Love you Gretchen! I wish the best for you and Slade.

All of the women need to learn to "let go" of their grudges, anger and hate.

You are amazing, I agree with you 100% in regards to Tamra, thoughts and prayers to Slade's son.

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you... FINALLY....you said what we all believe about Tamara. We all need to be honest with ourselves and change...it's not always easy but when you are so clearly confronted with it and don't change then seek help!

I'm really proud of you Gretchen and hope your success continues. It's good to see you stick up for yourself and not let people like Tamra bring you down. Good luck!!

Very good blog.

Gretchen.. I love you and your style. You are the bigger person here and continue to be just that. Tamara is just like you say, needs the attention. You on the other hand are the one that is out there making your life work and taking it in stride. and for that you WILL SUCEED in whatever you do. Keep it up and can't wait for the reunion and next season to see how you've grown. Thank you for being a real down to earth person. Bless you, Slade and his son, you are all in my prayers. Love you.. Carol from Cape Coral, FL

HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY!! Gretchem, thanks for the heartfelt, truthful and inspirational blog. You hit the nail on the head. While the situation with Vicki, was not flattering at the time, you did the right thing in owning your feelings at the time and visiting Vicki in the hospital. I believe your remarks were out of frustration and not intended to be mean. A true sign of character is when one recognizes their mistake and moves on in a postive direction as you did by visiting Vicki at the hospital. Vicki and Tamra are not pleasant women at all and you've learned that unlike some others. I'm glad to see that you're thinking things through very carefully and clearly when it comes to your relationship with Slade. I think Slades need's to be financailly sound before you consider marriage. As far as a child is concerned, you don't need to be married and if you're able to take care of your child without the financaial support of Slade or any man, then go for it. Lastly, Jeanna responses to Tamra and Simon's business, should have been "no comment", period. Both she and Tamra were wrong. Tamra wanted her 15 minutes of fame with the wine throwing, in hopes I guess of topping Terese Guidice's table flipping. She didn't even come close. Good luck and much success on your future endeavors. continue to

Team Gretchen!! All day, everyday!

Gretchen,

Girl, you have to let this situation with Tamra go once and for all; you are such a beautiful, young, smart businesswoman (the only woe is Slade, you can do muuuucccchhh better) and when you don't forgive, that person who hurt you has the control, it is true (you feel this sharp sting in your chest every time you think of that person, and is not a good feeling). If you need help getting past that, then you need to ask for help and deal with it. You keep bringing the same subject every single time and that tells me you're not over it. I love Tamra most of the time but you have such a great heart and have made yourself to be loved, so DONT LET TAMRA CONTROL YOU!!!!! Good Luck and pleeeeeease for the Love of God if you are getting married, sign a prenup!!!

I agree with everything you said about Tamra - well said and right on....

Gretchen, I totally agree with you about Tamra. Gretchen you are my favorite oc housewife. Way too much drama for me this year....I can't even watch Tamra anymore....I'm not sure I will tune in next year. I hope only the very best for you

Gretchen...love you on the show. You are smart, confident and classy.

I think you need some chamomile tea and a massage. Just be, and be fabulous. XOXO

Always follow your heart. I personally think you and Slade make a great couple and I wish you both the very best. It has been a crazy season, can't wait for the reunion LOL.

Hi G

You put it best.... How could a person ( Tamra) not see the similarities? You delivered such a rational plea for her to understand how speaking of a persons life that you know nothing about is simply wrong, I really thought for a moment she got it. Unfortunately she is incapable and or unwilling.

Everyone else seems to get it though and you can rest assured that you tried with her. People need to understand how long you took her crap before you pushed back.

Congratulations on all your business ventures!!! Love your strength and your voice.

Bonnie

First off....my heart goes out to Slade and his son. God Bless them both.....it breaks my heart to see/know of a child going through pain and the parents praying for a miracle. Why do these things happen. It should Always be the other way around....the children should be standing next to the sick bed and not the parents.

