I think the painting of you that Slade gifted you for your bday was lovely. It was actually really sweet that he acknowledged he is broke but still wanted to give you a lovely gift

what is the ifference between Tamra calling Jeana heavy & you calling Slade tubbawubba?

I hate to say this, but Gretchen you need to break up with Slade. You have made it clear that you will not marry him, so why are you wasting your time. When I see you guys together, it looks like two girlfriends hanging out. He is not right for you, and I know you are aware. I think you have issues being alone, and you feel like you always need someone around. Maybe you should try to immerse yourself in work, and put male relationships on hold for a bit. Once you get your business in order, the right man will come along....

Still a fan, and I totally get your comments. I can tell you're not a fake person. Keep on being you!

Gretchen,

I loved you last season and this season you're like the "Jill Zarin" of NYC. Think before you speak. You've been mean to slade and the way you treated his gift to you was so sad. He was really trying and it was romantic-of the starving artist era. Your comment about jewlery or painting really was inappropriate.

Please bring back the sweet and fun Gretchen. I look foward to her.

Lisa

You are very ungrateful, Gretchen. As much bashing as Slade gets (and I'm certainly not his #1 fan), you should be grateful that he has stuck around YOU as long as he has.

Fernanda said they kissed, I'd hardly call that an affair! Fernanda wanted more air time and Lynn was totally set up by Fernanda asking her to the gym! But of course you would have to twist that around like you do in every blog this season. Damn half of the housewives franchise kissed another girl! Don't be mad at Tamra because you keep getting sued! That is on you!

The difference between tamra calling jeanna heavy and Gretchen calling slade tubbawubba is tamra is doing it maliciously while Gretchen was doing it out of love and fustration! If you don't know the difference then you're an idiot!

Tamara didn't call Jeana "heavy".... she said she had a bad soul!!!

Trying to stir the pot by calling the kiss between Fernanda and Tamra an affair....come on Gretchen. Thought you were trying to stay away from drama. Really? Tamra addressed it already. Don't bring Simon into this. Worry about your own relationship....marriage, lease, friendship....or whatever it is you have with Slade.

I think you should just tell Slade to kick rocks. It's almost painful to watch you treat him like crap in every episode. You say he's a humble man, but everyone gets a little humble when their broke. Slade didn't seem too humble when he was having a jeweler come over to his house to give Jo jewelry. In fact he seemed far from humble, more like arrogant.

You call Slade fat, you gripe about him not working, you crush him every chance you get yet you don't kick him to the curb. Obviously Slade won't leave on his own, because he's loving the spot light too much. Slade seems to think he's a housewife. He's been in every season of Real Housewives and most of the time it was with a different housewife. Just give him the heave ho already.

First of all you look good in anything you wear. Second, I like you because you are genuine and so is Slade. The others on the show appear fake.

Hmmm. Ppl can be so strange sometimes. I think it is your own business who you are with. I'm sorry ppl can't be a little less judgemental & the one comment was lovely to start but so much gets made about Slades income. Sorry Slade! Ya'll have big saddles is all I can say! FYI my income really sucks right now does anyone care? I'm struggling to pay my bills!!! So me & Slade are the same! Wow! Please. What Gretchen says continually is be happy & make the best out of what you have. Their arrangement whatever it is is NO ONES BUSINESS. News Flash!!She has hardly had a free ride yet she is happy & so encouraging and uplifting. I find her to be a breath of fresh air. California & Texas right? I am from Texas & have lived in Cali for 30 yrs so I know where Gretchen comes from & I am so like her, just the older version! lol! I appreciate you so much Gretchen. You don't have to apologize for being you because you are a great inspiritation! big XOXO from No. Cali!

Gretchen...Love your free spirit.

Tamra didn't have an affair with that gal, they shared a kiss! Wow, talk about spreading rumours!

GRETCHEN, ALTHOUGH FOOLISH, IT WAS PROBABLY A DRUNKEN MISTAKE KISS AND THAT GAL READ TOO MUCH INTO IT. NOT SAYING IT WAS RIGHT ON TAMRA'S PART, BUT IT CERTAINLY WASN'T TERMED "AN AFFAIR." ON A POSITIVE NOTE, I LOVED THE PAINTING THAT SLADE'S FRIEND DID FOR YOU! IT REALLY DID CAPTURE YOU BEAUTIFULLY.

