Tamra/Vicki showed us who they are tonight...vicious buddies who think pepper spray is funny after both claiming they don't want drama. Be yourself Gretchen...I am still not sure about Slade for you...but nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors. Hope it is all good.

I do wish you luck in your endeavors and also congrats on parents 40 year union, but I think you need to do a bit of due diligence on yourself in terms of owning your BS while calling others on theirs.'

First, you were inappropriate at Tamra's party. Own it. It was rude. She was beyond rude at Jeana's so I am not sticking up for her.

Second, the mace is a lighthearted joke. Big deal. Get over it. I no way did I as a viewer think it was anything but light.

Three, moving is exhausting!! It takes forever. I know I missed a party I would have loved to attend when I moved but I had no break. I do not think Tamra owed Fernanda an apology other than I'm sorry you were hurt - but I really could not make it.

Fourth, get over Tamra.

Fifth, yeah, I think she is acting up for camera, but if you see demise of other shows such as MIA, or the axe of great people who aren't over the top -ATL-I can understand the pressure to "bring it." Also, I think a lot of complaints by all housewives is pot calling kettle. You could all be less sensitive in some areas and more in others.

Don't marry Slade unless you really see the flaws and could live with them AS IS, not "as long as he changes later."

I agree with leasing. I also think some people can be committed and have a beautiful relationship without paper. Just like many papered couples tout sanctity but treat eachother like cr*p. Sorry, but that is not "holy."

Do you EVER get tired of talking about Tamra?

Thats so great what your doing for ur parents. It was funny when you went to your moms closet. Especially when you fixed you hair when you only had verry little time to get out of their.

He Gretchen, I just wanted to say that on season one when you met up with Slade and Joe to help with the pop video Jo was making. I thought right then, if she wasnt engaged to Jeff, she and Slade would make a cute couple. Joe treated him poorly. I remember his kids on the show. They had nothing but nice things to say about their Dad. Slade was a hands on Dad. Ive watched the show from the beginning. It's true Lauri and Slade dated for a very short time. But, they were all friends, they all lived in Coto de Caza.It's a small little community. He was with Joe before she became a housewife. The whole "Slade just wants to date a housewife" is BS. I mean look at you. Slade would take you whether you were on the show or not. He's a great Dad who fell on hard times like everyone else only his son is sick. Wheres the compassion with these housewives? I remember Vicky let Slade store his furniture in her rental house garage. He's commited to you. Treats you like a queen and defends you at the drop of a hat. I'd say, he's a keeper. Don't listen to the unwell meaning morons. BTW, humans can't be compared to cars. You want children one day. How would you feel if Slade called you tubby wubby after giving birth. You never know what will happen to your body. Slade is a stand up guy. He'd be a good Dad to your kids, he's proven with his own kids what it takes to be a good Dad. We long time viewers have all seen it.

You have always been my fav housewifes. In the past seasons you didn't pay too much attention to rumors or what other's thought of you! Everything was more about having fun and enjoying life. I love'd that about you. However this season you have changed a bit, you are becoming just like Tamra. I know she really hurt you and your life has changed because of what she said and did but you must learn to move past it otherwise you end up being just as they are to you! You are not a mean person so don't act like one!! I love your attitude and outgoing personality.. dont' you get it, that's why the other housewife's dislike you because you have it all. Your the total package don't let them get the best of you cause your so much better than them. Stay positive and it will all work out at the end and be nice to slade too.. he really seems to love you and who cares what anybody else thinks you do what's best for you but always be real to yourself!!!

If you support the NOH8 campaign then why are you throwing in a little dig at Tamra while you talk about it? Tacky. You'll never pass any opportunity to say something negative about her- maybe that's why you DO have a negative aura

You're awesome! But dump Slade!

Congratulations on your parents anniversary & for being such an integral part of the planning! I totally understand. My Mom & Dad were happily married for 60 years & Dad always wanted me to do his shopping for her gifts. He figured that a woman would better know what another woman would like. He just wanted her to be amazed & know how special she was to him. Hopefully you"ll help your Dad plan their 60th too!

