Gretchen, this is not the middle ages. Your employee is not your serf. You are not a dictator. How could such a big-hearted woman such as you get drunk and then reprimand your employee for your bad behavior? God, power does corrupt, doesn't it? Your too good for that. An employee is not a slave.

Hey Gretchen, I just want to say that you are one of my favorite housewives out of all the shows! You are very honest and it seems you have a very big heart. Tamra is absolutely disgusting and from an outsider point of view it almost seems she is doing these things to make her the most talked about housewife. She looks like she is desperate for attention it's actually pathetic, I think that the reason why she is so quick to judge you is because she is jealous of the kind of person you are. I think you are great and don't let someone as toxic as her get you down! Karma will come back 10 fold... I'm rooting for you! Wish you all the best. -Sarah C. Boston, Massachusetts

Never been a fan of Tamara and will never be. I felt over abundance of PDA and the tub scene was purely a stab at Simon. And yes, threw up a little in my mouth too.

Gretchen, You said this show was based on opinions so here is mine. Quit talking so much about Tamara! When your home life is not in a good place it affects everything else. So I do believe last year she was very unhappy and not spreading the love but sucking the joy out of everything she could. It's time to be happy for her and her family. Now maybe they can all be happy, including Simon. You seem to be somewhat happy with Slade but I doubt you'll be in that relationship in the long run. I think you've got to find someone who is a real go getter and really sharp and I don't think it's Slade. Enjoy him for now.

Gretchen - you seem to either be setting scores this season or giggling sillly. I'd love to see another side to you, a more serious side. You talk a lot about (or the editors) show you discussing sex with Slade, and such. Yes, Tamra is one nasty woman, Vicky teamed up with her at your expense previous seasons. But for your sanity, and health, more on, and run your own race.

I agree Gretchen! Tamra is a walking contradiction. I am 100% on your side of the Gretchen/ Tamra war (as are all of my friends that watch the show) but I have to say...enough talking about her. It's bad enough we have to watch her....I really just want to hear you talk about YOUR life & all the good things & people in it. No more trash (I mean Tamra) talk. She's brought you down for so long, it's time to let it go.

I love Gretchen for who she is (keep it real!!!). And no matter what you do, there will always be people who will judge you. So Gretchen, just be a positive, bright inspiration for girls who love to have fun and love to look good because bitter people always end up ugly in the end. Cheers!

I'm just not loving you as much this season... You just don't seem as nice anymore. Hope it gets better. You've always been one of my favorites!

I love, love, LOVE RHOC! And Gretchen, I realize that the viewers don't always get to see every part of every scene how it really played out...but I have always sided with you when it comes to Tamra. It seems like she's been two-faced with everyone and now that her marriage to Simon is over she feels like she can blame him and their bad relationship for her actions. Seriously?! Own it! I've never understood why people can't just be honest, not only with other people but with themselves. I can't wait to see how the rest of the season goes! Keep being real girl!

i understand your thoughts about the whole "lease" thing. it makes perfect sense and getting married has a lot of considerations but weren't you engaged to Jeff? Willing and wanting to marry him with no mentions of this "lease" once? i know it can be hard when you feel you've found the love of your life and you lose them tragically the way you lost Jeff but watching you joke about a "lease" with slade, it just confuses me a little bit

I completely agree with you about everything you have said so far in your blogs. I feel that you are finally standing up for yourself and fighting fire with fire- which is not sitting very well with the other housewives. Especially Tamra. Rest assure that this is one fan of yours that wants to see you get even more assertive with them. Don't hold back because they never did!

Gretchen, You are and will always be my favorite!!! Your honesty and great sense of humor are what I tune in for every Sunday night =) I even have the hubby asking my for updates on you and Slade. You are a fun, smart, funny and I'm sorry if you're not a "meanie" like the rest of those brats (Alexis an exception) They just can't stand to see someone happy. Stay strong and stay grounded. I am also praying for Slades son, may he heal quickly from this surgery. P.S. Tamra is a terrible person, if the hot tub scene didn't show people I don't know what will. "yuck!"

