Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen dishes on her relationship with Slade. And no, he is not her bitch.

on Mar 11, 20110

Hi guys!

I want everyone to remember that I enjoy writing, and it is actually therapeutic for me to write out my feelings,  so if you don't like that my blogs are long, then do me a favor and just don't read them.

This week we see some funny moments between me and Slade. This is our normal morning routine (when I am actually in town) and unfortunately, I am not a morning person and so Slade has to pry me out of my bed! I love my mornings with Slade though. He is such a wonderful man; he is always taking care of me even when I don't know I need it. He makes me coffee and turkey bacon almost every morning when he is home. He knows if he doesn't make me food, sometimes I forget to eat or I start to get so busy that I don't take time to make food. 

Slade has seen me work my butt off for the last two years trying to build my companies, and therefore he picks up the slack in areas that I need. That is why he makes a great partner! Obviously Slade and I don't take each other too seriously, and we are constantly making fun of ourselves. That is the part about our relationship that I just love. We make each other laugh, and the perception from the outside might be that he is my bitch, as I jokingly said, but we know exactly what we are to each other and that is what keeps us going strong. He is obviously not my bitch, but from the scene in the bathroom it might look that way. And if we don't make fun of that, everyone else will! 

Slade has been one of the best things to happen in my life ever. Everyone is always asking why I'm with him, and the best and simplest answer I can give is because he is my best friend. That is what has made us work despite any arguments or disagreements, during  the good or the bad times. We know each other's hearts and intentions, and we protect and love each other so deeply. That is all anyone could ask for.  

Now to my sweet assistant/employee Shawna. Tamra's condescending comment saying, "What does she need an assistant for," is laughable to me. Maybe she isn't aware of all the things I had going on in my life, like launching the Gretchen Christine Collection, going on Shop NBC to launch that collection, continuing  to build, market, and promote my make-up line, building a (thankfully very successful) e-commerce website, launching  and maintaining "Gretchen's Closet," which is my E-bay store, continuing to book hosting opportunities, filming commercials like Turbo Tax, making several personal appearances all across the country, recording and performing my music, managing  a music publishing catalog, filming for this show (which takes so much time as we all know), and one of my  personal favorites, interacting with customers and fans on my personal website, daily blogs, beauty community, twitter, and facebook pages. The fact is I need a full time employee just to keep my two companies running everyday, because I travel so much. If Tamra doesn't think this is worthy of having an assistant/employee around, then I would like to see what she considers worthy of it. 

88 comments
Cindy O
Cindy O

gretchen! STOP disrespecting your man slade about his weight, in fact what do you consider overweight, I think that slade looks great1 if you love him there are better approaches, than calling him tubba-wubba. I can see that when you tease him it hurts his feelings, HELP BUILD HIM UP, ! NOT TEAR HIM DOWN!!

BinP
BinP

Tamra this, Tamra that..wow she should be flattered, because she sure has a profound effect on you and you're life...for Pete's sake give it a rest already!!!!

bp24xo
bp24xo

Omgsh I was doing the same thing!! I don't know how this blog thing works, can I see if she's responded?

Carl Sutton
Carl Sutton

Hey Grechen, Why are you so mean this season this season. I used to like you. Slade is not my favorite person but for God's sake cut him some slack. You write great things about ya'lls relationship but the show presents you treating him like dirt. I hope this changes in future episodes if not when you come on I'm gonna check the weather on another channel. You call it joking, but how many times can a man take having his balls cut off and handed back to him by someone his definately cares about. Sincerely Carl Sutton

BellevueIsntSeattle
BellevueIsntSeattle

Gretchen it sure looks like you are giving Bravo PLENTY of material to make you the heel this season. Guess it took a little while but your mean girl traits are starting to show better try harder to fake being a nice girl...