To: Imhill - VERY WELL PUT! Good Golly Gretchen you act like it is such a huge thing. Give me a break. An Affair?? You are not serious. I agree with this post. Just cuz you are getting sued left and right don't blame it on Tamra. Take responsiblity of your own actions. BTW That picture Slade painted was worse than Sonya's on New York housewives. And that is bad! Slad is not a great painter. He needs to stick to what he knows.....housewife hunting.

I loved the painting. I would put it somewhere prominent. It is whimsical and fun.

In these times you should be more grateful for the little things.My husband was laid off and my son diagnosed with insulin dependant diabetes,no health insurance.We managed the best we could and we decided that my family's health was more important than 'things'.Honestly,I don't miss 'things' but enjoy my family more than any'thing'.

After reading some of the previous comments, I dont think people are really READING your blog & trying to understand where you coming from. My goodness, you are only human and learning as you go, as we all are. Your bday gift was very thoughtful. You seem like a sweet person and maybe people are not used to seeing you so assertive but some of those ladies are sharks so keep being fabulous you!!

Gretchen, I think you are amazing. I do not understand why so many people have bad things to say about you on here and why they do if they do not like you. You are beautiful, smart and I think you speak so real about everything. Keep doing what you do, you cannot please everyone :)

Kvammer9,

when you are married or committed to someone that is cheating. It is black and white.

Gretchen, You are beautiful, full of grace and compassion, and call it how it is! You finally call someone out on there BS and everyone thinks you are out of line? Crazy! I mean these girls have said stuff about you for years and now you finally say your truth about them and everyone is hard on you, what a joke! People wake up! Gretchen is more successful, more beautiful, more real than any of these woman. They all hate her because of it and they will do anything to tear her down! Gretchen is the most real out of all of them. The world needs more of these kind of people. Keep being you! We all love you for it!

Gretchen, We love you! You rock! Your the hottest and keep winning all the polls on WWHL because you are by far the prettiest, the funniest, and have the best fashion sence (did you see you won the poll again last night on WWHL?) and by far the most down to earth. We have a whole group of us that watch it together every week and we all think you should have your own show! Your the best and have the most going on in your life. You stand up for yourself, are independent and a loyal friend! You make the show, and we all watch because of you.

Hey, pretty girl! I think you and Slade have the most genuine relationship on your show. You're not a Stepford wife, terrified that you'll be traded in for a newer model, you're not a shrew, expecting to have your feet kissed, and you're certainly not putting on a big "I'm so in love" display to rub your ex husband's nose in it - how refreshing. You two bicker, but who doesn't? It's REAL. And since this is reality TV, it's nice to see real once in a while! Keep being your sweet self, kiddo.

You are adorable.

The last thing you need to say to Slade is "make a baby".

I agree with LIsa and I'm not a Slade fan at all. I think Gretchen says terrible things about him almost every episode. It was obvious she's a bit tired of him not having money. How can she defend his position right now but do the "jewelry/painting/jewelry/painting thing. The way she acted in the interview I wonder if she really appreciates his gift.

Gretchen, I think the painting of you was so beautiful. I would love that type of gift. It is something you can cherish forever. Your attitude towards the night was kind of mean. If you know Slade cannot afford much why would you expect that? I don't think your relationship is going to last with Slade, unless he becomes mega rich soon.

Gretchen - Some of the best gifts anyone can give are those from the heart and not the wallet. I think the painting is beautiful and so special. What a thoughtful sweetheart Slade is! He must be madly in love with you! Much love and happiness to you both!!

You've been my favorite Gretchen, but you are so mean to Slade this season! I still believe you are honest and fun, but perhaps unhappy with Slade. Its too bad, I miss you as the nice girl! No one else on the show is even near as a good person as you are!!

Hi Gretchen, that painting of you was spot on, slade has alot of talent. I applaud slade for acknowledging that he is broke. not too many people can admit stuff like that these days.

Gretchen, That was a really sweet moment between you and Slade on your birthdays.

I believe that all of the RHOC need to get over themselves.......you and they are not the center of the universe. All of you say you want to start out fresh, but you all still talk trash about each other. When Tamra and Vicky arrived at Peggy's dinner, the first thing out of Gretchen's mouth (announced to everyone) was, the bitches are here - starting over? Can Vicky be more mean to poor Don - and not in private - very public. At least Alex is trying....the jury is out on Peggy and Fernanda.

hay babe im from the uk and i think ur just a beautiful girl and they may try to put u down but they can never stop u from smiling KEEP A SMILE ON THAT BEAUTIFUL FACE :) love from beckie xx

hi grech, i think that ur the best most real house wife. vicky is a controlin freak loony. she hates it when every1 aint lickin her back side, she is horried. i just watched the bravo show where the men came too. omg she lives in vicky world and thats the way she needs it to be. tamra was nive when she came to the show but after sticking head up vicks back side she changed. simon had a luck escape.