Second......I was thinking the same when Tamra started her act at Vicki's party.....staged for the cameras. I also thought of what she did to you and wondered if she would apologize to you knowing what you did go through and still are.....what was I thinking? The part that showed Tamra's poor character the most was after her 'act', she went around lying to all who would listen. Jeana didn't try to throw her in the pool, said she wanted to but didn't try.....just one of the lies. Tamra is a pretty girl but her character is ugly and that ugliness will show on her face eventually.

The difference between what Tamra did to you and what Jeana 'did' to Tamra are enormous. Tamra got involved out of pure jealousy/hate. Jeana got involved to help Simon.....and now we KNOW, Jeana knows how much Tamra lies and manipulates others and tried to help. I now Don't believe a darn thing Tamra has said about Simon.....she wanted out of the marriage and set Simon up. It's evil to destroy another to then benefit from their destruction.

The truth isn't always easy to hear. But I'm glad that you speak it You're a good egg!! :)

It was totally the wrong time to bring up your own stuff with Tamra, and just hard to watch really. It was not about you, but you tried to make it about you. Let.It.Go.

Gretchen, You are not a mean girl - you are a nice girl. These old gals are just jealous. Have fun and don't worry about what they say. However, with Slade, he is what he is....so if you expect him to be the breadwinner I think that is not going to happen. If you don't mind carrying the load, and that will include his son, then stay together. If you can't handle that heat then get out of the kitchen and fast. Don't waste anymore time. You can find a good, solid stand up guy. And Tamra, she needs help for PTSD - no kdding. She is ready to really explode and needs counseling.

Gretchen, I really do wish you well in all you do and in your relationship with Slade. I do pray for his son, as I've taken care of many children with brain tumors. It's beyond devastating to all. As far as you and Tamra go...chalk it up to toxicity (unfortunately b/c you both have great qualities and faults just like the rest of us). Shame you can't get past any of it. I hope your line of handbags, make-up and fashion takes flight and you meet your goals. Glad you explained your comment on Vicki's absence at the fashion show. Didn't make it right. GI bleeds can go south very quickly, so don't make the assumption that because she was having the problem for a while that she "timed" her hospital stay. Those conditions can often be tenuous. Take care and find peace and success! Same with Slade!

Love you too Gretchen... enjoy the summer! Give Slate a *kiss* for me and tell him I will say a prayer for Grayson!!!

Have a great summer Gretchen. Tell Slate I'll say a prayer for little Grayson!

Go Gretchen!

TEAM GRETCHEN! You are right the whole way girl! You are beautiful and you know who is Super Jelly!

Greast blog! Your summation of the fight between Jeanne and Tamra was perfect. When I watched the show I couldn't believe how quickly she twisted the facts to say Jeanna was agressive towards her. It really does make you think twice about her allegations against Simon. She definately does not seem to be the victim.

Poor Vicky, of all the housewives she tries the hardest to stay away from drama, and at her most vulnerable moment her best friend purposely causes a scene at her fabulous party.

Good luck with everything! We'll be waiting to see you again in Season 7!

HALLELUJAH! Awesome blog. Everything you just said.. I have been yelling at the TV! I am so glad you have been on the show... or else I would wonder if everyone in the OC is sniffing spray tan fumes. Haha! I wish the best for you and Slade, I have liked him since day one. (Except for when he brought some lady as a date right after he and Jo split, but hey, he's a dude.) I wish you lovebirds the best... as well as Grayson. Keep up the awesome work.. look forward to seeing more of your dreams come true!

Love you Gretchen! You are such a smart cookie! You haven't deserved the way that Tamara and Vicki gang up on you and your relationship is nobody's business! Good for you for taking the high road this year even though the bar was set really low by the other ladies. You didn't deserve to catch any flak for the way you reacted to Vicki being in the hospital. She is all about herself and you called her on it! It made me upset when Andy Choen called you on it on whatch what happens live

Gretchen, I love you and so does every friend I know who watches the RHOOC! You are so genuine and beautiful inside and out. Your points in your blog are so clear without you even having to say them. Your confidence comes from somewhere deeper than your outer beauty and your relationship with Slade is obviously based on things that are deeper than money and looks. You are certainly an enviable person. It's no wonder superficial women resent you! You've stayed real and that's why we love you. Congratulations on your success!

