Bring back the Grtchen from the previous seasons please. I liked her alot better.

AMEN AMEN AMEN!!!!!

great show...

Hello Gretchen,
You have a wonderful zest for life, but please move on from Tamra, she isnt' worth it. Concentrate on your business and being successful. Don't get married until you are totally ready. The right person will make you have no doubts at all, if that is Slade or not, you will know at some point. Just because you are on a reality show doesnt mean you have to tell all your buisness to people or explain your mistakes and life choices. This show is just a stepping stone, use it wisely!
I think you are wonderful...stay classy and don't do any hot tub scenes, tmi... leave something to the imagination...

I absolutely agree w everything you said, Tamra is quick to judge but doesnt want to be judged herself!! She is 100% jealous of you which is why you guys can not be friends so take it as a blessing and move on!! You are smart, beautiful and Independent, dont let anything she says bother you. I think she is an ugly person and I know I would have as little to do w/ Tamra as possible. She claims she is sooo much happier and nicer since she isnt w Simon, but Simon didnt make her act nasty like that, shes just a nasty person and she keeps using him as an excuse. I love you Gretchen, keep being you!!!

Some advice: GET RID OF SLADE!!!!!!!!!!!

Well let's be honest here...you did stir up nothing but DRAMA at Tamra's party. Period. No excuses, just own it. You should let it go. Knowing how precious life is after what you experienced with Jeff, you certainly realize how insignificant all that crap truly is. Move on and up!

Ladies - yes, you are supposed to be LADIES, start acting like one, this goes to you and Tamra! Enough already!

Does anyone know who makes the gorgeous beige watch Gretchen is wearing at Tamra's "evil eye" party?

Im glad that you finally stood up for yourself, Tamera shouldn't have asked the question if she didn't want the truth. I wouldn't ask for an apology, who cares, and I sure wouldn't want to be her friend after the way she treated her "supposedly" best friend Vickie last season. I personally would forget about her and move but on the other hand, we the viewers only see part of whats going on, so there could be more to the story of why you feel the way you do. What I can't understand is why some many people are concerned about your blog being so much about Tamera, I mean, it is YOUR blog after all..

Hey, Gretchen, you and Danielle from RHONJ should get together. You are two of a kind.

Stay True to Yourself!!!

Love your upfront attitude, like me or hate me!!! Instead of whining when someone makes fun of you, you roll with it and make fun of yourself so then it's never said again!!! Good Thinking!!! I do hope, though it probably won't show this season, ignore Tamra!! She's way too easy to read, always throwing the attention off of her, NOT!! I bet she can hear those little footsteps behind her.................Karma is catching up!!!!! This is your blog VENT VENT!! If you and Tamra weren't arguing they would be bored!!! Live, Laugh and Love!!! Enjoy life, it's way too short!! Take my attitude, If you don't want to know the Truth? Don't as ME!!! Could you post where to find your make-up? I've always love doing mine and everyones make-up, would love to see yours!!! Trust me, I'm 42, there's a lot I wish I would have done, have no regrets and look out for yourself!!! Never, Never get in a situation where you have to depend on a Man!! (Tamra)!!! Of course now, she doesn't need him too much since she's on the show, She still depends on people too much, her boss, her x, etc. Have Fun!!!! Stay true to yourself and don't change for anyone!!!

From someone who adores you....

You are not accountable to the fans of the show nor, frankly, to your own fans however, I must say:

A self-evaluation is in order.

All of the things that we loved about you; your wit, your kindness, your compassion, seem to have vanished into thin air. I hope that those qualities are not hidden from sight and saved for those times when you are in crisis.

It is completely understandable that after Jeff's death you needed to find yourself, but be careful that you do not now become the bully. You will be judged quickly by others and, later, by yourself, based upon the actions you take today. Yesterday is gone. And, at present, you speak disrespectfully to the man you claim to love. Worse, you do it in front of others. You pounced on Tamra at the first opportunity and, frankly, not even an appropriate opportunity.

I wish you much success in your endeavors and all the best of life and ask that you do not forget who you are along the way.

The forum which brought you fame and success can destroy it even more quickly.