Dot
Dot

I so totally agree--Gretchen, you were my favorite but I'm getting sick of it. I'm sick about reading about Tamra in your blogs--I'll read her blog if I want to hear about her. Get over it--let's move on. Enough--quite explaining, we are not stupid. You are only digging yourself into a hole. Move on.

MELN
MELN

Last season I was a huge Gretchen fan, still am. However, I feel she's very disrespect to Slade these past two episodes.

M B H
M B H

I think you are the realest out of all the women on the show. I don't blame you for not being cool with Tamra. I think all the crap she said about you was awful. Just keep being you, and keep smiling.

terij62
terij62

Unfortunately, I agree. I have always been one of your biggest fans. However, as I sit here watching you again on tonight's show I hear rude comments again and hurtful things being said to those around you. You seem so different this season and not in a good way. We want the old Gretchen back.

NYC EXEC
NYC EXEC

I find you entertaining except for the excessive laughing. Chill a bit on that, you'd be easier to watch.

Cass David
Cass David

Gretchen, Why are you so mean and nasty? You seem to have had a good family life. Mean & nasty is not pretty, it makes you look ugly.

Linda Anthony
Linda Anthony

Hi Gretchen ! I love the show. I just love how you are. You don't care what anyones says about you. I wish I could be more like you. You are so pretty. I was watching "Watch What Happens Live" and you and Slade was on. I loved your eye makeup. I went to your site and I am going to order Goddess. I love it. You are a great person and seem very real. Unlike some of the other girls on the show !!! Gretchen I hope you have many more seasons because Real House Wifes of Orange County is my favorite show on cable t.v. I watch it every week and I even watch re-runs :) All I gotta say is You Go Girl !!!!!! Your #1 fan ~~~LindaAnthony~~~

Niki2222222
Niki2222222

I totally agree... You need to grow Sweetie. Shawna, didn't do ANYTHING wrong. You have become so snide and I believe "these women" do not bring out the best in you...

Jennifer M.
Jennifer M.

Gretchen, First off, congratulations on all the success with your make up line and handbags! I'm so happy that all of your hard work has paid off. Next, Tamra making snide comments about you having an assistant is simple to explain. She's jealous. She doesn't have what you have. She doesn't understand why you would need an assistant because she doesn't DO anything herself. She is the type that sits around and expects people to hand her everything-she doesn't know how to work for it and obviously doesn't want to. It's more fun to her if she sits around and makes ridiculous comments about everyone else. As for her talking about Jim & Alexis' marriage, again-she's been divorced twice now so she's jealous because she has no idea how to keep a marriage together. I kind of feel sorry for her because she'll never know what true love or friendship is because of the way she runs her mouth. Keep up that beautiful head of yours and keep on doing what you're doing. XOXOX

Lynne Gonsior
Lynne Gonsior

Hi Gretchen,

I loved the bold turquoise necklace you had one. Could you tell me where to find it? Thanks.

shar123
shar123

Gretchen, obviously someone is unhappy with their life this season....and it is NOT Tamra !! The way you get so loud from over drinking on the show is really hard to watch....You are different this season and not in a good way. Alexis is supposed to be your friend and she makes a little joke about you being a princess and you attack her...you owe her an apology along with Tamra !! It is so rude to be invited to someones home and confront then in a childish and rude manner !! Pretty soon people will stop inviting you and there will be no reason to be on the show at all....The old Gretchen from last season was funny and conducted herself like a lady...you do not !!

Gretchen and Slade Fan
Gretchen and Slade Fan

My Gretchen on the other hand is fun, out going, loving, she is trying to do something with her life even though she and Slade are living in sin. (Sorry Gretch sorry Slade, I love you both) this couple enjoys life and I love when they are both together. What they have is working for them. 50 years down the road those two will still be together living and loving life with their love ones surrounding them. Gretchen and Slade are good people and you can see that! They are unconventional but they are good people who want the best for themselves and their love ones.

