Alexis Bellino

Alexis reacts to Tamra's comments about her marriage.

on Mar 13, 2011

Gretchen taking care of her dogs is hilarious! That's actually exactly how she is with Vito and Rocko. I always tell her she will make a good mom. She treats them like they were humans (like most people in love with their pets). Those dogs have a better life than I did growing up! Ha! It cracks me up, because I know her biological clock is ticking.

Oh boy, now we get to Tamra and I doing pilates together. This was so difficult for me to watch, because this is the first time it is brought to my attention that Tamra isn't actually a friend. I was so shocked after this episode that I was speechless for probably an hour. I do not understand how someone can act like a friend, and be so friendly, do pilates with me, have a cocktail and talk about our friendship, and then say all those mean things about me right afterward. It's completely beyond me. She compared her marriage to Simon to my marriage with Jim, which I thought was absurd. The only similarity is that Jim and Simon both like a more traditional marriage. We can see now that Tamra didn't want that; however, I do still want that. My marriage may not be as traditional as it was in the beginning of our relationship, however it is still fairly traditional in my mind. So when I heard the part where I say to Tamra after she is describing Simon, "Well that's Jim," I have to assume I did not understand what she was saying.

Furthermore, the fact that she would have the audacity to make a prediction about my marriage given that she is divorcing her husband is absolutely ridiculous. Obviously her equation for marriage didn't work, so I think I'll stick to the way I'm handling my marriage. If she doesn't understand my marriage, then butt out! My husband and I have very specific roles that we both love and wanted in a marriage. That's not to say that we don't make adjustments to things as our marriage grows. Jim and I have been together for seven years now, so obviously certain parts of our marriage have changed from the time we met. But that's what a good marriage does... it grows together and not apart; it changes when necessary instead of being stagnant. I truly don't feel it necessary to defend my marriage. We are happy, and that's all that matters. Anyone who wants to gossip about my marriage or insult it, well, that is none of my business and I'm glad to be so entertaining that they feel it important enough to talk about.

Next Tamra insinuates that I'm a gold digger, says that Jim is controlling and not protective, and that she doubts he is supportive... I mean, why the heck didn't she just tell me she didn't want to do pilates with me that night? It's disgusting. Actually, I don't know why I'm so shocked about this. She did the same thing to Vicki last year, acting as if Vicki was her friend to her face, she did the same thing to Gretchen two years ago, and now she is doing it to me. I see a common pattern developing. I feel sorry for her that she doesn't understand what it means to be in love, and that her marriage didn't work. She seems resentful that mine is working, but there are so many other ways she could have told me she didn't want to be friends rather than on this episode. I have cut my losses and am simply praying for her and praying that she finds true happiness.

xoxo,

Alexis