to your enemies. The people that love you and know you don't need explanations.

You handle yourself very good with jealous Tamra. Your blog was very good.

Best wishes

I'm sorry, but I have to agree with Tamra. You said, "My husband takes very good care of me." And, how so, Alexis? With money, money, money. However, I disagree with Tamra that your marriage won't last---it will...just as long as Jim's bringing in the dough.

You took my thoughts right out of my head, I could not had wrote it better.

Hi Alexis, First off, your marriage is your business and I am so happy that finally one person on the show follows the Lord. The other's are lost spiritually, and the one thing in life that will make you truly happy is God's love. Whether or not the other members know, God loves them too and they may be unaware of that. The best thing you could do and honestly I think God put you around all these people is to share His word. Pray for your enemies. Pray for Tamra. I pray for my enemies. Sure, you have more money than alot of people, but they're also envious of your inner happiness and desire to have a life and marriage like yours. Don't care too much for Vicki, I know you don't as well, but its best to just set a good example and to forgive and forget. Forget the "drama" it adds to the show. God put you on this show to spread His good news....I truly believe that is why He lead you there in the first place. Good Luck and Stay Lovely and True to yourself. ---your fellow facebook follower, Michelle---San Francisco, CA

Alexis,you are my fav.you are right about.God first then spouse second and then children.we have both be brought up to trust in god.i hope the show does not destroy you.i hope your dress line works out.you know my husband is my best friend.i do not think the other ladies understand.yes your husband should say something if it botthers him.dress to short etc...that is not controll.you get married for a reason.people need to stay single if they can not compromise .my hubby and i are going to be married 30 years this year.i am 46 he 47.alexis believe me i know about a relationship.we were married at 17 18.we want to move back to springfield MO.we miss are big church.assembly of god.i love wearing makeup taking care of my skin.i was born in california.take care.god bless Bevy!

Alexis, I do believe that your husband is controlling, but that is your business. It is also noboday else's business. Tamra is wallowing in "misery loves company", and apparently will feel better if others are miserable too.

Some advice: don't fall into the competitive parent syndrome. Everyone loses, especially the children. Have high expectations, but let them be kids.

Alexis,

Nothing like practicing what you preach honey! God says to love ALL and NOT to judge. Two wrongs do not make a right. Forgive Tamara and support her. She is going through a lot right you. You yourself, should understand what she is going through. You to went through a divorce. How would you feel if your friends took your ex's side. Love and forgive her. Understand what she is going through.

Honestly, I love you on the show, but seeing your husband puts fire in me. I am so glad I am in a marriage that my husband trusts me. He allows me to go on trips without him, allows me to dress how I want (because he knows I will not wear that dress that is too short) and does not tell me who to be friends with.

However, if being controlled is what makes you happy, who am I to judge?

Please seek spiritual guidance before judging your friends so harshly.

Always a fan, Tina