Life is Drama
Gretchen tackles Alexis' comments and sounds off on the bathtub scene.
Wow I feel like a lot happened in the episode! So I'm sorry upfront if this blog is long, but there's lots to discuss and this show is successful because it is based off of having opinions!
I hadn't seen Alexis since Tamra's party, and I thought it would be a cute way to break the ice by wearing a crown. I wanted her to see that I was able to make fun of myself, and that maybe I was a little too sensitive to her comment. Alexis and I in my kitchen had a very heartfelt conversation, and Alexis understood where I was coming from much better once I explained why I took such offense to her comment. We both apologized to each other and then moved on.
I was excited to show Alexis my new car! Paul Passero from Newport Coast Auto helped me find the car I wanted! He got me the best deal and the car had all the bells and whistles! If you are in the market for a new car be sure to call him (949-515-0800), he is awesome and not a pain in the a-- like a dealership! Check out his website: http://www.newportcoastauto.com. Anyone that reads my license plate, “This is what a princess looks like," can see my dry sense of humor! Gold digger? Princess? Really? Last time I checked those kinds of girls don't like to work, and certainly aren't buying themselves new cars! If people are going to judge me, I might as well have fun with it!
Going shopping with Alexis and Peggy was a lot of fun. However, it was interesting to hear Alexis keep saying in her interviews, "Oh I hope Gretchen doesn't cause drama,"over and over again. It was off base to me, because she acts like she hasn't ever caused drama or been a part of drama in the group. I remember a lot of drama between her and Vicki, and this season with some of the other wives. Life is drama, no matter what! Sometimes you just don't jive with someone, and that is OK. I think most drama between women can be silly and ridiculous, however I refuse to be fake or not speak my mind about things, especially when asked a direct question (i.e. Tamra asking me at her party if I thought she was an evil bitch). I just answered honestly. If she didn't want the answer then don't ask. If Alexis thinks choosing not to be fake and telling someone to their face how and I feel and not behind their back is drama, well I just don't agree.
I am glad Tamra is out of a bad marriage, however I find it ironic that she is always telling me that I am such a victim yet she blames all of her behavior towards her friends on being in a bad place with Simon. That sounds like being a victim to me. Simon didn't force her to treat people the way she did or force her to say the things she did. Tamra choose to act that way herself. "Put your big girl pants on and take responsibility for your actions." Isn't that what she was preaching a few weeks ago on Watch What Happens Live?
So it has become apparent that this season I am only going to be shown nagging Slade! Slade and I seriously have such a fun relationship because we are constantly teasing each other, that is part of what makes us work! We both have great senses of humor and don't take too much to heart. However in these past few episodes it has only looked one sided. Believe me Slade dishes it out just as much towards me, and if he isn't OK with a joke, he lets me know, as you will see later this season regarding an issue we have. I do not think Slade is fat, I do however hate to hear someone complain that they are fat all the time and not do anything about it! That is why you see me upset at dinner with him about ordering pasta.
Victor and Robert have become some of our closest friends, and we love spending time with them. They own a second home in Palm Springs and it is always great to get away! They are very protective over me because I am like their little sister. They asked me how my relationship was with Tamra, and I was telling them where I stood with her at that point. I don’t like to judge people, however I find myself much quicker to judge Tamra and her actions because of all the accusations she made about me. It just is human nature to do so. I didn't just pull that comment about her banging Simon's buddy out of the clear blue sky, I made that comment based off this picture (of the three of them together) that was send to me by a friend on Twitter (http://www.radaronline.com/photos/image/51639). Not to mention that Simon himself said that he was friends with Eddie. He stated that Tamra and him had gone on double dates with Eddie and his girlfriend. Just makes me question the authenticity of her saying Simon and Eddie did not know each other and weren't friends.
I honestly don't care about any of that, they can do whatever they want, and it ultimately is their business. However, I will forever believe that Tamra was projecting what she was in doing in her own life onto me. Simon filed for divorce stating that she committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity, and all I seem to keep hearing Tamra saying that court documents don't lie. Funny how the tables are turned and now she is singing a different tune. Tamra admitted herself that she was inappropriately texting an old boyfriend while still married. Unfortunately, this really isn’t about judgment, because I think Tamra should be allowed to do whatever she wants, it is more about that "character" thing that Tamra keeps talking about in regards to me. And just for the record, I have never blamed Tamra for my mistakes; I have blamed her for talking about things she did not know about and for making false accusations.
I know this whole lease program idea seems funny to most, but if you really think about it, if could possibly work! I was kidding around about the lease program, but I am trying to make a point. I think sometimes people do get complacent in marriages and the divorce rate is so high now, so why not try to implement a new program into society. My motto is, "If things are working, fix it!" I hope one day to want to be married again, but for now I don't know if I believe in that anymore. I have been let down by it and want to make sure it is absolutely right before I do it again.
Despite everything I actually like to see that Tamra is happy and in a better place with her love life. I have always wished Tamra nothing but the best, and every person deserves to be happy, however I threw up a little in my mouth seeing her and Eddie basically filming soft core porn. I do not feel that we needed to see a sex scene between the two of them to get across the point that she is in love. I mean for goodness sakes, they both got buck naked in front of the camera crew, and he got on top of her in the bathtub with ass up! I am not a fan of Simon, but poor Simon having to hear about that or possibly see it... How can she is one breathe say she is not introducing the kids to Eddie, and taking it slow, but then in another moment she gets naked with him (practically showing them having sex in a bathtub) and not think that the kids are going to get wind of that? Even if she thinks her kids don't watch the show, her kid's parents and friends do, and they will be sure to talk about the fact that they saw their mommy naked in the bathtub with another man. Yuck, yuck, yuck.
Well that is a lot of information to take in on one episode, I am still looking for a wet napkin to get that image out of my brain! Can't wait to hear from you guys through my www.facebook.com/gretchenrossi, @gretchenrossi on twitter, or my personal website www.gretchenchristine.com about this episode.
Till next week,