Bring fun Gretchen back! From what I've seen, Tamra IS in a better place while you seem really bitter and incredibly negative this season. Everything you say about her is snarky. Do you really hate her that much? She doesn't seem to hate you back. She's called you out about some things you've said and done that you don't want to take responsibility for. She did this publicly, and it has damaged your reputation, but Tamra seems to be an honest person at least, more so than you have been.

Gretche,

PLEASE BE VERY CAREFUL ABOUT PEGGY. SHE IS NOT SINCERE.

Gretchen... I loved the scene where you sneek into your Parents House. It was really thoughtful of you as a Daughter to plan such an event for your Mom, and Dad's 40th Wedding Anniversary. I know they both were surprised, and loved what you did for them.

Gretchen You are a wonder daughter. I wish you the very best, you seem so genuine. Please don't let the show change your character. You are a beautiful woman on the outside and you seem to be a beautiful woman on the inside, which is the most important. I wish you the best on whatever you decide in your life.

Why did she owe you an apology?! She put forth the effort at her party which you were extremely rude and childish while there. If anything you owe her an apology! Get over it!

Gretchen,

You are so upfront and honest with everyone. You tell it like it is. Vicki and Tamra are a bunch of fakers. I can't stomach Vicki anymore, she needs to get over herself.

you did show up with a negative attitude to the party. it was all over your face and in your behavior....gosh, just own it! i don't see much of a difference between you or tamara...both sooo attention starved!

Don't put blame on Vicki for something Tamara did. They are friends but it is obvious that Vicki isn't agreeing with all the decisions she is making. Did you see what I saw in the limo?? Vicki wasn't starting anything. You are the one creating something that isn;t there.

Just like you have opinions, so does Peggy. Get it over it!

What you are doing or did for your parents was or is real nice and sweet of you. I couldn't believe it that tamra bought the pepper spray that is like so juvenile shes not a kid hello! Why didnt vicki tell her that lol! I am glad that their wasnt no fighting, no hair pulling nor nothing like that. I didnt like what fernanda told tamra about her not going to her citizenship party. Both of them were very true and honest on what they said. But tamras words hurt me and i bet it did to fernanda to. peggy and alexis and you are my top 3 housewives including fernanda also. tamra and vicki are old school lol! take care luv ya!

Love how excited you are to celebrate your parent's anniversary. That's the Gretchen I fell in love with during your first season. You seem to portray a happy, carefree spirit. No one is perfect and, we will all fall down. To me, it's about people's intent. Tamra's intent was to come out on top and put you in your place. All it did was make us see signs of the old Tamra.

At her party, you probably should have stayed home. But once there, I don't think your intent was to ruin her party. You just wanted to make it clear that you weren't going to put up with her crap again. After all the crap she's thrown your way, I think you were entitled. She definitely overreacts and is a serious drama queen.

Love you Gretchen - you are a happy positive and fun-loving character. Don't let the wannabees get you down. You are beautiful inside and out!

is that black purse you were using on sale anywhere?

Hi Gretchen, I love you on the show. You add so much spunk. It drives me crazy that Tamra and Vicki think they can do and say whatever they want about you and think nothing about it, but when you respond they act like "OMG she's attacking me!" That is hilarious to me. I say don't back down to them. Vicki is the one that can dish it, but can't take it. Don't let them change who you are.

Gretchen I have to agree with you. My husband actually commented that out of all the housewives, you are the most down-to-earth and likeable. I certainly don't feel negative energy from you - ever.

I have always thought you were awesome and I still do!! Don't listen to these people about Tamra, you have a right to defend yourself and explain whats going on. LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU!

You seem like a lovely and loving daughter. The Anniversary plans are wonderfully well thought through. That said, it would be more interesting for you to get off Tamra's back already. The feud is old news and boring. Let it go and concentrate of other more productive things in your life.

You are acting with a lot of class this season. Tamra is digging her own grave quickly. I do not know why people are getting angry at you for writing about Tamra, after all Bravo asks you to comment in your blog about the other cast members. You are being honest with how you feel about her and last year Tamra certainly wrote a lot about you and not nice things. I love how close you are with your parents. Listen to them, after all they stayed married for 40 years.