Just love you Gretchen and I agree totally with you on everything you discussed from this episode. Keep smiling!

I think your lease idea is childish...either you love him and want to create a life with him, or you don't! I honestly think you know that Slade is not the man you want to be with, be honest with yourself. If you don't, then you should go on your own and let him go and find someone who wants to marry him. Second, I think you and Tamra are so consumed with being right that you both are looking like petty women who don't have a life. Not everyone is meant to be friends, so get over it and move on!

Love ya

jim does boss alexis around. its ok to admit your a little caddy sometimes

Your my fav !!!! Just keep on being you !! I think the lease program is great . Over 50 % of marriages end in divorce nothing wrong with making sure it's right before you say I do , or it could be just a really long test drive !!! ;)

When your relationship deteriorates to one person continously bashing the other person, it's over.

You said many, many mean things and picked on Slade excessively. I'm not a Slade fan, but you were so rude and selfish.

You called him names for the amount of food on his plate, but you had quite a bit on yours.

OMG..Gretchen was so funny about the lease thing! I loved that! As far as Tamra, well she seemed like this guy, Eddie, was in shape and buff, but we all seen his shirt of and that was so NOT a six pack there! Vickie had me laughing when she tried talking to that spanish guy "woody" for real...I was laughing so hard tonight. I do not know what to think right now about Alexis' husband, it seems "the way" maybe in 200bc, but for real this is 2011. I like Alexis, but her husband seemed really mean to her on tonight's show, and most of his comments I do think hurt her a lot, I watched her facial expressions, and when he said something about the dream thing she really looked hurt. Like I said I love all you girls and I enjoy watching!

Unless you have some children pop up that none of us knows about...you are a single gal who seems motivated, focused and likeable. Mine is just one little opinion but I will be looking at your new lines and hopefully make a purchase. And don't worry...bitterness will show up,..usually as little lines on the face Tamra. Those with small children should have rubber duckies in the tub...not naked men on national tv.

Gretchen - I used to really like you...but so far this year - not so much!! You keep implying over and over that Tamra cheated on Simon, but to tell you the truth, I don't consider someone dating after they separate and file for divorce to be cheating. Secondly, I just happen to watching part of the show that I missed earlier and Tamra was just talking about Eddie and Simon. She never said "they don't know each other." She said "they aren't friends". There is a big difference! And last but not least...I don't think a marriage can be "fake"...empty, love less, bad, but NOT fake!

I JUST LOVE HOW YOU KEEP EVERYTHING SO RAW! THE TRUTH IS SO SIMPLE AND YOU DONT MIND SPEAKING IT! I AM THE SAME WAY. YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN MY FAVORITE FOR THAT REASON!....VICKI IS MY OTHER FAV ;) BUT I LOVE YOUR STRENGTH, IT'S BEAUTIFUL!

Gretchen, seems like all you do is whine anymore... Not only on the shows, but also now in your blogs. Please stop.

Gretchen, I think the Tamra situation with you is getting pretty boring. I think you should drop it and move on with your life. You are one of my favorite OC housewives. Good Luck!

I agree with everything you said about the bathtub. It was so tacky and unnecessary. Ugh.

You are like so cute, pretty, beautiful like for realz ! I am glad that you stayed on the show yay! So you have a new car that is ossum its like oh my god! Lol! As far as tamara goes I dont know a woman has or had to do what shes gotta do aint I right. Now I didnt know about some of the stuff that you mentioned here in your blog. I personally wouldnt do this or that because I have kids also so hell nah my lady like true dat! You and Slade are perfect for each other dont let other people do you wrong or talk about you 2 just because of what happened before that is just a bunch of bs literally! Good luck to your gretchen and ill add you to my facebook luv ya!

