let's ask the important stuff here :) Who made your dress you wore to Peggy''s dinner party???? LOVED it!! Thanks!!!

Girl I got to say you and Alexis are my favorite. After watching the Peggy dinner party last night. I couldnt believe how evil everyone is to you and Alexis. I hate it. YOu both stood strong and I hope you always do against the evil girls. Im so glad you and Alexis have each other on the show and I hope the others some day get treated as harshly by some one as they treat you and Alexis. You two are my favorites and remember good always wins over evil.
Love you guys you are on the show. it wouldnt be worth watching if it was just the evil twins and now Peggy jumping to their side.

Hey Girl,You are one of a kind,You say what you mean.Keep up the good work with Slade.

Go Team Gretchen!! You rock girl!!

Gretchen, You seem to be a bright and intelligent woman and very beautiful. Use the gifts God gave you and make your decisions about Slade based on what is in your heart and not by the opinions of others. Trust yourself and you'll know what is right for you.
As for Tamra, take the higher road and keep your comments to yourself. Don't lower yourself to her level. Cattiness breeds uglyness no matter how beautiful or pretty you are on the outside. Money might buy beautiful clothes and fancy homes and expensive cars but it doesn't buy you class.

HI Gretchen
I think by far you are the best house wife you dont flaunt fake breast or walk around with the air about you that people should be kissing your back side or let others with worse problems than yours run and dictate your life , I say stay the real you and do not let anyone pull you down to zero ground level. Hold your head up and always smile. Slade maybe a great guy and all of that good stuff but I really feel like you are putting your true feelings aside he is your friend girl and one with benefits you were in love with Jeff and it showed girl you glowed like a neon sign with him your Mr.Right will come along just be patient and never ever let the jealousy of underminding people get the best of you stand proud and strong. I love ya and wish I knew you in person I can only wish for a friend like you.

Gretchen, you are young a beautiful. Slade is a handsome and nice man, but clearly you don't want to marry him. Why not let him move on? You constantly bring up his lack of a job and ability to support himself as well as contribute to the household. Plus is was made cleat that you want a big ring, so why not move on? Kind mean to criticize and yet keep him dangling.

Gretchen,Thank goodness you haven't married Slade! There are so many things wrong with the whole situation!! Slade loves you,but not the way you deserve to be loved. Don't marry him!! The right man will come along...he is the one you will marry. Even your personality has changed; Jeff treated you the way you deserve to be treated, Slade doesn't do that. Wait for your Prince....

Love love love Gretchen! Here's hoping we get to hear that lovely and deeply happy laugh more often! Thanks for making me smile, with your funny and gentle humor. I am a tubba wubba and when I see you chastising Slade and worrying about the puppies, I see how it comes from a loving place and it makes me think of what i can do to be healthier!

Go team Gretchen!

HOW IS SLADE FAT???? are you kidding me? The average 6 foot guy is around 220 lbs. Why would you want a skinny guy? Looks are not everything. Be nice. Being a little overweight is not the worst thing in the world. Your man is NOT FAT.

Gretchen- I just love you!! Your so beautiful, funny, loving, caring, and an all around "real" person!! I don't care what anyone says, I love Slade too!! Sure, he has his faults but who doesn't! I think the two of you could do a spin-off of Housewives! It would be great! I can't stand Tamra. The way she talks about you and acts shows how jealous she is! She is nothing but a back-stabbing "friend" and slut! Don't ever change because your beautiful inside and out just the way you are! You can tell Slade the same thing, only handsome, not beautiful! Any of the women who are rude or talk behind your back are just jealous of you so don't pay any attention to them. To me, your #1 on the show!

Team Gretchen..........

Slade just said he was mad at you in the park because he wanted to "jog" home so he could go to McDonalds. I bet you $100 on that!

Also I like Slade but I don't think he's the guy for you. You two don't seem to mesh all that well but I guess they say opposites attract!

You're a good egg Gretchen don't let anyone say you aren't!

Gretch you're absolutely gorgeous!

Hey Gretch
It is not your responsiblity to take care of Slade. If he can not support you now he will never be able too. Please get rid of him and find you a nice guy who will bring somthing into the relationship instead of always taking somthing out. When your dad told you "No" a few weeks back he really meant it. So as one of your fans please drop that zero and get yourself a hero. You can do so much better. I just hate seeing you be used. You are such a wonderful person

Tamra said Jeana looked great but had a nasty or bad soul. I don't think Tamra had an affair but kissing is still consider cheating, I don't think Tamra would have been so happy if Simon kissed someone else while they were married, like Alexis said..."cheating is cheating". If you don't see it that way then you need help; you can cheat even with your thoughts. Gretchen: I do believe you need to watch what you say to everyone around you, you are honest, sometimes too honest, so watch it girl...love ya!