Gretchen I put your name first because you both are not married. My Myrna Loh and William Powell, you both did great with Andy and I look to see more of you both. Love you, hugs and kisses and keep smiling and who the heck cares what people say, keep it moving with happiness. Wish you both were our neighbors, you would add to your neighborhood.

NikkiLUV
NikkiLUV

Hey Gretchen, First of all i want to say I LOVE YOU and you are one of the main reasons i watch the show (i kinda wish you would get your own like bethanny)!! Anyways a lot of people are on here saying that you were in the wrong at Tamara's party and wrong for sitting shawna down but i dont think your were. First of all look at all the awful things Tamara has said and done to you over the past seasons...how long does she expect you to keep your mouth shut before you say something (she can dish it but she cant take it) and shawna should have had your back when alexis said you were a princess not just as your employee but as a friend. If someone said something to the effect that my boss was a "princess" i would step in and say how much of a hard worker he is because i know the TRUTH thats what a good friend/employee does. I love you and slade i think you guys are soo cute together who cares if slade has been with other housewives he is with you now and thats all that matters and if he makes you happy dont let anyone take that happiness aways from you guys =) I love you and the show and i cant wait to see what else happens!

VM
VM

Gretchen, I did not care for your attitude on the first episode. If you felt that you & Tamra are still at odds then don't accet to go to her party. And at the first chance you got, you wanted to humiliate her in front of all her friends because of the past. Let it go, it's all about forgiveness. If not, then don't be around her. She was really trying and you kicked her when she was down (coming off of a divorce). It was not the time NOr place to be bitchy cause it just put everyone else there so uncomfortable ESP your neutral friends. Get over it.. You guys seemed to be moving on last season. Your drinking was annoying and then you got so "easily offended" by Alexis' princess comment. You seem so insecure and just wanting to lash out and so you do it to your good friend Alexis & your assistant. And all the promoting your brands/song this season thus far is so self-deprecating.

Viewerlikeme
Viewerlikeme

I must say, 1. there was no reason to bring your assistant to a home shopping party; it's not work. Unless you invited her as a friend???!!!

2. If you felt like you needed to put Tamara in her place; why do it at a party she invited you too? As an adult you could have refused or requested to see her privately before the party. To see if you two could get out your feelings out. But to blatantly call a host of a party your invited to a "Bitch" is low!

3. You wanted your assistant to tell Alexis that your not a "Princess" and you work hard!!! WTF! It was a joke from one friend to another. The whole ride there you were teasing here about her enunciation, and like an adult she took it as a joke! Yay you work and have a make-up line, but your not a mom or a wife; or ever a wife in this show.... Soooo why are you even on the show?

I liked you the past 2 seasons alot; but after these first 2 episodes I cant stand who you have become. Maybe that's who you always were. And maybe Tamara has changed, because for her to not have thrown you out of her party took alot more, then it did you to show your face and cut her down. So in this she came out on top and you looked silly and slimy!

So stop sounding like Vicki with "I work!" Um sweety most wives in the U.S. work get over it! I hope you come back thu out this season otherwise I hope you leave...

like Don
like Don

okay Vicki, enough already. We know you are obsessed with Gretchen. Or is it Tamra I'm speaking to now.

Sandi in Seattle
Sandi in Seattle

Gretchen, I'm always in your court, Slade's too! BUT, really, the first paragraph of this blog was pretty harsh sounding "do me a favor and don't read it' ...some may complain, I never would have, but that really made you sound mean and nasty, as another poster said. Totally didn't sound like you.

Anyway, as another poster said "YOU ROCK!"

Noire
Noire

you litterally sound like youre in high school with all this "Have my back" nonsense. Grow up and fight your own battles!!!