You are one of my favorite housewives!! I love your dogs, they are so adorable. I have 2 pugs that I love maybe more than my children? only kidding. As far as you and Slade getting married-you will know when its right. I never thought I would get remarried but I met someone and within 6 months we were married. It has been 4 years already and I love him more and more each year. I wish you both the best!! The lease idea is cute and would keep him on his best behavior I think.

Hi Gretchen! I'm a huge fan of yours, I love that you are going out in the world and really working for what YOU want. I don't think Alexis (love her too!) meant anything by the drama comments. So much editing is done, you can tell they set it up to make it look like something it wasn't. You two seem to make great friends! Anyhoo, can't wait for next week :)

Move on! Gretchen, I can't take it any more. The past is the past. Enough with the snarky comments and constant jabs to Tamra. You are making yourself look pathetic and guilty. If what she accused you of was a lie, then I am not sure why you are so focused on it and continue to bring it up. It seems like there must be some truth behind it or you would have moved on by now. I used to like you, but this season has changed my opinion 100%. Stop being a mean girl. It is unbecoming.

Stop talking about Tamara! Please! Get over it! Go to church with Alexis and learn to "get rid of all the bitterness"! And help Alexis too!

Grethen, What has happened to you? I miss the fun loving Grethen from last season. All you say is "I", "Me" and "Tamra". Bor-ing! If you dislike Tamra so, stop giving her lip service. Please drop the debbie downer diva attitude. We get it, your a working power-housewife. I would like to see you go visit your family or a charity your passionate about! Something other than you putting your friends, assistant, and Slade in their place. Atleast you have your professional success.

Good for you Gretchen! Tamra seems to think us as viewers have selective memory or haven't been watching her these past 4 years be not only horrible to you, but to many other people. You just keep being you, and you can't go wrong. Keep calling out Tamra too- she deserves it!

UGHHHH.......isn't it time to let the Tamra thing go?....you've been on the show how many seasons now? Are we ever going get to a place of "im over it" just sayin.....This show would be so much better without you or Alexis.

For someone who doesn't care you sure seem to spend a lot of time badmouthing. Again, get over it!

Gretchen:

Great comments ... but can you do me a little favor and grow up. Let the past be the past... and for goodness sake stop justifying your crazy, mean-spirited actions. Simply be the bigger woman and move on!!! Why are you always on defense this season? I liked you better when you were just free, fun, and positive. This season you act as if you have something to prove to EVERYONE ... and it makes you look bad. Get back to being simply you with no apologies, and for goodness sake drop the Tamara attitude. You're not perfect and she's not either. So agree to disagree, and MOVE on.

Gretchen, I see a little bit of Vicki in you!! You dish it but you don't seem to take it too well. The princess comment was silly at best and it was obvious that Alexis meant nothing by it......you dogged her the whole way to that party but when she made the "princess" comment it FLEW all over you. You did the same thing with your assistant, Tamra didn't hire her that night for goodness sakes, but then when you spoke with your assistant you completely dressed her down about having your back........not so sure about you anymore. AND Slade, he needs to move on, I don't think you have any intention of marrying him.......and for what it's worth, I would never let someone "lease" me!!

Could you please please please let the Tamra thing go once and for all? It's like beating a dead horse. Shake it off, put on your big girl panties and just get over it. The people who matter in your life, know the truth about you and that's all that matters. Once you stop digging and digging about it - it will fade away.

"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

Gretchen, I understand your anger towards Tamara but when is it enough. Someone has to be an adult. Now don't get me wrong you one of my favorite cast member's but I thought it was nice of Tamara to invite you and start over. I know she deserved to hear somethings from you but they should've been said in a email or at lunch. I think your a very beautiful woman but trash talking people isn't very attractive, I know they said somethings that were very hurtfull but you know that saying "two wrongs don't make a right". Be the classier lady I know you can be and drop it.