Go Gretchen! you are right about everything you said about Tamra. Yes "payback is a b----". I'm glad you call like you see it and no one is exempt. However, so do I and I must say I really hope all of your ventures work out because Slade is depending on it. He is depending on your success for his life line. Not to mention him dating his ex girlfriends friends/associates including you. Be careful bringing your friends around him because if it doesn't work out with you two...um well you get the point. Keep your guard up and stay beautiful!

I have to give you points because you document any point that you make with either pictures or point to episodes where the comments were made. Take care of yourself. Not all older women are as snarky as some of the ones that you have run into on this show.

Gretchen, I don't care how you feel about Tamra in the bathtub especially when you're with a man who's double dipped all over Orange County. Ugh

And for you Gretchen fans; she is hocking her used shoes on her website--google it. Really? A pair of silver sandals size 8--do you not have cash and what is Slade doing? Your makeup line does not look too bad for the price but when I saw you selling each pair of shoes -- pathetic. Sell them on Ebay. You're a beautiful girl; a little naive and get away from Slade. He wants To bE On TELEVISION!!

So you were going to marry Jeff. But a lease on Slade. Ha thats a kick.You have a real hangup about Tamra.Your talking out of both sides of your mouth.Tamra made reality tv what it is real . Loven n the tub. how good is that.something she didnt get to do with Simon. The truth is out now you really was in to jeffs wallet not his heart.or was the diamond down payment on a lease? I think you have a little green eyed monster. You are for sure so immature.Your a joke girl. like viki says slades slimmy.

Gretchen stay nice! Mean is ugly on you.Slate is not taking care of his self is he depressed? Don't let him bring you down. your assistant looks like she wants to steal your show becareful.I know the more drama the better but you should not have went to tamra's if your not ready to make up that was not like you to be kind of a bully lay of the drinks and have a real talk.your so great to watch Sorry about this email but the truth hurts

Hey Gretchen!!

I just have to tell you that out of ALL the housewives (I watch way too much tv) that I think you are the most down to earth of them all. I do believe that you would be the only one to speak and be nice, to an average everyday person and fan. You are truthful, have a heart and seem like just a nice person. I could care less what anyone says...and yes, I threw up in my mouth, too, while cringing during the hot tub scene with Tamra. Money or not, you have ambition, drive and I wish you the best of luck with anything you try. And I think you will make an awesome Mommy, whenever that may happen.

Gretchen...thank you for being the most honest housewife. I mean you tell it like it is...Everyone knows where they stand with you and that says a lot. I may not agree with everything you do but at least you own it. I am liking Tamara less and less with each episode. She talks about how great it is to be single and humping her new man and I don't buy it for a second. I give it maybe six months tops and she'll be back to poor me mode. Yikes! It looks like Vicky is getting back into selfish mode....what is with these women. The rollercoaster ride is continuing on and on.

All i have to say is i have always loved you Gretchen,people want to bicker how your still bringing up the tamera stuff,well even though she invited you to the party i understand yes it seems as if she's trying to move on but also at the same time thats how tamera is she'll do someone dirty talk shit,and act like nothing ever happens and expects you to do the same! so i do understand why you haven't forgave her,if i were you act like the bigger person and if you have to be around her then thats fine but don't make peace because obviously you don't trust her and thats fine! but it is time to let it go,but also do it with pride and knowing that you are the one who realized in the end what really happend and that its ok not to forgive somone for what they've done but at least forget for the sake of the show and just be classy if you have to be around her you don't have to like her,but who cares right we don't? so why should you spend your time trying to justify what happend we all know what happend and thats that! i love you girlie and i hope everything goes well for you! but please don't change anymore than you already have.i mean i hear one show saying how the economy is bad and you guys are broke and aren't rich,but then you guys buy new cars and go shopping .but i do see that you have been very independent lately with yourself so yes that is awesome,but just didn't know which it was broke or not broke! who cares though i do love ya and i hope and wish you and slade the best of the best! just be you but don't let the money get to your head! or the fame either,it truly changes people i've seen it first hand! don't want it to happen to you! you've been amazing the way you've been so far in the past seasons being down to earth just realize how fast everything has taken place with the money and fame but also don't take it for granted because it can be gone just as fast as you got it! best of luck to you ! and i know you like honesty! so this is what it is oh and do you guys get paid to do this show? and is it scripted?
love always Brittany

UH! If I have to listen to you talk, or laugh for that matter, one more time about how you & Slade have sex I'm going to gag...