Tamara T
Tamara T

If we consider the fact that Shawna is your friend first and not an "employee" then I can understand why you were disappointed that she didnt stand up for you when you feel you were being attacked HOWEVER i think if you look at the big picture & where the comment was coming from, you could see that Alexis didnt mean you are spoon fed and dont work hard for all you have... I think she meant that your lucky that kids arent waking you up all hours... She was not even talking about your professional life & if we take that into consideration then Shawna didnt need to have your back b/c it was harmless teasing between two good friends. Your amazing!! Please dont let Tamra and her bitterness change you... You were fun and loving and it would be a shame if you changed b/c of someone else.

Viewer Annie in MD
Viewer Annie in MD

Gretchen - You are SOOOOOO FUNNY!!!! I love it ... keep it up!!!!

Viewer in Nasvhille
Viewer in Nasvhille

Gretchen, Don't you think it is condesending of you to discuss how rude Tamra is for dissing Jim and Alexis' marriage, but yet you are allowed to dis Donn and Vicki? Maybe you should look in the mirror before you judge others.

A Lady
A Lady

Gretchen, Please Stop It! We all know Tamara is jealous of you, so please do as you have in the past, let it go! Be the bigger person, we know you can you have throughout every season. Tamara's true colors are really starting to show, now that she doesn't have Simon to keep her mouth shut, she will hang herself, she already has.

Emme5
Emme5

You sound ridiculous when you say that Shawna didn't have your back. You are a grown up, start acting like one! Shawna does not need to get involved in your nonsense! When you act like an idiot, deal with it and stop blaming others!

meggahstar
meggahstar

I stopped reading after your first paragraph. That was one of the nastiest first paragraphs I have read in a long time. Why would you write a blog and start off by insulting the reader?

You need to get positive girl!

Seanna
Seanna

I could not believe the conversation with your employee in this episode! Just because someone works with you/for you doesn't mean they are not allowed to have an opinion. You should be secure enough to stand your ground on your own and also strong enough to see when you are wrong (i.e. Tamra's party). Many people commented on your behavior and how ridiculous you were being. Your assistant did nothing wrong. Did she embarrass you, your brand, harass someone, behave in any sort of inappropriate way??? NO! She disagreed with you and your behavior. Apparently you want to pay people to be your minions...you need a reality check.

Bonjour81
Bonjour81

Hi Gretchen! Where did you get the black and white skirt you were wearing at home when Shawna came over in episode 2 of season 6? I have spent the past 24 hours Googling, Google Goggle-ing, and then creating a Bravo account to ask the message board.

Your clothes are awesome! Love the hair, love the make-up, love it all!

xoxo

LRae
LRae

You are beautiful Gretchen. I loved that skirt also! Please, do tell who makes it!!! You looked fabulous in that outfit!!!

Jane m.
Jane m.

You r blaming Shauna for her behavior for not sticking up for u??!! R u kidding me! You were so out of line and Shauna was right to stay out of it cuz YOU WERE WRONG! Shuana/move on from this pretentious woman/u deserve better Shuana! And Gretchen do u hv to keep saying "I work my butt off" all the time?? No one believes it, ok? And your overuse of makeup is, well, unattractive and makes you look like a U can fill in the blan cuz u k is wha lt I mean.

Gretchen and Slade Fan
Gretchen and Slade Fan

Gretchen your make-up is flawless, when will start selling on QVC? Love you Slade and my prayers are with you and your Son as well as Gretchen. You too put a big smile on my face. You two remind me of the Thin Man Series, William Powell and Mirna Loy.