Gretchen....You are pretty, smart and the "other" housewives have an issue with you not because of who you are, but because they want to be you. Jealousy comes out in several different versions of emotional negative behaviors. I think mainly Tamra and Vicki. Those ladies need to stop and get themselves in check...And yes, that bathtub scene was a bit "porno" flick material....Vicki insults slade every chance she gets but I don't believe we have seen either of you in this manner in any of the episodes with you he's been in.....Your bags are gorgeous, your make-up line will do well.....You just be you and it will all come together, let them com-bust on themselves. Smiles!

You're so funny, I love your sense of humor. You make me laugh all the time! You're a sweet person and I hope the best for you more than anyone on the show.

You're so funny, I love your sense of humor. You make me laugh all the time! You're a sweet person and I hope the best for you more than anyone on the show.

The love of my life was murdered when I was 18 and I still have not gotten over it 17 years later. I get the changes that one goes through just to survive after a tough time, but you seem to find fault and pick on everyone now. It is hard to watch you now. Good looks don't stay pretty if the personality isn't pretty. You are pretty but right now you just seem like a "mean girl" to everyone. I am hoping this is just a stage for you and that you will watch these episodes and see that you are coming across as someone who consistently offends and picks on other...a bit of a bully. I hope the old sweet, lovable Gretchen comes back. That is the one I want to see...not this "mean girl" you are displaying.

I wish you would just stop talking smack about tamra. She isnt perfect and you arent either. Its just getting old and no one cares anymore

I definitely understand you being upset by what people say but Tamara wasn't the only one talking about you. I think you both need to put your big girl panties on and grow up. Yes, feelings were hurt and no, you don't have to be BFF, but can you stop talking about it. I feel that you can do better than Slade. Maybe there is something there that we as viewers can't see, but I definitely think you should look into that "lease" thing. I seriously LOVE your hair. What kind of rollers are those?

Gretchen,

Please go back to the old Gretchen. I know you are a good person.

Alexis is a sweet and classy person.

Honestly many of your remarks towards Tamra make it appear as though you are jealous of her. It seems as though you create the majority of the drama between the two of you and between you and everyone else. You have a lot of growing up to do.

you spend a lot of time on the show talking about what other people are doing or more accurately what they have done in the past. you don't accept anyone's excuses yet you make them for yourself. oh and fyi i'm thinking alexis was worried about you causing drama because of ALL the drama you started at tamra's party...with tamra, with your assistant, and with alexis too!

its exhausting hearing you always talk about Tamra. Tamra has more credibility than you because her actions speak louder than words and all you have is words and no actions

CAN YOU SAY ANYTHING WITHOUT LAUGHING AFTERWARDS OR IS IT JUST A SOCIAL STRESS/FILMING THING? IT'S SOOOOO ANNNOYING! I HAVE NO IDEA OF YOUR PAST WITH VICKI, BUT SERIOUSLY, IT'S OLD FOR ME AND I JUST STARTED WATCHING!!! ENOUGH AND MOVE ON! IT'S REALLY A TERRIBLE DISPLAY ON BOTH YOUR PARTS TO CONTINUE HASHING AND RE-HASHING.... IF I'M BORED WITH IT, I CAN'T IMAGINE BEING A LONG-TIME VIEWER! I GUESS BRAVO MUST SUPPORT/PROMOTE IT IF IT BRINGS IN RATINGS BUT IT REALLY MAKES YOU BOTH APPEAR LIKE 2 ANGRY TEENAGE GIRLS.

I think I am going to have to agree. I'm not enjoying the way you are acting this season. Like your over reaction to the "Princess" comment. Like seriously? Don't you think you dragged that out alittle much? And why make your assistant think that she has to either a)back you up if something is said wrong about you or b)not say anything at all? She is a person, her opinions are going to differ from yours sometimes, so you just need to get over it. And the whole thing with Tamara's party, if you were still hurt and didn't want to reconsile, then you should not have went. The way it was portrayed on the show, you seemed like the instigator and then tried to play the "well she started it" card. Come on, life's to short to hold grudges!