I see it like this Tamra is doing her thing she is trying to be happy and if you feel she needs to apologize to gretchen, then gretchen needs to tell her she wants an apology its not hard someone has to be the bigger person ou tof the bunch and right now nobody is.

Gretchen,

Both you and Slade are pretentious fake fame HO's, your a very slimy person..you act all nice and good, pretending to be a friend to everyone, your the type of person who waits till a person is down and out and then like a scorpion you sting over and over again until your prey is dead...you are nasty and mean...I see right through your BS goodie two shoes...

You and Slade both deserve each other.
PS - You aren't that pretty, Tamara is WAAAAY hotter.

You spend the majority of your blog trying to call Tamera out. Why don't you focus on something more positive and put the past behind you. Your only making yourself look bad. I saw what happened when Tamera called you out for being with Jay while your Fiance was dying and everyone knows it's true. Your just not a good person and your blog reflects that.

While Tamra's bathtub scene may have been inappropriate (and I love Tamra), the way you talk to Slade is just as bad!! I don't even like him and I felt bad for him.

Gretchen, Tamara's name should NEVER come out of your mouth. It only gives her fuel to attack you! You don't like each other so leave it at that.

It was obvious you were uncomfortable in the shoe store when you met Peggy. It seems your finances are not quite up to Alexis and Peggy's. They don't care how much they spend but you are watching your pennies as you are starting many new ventures.

I am not sure what you see in Slade. Only you can answer that. But, as an outsider looking in, I think you need to move on from in. You need a fresh start with a man without so much baggage and neediness!

You've changed this year!?!

Remember you get more
bee's with honey!

I like the soft spoken, sweet
heart Gretchin.

The issue is not about Tamra apologizing. It's about YOU letting go which clearly you haven't done if you're still harping about things that happened in previous season. Your blog, especially this entry, shows your true colors and how sensitive and petty you can be. You spend 90% of the time bitching about Tamra while she doesn't even spend even 10% of her blog writing about you.

C'mon Gretchen, you're the hottest housewife but you've got youth on your side. You've got to deal with these salty 'ol twats one way or another. They're gonna be jealous no matter what. You should try to get along, don't stoop to their level. The other housewives are so miserable to watch it's just painful. Let them be that way and try to be nice, rise above. You shouldn't have given your assistant ANY shit for the way she handled things. Unless it's all scripted and you get paid more for each dramatic, ridiculous fight or something. I grew up in Orange County and I find this show entertaining - sometimes I'm glad I'm far away now.

Gretchen, keep your head up. And keep your REAL friends close to you.
You're surrounded by older, vain, scared women who would do anything to look like you & Be you right now. Just keep moving forward, leave them in the rearview mirror!!

EVERYONE NEEDS TO LET THE "NAKED WASTED" COMMENT GO! Gretch, you were my fave at one point, and although i'm not exactly a Tamra fan either, you don't act right. It's one thing to be hurt and affected by Tamra's past comments and accusations, but it's wrong to go to the woman's house and make everyone there uncomfortable. Also, your "lecture" that you gave to your "assistant" was 100% out of line and ignorant. She is not obligated in any way to "have your back" when you are acting like an idiot. Anyway, my point is, Tamra is making an effort, and if you want an apology, be skeptical, but humble, and you might be surprised at how quickly and easily an apology might come your way. And btw-Hasn't Tamra tried the "let's let the past be the past and start over" approach/conversation more than once? According to the rest of the cast, she has. Get your class and tact back, dear.

If one day the OCHW ends, you should run from the girls as fast as you can.. I would say they are jealous about anything and everything about you.
You have the cutest boyfried, the best sense of humor and at the same time you are very humbolt to express yourself. This is so great and cute. What a sad episode when you, all happy, went to get some advice about business from Vicky and she put you down. How sad. I wish you the best. I was always like you are - expontaneous and unique - and life always gave me the best. I wish the best for you too.:0)

I am so bored with this group of ladies especially you Gretchen. It's the same nonsense every time. Maybe this cattiness among you ladies is Bravo's way of putting something out there for good TV. I think many of us are over it. So you'd probably say, then don't watch ... ok, I won't.

