hey girl absalutley love you keeping it real keep it up love you and slade you can clearly see yous are deeply in love and get pulled down by nasty people and nasty lies all i want to say is be warey of alexis that girl has a bitter attitude sometimes wont belong till shes throwing digs at you too hunnie other than that love ya xx

So proud of you Gretchen! You have held your head high and not allowed Tamra's vile behavior change who you are and where you're going. Wishing you the best!

Fact: You are my favorite! be proud of yourself and what you are trying to do with your life, you suffered a huge loss with Jeff, and yet you soldier on! Proud of you and be proud of yourself no matter what looser Tamara says!

Team Tamera...

Hi Gretchen, I have to tell you that I am totally in your court. I think that Tamra's main issue with you is that she is jealous of you and always has been. She is beautiful but her evil side negates her beauty and I think she should keep her opinion of Slade to herself. I think she is jealous there too. Slade has never done anything to her and he is right, it's none of her damn business. I wish you happiness with Slade and success in your business endeavours. If Tamra attacks you again, try and take the high road. I know it's hard because she says harsh things but she has nothing on you and you should take comfort in that. She comes across as the shrew not you. Also, careful of Vicki, I don't trust her at all. She treated Don like shit and I feel bad for him. I think it's funny that she has done so many outrageous things with ther kids under the guise that she wanted to be close to them and now Brianna is pissed at her. She deserves it. Good luck to you, Gretchen and I hope that you and slade will continue to be happy. P.S. He is so handsome... what a catch in spite of what Tamra the shrew says.

You rocked it! You are an amazing person professionally, and personally! Hold tight to that strength! You have TONS of supporters out here!

Props to you for calling Tamra out on not being able to pronounce "cease and desist." That was making me crazy.

I think you were a bit snarky this season, but overall came across as very real. I hope things work out for you and Slade. Please stop calling him "chubba wubba." It's just not nice. Just do active things with him and be kind and supportive. No one likes to have their flaws pointed out and picked on.

You seem like a smart gal, I'm sure you'll use your fame wisely and invest well.

Fact: You're a good egg and we all know it. I've only grown more impressed with you the more I get to "know" you. Keep making those smart decisions and sticking to the 'facts'. You are a young, beautifull smart woman who also has suffered a lot and grown strong from it. You inspire me, kid!

Love the way you cut through all the drama and stated the pure facts. You're spot on. It's sad but it just domes down to jealousy. Before you were on the show, it was very important to Tamara that she was the hottest RHOC. When you showed up, you took her crown. It really has brought out her nasty and conniving ways. She is quite obsessed with you and Slade. It's not easy being beautiful and smart. Women who are insecure like Tamara will want to take you down. Take the higher road and eventually you'll just feel sorry for her if you don't already.

I really have always liked you on the show and this season I feel like we saw a very cynical and not so nice side to you. No one is perfect and I'm sure the pressures of fame and being on television are extreme. However, you have come across this season as a person who takes score. It's not very becoming. Two wrongs don't make a right. You might want to chew on that some because your image is being tarnished. Your blogs are also too long winded, I want to read them but lose interest after about 2 pages. You need to learn to forgive and forget or you'll end up alone and unhappy - just my opinion.

Love you Gretchen!

AMEN!!!

Fact - Your my favorite !

Gretchen, You have proven time and time again that you have more integrity and morality than Tamra or Vicki. Vicki treated Don like an after thought and she is trying to play the victim and Tamra totally forgot about Vicki when the cameras were off. The viewers see this and think that they are both shallow and self centered. I would not be surprised if Eddie dumps her because of all her drama. IF I were him, I would. Just keep on being your self. I watch this show because of you and I enjoy your disposition and your positivity and I really do wish you and Slade happiness. I hated it when he was with Jo and I think you are a perfect couple. Hang in there and know that God will work this out for you both. See you next season, M

Love you!!!!! You are so real and honest!!!! I feel sorry that Tamra and Vickey continue to act like high schoolers. You are more mature than those two combined.

TEAM GRETCHEN!!!!!! I think you are AWESOME!!! Keep being you and shake them haters off girl

Gretchen I just love your spirit and love for life. Don't let others get you down. Please let go of all the negativity with Tamara and let her be her own demise. Stay positive

You are fabulous!

For some reason, my comments never get posted, but I am going to try one more time. I watched the reunion specials and they actually made me sick to my stomach watching them. I can't believe how mean women can be to each other. The sad thing, is it's almost all of you. Actually, with the exception of Peggy, I have seen each of you say really mean things about the other.

The problem I have with your blog Gretchen, is that you have a lot of finger pointing for things you have done as well. When you and Jeff were on the show, it was clear that the guy Tamara is referencing contacted her in the middle of the night. The pictures on line do not lie. If you ever look at the message boards, you can see in full display a picture of your ring finger with a tattoo of his name on it. Also photos with this man. No one I know tattoos someone they don't know or care about on any body part.