Gretchen: you are my favorite OC Housewife. Ignore Tamra and Vicky but you do have to watch what you say, remember the wolves are always around...

Get it right, Pu-leeeeeze: Tamra was being funny where Gretchen was being insensitive; That's the difference.

Gretchen,
I just have to say that even though I am not a big fan of Slade, I thought what he did for you for your birthday was very sweet. I was actually very impressed. I think I am beginning to like him now, I hope he keeps up the good attitude he seems to have now that his financial situation is what it is.

Gretchen, Thanks for your post - it really helps me understand more of where you are coming from and rounds out what really happened instead of seeing just the snippets that editing wants us to see. You seem like a wonderful person and please don't let mean people get you down. You are a delight and I enjoy watching your parts of the episode more than anyone else. Tamara is trash - you are class.

Gretchen:

YOU are a great factor in this show. You are one really beautiful and fun lady; and, Slade is one lucky dude... I think he was waiting for an apology or something on that "comment" episode. Your handling of the situation that day at the park should have told him "lots" and, if I were him, I would be cool about the whole thing. Like you said, if it bugs him that much, all he has to do is "something about it". I am sure you would help him to achieve a better health and fitness standard; if he asked you to. When I am upset by something, my wife does not cradle me nor makes me feel sorry about it. The only option is to do something about it. She always helps me achieve the given goal...

Stay cool, Gretchen.

A real husband of SD County

jd

Ha ha...you all are so funny! Let my husband come home and tell me he kissed someone else! Yeah they might not have had $eX but it was definately a betrayal. Don't let the haters get you down Gretchen. You are awesome and I get where you are coming from! Keep smiling!

i love you gretchin and dont let anyone ruin who you are or what your doing! they are just jealous of you and rightly so, you are a beatiful person who is going somewhere and they are not!
(by the way, why isnt lynn curtin on the show anymore? I miss her!)

Gretchen- the way you come across in this blog compared to your actions & comments on the last episode are a complete 180, do you see that? You acted appalled and almost embarassed that Slade was taking you to an art studio and you were eating takeout... yet you come on the blog and act as if that was the sweetest thing ever. Maybe you saw how you acted on the episode & had to save face with the blog? I don't play favorites, I like each housewife for different reasons but I have totally changed my mind about you. The way you treat Slade is so disrespectful, I almost cannot watch it anymore. You used to be so cute & fun.. I do not like the 'new you'.

hi grech, i think that ur the best most real house wife. vicky is a controlin freak loony. she hates it when every1 aint lickin her back side, she is horried. i just watched the bravo show where the men came too. omg she lives in vicky world and thats the way she needs it to be. tamra was nive when she came to the show but after sticking head up vicks back side she changed. simon had a luck escape.

ive bin followin sum of ur make up line and love the handbags. i like slade but no sure 2 scorpios will make a long term thing. but ur great ur real and i love u and wish u luck in all that u do

I believe that all of the RHOC need to get over themselves.......you and they are not the center of the universe. All of you say you want to start out fresh, but you all still talk trash about each other. When Tamra and Vicky arrived at Peggy's dinner, the first thing out of Gretchen's mouth (announced to everyone) was, the bitches are here - starting over? Can Vicky be more mean to poor Don - and not in private - very public. At least Alex is trying....the jury is out on Peggy and Fernanda.

Gretchen, That was a really sweet moment between you and Slade on your birthdays.

Hi Gretchen, that painting of you was spot on, slade has alot of talent. I applaud slade for acknowledging that he is broke. not too many people can admit stuff like that these days.

You've been my favorite Gretchen, but you are so mean to Slade this season! I still believe you are honest and fun, but perhaps unhappy with Slade. Its too bad, I miss you as the nice girl! No one else on the show is even near as a good person as you are!!

Gretchen - Some of the best gifts anyone can give are those from the heart and not the wallet. I think the painting is beautiful and so special. What a thoughtful sweetheart Slade is! He must be madly in love with you! Much love and happiness to you both!!

Gretchen, I think the painting of you was so beautiful. I would love that type of gift. It is something you can cherish forever. Your attitude towards the night was kind of mean. If you know Slade cannot afford much why would you expect that? I don't think your relationship is going to last with Slade, unless he becomes mega rich soon.

The last thing you need to say to Slade is "make a baby".