I live here in the OC and I think that you especially shed such a bad, pretentious, wanna be light on how women in Orange County are.

I am however glad that you have this show going for you. Everyone needs something to keep them occupied right? Enjoy it while it's there. Because when it's gone, it's gone. And I'm starting to see your light fade really fast.

Good luck! Maybe we'll bump into each other at church sometime. :) LOL

Gretchen,
As far as Tamra goes, no Simon did not force her to act like she did, but pain is pain. When someone is hurting and trying to keep on a persona that everything is perfect, yet while in turmoil at home, our pain comes out in different ways. I hope that makes sense. There really is no excuse for some things Tamra has said and done, but there is an understanding, that unless we walk in someones shoes, we cant judge. Please accept that Tamra was in a bad marriage, and her hurt and pain from that marraige, came out in ways she isnt pleased with. Its time to let it go and move on, seiously now.

Hey, girl. It's a blog. Say what you want to say. It is what it is (Singer, RHONY).

I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU!! please tell haters to get their own life. You are young, independent, and successful. It's not being "full of yourself" it's called being proud and secure in your skin, which you are!! As for Tamra, let her children ask, "Why were you naked in the bathtub mommy??" Shes such Trash!!! dont stoop to her level!!

Please get over it. You and Tamara both did wrong things! Let it go. You continuing to talk about it just makes you look bad. If you wanna be better than do better! Wish her well and say no comment!!!!!!

Hey people,
I have to say every one of these housewive shows are really, really negative! Seriously, all they show is women bashing other women. THey show all the insecurities, all the "cat" fights and all the drama etc...
Why? Because WE the viewers have not much else to watch..so then Bravo TVs rating keep going up and up. I am totally GUILTY of getting addicted to this drama! I have some family turmoil going on in my family and am pretty busy with life in general..but i have to admit I tune in to ESCAPE my own life and problems. I do like to see what they wear and some of their homes. But for the most part these women represent us..sadly it is true. Not all of us. But all these shows are very similiar no matter what part of the USA they are in.

MAybe, just maybe we all are really struggling in some way or another because all the money, material things, botox, fillers etc...does NOT make you happy! No matter what!

And unfortunately we have a society that is over the top materialistic! If some of us would just change one person at a time then maybe we could get our lives more "positive" and start really HELPING eachother - strangers too...and then we can some day have shows that show HOUSEWIVES doing GOOD things! That would be too boring for us because we want the drama...but some day I hope that we can get more shows to show the POSITIVE interactions between women and husbands/wifes and their children.

thanks for reading...
pls, tell bravo more positive show PLEASE!!!

Kim
San Diego

If you want to be respected as a sharp independent business woman then start acting the part.

Unfortunately your Bravo celebrity status has gone to your head. I really enjoyed watching you the last two seasons, but this year you have been contiuously overly sensitive and rude. Blowing up on Alexis because she called you a princess was stupid. To 99% of your viewers this would be interpreted as a compliment and Alexis had no way of knowing that you felt it was offensive. She shouldn't have to apologize because she was right! You work for yourself and don't have kids to take care of in the early mornings so you can sleep in if you want to! Then the "you didn"t have my back" discussion you had with your assistant/friend. She was just being honest and trying to diffuse the situation to help you not look like such as ASS. And finally your behavior at Tamera's party. You went in there looking for trouble and insulted her the first opportunity you had. Thats not being honest, its being rude. If you were still upset with Tamera then don't go to her party!

The funny thing is that in the previous seasons you were sweet and down to earth. The one person I felt I could identify with when watching the show, but now you are shallow, mean and rude. It seems like you have become the bratty princess of the show.

What's wrong with an "older" woman wearing a short skirt if she's got the body to do so? I've seen plenty of 20 year olds in short skirts, showing legs that are pockmarked with cellulite. Your comment was obnoxious. How will your wardrobe change when you're "older?"