Secondly, you judge her for the bathtub scene, when there are WAY more graphic photos of you floating around. What is the DIFFERENCE? I just don't get you guys. Tamara was correct about the "adult toy" photos of you floating around, and although you might not have children right now, don't you have parents, grandparents, and relatives you would not want to see said photos? They are ten times more graphic than a controlled bathtub scene Bravo shot. I, for one would never do a scene like that either....but it is no different than what you have done. I've seen the photos that Alexis submitted to be a "hometown hottie" in Maxim years ago....and I don't think her children would be too happy to see those either. Does it make you any better because you haven't had children yet? No it doesn't. You all turn a blind eye to your "friends" actions and defend them, as well as your own. Yet crucify someone else who has done something similar.

As far as Tamara selling her own home...who cares. I'm a pastry chef and didn't make my own wedding cake.

The one thing I will agree with Tamara on is the child support issue. No it isn't her business, but you guys all comment on each others "business." All of you do. Trust me, I for one can tell you that NO, Slade wouldn't be in jail right away if he hadn't paid his support. This is a very flimsy excuse. It takes a long time and effort for someone to get justice for child support. The sad thing is that the mother typically doesn't have the money to hire an attorney to have something done. Depending on what state you are in, it takes quite awhile to get justice. I think what angers most viewers and mother's is that for those of us who have gone through something like this, it is blood boiling to sit back and watch the father say he can't find work, because he can't find anything in his industry. To sit and say "what is he suppose to do, start a new career?".......um....isn't that what you did? What is wrong with that. When I wasn't getting support, I scrubbed toilets at night to make ends meet for my children.

You reap what you sow, and I think you know deep down why you don't want to marry Slade.

Gretchen - TEAM GRETCHEN all the way! You have your head on right. Ignore Tamra. Move on and don't look back. You have far too much going for you to be distracted by them. They are only jealous and we all see that.

Have a great summer!

Love...Love...Love you Gretchen! Hope everything works out with you and Slade. I have always liked him. You are so right on with your comments. Good luck with your future!!!

loved it so true love u girl u keep your head up wish u the best with slade kisses

Hi Gretchen, You did a perfect job of summing it all up. I was really shocked how Tamra called Slade's ex on national tv. Could you imagine what she would have done if Simon was called by you during the show? The problem with Tamra's marriage was Tamra, and she actually acted more mature when she was with Simon. Gretchen you carried yourseld with class and dignity this season. I wish you happiness and love and success in your business ventures.

You go girl! Team Gretchen!!!

Fact: Well done and well said Gretchen!

I agree with everything you said. Keep up the good work. I don't agree with everything you've done this season but I'm with you all the way.

Love, Deni

Gretchen, This year you have really matured. Your parents should be (and I am sure) very proud of you. Stay strong and continue to love in the manner that the love is given to you.

Gretchen you are amazing! I love you and admire you! YOu have put up with these evil women (Tamara and Vicki) and you have handled it with grace. Continued sucess.

XOXO Jackie

WELL SAID GRETCHEN!!! (Team Blonde Here - Oops, they're all Blonde.. TEAM GRETCHEN/ALEXIS)

Gretchen, You were right on about everything, I mean everything! I love you above all the other women. You are true, and funny, I mean halarious! Your just alot of fun. Tamra has some major issues, and she is a very jealous dummy. I am glad how stupid and ridiculous she make herself look, too bad she doesn't see how bad she looks. You keep up the good work, and I am happy for you and Slade!

Love you Gretchen! I love how you are standing up for yourself and your relationship this season. Let all the haters hate...they are just jealous!

Gretchen, I think you seem like a nice girl and fun to be around...and I really don't have a problem with Slade. He seems nice enough and if you chose to be with him...that's your choice. Tamara can definitely be strong willed and sharp tongued, and I don't always agree with her. Whomever is right or wrong or whatever...2 things I noticed about your blog. You said that you are not obsessed with Tamara...but FACT - you spent 3 pages on her in your blog and only 2 on yourself. If these things are such lies...stop defending them and let it be. It is starting to look obsessive in my eyes. Also, you are stating that true friends come to the hospital etc. and went off on Vicki for not coming to see Jeff (although she barely knew you or him), and state that true friends will support each other in times of need....but FACT - true friends don't brag about being there for each other! This is the second time in writing (and in words on the reunion) that you have made the point that you went to the hospital. That makes you sound like you want brownie points or a pat on the back. It actually makes you look really bad bragging about it. Just be happy with you life, forget about Tamara and rise above it. It seems like you guys live to take each other down. I think you both seem cool, and you both are better than that!

HA!!! The fact about Cease and Desist was hilarious! If she can create a "Cist and Decease" than I have several people I'd like to serve those too!!! HA! Great Blog Gretchen!

You are awesome!! You sumed it up just right.. I wish you and Slade all the best. you deserve it.. be well

Well said Gretchen!!!