I like you, beacuse you keep it real! I think Tamra should apologize to Jeana because what she did at the party was truly vulgar.

I am glad to see that you are getting to a place of peace regarding Tamra. For a while you were not sure which road to take with her but the Jeana incident helped put it into perspective for you. For that I am happy because you have been through so much and it is good to be able to put that behind you and move forward with the life that is ahead of you. I am so sorry to hear about Grayson's health not doing so well. We all need to keep him continually in our prayers and ask for God's strength and grace for the family. I can't imagine how I would feel if that were my child lying so sick in the hospital and having to go through that. God bless you, Gretchen. I'm happy you're in a good place.

Gretchen, glad you are back blogging. I totally understand where you are coming from & I too see through Tamra. She is a phony. I like Slade, always did no matter which housewife he was romancing & I feel bad about his son. Stay strong & true to yourself, Tamra will implode on herself before long.

YOUR AWESOME!

A blog well worth the wait!!! You show the wisdom of a sage, and maturity beyond your years. Jeana was assaulted---for Tamra to claim differently is absurd--so glad to see you point that out.

Gretchen, I love you and completely agree with EVERYTHING you addressed regarding Tamra. She blatantly lied on camera for the viewers to see and there really shouldn't be any question left in people's minds as to what her character is (or isn't) made of. You on the other hand have always shown good character, depth and a willingness to be fair. I love Jeanna too and feel sorry she had to go through that drama at the party. Keep up your inspirational behavior, you are a good role model and not a mean girl at all!

I loved that you told Tamra that you felt the way she current does for the past two years. She is out of control! Glad someone has level head on this show! By the way... Your hair is so pretty. I wish I could get my hair to curl so nice.

Very well said, Gretchen. All of it. We all see Tamra's true colors. She's not fooling anyone with her lies. Best Wishes to you and Slade and family.

Bravo never posts any of my comments, but I'm a devoted watcher so I continue to make them in vain. Gretchen, you are one of the best ladies in this whole series. Tamra is a prime example of who my mother raised me not to be. You've handled her with grace which speaks volumes about your parents.

It's obvious that Slade is madly in love with you. I hope the something can be worked out so that Slade isn't consider deliquent in the court system out there and that you two can marry and start a family. BTW, your parent's anniversary was absolutey wonderful. I was crying through much of it.

What a breath of fresh air you are! Your an amazing women and friend! I personally would love a friend like you or even Alexis...so how about your next venture be rent a friend! :D Silly I know but people like you guys are hard to find.Hope your day is a great one love!XOXOXO

Gretchen, Your Mom and Dad must be beaming with pride !!! Your the most wonderful loyal kind hearted human being that Bravo ever put on TV !!!! Your the only reason I watch TRHOC. I hope you have a great Summer and can't wait to see you next season.

Gretchen, nice to hear from you!! missed your blog. I have to say that I totally get why you would think that Vickie's rush to the hospital was staged I have to say it was some timing....I think you have Tamra's # I know her fans love her but I think that you are right on the money when it comes to her. Love Bethenny and it is nice to hear someone be happy for her. very classy. I think you and Slade will have beautiful babies.....wishing you all the happiness...

Gretchen, The letter that Tamara served was a set up. She even said that she had an attorney at the Judge Law Firm (the firm where Eddie works, not as an attorney, but either as a legal secretary, paralegal or file clerk) write it, not her attorney from her divorce. She was serving it herself. To be good service she cannot serve it. She set out to cause trouble to get all the attention, even after Vicki asked her not to cause drama she caused drama. Not a good friend at all. She claimed to Vicki and Eddie that Jenna tried to push her in the pool. That did not happen. Jenna should have called the police and had Tamara arrested for assault and also against that ugly friend of Peggy's who pushed her. That would have been good drama. Peggy actually started all the trouble and was walking around talking loud because she was drunk and showed how little class she has and telling Tamara to come talk to Jenna.