Congrads on your parents, that party is going to be wonderful! Yes, I see you as nothing as positive, you are always off doing your thing on the show. It was totally disturbing that Tamra bought two cans of Mace, I don't think the police would have found her joke funny. You were doing NOTHING to instigate her, it's best just to agree to disagree and enjoy yourself. Vicki was actually shocked when she gave her mace and should have instigated at her, but I think she gets sucked in my Tamra and she is not really a good friend to her at all. And she is not in a good place at all, just read the boards! Alexis with all that horoscope stuff, was trying to tell people who would get along with who? Nice try? And then she can read AURAS? And the goes behind Alexis' back and totally tramples the peace process Alexis and VIcki put in place starting that day and brings up the whole mess again? Just keep being positive and away from Tamra, after that incident with Mace, it was just creepy. People get jealous and say all kinds of things, that's the problem with being a real housewife. Maybe Tamra needed Simon to control her so she didn't do stupid things like buy two cans of Mace and take it to a party and show everyone. Really bad idea that was, and I saw the trailers for next week's episode and she's like a high school student not understanding why Alexis is angry at her. You brought pepper spray to a spray to a spa party! Hello! You didn't deserve that.

Ok, first off, I want to tell you I LOVE YOUR HANDBAG LINE. I'm a purse freak and I've been wanting one since I saw but they are sold out online! I have money set aside ( I returned my new coach poppy purse) for one of yours. My mom and I love them. Also, I'm jealous of your house. It's such a bachlorette pad, and it's fabulous. You work hard, and I admire that. Not to mention, both your songs are on my ipad. However, I'm not a big fan of slade, but hey you seem smart and love is love. I also notice you seem like you use charm and cute jokes everytime you're approached with something serious. Examples: when questioned about slade, boob jobs, plastic surgery, other ladies, and so on. I hope you do not attempt all season to convince everyone you live the perfect life, and have the perfect family\relationship as I feel( my opinion) Alexis does every episode.

Tamra DID apologize to Fernanda. It actually was the FIRST thing she said...

Getchen you are a sweetie.

You totally won me over in the episode where you and your father are having cocktails and he teased the young waitress about her name -- Sam. You were sensitive enough to know he was probably making her very uncomfortable and kind enough to reassure her by saying "He's my dad. he's just a teaser."

Don't let other people's cattiness ever get to you. You and Alexis are the nice girls on this show.

I agree, I think you have shown more class than most of the women on the HWOC. You speak your mind, your not into bashing others, and you stand up for yourself. Keep it up. Good Luck on the party. and as other viewer said Listen to your parents they didnt stay married that long because they didnt work at it.

Gretchen please be very careful with Slade. I have had a bad feeling about him for years. I am thinking about the time when he was with Jo and he was golfing with some friends and he made a very nasty comment. Someone said something about being nice and he said he did not have to be nice because he was rich, or something to that effect. You are so sweet and I think you deserve much better. I also love what you are doing for your parents, you are a very caring daughter. Stay sweet.

I totally agree with all that you said to Gretchen in your blog...I'm just glad I am not the only one that sees things the same way...they never seem to post any of my responses!

HELLO FELLOW SCORPIO! First off, it was bugging me what Peggy said to you. Not only do you not have a negative aura, but she was way off on her description of a Scorpio. Incase anyone cares, we are usually fun-loving, highly sexual, care-free people... who only become aggressive when "backed into a corner", just like a real scorpion. She also seems to be playing both sides of the fence... which might be partly due to being the new girl, and having issues with Alexis. But somethng seems off kilter with her! LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU. BTW. How gorgeous was that ring for your mom??? Woha! One last thought... If Vicky is always so "passionate" about her work and working every minute of the day... why did she even sign up for the show in the first place? She might think she is the "token working housewife" but maybe she doesnt realize that the viewers are smarter than she gives us credit for. She might be working crazy hours, but at who's expense? Seems like her family has suffered for it...........................

hi gretchen. simply put, YOU are the most appealing, beautiful, human real housewife. a classy example for the rest of those "things". love ya'

Get over Tamra already - she's not perfect, but at least she's ready to let this go. YOU keep egging it on & on and saying terrible things. Didn't you ever hear of taking the higher road? Let it go and move on with your life - Tamra has....

I am so looking forward to your parent's anniversary. That will be fun to watch your mom and dad beam with pride. Parents don't expect a lot from their children as far as gifts....at least I don't. So, when they give me anything at all, I tear up. Awwwwww. I know your momma is going to do the same.