OMG well said.........especially about Tamra! LOVED IT!!

Love you! Love that you are so down to earth. I love your facial expressions when one of the other ladies are catty! Your face says it all! Keep being you... : )

Gretchen, I really want to be on your side, however once again your whole blog is about Tamara. She has a point you do seem to be the one obesessed with her. Here in middle America you are never in the press.

Thank you Gretchen! I was so happy to see you put Tamra in her place on the reunion show. And you did it again in this post. She's totally in denial. You're my fave housewife!

Gretchen, you're awesome! Bravo, never block your site to your loyal viewers/readers again with one of those stupid questionnaires.

OK, we get it. On and on and on with Tamra, I lost interest in your blog. Be the bigger person and stop rehashing everything. I won't be watching anymore Housewives OC next season if it's the same old crap talk between you shallow women.

My heart goes out to you! Your kind heart will carry you, so I wouldn't worry much about other people. The hardest thing I have ever done is after being verbally torn apart, I stopped myself from ripping into the other person and instead said "I was sorry they felt the way they did because I really liked them as a person". The words were so hard to say but this giant weight lifted off my shoulders. I believe that the really painful experiences are the one that help us grow the most. Stay true to who you are and I know everything will work out for you.

Your blog is right on!!

You talk about Viki disrespecting Don this whole season, out of all the seasons and different cities of housewives no-one has ever been more dissresepectful to their mate than you. You constantly put Slade down and embarrassed him this entire season. You should be ashamed of yourself. You say you are joking, but this is on national tv, for everyone to see. There is always some truths behind the statements!! I am not even a fan of Slade but was embarrassed and felt bad for him this season. Constantly being degraded and humiliated. SHAME ON YOU

I THINK YOU ARE NEGATIVE AND IF YOU DIDN'T CARE ABOUT TAMRA WHY IS YOUR WHOLE BLOG DEDICATED TO HER...BESIDES IF TAMRA'S ACCUSATIONS ABOUT SLADE BEING BROKE WEREN'T TRUE WHY DID IT SEEM LIKE THIS WHOLE SEASON THAT YOU WERE CONCERNED ABOUT HIS FINANCIAL STATUS AND CHILD SUPPORT ISSUES YOURSELF..MY BET IS WITH TAMRA...FACT: GRETCHEN AND SLADE WILL NOT BE GETTING MARRIED BECAUSE HE IS A DEAD BEAT BROKE DAD!!!!

I did not watch the show during the time when you were going through the sad situation with Jeff, and I don't really know the circumstances of indiscretion that Tamara is accusing you of. Watching from this season, Tamara seemed a bit more fun to watch. Howeve, seeing your pain the last few episodes makes me realize that this entertainment for others takes it's toll on those of you involved. I wish you peace and happiness.

Gretchen, There were a few times this season when I cringed at your "assertiveness," mostly when you questioned Vicki's timing when she went to the hospital, but at least you visited her there and apologized to her. Also, your explanation on the reunion gave me some insight into your reasons for questioning her timing, but mostly I agree that it was Tamra whose behavior interfered with Alexis' fashion show, particularly given that she stayed at the bar with Fernanda instead of going to the hospital to see her dearest girlfriend whom she was so worried about while the cameras were on. I have always been on Team Gretchen, especially since I always found Vicki, primarily in earlier seasons, and above all Tamra to be quintessential Mean Girls, while I admire you simply for knowing what the word quintessential means. I wish you luck in all your endeavors, both business and personal, and I do hope to see you back next season. However, perhaps you could tone down your assertiveness just a bit, because I hate to see you cast as a mean girl, too.

UHM TEAM TAMERA I think your obviously obsessed about her because you keep talking about her! Maybe you have a guilty conscious that your so hurt about what Tamera said about you and Jeff! As a viewer it would be nice to see you guys be civil with each other but i guess that's not going to happen! anyways Gretchen stop talking about Tamera and focus on yourself! Team TAMERAAAAAAAAAAAA :)

It's nice that you were able to give your opinions here without constant interruption! It was hard to watch how Tamra would not let anyone get a word in. Best of luck to you!

Ok I do not usually write in and im sure bravo wont post this but i just had to say something ok 1. why would the ladies come see jeff when the only knew you a month and didn't even really like you? you came across as a gold digger and they probably assumed you would be on to your next old man by then. They owed you NOTHING! My father died of pancreatic cancer and i had to deal with an evil "step mom" like you. Everyone has known Vicki for years thats why they were upset about her being in the hospital 2. How in the WORLD can u say something about tamra's bathtub scene when you have pictures of you doing much more on the internet?! 3. if michelle didn't want to talk to tamra about slade she could have just not answered but she wants the world to know the truth about ur dead beat boyfriend!

Slade has dated three "housewives". Wouldn't trust him at all. If he really loved you he would not be on the show. You deserve better.