You are adorable.

Hey, pretty girl! I think you and Slade have the most genuine relationship on your show. You're not a Stepford wife, terrified that you'll be traded in for a newer model, you're not a shrew, expecting to have your feet kissed, and you're certainly not putting on a big "I'm so in love" display to rub your ex husband's nose in it - how refreshing. You two bicker, but who doesn't? It's REAL. And since this is reality TV, it's nice to see real once in a while! Keep being your sweet self, kiddo.

Gretchen,
We love you! You rock! Your the hottest and keep winning all the polls on WWHL because you are by far the prettiest, the funniest, and have the best fashion sence (did you see you won the poll again last night on WWHL?) and by far the most down to earth. We have a whole group of us that watch it together every week and we all think you should have your own show! Your the best and have the most going on in your life. You stand up for yourself, are independent and a loyal friend!
You make the show, and we all watch because of you.

Gretchen,
You are beautiful, full of grace and compassion, and call it how it is! You finally call someone out on there BS and everyone thinks you are out of line? Crazy! I mean these girls have said stuff about you for years and now you finally say your truth about them and everyone is hard on you, what a joke! People wake up! Gretchen is more successful, more beautiful, more real than any of these woman. They all hate her because of it and they will do anything to tear her down! Gretchen is the most real out of all of them. The world needs more of these kind of people. Keep being you! We all love you for it!

Kvammer9,

when you are married or committed to someone that is cheating. It is black and white.

Gretchen,
I think you are amazing. I do not understand why so many people
have bad things to say about you on here and why they do if they do
not like you. You are beautiful, smart and I think you speak
so real about everything. Keep doing what you do, you cannot please
everyone :)

After reading some of the previous comments, I dont think people are really READING your blog & trying to understand where you coming from. My goodness, you are only human and learning as you go, as we all are. Your bday gift was very thoughtful. You seem like a sweet person and maybe people are not used to seeing you so assertive but some of those ladies are sharks so keep being fabulous you!!

In these times you should be more grateful for the little things.My husband was laid off and my son diagnosed with insulin dependant diabetes,no health insurance.We managed the best we could and we decided that my family's health was more important than 'things'.Honestly,I don't miss 'things' but enjoy my family more than any'thing'.

I loved the painting. I would put it somewhere prominent. It is whimsical and fun.

GRETCHEN,
ALTHOUGH FOOLISH, IT WAS PROBABLY A DRUNKEN MISTAKE KISS AND THAT GAL READ TOO MUCH INTO IT. NOT SAYING IT WAS RIGHT ON TAMRA'S PART, BUT IT CERTAINLY WASN'T TERMED "AN AFFAIR."
ON A POSITIVE NOTE, I LOVED THE PAINTING THAT SLADE'S FRIEND DID FOR YOU!
IT REALLY DID CAPTURE YOU BEAUTIFULLY.

Tamra didn't have an affair with that gal, they shared a kiss! Wow, talk about spreading rumours!

Gretchen...Love your free spirit.

Hmmm. Ppl can be so strange sometimes. I think it is your own business who you are with. I'm sorry ppl can't be a little less judgemental & the one comment was lovely to start but so much gets made about Slades income. Sorry Slade! Ya'll have big saddles is all I can say! FYI my income really sucks right now does anyone care? I'm struggling to pay my bills!!! So me & Slade are the same! Wow! Please. What Gretchen says continually is be happy & make the best out of what you have. Their arrangement whatever it is is NO ONES BUSINESS. News Flash!!She has hardly had a free ride yet she is happy & so encouraging and uplifting. I find her to be a breath of fresh air. California & Texas right? I am from Texas & have lived in Cali for 30 yrs so I know where Gretchen comes from & I am so like her, just the older version! lol! I appreciate you so much Gretchen. You don't have to apologize for being you because you are a great inspiritation! big XOXO from No. Cali!

First of all you look good in anything you wear. Second, I like you because you are genuine and so is Slade. The others on the show appear fake.

I think you should just tell Slade to kick rocks. It's almost painful to watch you treat him like crap in every episode. You say he's a humble man, but everyone gets a little humble when their broke. Slade didn't seem too humble when he was having a jeweler come over to his house to give Jo jewelry. In fact he seemed far from humble, more like arrogant.

You call Slade fat, you gripe about him not working, you crush him every chance you get yet you don't kick him to the curb. Obviously Slade won't leave on his own, because he's loving the spot light too much. Slade seems to think he's a housewife. He's been in every season of Real Housewives and most of the time it was with a different housewife. Just give him the heave ho already.