YES, I enjoy watching you on TV. YES, I think you're pretty and wish I was only half as pretty myself. YES, I love your sense of humor! So many things tonight I could type "YES" to. But what I find the best about you Gretchen is no matter how hurt,how used, the gossip whatever. Your good heart and class ALWAYS show through!! You have a happiness that only comes from having a great heart and soul. You know without the need to prove to anyone that actions speak louder than words and I know you lay down at night with out wishing you weren't so mean. So keep being you! You're great and I adore Slade too!! It says a lot that he is even able to put up with their crap. He could live anywhere on earth and he chooses beside you. How wonderful it is just to know that! Think of it like this if need be, Would Tamra really ALWAYS need to slam you if she wasn't worried that others see what I see too? NOPE she wouldn't. She may not realize it herself. But she knows this is but a glimpse of time in a life and in 10 years not many will know or care who the trailer trash talking woman was! The Mother of 4 who thinks she is cute calling a cast mate a "R" (retard) word! TRASH! MY DN has more love and joy in his heart than most. His smile lights up the world and he is not a "R" he is a nephew,son,child,brother. He is a PERSON and he deserves respect that is given being human! What I am not understanding and may never understand? Is why Mothers everywhere didn't take offensive to her doing that? I know its been weeks ago when she said that about Alexis. But it still stings!! If she called Alexis another slur would that have been worse? NOT TO US IT WOULDN'T BE! Ok,, Sorry,,, Taking it on bended knee with Prayer. And you and Slade are in those prayers too. God Bless you Both. I hope you have years of love,health,happiness and babies!!

Well said Gretchen!! You are my fave on the show! I'd like to see you in your own show with maybe a few cameo appearances by the other ladies. I think that would be awesome!

Anyways, you are correct about Tamra, all one had to do was watch the show and see her behavior always speaks for itself! Vicki specifically asked her to NOT create drama at the last party but she did it anyway. What is it with everyone being so offended all the time! IT'S A CHOICE TO TAKE ON AN OFFENSE! or you can choose NOT to so grow up people!! Besides if you know somethings not true than who cares, let it go.......people will always talk, say what they want, etc. You can't stop people from running their mouths sometimes.

Well always great to see the show with you on it!

Take Care,

You have grown and become my favorite. I enjoy you and Slade both. You have grown as a couple and prayers to his son. You don't have to explain about Tamra anymore...everything you wrote is the truth about Tamra. Eddie telling Tamra she did a good job tells me he wants camera time...he proved it by going in the tub. Jeanna should have called the police on Tamra's assault.

HEY GRETCHEN YOU SEEM LIKE A COOL CHICK. BUT IT ALSO SEEMS TO ME LIKE THIS SEASON YOU WENT IN WITH ALOT OF ANGER TOWARDS VICKI AND TAMRA SO MUCH SO THAT MOST OF THE SEASON ALL YOU DID WAS TALK BAD ABOUT THEM... I THINK YOU SHOULD TRY AND MOVE PAST IT ALREADY IF YOU DONT LIKE THEM FINE BUT NEW TOPIC ALREADY BE HAPPY STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT YOU CANT CHANGE

Gretchen Best of luck to you with all your projects....but could you please come up with a purse not a fanny thing but something with a long strap that i could use when riding my harley...you know girls have to have some "things" with them and I don't want saddle bags on my bike...and it can't flap around in the wind and not a nap sack thing .... my bike has jewelry (lots of chrome) and I need something that looks good too! cause I'm a real Jersey housewife.....lol lol

You are a class act, Gretchen. Stay as lovely and true to yourself as you are. You are beautiful on the inside and outside. :)

AND its amazing how you were the only one to show up cameras in tow yet you had to let everyone know by blogging about it...