ive bin followin sum of ur make up line and love the handbags. i like slade but no sure 2 scorpios will make a long term thing. but ur great ur real and i love u and wish u luck in all that u do

Gretchen- the way you come across in this blog compared to your actions & comments on the last episode are a complete 180, do you see that? You acted appalled and almost embarassed that Slade was taking you to an art studio and you were eating takeout... yet you come on the blog and act as if that was the sweetest thing ever. Maybe you saw how you acted on the episode & had to save face with the blog? I don't play favorites, I like each housewife for different reasons but I have totally changed my mind about you. The way you treat Slade is so disrespectful, I almost cannot watch it anymore. You used to be so cute & fun.. I do not like the 'new you'.

i love you gretchin and dont let anyone ruin who you are or what your doing! they are just jealous of you and rightly so, you are a beatiful person who is going somewhere and they are not! (by the way, why isnt lynn curtin on the show anymore? I miss her!)

Ha ha...you all are so funny! Let my husband come home and tell me he kissed someone else! Yeah they might not have had $eX but it was definately a betrayal. Don't let the haters get you down Gretchen. You are awesome and I get where you are coming from! Keep smiling!

Gretchen:

YOU are a great factor in this show. You are one really beautiful and fun lady; and, Slade is one lucky dude... I think he was waiting for an apology or something on that "comment" episode. Your handling of the situation that day at the park should have told him "lots" and, if I were him, I would be cool about the whole thing. Like you said, if it bugs him that much, all he has to do is "something about it". I am sure you would help him to achieve a better health and fitness standard; if he asked you to. When I am upset by something, my wife does not cradle me nor makes me feel sorry about it. The only option is to do something about it. She always helps me achieve the given goal...

Stay cool, Gretchen.

A real husband of SD County

jd

Gretchen, Thanks for your post - it really helps me understand more of where you are coming from and rounds out what really happened instead of seeing just the snippets that editing wants us to see. You seem like a wonderful person and please don't let mean people get you down. You are a delight and I enjoy watching your parts of the episode more than anyone else. Tamara is trash - you are class.

Gretchen, I just have to say that even though I am not a big fan of Slade, I thought what he did for you for your birthday was very sweet. I was actually very impressed. I think I am beginning to like him now, I hope he keeps up the good attitude he seems to have now that his financial situation is what it is.

Get it right, Pu-leeeeeze: Tamra was being funny where Gretchen was being insensitive; That's the difference.

Gretchen: you are my favorite OC Housewife. Ignore Tamra and Vicky but you do have to watch what you say, remember the wolves are always around...

Tamra said Jeana looked great but had a nasty or bad soul. I don't think Tamra had an affair but kissing is still consider cheating, I don't think Tamra would have been so happy if Simon kissed someone else while they were married, like Alexis said..."cheating is cheating". If you don't see it that way then you need help; you can cheat even with your thoughts. Gretchen: I do believe you need to watch what you say to everyone around you, you are honest, sometimes too honest, so watch it girl...love ya!

Hey Gretch It is not your responsiblity to take care of Slade. If he can not support you now he will never be able too. Please get rid of him and find you a nice guy who will bring somthing into the relationship instead of always taking somthing out. When your dad told you "No" a few weeks back he really meant it. So as one of your fans please drop that zero and get yourself a hero. You can do so much better. I just hate seeing you be used. You are such a wonderful person

Gretch you're absolutely gorgeous!

Slade just said he was mad at you in the park because he wanted to "jog" home so he could go to McDonalds. I bet you $100 on that!

Also I like Slade but I don't think he's the guy for you. You two don't seem to mesh all that well but I guess they say opposites attract!

You're a good egg Gretchen don't let anyone say you aren't!

Team Gretchen..........

Gretchen- I just love you!! Your so beautiful, funny, loving, caring, and an all around "real" person!! I don't care what anyone says, I love Slade too!! Sure, he has his faults but who doesn't! I think the two of you could do a spin-off of Housewives! It would be great! I can't stand Tamra. The way she talks about you and acts shows how jealous she is! She is nothing but a back-stabbing "friend" and slut! Don't ever change because your beautiful inside and out just the way you are! You can tell Slade the same thing, only handsome, not beautiful! Any of the women who are rude or talk behind your back are just jealous of you so don't pay any attention to them. To me, your #1 on the show!