I DON'T KNOW THE HISTORY BEHIND THESE RELATIONSHIPS BUT I DO FEEL VICKI'S COMMENT ABOUT THE RING WAS AWFUL! THAT WAS SUCH A KIND GESTURE AND SHE IS FAR TOO OPINIONATED! I COULDN'T BE FRIENDS WITH HER FOR 5 MINUTES!

Tamra made a joke with the mace as you made a joke with the hat and calling her an evil b*t*h. CLEARLY she was not going to mace you at alexis's party. You are overly sensitive and I cannot believe how the princess comment has carried on. It is hard to believe sometimes that you are above the age of 12. You used to be my favorite, I liked your personailty. Now I cannot bear to watch every interview anticipating your overly exaggerated laugh at the end of every sentence. Over you...

Gretchen,

Love you! I think you have a great energy. I think you handle the way that Tamara acts and treats you with grace. I hope that you will always be the more mature one and not come down to her level. I think she has issues with her self and takes it out on you. I'm a new watcher to this show and catching up on the reruns and can not get over how into your business they are with Slade. I don't know I wouldn't want my relationship talked about by other women. If you love him that is your business and only yours. Keep your chin up and always be the bigger person.

I heard part of a song that Gretchen wrote and sang about her husband and I would like to find out where to get it and what is the name of it

Okay Gretchen, I have been in your shoes. A person who I thought was my friend not only said vicious things about me, but actively tried to sabatoge me. I admit, I am not saint. I had to vent. I told my friends what happened and told her off. When I was venting to people I trusted, I went off. I took cheap shots at her. Plenty of unsavory terms were used. Good friends will act as a sounding board. They are right there with you, take your side when you have been wronged and sometimes use a few unsavory terms themselves. I know I didn't hesitate to jump on the bandwagon when my one of my friends was bashing her husbands mistress. I made her laugh and let her know that she was not alone. However, when you are blogging or talking to people you do not trust it is a different story. If you want to vent, it is better to do it when you are in the company of people who truly know what kind of person you are. Or, perhaps to write a blog that no one will read. Sometimes, when you are writing your blog, I think you are venting or trying to convince people that Tamara is a bad person. I will tell you that there will always be people who like Tamara. Furthermore, there will always be people who don't understand you (some of them don't even want to because they love to hate). Nothing you say will change that. Keep on rocking and don't worry about what other people think. Explaing everything you do and constantly feeling the need to take cheap shots at Tamara is beneath you. You are awesome and there will always be plenty of people who realize that:)

Hey!!! The man that married your mom and dad 40 years ago and now is my step grandpa Don.. I saw some pictures that he had from that day and you all looked so happy!!! I just thought how cool that is that you knew Don and Mary :))

You are perfect! Smart, beautiful, witty, loving!

Luv ya Gretchen.....totally the biggest reason I watch is you and Slade. I think you guys make such a cute couple and the pic you posted in your blog of you both is Gorgeous! You guys have such striking eyes! Love it!

Gretchen- Of all the women, I would have to say you hold the most intelligence. You are street and book smart. I really like you and Alexis the most. You 2 are the most beautiful and most kind hearted--from what I can see. I think you have the best hair of all of them for sure. LOL. I really enjoy watching you and Alexis the most. I knew those were moles on your face--people are too quick to judge....but I guess when youre on tv thats what we do as viewers. I also think you're a badass cuz you can ride a motorbike!!!! Go Gretchen!!! Whoop Whoop!!! Love you!

Gretchen, before you laser off your moles look up Moleology. They actually have meaning and shockingly, the interpretation can be pretty spot on. It would really be bad to take moles off that are good luck for your future as you have already started reaping the rewards of your hard work.

Gretchen, Just wanna say that I appreciate the fact that you and Slade supported a cause you believe in while still maintaining your dignity in the photo shoot. Have not been a fan of Tamara's from day one and with each season I like her less. Don't let her get the best of you this season. She really is a pro at baiting people for drama! Don't buy it!

Gretchen, what relates on TV maybe different from what actually happens (don't know). But for us it seems like Tamra is a fair person and is going thru so much in her life as I'm sure you are too. I love you both and seems like you two could have a lot of fun together if y'all could ever get thru the past history. P.S. love your folks!!