Bella55
Bella55

Gretchen, you and Slade are a cute couple! I absolutely adore you house. While I may not agree with you on everything, one thing is for sure, you are honest and real! Please ignore Tamara. Tamara talks about protecting her children and waiting until the TIME IS RIGHT to introduce them to her new boyfriend? So why in the world is she doing a scene in the bathtub with her new man? Who in the world would want their children to see their mom acting out like that? Please ignore Vicki too. I mean think about it? She renews her vows with Donn (whom by the way is a wonderful man) and goes about playing around every chance she's out of his sight, in from of her own child for heaven's sake! Just my opinion but she just lost the best man she could possibly have in her life! Enough said! Keep smiling Gretchen and stick with Slade, it is so obvious that the two of you love each other.

viewer from PA
viewer from PA

GRETCHEN, YOU ARE A VERY ATTRACTIVE WOMAN. YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE TO SOME, BUT IT'S REALLY YOUR BUSINESS (AND HIS). ONE QUESTION? DO YOU EVER STOP AND CONSIDER THAT IT MAY EMBARRASS YOUR PARENTS TO HEAR SO OFTEN ABOUT YOUR SEX LIFE WITH HIM? I THINK YOU DEGRADE YOURSELF ACTUALLY. YOU'RE YOUNG AND I'M NOT A PRUDE BY ANY MEANS. BUT I DO THINK YOU CAN TONE IT DOWN IN THE SEX DISCUSSIONS. I'D BE SO RATTLED IF I WERE YOUR PARENTS!!!!

JOEY-Washington
JOEY-Washington

Gretchen~ I have always loved how you deal with the rumors and junk people throw at you. I’m a little taken back with you snapping back at Tamara though. You are much better than that, and have never stooped to that level in the past. Don’t start now please! You are so flippin funny I just love you!

vini
vini

gretchen, you couldn't shine vickies boots!

NCRHviewer
NCRHviewer

Not feeling you so far this season...you seem different, not so "real" and too much self-promoting on the show and your blog.

lSabedra
lSabedra

Gretchen You are the REAL in housewives and the other's are just that housewives.

observer
observer

Gretchen, I felt so humiliated for your assistant when you scolded her for "not having your back" and she had to pretend like she did something wrong. She did nothing wrong - YOU DID! In fact, Shawna did have your back at the party by trying to diffuse the situation & let you calm down, so that you wouldn't continue to act like an jackass. Loyalty is NOT agreeing with someone who is behaving badly & rudely, it is not being a YES-man to an idiot. You owe her & Alexis & Tamra a big apology for your ugly behavior.

charlie2011
charlie2011

Gretchen, I think you are wonderful. I have never seen you attack anyone first. Tamara should look in the mirror and stop acting like a 12 year old. She did not invent pink motorcycles or having 4 kids and why she would think that those are things that you would intentionally copy is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. I like alot of things about Tamara, her attacking you is the only thing that makes me dislike her.. Vicki on the other hand is a horrible human being with nothing nice to say about anybody..not even her good friend Tamara.. It is abundantly clear that she is insecure and jealous of every women she meets unless they kiss her butt. I guess she thinks that since she has sooo much butt to kiss that everyone should do it.. she knows she is gross and can't handle the beautiful people.

Mama2Brody
Mama2Brody

Gretchen you ROCK!!!! You are absolutely fabulous, and anyone who thinks otherwise can go kick rocks! They are just jealous, because you are smart, beatutiful and you have FREEDOM :)

That black & white skirt you wore on this past episode - to die for!!! Who makes it??

xoxoxo - Keep on being fabulous you!!!

Wyn
Wyn

Gretchen,

I think you are delightful, but every time you drink to excess, you end up in trouble! Please see that drinking until you are out of control is not healthy for you or any of your relationships. I am embarrassed FOR you when you are drunk!

stef_anie
stef_anie

Love you Gretchen, keep doing your thing girl!! And keep all the negativity away don't waste your time caring about what people think

Christa G
Christa G

I think that you are still one of the sweetest and most composed housewife. However, you have changed since the first year. I know that a lot has happened to you since then but always remember your roots so that you don't lose what is so special, genuine and sweet. We can always do things to better ourselves. Take care and good luck in all of your businesses.

Housewife addict
Housewife addict

Hey Gretchen, I have to tell you, I have been a housewife fan of all the housewife series. Jenna had always been my favorite, but now a days you are it girl....keep on being you!!!!